You called Alex out on a few things -- wanting to be a socialite, the state of her home, etc. Why do you think she disagrees with you and the other ladies on your impressions of her?
I believe Alex disagrees with us because they truly are very harsh words, difficult to hear, and she has to defend herself and her family as any woman would. I feel bad because it isn't that i judge someone by how much money they have or how nice their home is (I live in a one bedroom apartment in Manhattan, which is nice, but by no means a royal palace). I was just taken aback that their home was in disarray because of the image of luxury, lavishness and "society" that I felt they had portrayed.