Jill Zarin

Jill looks back on a tumultuous season and thanks her fans and castmates.

on Jun 18, 20100

 

Well everyone, the season is finally over and it's time for one last reflection and many thanks. This season was difficult for me at times to film and watch. Yet after reading all of your comments here and on JillZarin.com I have realized that this season has been just as important for many of you as it was for me. For the first two seasons you've watched me, for the most part, in my better moments. This season - not all perfect. But through it all we've learned together that people make mistakes. All we can do is attempt to fix them. Everyone may not end up agreeing with you, but if you are at peace with yourself, then the journey is complete and you're ready to move onto the next new and exciting chapter in your life.

I could sit here and tell you many things that happened this season that did not make it onto the shows, or that happened after the filming was over. Even as recently as the reunion filming. But to what purpose would that really serve to myself, the other ladies or you, the viewer? You can't say you are moving on and then keep going backwards. So let's enjoy the lost footage next week and and close the book on this season!

Can you believe Ally is going to college in the fall? With her gone I decided I needed to find a hobby! So I did! I have a bedding line that I have designed that will be available this fall. I have worked on it for a long time and am working on Spring 2011 right now. I would love to hear ideas from you, so please sign up for my newsletter at jillzarin.com so we can keep in touch over the summer. I'll also answer your questions to what I wore at the reunion and more!

More exciting news! Book clubs are selecting Secrets of a Jewish Mother for thier summer reading since there is so much to talk about amongst friends. WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Please email us and tell us what you think and if you want, one of us could call you when the book club gets together as a SURPRISE! Just email CARA at cara@lisawexler.com to set up the call. We will call and answer ONE question you have that the group comes up with from reading a chapter in the book. You must have at least six people in the room! Don't be shy - it'll be fun! We are also getting invited to speak at many JCC's and private corporate events.

 

608 comments
tanyakat
tanyakat

I was thinking : Jill didn´t forgive and now Bethenny is doing the same. Why? Bethenny seems more `normal´

Watching the the final reunion i realised a lot of horrible things Jill did and said, and understood why after all of it Beth doesn´t want to be smashed again by a false person. Live and learn is really true

This is my reading of season 3 and opinion, all the way from very far : PORTUGAL

Biggest fan
Biggest fan

Omg Jill! You should be back on the show! I'm like your biggest fan(not like screaming biggest fan but like passing out kinda biggest fan). I also think I'm the youngest "biggest" fan cause I'm only 13. But just wanted to say the show will be nothing without you and btw.....my bday is just a day before yours! Well good luck with everything!

beckyh
beckyh

All I can say is that the show won't be the same without you. To me, you and the Countess were the classy ones. I'm watching the new show now and i'm not sure I'll be watching this season. I'm not impressed. Good luck to you in all of your endeavers!

Alakr
Alakr

To bad the reunion show is ugly for all of you. Yuk

ViewerM smith
ViewerM smith

What are they thinking not bringing YOU back on the show... BIG MISTAKE!!

Viewer maria
Viewer maria

Alex , Bethany and Ramona are so full of poisonous venom Stay away from them they are not healthy to be around

JJ&J
JJ&J

I had a friend like you for over 18 years. We were closer than sisters and then unfathomably it ended. For around 5 years I mourned the lost of my best friend and remained confused and used up so much energy trying to fathom what went wrong. Numerous numerous attempts to reconcile, or at least re-connect were accepted on the surface but in reality never accepted. Well after a bitter divorce and a good many years alone I finally met someone and at the grand old age of mid forties was re-married to an amazing chap. My former friend lobbied every mututal friend we ever had on the subject of my impending marriage. She then responded out of the blue having not spoken for 7 years by sending me an email that said she wished my new husband all the best, as he was going to need it being married to me. She thought our marriage was a farce and a joke and waited for the day it would end. The remainder amounted to nothing more than pure bile. Was I upset? Of course but honestly I was glad because it gave me the closure I needed to see her for toxic venomous being she really is. Our relationship is finally over its shredded. Its gone. Time to move on and I have and Ive never been happier. So take advise from someone who had a friendship like yours. Move on. You may have had something once, but its finished. Your relationship was toxic. You say youve learned - well maybe you have and may be not. Time will tell. But if you really care for your friend, let her have her life and stop marinading in the past. Its gone

Vkimberley Robinsoniewer
Vkimberley Robinsoniewer

Hiya jill im in Cambridge Uk,I REARLLY think ur great ,wasn't sure at first,but from watching latley don't know how far behind we are.... though! Changed my mind , thought you and Bethenney ,were good together but seen many faces of her she . Best off without or friend's without the other's Ive also noticed that luanne is a good friend . And Kelly's ok ...........My partners jewish too weve gotta love ur mum and sister and the bed thing x hahaha x ali and bobby are great you have it all . My favorite . kim uk xxxxx

leroyuk
leroyuk

I have that the way you treated bethenny was shocking!that said..loved you in season 4 and wish you all the best

Lise McTaggart
Lise McTaggart

Read the news today; how saddened I am that you are not coming back. I loved your whole family; especially Gloria. I hope this finds you and Bobby well, that Allie is back to school and feeling fine! I know that LuAnn will carry on with the show and that you two will remain tight. God bless! xx

Kaleigh
Kaleigh

God, I feel like I sholud be takin notes! Great work

bunboy
bunboy

Considering you wrote this blog entry on June 18th and it is now the 26th and you had one person add a comment before me. Apparently it is over for you jill.

margaret flores
margaret flores

Jill you have always been one of my favorites how ever you are wrong and it is truly time for you to put your big girl panties on and admit it. For you to blame anyone but yourself for the friendship lost between you and Bethany is absurd! You do not even acknowledge that Ramona tried to bring you and Bethany together and you completely shut that down. I believe you where angree that Ramona had Bethany come to her apartment-saying you felt ambushed and crying how you can not handle surprises. If anyone other than yourself is to blame for the friendship lost or stood in your way it would be LouAnn. You had many occasions to heal the hurt between the two of you before that. The choise not to heal those wounds when given the chance has come at a high price. Not only have you lost a true friend in Bethany you have been left with a very insincere,hypocritical one in LouAnn. Take ownership.

bosa
bosa

HI JIll!!

You are my favorite housewife. If I had one criticism it would be that you over-apologized to Bethenney durint the reunion. You said over and over and over that you are sorry and that you would have done things differently. And yet, she kept repeating the same things over and over in an attacking manner. The same held true when Kelley tried to give her side of the story on "SCARY ISLAND". You are a true friend, you showed empathy and sincerity. We all make mistakes and wish we could do things differently. And no one has a bigger, bulley, nasty, unfeeling mouth than Bethenney. You and your husband were like real family, generous and kind to take her in when she needed it and yet she stabbed you not only in the back but in the heart as well!! You are a classy lady. You are an intelligent, accomplished woman who has nothing to prove or to apologize for. We are all human. You are the most attractive inside and out. Stay true to yourself. And really, you should set yourself apart from many of the housewives. You have nothing to prove and so much more to offer intellectually, and emotionally than the other woman. All the best, Betsy

kt20
kt20

hey so you will probably never read this but here it goes, this season youo had your ups and your downs and i think that the relationship between you and bethenny was strained mostly by the other housewives, i think you were wrong to go off on bethenny and i think she was a little wrong to walk out on you when you congratulated her but you guys are above this. your feelings are being colored by the other housewives and i dont think you should let it, i think if the two of you guys sat down and talked everything over without the input of the others and without the cameras always on you, you guys would be way better off. i hope the two of you work things out and realize your relationship is not that easy to throw away

Theresa Rabold
Theresa Rabold

Jill you are my inspiration and my idol. I hope to someday be an inspiration to someone also. I may not be rich but i have a heart of gold.

suzy b
suzy b

Jill, You've had a rough season on the show. I hope next season is a little easier for you. It took a lot of courage to own up to your role in some of the issues and I applaud you for doing so. I wish others had done the same. Anyway, you looked absolutely fabulous for the reunion show. Simply fab! Wishing you the best in the upcoming new year and new season.

dana yetman
dana yetman

jILL, I think its great how you owned what you did to bethenny and said sorry. I know being on this show must put pressure on your relationships. I just watched the last show. I think bethneey was alittle right, maybe the show changed you. I don't think that is anything to feel terrible about. In fact if you were to own that i think it would make you a better person and more real. Its too bad all the BS had to happen to u and bethenny. I have to say i think your pride got the best of you when bethenny came to see u at Ramona's that day. That is a lesson for everyone. Luann shouldn't have said anything...she should have supported u staying and talking it out. I really think she thinks she is above everyone, it awful. Anyway i wish u all the best. I hope u and bethenny can have a REAL friendship in the future and you spend less time w/ people like Kelly and Luann. Kelly is nuts:) lol. sorry,,,,but true. Dana

B Happy
B Happy

Are you kidding? Ramona is only a friend to Ramona! Its like they are re-enacting "Mean Girls" And why is Alex even in the show? That social climbing wanna be... and she is shaking at the sight of Jill, really?

If you talk the talk, walk the walk.

miapirate
miapirate

Jill is NEW YORK`S big apple!

I am totally new to `blogs` and I`m sure Jill may not as I wouldn`t read all these comments about her on the show. To be honest Jill I think is great and people get too caught up in the negative aspects as we all have some kind of `faults`if that`s what you call them. She was hurt this season and to be honest I think most people would have been too under the circumstances with Bethanny once right there with her then up and gone. I also have to say that I like Bethanny too but you can see a change in her this season compared to last. I still watch the old episodes from season 2 and she`s hilarious and she still is but she`s different. Jill is truly the top `authentic`housewife with Ramona leaving me this season saying `what the **** `.

It really is fun to watch though and Jill your the fever in this show and I love it and good luck to you this next year and your sweet hubby.

Connie Trafiak
Connie Trafiak

Jill you are the reason I watch the show too. I think your beautiful, classy, and I like your style. And the taste you have for decor, clothing etc: I wish.

Mary Van Schie
Mary Van Schie

Jill i did not like you one bit this season you were so far up yourself and mean and rude and you did not care that you hurt people deeply. You need to rethink what friend means a true friend is someone who will be there for you no matter what you are not a true friend to anyone i feel very sorry for you.The countress is using you and you are so blind that you can not see that. You want everything your way you do not listen if you keep doing what you are doing you will have no true friends in you life wake up to yourself and get your head out of the clouds. I would not want you as a friend you are everything a true friend is not. True friends are like diamonds i hope next season i see a better person than the mean, rude and false one i watched this season. Think how you would like to be treated as a friend and treat people a lot better next time.

kitty2778
kitty2778

i thinkur wondeful so dont understand the sudden change, i look to luann, diffent friends different actions... not gud always..

Viewer - A. G.
Viewer - A. G.

Jill - I thought that you learned from Ramona when she told you straight up what you were doing wrong. After that you were rude to Alex so I guess that you did not learn the lesson. Life will keep repeating the lesson until you learn not to be so rude.

We don't like Jill..
We don't like Jill..

Good on Bethany!! She didn't need someone like Jill in her life anyway. Jill was totally bringing her down. Big time!

billy two socks
billy two socks

Jill, I think you are lovely. You are very genuine and real. I think Bobby is darling and this is a reflection on you. I love your family values and think you are a good person. You mother is wonderful. You are very lucky.

Laur1228
Laur1228

Check yourself Dee because its obvious you are JUST like JILL. And not in a good way. Bethenny's show will tank? That didn't happen. You belong on an island with that nutcase Kelly. And take the prima donna LuAnn with you. Enjoy yourselves. You deserve each other.

Laur1228
Laur1228

This comment said it all. Very well spoken, I agree 100%. I have not even decided if I will continue to watch NYC Housewives after last season. My curiosity will no doubt get the best of me and I will check out the 1st show. Lets hope we never hear the line "I got a new hobby and its not her". I knew when that 1st game from Jills mouth, she was in trouble. Let lighten up girls. You should not pretend to be friends when its clear you all hate each other. Its hard to watch.

lisalu
lisalu

Dear Jill

You're fabulous. I am so pleased that Bethany and you had a little cuddle at the end of the reunion show. I also completely understood Kelly's drama on scary Island...it all started because she asked them to stop talking about the other wives.....and then she got herself in a tiz because she wasn't able to articulate her feelings properly and left herself wide open to the nastiness that ensued. It was awful to watch.....and again , at the reunion show.....it was said that talking to her was like talkin to 'humpty dumpty'... how cruel.... if this lady didn't have issues before , she's sure to have them now.... I am pleased that you were there to support her on the reunion and also to cut the conversation when you did. You are a class act. Wishing you love over the holidays.

Susan from Scottsdale
Susan from Scottsdale

Jill, I hope you've been watching Bethenny's show and seeing how well she's doing without your negative influence in her life. Her life now seems so peaceful and happy, and I think she has truly moved on. You should do the same. I'm not trying to be unkind to you because in spite of all the drama and anxiety this past season, I think deep down you are trying to be a good person. You have a terrific husband who gives you a wonderful rich lifestyle and a lovely daughter, and you should focus on them. It's time to leave all of the bad feelings behind.

BethH
BethH

Jill, I too had a fallen out with a very good friend. I was jealous of her success. But, like Bethanny she rubbed it in my face. We did not speak for 8 months although I attempted as you did to apologize through an e-mail immediately, but got no response. Then, like Bethenny she attempted to make contact with me and I never responded. This continued until we both had enough of the foolishness and became friends again. Our relationship is not the same but, I feel we both realized we were in the wrong and noone wins in the end. I am sure like me their is never a day when you didn't wish your falling out had never happened. Sometimes friends have rough patches that repair themselves after time. I feel that you have apologized enough and it is time to move on. If Bethenny is a true friend to you then she will want your friendship and to share her new life with you. If not then she is not a true friend and only someone you once knew. I am sorry if she never realizes how sincere your apology was. I know that you were not jealous of her fame but of her moving on. I hope she changes her mind and decides to let you see her beautiful baby girl. You are a loving mother and I feel she could use someone like you in her life. Friends enhance our lives in many ways and she needs to realize that her and her daughter would benefit from your friendship. I hope everything works out. Hugs to you and your family.

ellen in rockville, md
ellen in rockville, md

Jill: I've enjoyed watching you and the many trials you've trekked and come through with a great attitude. Luck, laughter and health to you and the family. You will always be my favorite NY Housewife - Go Team Jill!

Kaitlan
Kaitlan

It takes a big person to own up to when they are wrong. You have done that and apologized to Bethenny. That was the right thing to do. You will just have to understand if she has moved on and has no place in her life for you anymore. It is a chance you take when you behave as you did this past year. But, that is the past.

I'm looking forward to seeing the "old" Jill back. The Jill I loved. The Jill that was a classy lady, a wonderful friend and a generous and kind person. I can't wait to watch her again.

Please stay away from Kelly and "The Countess". They are not nice people and they influenced you very badly last year.

Good luck. Hope you have a great year. I know deep down inside you are a wonderful lady.

3MINIDACHSHUNDS
3MINIDACHSHUNDS

Jill, So very much to say so I think the best is to wish you and your family the very best. Keep love around you all the time. Focus on good health for all. You got a lot of negative comments this season, but only you can sort it all out and find peace. I admire the relationship you have with your mom,I'm glad your husband is on the mend and that Ally is off to school. What an adventure she is going to have. That will bring goodness to your home and the old negativity will soon be gone. Smile more and be happy for those you love even if they can't return that love yet. God bless you all. J & M in PA

JP
JP

Take a page out of Ramona's playbook and seek a renewal. You complained about Bethenny not being your friend because she didn't pay enough attention to Bobby while he was dealing with cancer. Really?! You are the one who was not being a real friend. A real friend doesn't put conditions on their friendship. I don't blame Bethenny for no longer trusting you. Get over yourself. It is not always about you. You should have been happy for Bethenny and her success. Instead you were petty.

Dee Pittsburgh
Dee Pittsburgh

Jill, you need to get off the bed and back to work! While you were cuddling with Bethenny in your bed, she was making a plan and working it. She does have a lot of ambition and drive..I'll give her that. Lets see what you can now do. I look forward to seeing the bedspread line. I know you are an alpha female, so quit apologizing and go for it. Get your MoJo working again.

Dee Pittsburgh
Dee Pittsburgh

Dear Jill, I am sure the Bethenny show will tank. Please..please..please..do not appear on it. I think she will need you for ratings kiddo. Jill you need to channel your inner warrior and do the right thing now. Strengthen yourself, not Bethenney. She used you and the familiy including your Mom. She cries about having no family and yet was so mean to yours? What goes around ..comes around. Who has no family? Come on? Out of all the wives I would say you are brutally honest. I love that. I am the same way. Wishing you the best on building back your fan base. You were the victim of a hit and run Jill, and yet you still can't seem to grasp it. Users like to use. Helpers like to help. You were a helper that helped a user leading to you and your family being "used". Read what I wrote and you will get it. Admit it to yourself.

Steve Michigan
Steve Michigan

The problem came when you told bethenny that "you are who you are - you cant change"! - That was not what you should have said to her. You should have been invited to the wedding thou - She knows deep down that u 2 r friends ! ( ? )

behealthyMBSblog
behealthyMBSblog

Wow, I love your blog! I think every housewife has done something that was mean, and that wasn't in the best interest of others, but you were the first to actually apologize and humbly ask for forgiveness. The others are to full of pride to let you back in their lives, and they are not ready to see all the things they've done wrong. They can scream at you, and gossip about you, but then they want to turn around and make Jill the bad guy. You've handled yourself with class & dignity, exactly like a lady is suppossed to. Don't apologize anymore,you've done what you needed to do, and if they don't accept that then it's their own problem. Love you Jill!

Terrie
Terrie

Jill,stop apologizing..you don't need to

Dee Pittsburgh
Dee Pittsburgh

Jill, looking forward to seeing you come back swinging. No need to apologize anymore. Just be yourself and it will all work out.

FanFare56
FanFare56

Dear Jill,

Your message here sounds like your swan song. I have to say that it's a pity how beat up you got from first Bethenny, then her puppet, Alex and finally Andy. He really relished in slinging you over the coals (repeatedly). He fanned the flames on his WWHL with viewer polls that slammed you. In turn, the hateful "fans" have been a constant source of pain. Yes, your behavior and reactions were over-the-top. Yes, you showed a petty side. However, Bethenny and Ramona (& mealy mouthed Alex) were all loud, obnoxious and tactless at times as well. (Bethenny, in particular, was ruthless in her unrelenting search for fame. She tried to win you back (on her terms) only when filming resumed!) Why were they given a free pass each time? They claimed that they were just being themselves! RIGHT! When you look back on this nightmare, you'll probably realize that you no longer need these witches in your life. You have many good friends who accept your flaws and appreciate your finer points. Best of luck to you and your loving family.

Donna in CA
Donna in CA

Jill, I forgot to mention one important thing. I really felt bad for you when no one welcomed you on the island. I explained this in a comment after Kelly's latest blog. You have to remember that all the women had just gone through hell enduring Kelly's rude, ungrateful and vicious behavior. No one at all bullied her or was even rude to her. She turned it all around. All the women were spent by the time you arrived. Give them that and understand as their friend.

Donna in CA
Donna in CA

Jill,

First, I'm so sorry for all you went through last summer with Bobby and the cancer.

You were one of my favorites on the show last season. You and Bethenny really made the show. But, I gotta say that I was disappointed in you this season. You were cruel to Bethenny when she tried three times to talk to you and get your friendship on the right track again. You betrayed Bethenny by talking against her to LuAnn and Kelly, people that you knew were not Bethenny's favorite people and sharing your phone conversations with Bethenny with LuAnn.

And no you weren't ambushed...Ramona, as a good friend, was trying to give you and Bethenny the opportunity to reunite as friends. You have LuAnn to thank for keeping that from happening. You let LuAnn run you like a puppet all season.

And quit deliberately rattling Ramona. She is a good friend to you.

LadyLala
LadyLala

Jill, I was soooo disappointed with you this season. You truly let all this go to you head and treated others disgracefully. I didn't enjoy anything about you this season. Your apologizes were not heartfelt. You were only reacting to what the public felt about your actions. It would be very hard for Bethenny, Ramona, and Alex to forgive you for everything that happened.

You need to move on. You seem to want to control people and be the center of attention. Sometimes a better friend just listens and is there when needed. Everything is not about you. Listen and Hear......

housewife of trenton
housewife of trenton

I enjoy you on the show, but I have to say this season you showed so many nasty qualities. I was dissapointed! And befriending Louann, what a mistake. You ,Alex, and Bethany make the show worth watching. Kelly and Louann all I can say is watch your back! I cant wait for next season Im hoping to see more of the Jill we used to see in previous seasons.

kc2010Viewer
kc2010Viewer

it was wonderful not seeing you at Bethenny' wedding. the episode was fun with you gone.

Seattle Watcher
Seattle Watcher

Jill - hope you are having a great summer. Wanted to say that despite some wrong turns this season, I still love to follow you on the show. One piece of advice - the Countess seemed to thrive on stirring things up with you and Bethenny. I think she wanted your attention and guest room so she derailed a reconciliation earlier in the season. hang in there and just be yourself.

BayAreaFog
BayAreaFog

When they turned you out on that island, I thought- This has to be scripted-no one would do that after someone flew somewhere to see them- that's just bad form- that and the whole acting like suddenly Dracula had appeared because you came in casually and didn't affect whatever hangdog apologetic stance according to the Teen Girlz Book of Etiquette- ugh. I was embarrassed *for* them- that would have been the appropriate time to act like grown-up women and not dive deeper into silly clique-ish politics. Don't approval-seek and make yourself so vulnerable to this BS- you have a loving family, successful business, you live in a happening place..keep your energy directed at a higher level, though I know it must be hard with all the temptation(s) the good life may bring- it also brings with it a responsibility to get beyond oneself and whether this little group or that 'likes' you or not. In your position, you have too many important things you can do to waste too much time on either being upset or the cause of other's upsets. Not saying there's not room for growth there too- you took your lumps courageously on the reunion- but also consider who is throwing the stones and don't think they are necessarily the model for said growth. : )