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Trying to Hold It Together

Bethenny talks about trying to keep her emotions in check during her pregnancy and her father's illness.

Apr 20, 2010

 

I'm not really the big announcement kind of person, so I was somewhat reluctant to share my news with the other Housewives. I could never imagine that my announcement would be so anticlimactic and cause me so much upset. Jason and I probably should have stayed home that night.

Alex has been very open and kind and compassionate, so I didn't want to clump her in and give her my news in a group. I wanted to calmly tell her in a more intimate setting. Maybe I instinctively wanted someone to be sweet and to be "normal" about it. I just felt comfortable telling her, and I was going through so much internally between my pregnancy and my father's illness. As you can see, I was a bit dry and less than ecstatic when I told her. I was just trying to hold it together and not break down screaming or crying. I was so hormonal and emotional.

It was definitely awkward seeing Jill at the Gotham party. My intention was simply to be nice and try to be casual. I never imagined that she would bolt the minute she saw me. It definitely took the wind out of my sails. She could have just been normal and polite. Instead she chose to make a grand exit.

I didn't really think about how Jill would react to my news. However, I never imagined she would be so dramatic. Silly me. I did find it incredibly hilarious that LuAnn would choose this opportunity to ask me about the "snake" comment. That was really for another day. I apologized simply to diffuse the situation and make it go away. I didn't want anything to ruin my special news.

 

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Bethany! You're the reason why I got hooked on this show. I love the way you keep it real and you say whats on your mind, you also admit when you're in the wrong. Jill and Luann are annoying, they remind of 7th graders. Besides her jewelry the countess is quite rude darling.

You did great Behenny, just stay away from Jill she is just for yerself.

first of all congraduation on your life a am truly happy for you and don't let anyone spoil any of these beautiful moments that are about to come your way. please just walk away from some of the pettiness it's so not worth it.

Bethany, I may be your biggest fan and please know that I am in your corner. Congrats on your marriage and the new baby. I am a 35 single mom of a five year old name Gavin. I work as an HR executive for a hospital. You have displayed such strenght and maturity this season. Jill has been so out of line and quite frankly has behaved like a teenage mean girl...My grandmother always told me that not all of your friends will make it thru the whole ride of your life. She's someone that you need to leave in the past and move forward into your brand new fabulous life. You and Jason are adoreable and your baby is blessed to have you all as parents. Best of luck to you....You give me hope that my Mr. Right will come some day....

You are going to be a great mama! congrats to you and jason :)I wish yall the best !!

Bethenny,

I cant believe how well you handled yourself on tonights show! I dont think I wouldve been as polite as you were. You have much more substance than any of the other "housewives" and I have always thought so. I think its awesome that you are true to yourself and dont forget who you are. I wish you all the best with your new family!

Bethenny you are great I really wish you the best to jason, you and the baby. All is going to be right!! God bless you best wishes

Bethenny, life is really too short, Move on let Jill go! Be the healthy and beautiful you. Congrats! on your marriage. Put our energy into yourself and new family!

Bethenny, I have the utmost respect for you! I seriously DO NOT know how you can even stand to be around Kelly!! Her rediculous expressions she makes after anyone calls her out" on something is pathetic!! I simply cannot stand this woman or her 'im up here and you're down there' attitude!! Much luck to you and your new family!! Congratulations! I was disappointed to see your friendship with Jill break apart as it did, but I do not feel you did anything wrong to deserve ANY of the disgusting treatment you received from Jill, "The ex-Countess" and especially Kelly!! Much respect for you and the way you hold your ground!

congrats bethney

i just watched the show today and i was very disapointed with jill. i am happy for you, but friends always friends there will be bad times and good times but you should forgive her ppl makes mistake and she got carried away i don't think she reliaze how far she went untill it is too late and it looks like it is too late..but if there is anything left in you maybe you should try to let her in. i wish you good luck you deserve it.

Bethenny, It was very sweet watching you tell Alex. She does seem to be such a better choice of a friend! You seem at ease and peaceful with her. It was also sad watching how fake LuAnn and Jill both were. Your reaction said it all and you did seem so done with it all! Jason seems to be just the right man for you, it was wonderful seeing you with a caring compassionate man!

I find it interesting that LuAnn would choose that setting and inappropriate time (when you're sharing happy news about your engagement) to bring up the "snake" comment. I also found it unsettling that she immediately got in to Mario about the "countless" comment. That chick needs to get over herself! All season she's been saying and blogging about inappropriate confrontations. I cannot stand a hypocrit! Anyway, Bethenny, you look beautiful! Best wishes to you and your new family!!

U are the most real and fun of that crazy bunch, enjoy u r self and that new baby, soon u will see that life can be so much bigger then how other people choose to behave, u, have so much more class then Jill will ever hope to have.

Congratulations on your life ahead in marriage and with a new baby. This will truly be the best part of your life to come! I think Jason is correct in being concerned for the people your have previously surrounded yourself with. Jill being number one. Whether she tries in later episodes to satisfy her image and make herself be there, how she got there showed the viewer exactly who the real JZ is and it is not a pretty picture. Best wishes Bethenny, you are honest and sometimes brutal but it is something I respect much more than a fraud and that you are not.

Bethany -

I think it is sooo sad that it took you announcing your engagement for Jill to realize the severity of what happened to your relationship. I also for your sake hate that your announcement of something happy got turned into yet another event for the ladies' to start an argument. It seems like everyone except Alex chooses to confront you about old stale arguments every time they see you - totally trying to get ratings. Good luck and congratulations on all the fabulous things in your life right now!

Bethany you are more diplomatic than you realize... you should not have to defend your way of choosing to dispurse your good news. Guess what? It is your great news, and mixed emotions is just part of motherhood and marraige. When you have gone through sooo much in a short spain of time, sometimes it is a good thing because you do not have the time to over analyze like some of the other housewives. You are the only reason I love the New York show, and wish you nothing but the best!!! Believe it or not I am a fan in nowhere, KS!! LOL

I think you are a wonderful and a beautiful woman. i am a big fan of yours on the show and i am very happy for you that you have found love forever and when you deliver your child it will be an amazing experience. now about the show i agree with you about louanne being a snake i cannot believe on tonights show that she congratulated you which was nice and then she brought up about what you had called her and she also started with mario. and i think that if luanne wasnt up jills ass that you and jill probably would have fixed your friendship with her already. i have had a huge fight with one of my best friends and we did not speak for three years and now we are close again but never say never that you and jill may never have a friendship again because you never know, again congrats and good luck and you are a wonderful person.

Bethanny, Your life would be so much better if you were a religious person. I hope you rear your child that way. By the way, you are the star of the show. Love ya.

b, i think u r a fab fab fab woman. love u on the show good luck with everything

go team b!!!

Bethenny you are a beautiful and real person. I am so happy for you and felt your pain during the last episode. That moment should have been respected immediately by Jill out of respect for your overall relationship not just what happened over that short period of time. I think LuAnne helps keep this going more than she should. That said, I use to adore Jill and she was my favorite on the show then you. I've watched from the beginning so I think I kinda know all of the personalities somewhat - or what they choose to edit. However, I think you did a really good thing by sharing your joy with Alex she is a good person too. Overall, I really hope you and Jill get together and squash the disagreement. Yes, friends fight and disagree on various issues, but true friends get through it and continue the genuine friendship again. Take care lovly and I wish you well with your baby and beautiful husband.

You are my FAVORITE housewife and always have been. I LOVE how u tell it like it is and dont hold anything back. I could learn something from you. I wish you only the best with your marriage and your new one on the way. A child is such a blessing and really puts life into perspective on whats really important. Good luck with your delivery, take the whole moment in.. you will NEVER EVER forget it! :)

Love you! congrats on everything. Some of the other women will never understand that your huge following comes from the fact that are genuine. Even when you exhibit bad behavior, there is always self awareness and you always own up to it later. something that they could take a lesson on.

i think u handled the situation as best u could ...personally im gettin alittle sick of luann ... she needs to get over herself .. i dont know what kind of royalty she is nor do i care but with a name like LUANN screams redneck queen to me ...i mean ive never read in any history books of a queen or princess LUANN but..i may be wrong.. u telling everyone ur engaged and jill and luann just wanted to divert attention back to them im sick of the whole thing , jill needs to grow the .... up... good luck bethany wish u the best

I think you're being a baby. How did you expect Jill to react? It sucks that your night was "ruined" but surely your expectations weren't that high for a televised event with women you wouldn't ordinarily even hang out with? Hardly a serious

It's awful that you said you can never be friends with Jill again. Both of you are wrong in this situation. I wish you guys would have ended the season forever last year. As it stands, it looks like you benefited from Jill and moved on... :/

I have so much respect for you. This should be one of the happiest times in your and Jason's life. Focus on what is true and right for you. I would love to see more of you,and Alex's friendship, you two seem to have the most common sense.

Love you, Bethenny. So happy for you!!

I never write blogs but I need to give a little advice. Ive seen this behavior before. I have to say, ever since the show started u and Jill were my favorite and most real ladies on the show. Im so glad so many great things are happening for u right now. I still smile when i see u announce another great news. However, I feel u were completely not willing to understand why Jill was so upset! Granted she let it drag on a little long, but for her husband to be sick and for u to try and throw it in her face that she was out that summer and blogging, was a fine example of u being so "nasty" ,as Luann would say. That was mean! If you are a grown woman that can admit u weren't there for ur friend I think u too could have moved on. But the excuses after excuses u come up wit is so immature. I feel bad for those who never have anything good in their life because as soon as they do, they think everyone is jealous of them! Which is ridiculous. I hope one day u realize how much u need a good friend. Obviously Jill is not the one for u, given how all of the sudden u wanna criticize and call her materialistic, good luck sista, marriage aint all its cracked up to be! Ur gonna need someone to talk to. Still love u, but I dont think I would ever trust u as a friend honestly.

Bethenny i love the way Alex was so excited for you. I believe Alex is a true friend. LuAnn is looking for refuge in Jill. Since jill is the Mrs. "COME TO ME I KNOW ALL THINGS". jill is controlling . Jason is wonderful and I say you will not have time to hold jill's hand with the new baby coming. Enjoy your time with your father and even more you will have new adventures ahead with the newbaby. Jill will want to be in the baby's life please do not let this baby she all the craziness involved. Enjoy your husband jason and the new baby. be blessed

awwww betheny, you had every right to enjoy your moment and i'm sorry that someone took that away from you. The housewives on the show have all shown their character to the core. I am wondering why you or alex are even on that show? The two of you seem to be the ones who are what most would consider normal.

The rest of the lades on the show, although they can be nice when they want to be are very disfunctional and seriously need to be on some medication. I don't know how they even funtion in society, unless New Yorkers are all nuts!!! I mean seriously I don't see how any of them can watch the show and not see that they are immature disfunctional women. They are mean, cruel, and have no sense of decorum. They are so phoney that it's very difficult not to laugh at how nutty they are. Anyways you and alex should take it as a huge compliment that you don't fit into those catagories according to most who watch this show. Both of you have presented yourselves to be very nice kind women.

I've always thought that if I were one of the housewives, Bethenny and Jill would be the ones I would likely be friends with. I'm so sorry their wonderful friendship soured, but Bethenny is now headed down a new path anyway, with a wonderful guy and a baby on the way. I believe Bethenny's happiest years are ahead of her.

I loved you on LWHL with Andy. You are glowing!

You are better off without Jill. I'm glad you have moved on and that you're happy. Jason seems like a great guy.

I think Alex is a true friend to you and one of those people that will be a lifelong friend. She has a calmness that you need in your life.

Bethenny, I am SO happy for you! It was sad to watch you last season when you were single and vulnerable. Now, you are so very happy and have everything you ever wanted: career, marriage, baby!! I couldn't believe how much Jill obsessed over the ring and even had the nerve to ask Jason how big it actually was! It reminded me when she was pressing your ex-boyfriend about what he had given you for your birthday on season one. She truly is VERY materialistic...yet she told Alex that material things don't matter? I don't know about Jill...but it seems that you do. The two of you were SO close and your friendship was SO wonderful to see last season, but in the end, I think the two of you are very different. So if not being friends with her anymore means you being happy, then you should always do what makes you happy!

Jason showed what a true gentleman he is...going up to Jill and Luann to say hello...watching out for you when you left that evening...I think I love him!

i have so much to say about tonights episode, the way these women behave is embarrasing, each week i grow to dislike jill and luann more and more, jills reaction to your engagement is something she will have to live with for the rest of her life, luann on the other hand, what a snakkkke she is, on what should have been a very special night for you, she feels it necessary to say congrats then comment about that ridiculous snake comment yet again...they have to take the attention from others and i can only hope that when they watch these episodes they really do see it.....I also think its funny that jill has the audacity to say seeing you makes her feel like there is something there and she wants to fix it......terrible.

Get over yourself, Bethenny. You are not the same person this year. The Bethenny that I enjoyed prior to this season would have made comments about Kelly's and Alex's dresses?? OMG!!!! Where is that Bethenny...you even look sooooo different.

You go girl!!!! I wish the best for you and Jason. Please stay away from Jill she is the one who is toxic and will not add anything positive to your life.

You're so beautiful and now you're in a wonderfully healthy place in your life, I'm so sorry that you have to relive all this drama. My advice is to totally compartmentalize the show and only think about it once a week when you have to blog. Yay for you! Yay for Jason! And especially yay for the bayboo!

What were u drinking in the club?!! Weren't you prego??!!!! Pretty sure I saw u w a glass of wine and a skinny girl marg lady...

Congrads and Best Wishes to you and Jason!!! Let go of the bad energy and be very happy with all the new in your life.

Bless your heart! Try to focus on your happiness and not all this junk that is coming out of the show and especially Jill. At first, I actually thought you were to blame for everything that happened and then found out what Jill was so upset about...NOTHING! She is just selfish and did not want to share you and have you happy and successful. Better off without that TOXICity in your life. Good luck and best of success with all you do and with your family.

Bethany you are great! Congratulations on your wedding and your baby! I pray for a healthy baby with a sweet disposition like you.

You have a wonderful husband! He too is great!

Blessings from Houston, TX

Girl after watching tonights episode I only have 1 thing to say. Leave Jill alone she is toxic. You don't need all her bagage in your life.

How could you say that Jill was acting like "Mean Girls" on this episode? She quietly exited the area, she wasn't rude to you, and she didn't say anything about you. How was anything of that mean? Jill was very obviously upset that ya'll aren't friends and probably felt like you would reject her. That you thought she couldn't be happy for you just shows how much you think everything you.

It seems like you play a very good victim.

Congrats with your marriage and baby on the way, you deserve all your happiness. Jill was ridiculous this season- Team B!

Bethenny, If you or Alex left the show, I would quit watching it. I've already quit watching the "other" real housewives shows.

Bethenny: Forget Jill, Luann and anyone else who is causing you stress. They do NOT matter. Your baby does. Think of the baby and Jason and how much they need you. You are so well loved. Enjoy this special time.

Bethany. You need to be less full of yourself. I don't watch the show any more because of you.

Get away from Jill, she is soooo toxic! Continue with your new life that is so much more exciting than the constant drama.

Bethenny :) Sometimes in life you have a chance to make amends with someone that has hurt you. In that time you will probably discover your friend to lay closed ears to your heart. Be aware that when that friend opens up and sees you, you do not close that door! There is a 50percent chance that the one that you are married to will not be by your side in ten yrs, but a friend you can fight with and make amends with will be there forever! Your best is with the ones you figure out to be your worse! Cause you know them enough to know they will give you who they are and not lie with a smile! Sisters are crazy! Be glad she is one!

"Yard Sale of body parts", OMG I laguhed my head off. I love your quick wit. I don't care what the other girls say about you, you are what makes the show worth watching.