Bethenny Frankel NY

Bethenny responds to LuAnn's "advice," and describes the perfect date!

on Mar 17, 20090

Thank you so much for buying Naturally Thin! Because of you the book tour is a success and we've been in the top 25. What a rush!

My reaction to LuAnn's advice was that she had no clue what she was talking about and that she must have mistaken me for a geisha.

People like to hear themselves talk and truthfully most people, including me, ultimately do what they want. My whole life has been about gut instinct. I've never really had any issues with dating or meeting men. It has nothing to do with looks or games. I have the right personality for dating. I really don't care all that much. Whatever is meant to be is meant to be.

My reaction to LuAnn's advice was that she had no clue what she was talking about and that she must have mistaken me for a geisha. No one is crying for me in the dating department, and hell will freeze over before I act like anything other than myself. I didn't come this far to start dumbing it down or acting distressed or weak or vulnerable or anything. The men I go out with like this package as is.

234 comments
IraB
IraB

Bethanny! I know that LuAnn meant well, but I am glad you didn't go for her advice. I get this advice all the time too. "oh men don't like this and that...". Well, I don't care what men want, I don't want jusdt a random one of them. I want a man who is right for me and doesn't worry about me being "too equal", otherwise I won't be happy.

I am glad you found the right guy, and am looking forward to watch your show as well.

Murray
Murray

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Marie
Marie

Help! Bethany you made a statement on on an episode, that she felt like she was a character in a ... It was either referring to a director or writer in a book or a movie. I don't remember the episode, it may have been when the Countess was giving you advise. Does anyone remember who Bethany referred to. Thanks

Tong
Tong

Good afternoon. Posterity is as likely to be wrong as anyone else. I am from Fiji and now teach English, give true I wrote the following sentence: "Richard von busack interviews the first time feature film writer and director."

Best regards :P, Tong.

Janet
Janet

Bethenny, I have to come to LouAnn's defense. I think I know what she was trying to convey. I don't think men what to know you "break balls". They do like to be the one in control or "stronger". It's not my style, but I abide by it for the sake of gender differences.

Viewer
Viewer

when will bravo air a show about real housewives from regular working families?

Jo's Ideas
Jo's Ideas

Bethenney, you are the most interesting woman on the show. Your friendship with Jill shows your loyalty and ability to be a friend. I watched your blowup with Kelly with amazement, and thought your answers to her were right on...no question in my mind as to who is really "up here" and "down there".

Peggy
Peggy

I'm so glad to hear that your book is #5 on the NY Bestseller's list, YOU GO GIRL!!!! I am looking forward to trying out some really 'skinny girl' recipes (and of course the margarita).

You are definately my favorite NYHousewife. When I watch the show I feel like I'm tuning in to "The Bethanny Show" as I love your quirkiness!!! Book or no book, you ARE a successful, brilliant, beautiful woman, inside and out. I hope Kelly will learn a few things from you (if that's even possible). She really needs help!

Jasmine
Jasmine

Bethenny,

I just finished reading your book and I love it. I love the refreshing style. You make me laugh. I felt like I was having a talk with a really good friend who cared about me, and not about a diet program. This book was different because it is not written to promote a diet. It is written to help people better themselves. This is a nice change. I tried to make the banana oatmeal cookies, but I don't think I used enough banana. I had trouble getting all of the ingredients wet. I am going to try again. I went on your website and started reading your blogs today. I love how you handle yourself with those ladies. You and Jill are my favorites on the show.

Tracy Lee
Tracy Lee

Hi Bethenny! I luv u to death! Any you're right Kelly is full of herself...why wouldn't you want to help anyone who is less fortunate than you??? Tell her to take her name and shove it! Off topic... where do you sell those delicious looking cup cakes? I checked on your website but no luck. ;-)

Maureen
Maureen

Bethenny

You are a cutie and I think Luanne only is looking out for you. I am a mother of two young daughters and I know that maternal instinct.

I love your energy--but remember, it is important to only say positive things to a crowd, and criticize someone privately.

I hope you encourage people to garden for some of their own food--whenever possible.

Artista
Artista

Hi Bethenny...me again! Lol! You are funny. I like your quick reaction and your spunk. Everyone has their own point of view with life and love. But, sometimes a good advise might sound good and maybe just maybe it would be good to take it to consideration. Here's my advise about Love...Don't listen to anyone but your heart! Fool is he to believes in another fool! So no one can say they know it all or know about life or love is all about. Those are two sensitive and personal issues only you can solve and experience for yourself. That's what makes us all different and unique. Everyone live their own life they see fit. My mato (before I got married>now 18 wonderful years with the same man)is "Don't look for Love...Let Love find you" It'll happen when you least expect it. I have a good feeling you will find Love and you'll be happy. Take care and enjoy Life.

Diane
Diane

Bethanny, You and Jill were so funny on Chelsey Handler last week. The segment was so short, I wanted to see more. You and Jill need your own show. I never watched the New York version of housewives until this season, and you have made it worth watching. You have the most style, class, and the best sense of humor. Keep making us laugh with those quick side remarks

Carey
Carey

Does anyone know what Bethenny's date made for her on the show? It looked like some kind of salad with watermelon, some type of "greens" and some type of dressing. Any ideas? I thought it looked good. Thanks!

Ryann
Ryann

Bethenny- Regarding your book, I absolutely loved it! I'm still in school and my friends constantly berate me for not eating like a pig/dog/other animal. I am so glad that there's finally a book that reinforces the way I eat!!!! Thank you, Bethenny!

Carolyn McCartney
Carolyn McCartney

Bethhenny, You are so funny in addition to be attractive. When I watch the show, I have to pay very close attention, because you say so many funny things off the top of your head. It seems the people around you even miss some of your great humor. Love to watch and you are my favorite. Jill also is very natural and funny. The Countess is her own favorite. I thought the episode where she was giving a lesson in etiquette to the young girls was ridiculous. She was rude when she told the young girl about cutting her meat, it was a put-down the way she was giving the so-called lesson. Is her book out yet? I will be looking for it in a few months at my local Dollar Tree store. Please dont leave the show, you are the reason I love to watch!

Viewer
Viewer

I bought Bethenny's book & have to say, she makes so much sense. I do execise (moderately) & have cut my portions in half. I'm trying to get out of the clean plate club .... it is hard for me to throw food away. I now put smaller portions on & it works for me. I have lost 2lbs. & am happy w/myself. As far as the food sharing....my husband resents this practice & I don't have the nerve to ask family members to give me some of what they order when we are in a restaurant. The book has helped make me think twice about what I put into my body. Thankyou so much Bethenny.

Jaime
Jaime

Hi Bethenny you are the coolest and funniest housewive. I love how you do impressions of Jill and the other Housewives. My friends and I watch the shows every week, we love this season, with all of the fighting going on. I can't wait to read the Skinnygirl book and learn to make the skinnygirl margheritas!

-jls- from MI

Brenda
Brenda

YOU GO GIRL!!! I really liked that you didn't let LuAnn get to to you. I must say that she is one of the rudest people ever. But you are awesome! Love you!

David Stone
David Stone

Bethenny.....please make up with your father. He was the King of the claimers and you are his best claim DS

Lori
Lori

Bethenny! I totally agree with Amy, if you weren't on this show I wouldn't watch! I think you are a fabulous woman and I'm glad that you're taking your time in the dating scene...

The advice LuAnn gave you is laughable at best and I really think she can be a huge moron...

Stay Beautiful Ms. Lady!!!

Your fan from Florida, Lori

Viewer
Viewer

I think you are absolutelly funny, smart and very attractive, please teach some class and humility to the countess before she has the real monarchs remove her title

T
T

Best chick on the show

jim from chcago
jim from chcago

Dear Bethany, I watch all of the housewifes shows and you are my favorite. I think you are not only beautiful , but you really seem geniune.thank you for a peek into your world.

Amy
Amy

If you weren't on the shoe I wouldn't watch it. Who cares if you aren't a housewife. Who the hell is a "housewife" in this day and age?

kathy from missouri
kathy from missouri

bethenny all i can say about you is that your the "bomb"!!!! my daughter said that she would like to be like you when she grows up, just hope that she has the confidence that you have!!!!!

Shar
Shar

I wonder being a Frankel too,if we're related somewhere down the line....lol. I just started watching the show. The real housewives of LI, sit around and crack up from the scenerios. Thanks for giving us a good laugh. Next time we fly or boat into the Hamptons, we'll look for you.

Anthony
Anthony

Bethenny, all I can say is continue to stay true to who you are, you are great. I have two teenage daughters and I have tried to raised them to be independent. I think it is great how much you have accomplished on your own; you know what you want and you go out and get it; it wasn't given to you and you didn't marry into it, you should and probably are very proud. As far as finding Mr. Right, don't push it, when it happens it will happen, don't settle. Remember money only buys comfort, not happiness. All the best for you in the future and God Bless.

Sylvia
Sylvia

Someone please tell me what happen between Bethany and Jason? How I missed it I don't know. I so envy your friendship w/Jill and wish I could find a friend like you or Jill. Stay happy!

Christopher
Christopher

Bethenny,

You ARE the reason I watch this show. I admire how strong of a person you are. Each day I am building myself to have a personality like yours. Not to mention that you are hilarious between your jokes, side comments, and Jill impersonations. I can watch both you and Jill all day: The Best!

I was in Brooklyn the other day and saw Alex enter her house. I should be so lucky to pass you in the streets in Manhattan some day just to be able to say "hello" and shake your hand in gratitude. I don't get star struck in the least bit, but for you its worth it.

BTW, much success with your book!

Christopher, 25 New York, NY

ashley
ashley

hey you are the best i love you you are the best idol and i love your outfits

kimberly
kimberly

Bethenny:

Curious: Where did you go to school? I love your nutrition emphasis on cooking and am interested myself in persuing a career in culinary nutrition... your business is SMART & inspiring. You're great!

Thanks.

ZoeyJ
ZoeyJ

Bethany,

YOU are AWESOME.....love straight to the point with a heart. Love will come when it happens. Have fun and relax. You, Jill and Romona are JEWELS...my kind of ladies. You were totally correct with the "Countless" it is 2009. And, Alex and Simon, well if you all look for one common factor of conflict and attitude, those two provide it to all of you. Keep Cool...... Hugs Park Slope ZoeyJ P.S. I think you need a "Gay Husband" and I am Free :)

Danielle
Danielle

Bethenny, I love you and Jill! You two really make the show. I have never thought for a second you were Jealous of anyone. Why would you be! I love people that are REAL and there are so few of us left. Kepp it up! I love watching your wonderful life! Congrats on the book the mag cover and the show!

Sue
Sue

Bethenny wore a pink colored dress to Jill's charity event in new girl in town. She looked amazing in it. I want one! Does anyone know who it was made by?

myrna
myrna

we should be able to purchase a signed book through BRAVO...but I'm about to go on Amazon. Congratulations to you Bethany -- ! Best, myrna

Gina
Gina

My friends and I love watching this how especially becuase of you and Jill. The two of you are hilarious and don't hold anything back.

By the way, Luanne thinks she knows everything and she doesnt know jack squat! I don't know how you even have the patience to deal with her. This is what I see as a viewer. She comes off as the fakest person in the world.

Southampton Mom PA
Southampton Mom PA

Stay busy sweetheart having babies at the age of forty is not good (not you) but for the baby!

Viewer
Viewer

Bethenny--here I am sending this amongst all the "Bethenny loving" messages--but I have to comment. Your book is all about you and you being "Naturally thin" and "Skinny" and all "Look at me". I am not saying this as a hater--because good for you. But there are lots of people that will never be "Thin, Skinny etc". If you are such a "Healthy" chef--then why this book promoting this type of body? why not a book on having the best healthiest body one can have? Does one have to be "Naturally thin and skinny" ??? OK heres a one-liner for you--"Hand me a barf bag"... You are sending the "Bethenny" message...not a message for all women to strive for. so sad

OCKelly
OCKelly

Hey Bethenny! You and the rest of the HW of NYC are truly my favorite. I live outside the gates of Coto where most of the OC HW reside and I must say, NYC HW have so much more going on and so much more class. You ladies are naturally beauitful and are real. It's nice to see you ladies not getting botox on TV, hoe-ing your mother on the internet and talking about boob jobs or getting another HW messed up on tequila because of a jealousy factor.

I love how you ladies focus on your families, friends and careers, while supporting the Cancer Society, attending important social events, promoting your buisness, etc. I WISH the OC HW would take serious notes to how REAL women act. Can you send LuAnn to OC... errr I mean Countess LuAnn or was it Mrs. Countess Delesseps.

Bethenny, you are an inspiration to me. I am a single woman in my 30's (never married) and building my career. While you may not technically be a housewive, I am glad you are on the show. You are so funny! I am getting tired of Ramona and LuAnn telling you how to date. I was so frustrated watching it, it was like watching myself on TV. Kudos to you for talking to LuAnn about her comment hurting you and waiting to do so. That showed class on your end.

I want to thank you and Jill for cracking me up weekly, I don't know what I will watch when your season ends. I'm not sure about these NJ HW's.

Also, I was curious if you and Jill are really on Twitter.com, or have me and 100,000 other people added impersonators?

Becky
Becky

This is so not on this topic, but I have to say it. I think the problem you have with Kelly is that you are both single, and if you were to be good friends, you would loose a lot of men to her. You're jealous of her. She is a nice girl...along with yourself, but face it, you're jealous of her!!!!!!

Viewer
Viewer

Bethanny, I love you but I was so sad that you were so hard on Kelly. It came off like you are jelous of her. There is no reason because you are both beautiful. Don't listen to LuAnn about men. She is wacked and you are perfect as you are. If he doesn't like you as you are then he is weird. Stay true to yourself and befriend Kelly. Life is to short.

Nancy Archuleta
Nancy Archuleta

OMG!!! Will you be my new BFF. Everything that comes out of our mouth makes me cry laughing. You are probably the only one that doesn't take them self that seriously and it's great. I love how high school this show can get (girl~fights and all). Keep doin what your doin it's THE BEST!!! WRITE ME hehe ( now i'm sounding like a stalker)

Trixy
Trixy

I think you are my favorite woman on the show you crack me up and even though I want you to last to the end, why are you on this show as you are not a housewife?

Viewer
Viewer

thanks so much for the book!...i am very excited about it and am very happy for your success with it...kudos :)

Lauren
Lauren

Bethenny,

That "Merchant Ivory film" reference you made in response to LuAnn's dating advice----brilliant.

DallasViewer
DallasViewer

Bethenny, I am so excited about reading your book. I have been saying for years that diets DONT work! Everytime I tried a died I would gain weight! When I exercise and eat smaller portions I keep my weight off! I also just wanted to tell you that you are one smart women who has a book out and is very classy! Yes sometimes we need advice from our friends to help us out with dating tips but all in all everyone is different! I think you should go with your own instinct. Like I said your very smart! I believe you have so many qualities that make you your own person! You were with your guy for how many years? So of course you know what men want and you obviously know how to get men so I would just keep doing what you do best and be yourself! The only advice that I give any of my friends is to NEVER go out and LOOK for a man. Sit back and let it all happen! Things happen when we least expect them to and they are NEVER on our TIME! Thank you for being so real on this show and never fake! I love how you can be yourself in any situation and you have this sense of humor that keeps me intertained and watching the show!

Lynda S
Lynda S

B - You are an attractive girl. But lately, you seem to be stealing the glory and the camera time. RHNYC has changed into "The Adventures of Bethenny, Reality Show Starlet". Your reality series resume is lengthy (MS Apprentice, Top Chef Blogger, etc.) Your job description keeps changing as well: Racetrack Maven, Pepperidge Farm Girl, Skinny Girl Margarita Inventor, Impressionist, Kato Kaelin Wannabe, etc.) However, you are not a housewife, have never been a housewife and have no impending plans to become a housewife. Why exactly are you featured in this program??

tobey
tobey

You are just wonderful the way you are. I love Jill too. Todd was a good friend but I do not see you and him as boyfriend, etc. He is a nice person but that does not make a boyfriend. I do not like Kelly either, she seems too unreal. She is very selfish and who cares? I don't think she sees it either and that makes it worse. Although a model, she has no manners. I'm not crazy about Ramona but at least she is real and a giving person. Luann is very selfish too, and I see why she gets along with Kelly. Alex is growing on me a little. I can't take Simon though, he seems too feminine. Your cover was awesome. Your book too. I look forward to seeing and hearing from you on the show.

Keep it real- love ya, tby

Viewer
Viewer

Hi Bethenny, I volunteer a lot,(You handled yourself Beautifully by waiting to address LuAnne) It was bad to see them arguing about trivial stuff when there was a lady and more I'm sure who could of used some positive attention.I heard you say you could make them an antioxident meal.I don't have a pituaty gland and it creates all kinds of problems. I have other health issues,but the pit gland regulates every harmone in my body. Mine makes none. Is there a diet you would recomeend for Me? I lost 90lbs then gained 30 of it back when I had to start taking steroids. I take a HGH shot everyday along with throid and other meds just to have energy and be half-way normal.Love you on the show,don't change for anyone. LuAnn especially. She's full of it. Kelly Bensimon is a phony person. I seen Her on another show and She was not so smiley and nice.