Well everyone, the season is finally over and it's time for one last reflection and many thanks. This season was difficult for me at times to film and watch. Yet after reading all of your comments here and on JillZarin.com I have realized that this season has been just as important for many of you as it was for me. For the first two seasons you've watched me, for the most part, in my better moments. This season - not all perfect. But through it all we've learned together that people make mistakes. All we can do is attempt to fix them. Everyone may not end up agreeing with you, but if you are at peace with yourself, then the journey is complete and you're ready to move onto the next new and exciting chapter in your life.
I could sit here and tell you many things that happened this season that did not make it onto the shows, or that happened after the filming was over. Even as recently as the reunion filming. But to what purpose would that really serve to myself, the other ladies or you, the viewer? You can't say you are moving on and then keep going backwards. So let's enjoy the lost footage next week and and close the book on this season!
Can you believe Ally is going to college in the fall? With her gone I decided I needed to find a hobby! So I did! I have a bedding line that I have designed that will be available this fall. I have worked on it for a long time and am working on Spring 2011 right now. I would love to hear ideas from you, so please sign up for my newsletter at jillzarin.com so we can keep in touch over the summer. I'll also answer your questions to what I wore at the reunion and more!
More exciting news! Book clubs are selecting Secrets of a Jewish Mother for thier summer reading since there is so much to talk about amongst friends. WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Please email us and tell us what you think and if you want, one of us could call you when the book club gets together as a SURPRISE! Just email CARA at firstname.lastname@example.org to set up the call. We will call and answer ONE question you have that the group comes up with from reading a chapter in the book. You must have at least six people in the room! Don't be shy - it'll be fun! We are also getting invited to speak at many JCC's and private corporate events.
I was thinking : Jill didn´t forgive and now Bethenny is doing the same. Why? Bethenny seems more `normal´
Watching the the final reunion i realised a lot of horrible things Jill did and said, and understood why after all of it Beth doesn´t want to be smashed again by a false person. Live and learn is really true
This is my reading of season 3 and opinion, all the way from very far : PORTUGAL
It is clear that you are now going to go after Alex like you went after Bethenny (until you had to pretend you wanted to make up because everyone took Bethenny's side--even though you continued to trash Bethenny to the press long after filming ended). You are as fake as they come Jill.
I am embarrassed for you the way you went on and on about St. John's. You had a lot of nerve showing up after trying to sabotage Ramona's trip and telling the other women NOT to go. When you saw they were going to have the trip anyway and film without you, you decided you had to get in on the action and arrived unannounced even though you were in a fight of your own making with most of the people there. They had every right to throw you off!
But for you to go on and on crying at the reunion about how this was the WORST thing that ever happened to you is beyond embarrassing! So your husband chartered you a PRIVATE PLANE and after a brief stop in St. John's you were headed to St. Barth's and this was the WORST thing that ever happened in your life? You really have no shame! Ever heard of Haiti? Or Katrina? Across this country people are losing their jobs, their livelihoods, their homes, their ability to feed their children! And you want to cry about the fact that you had to leave earlier than expected on your private plane for St. Barths? OMG, please get a grip!
Best to you Jill. may you have a wonderful summer. It was an awful season, and though you did make mistakes, so did most of the others, and yet the attack on you that is supposedly "some" speaking up is exactly what they have accused you of. Bravo needs to fix the show. It is now beyond Kindergarten behavior.
I hope all of you think before you speak next season, use some kindness and grace, have fun, nnad make the show more positive. Otherwise I am done watching. I dont need the darkness in my life.
You showed guts and grace to withstand the reunion show filming, and though you have made mistakes, the attack by a few was so wicked and a lot of over-kill and so mean-spirited. And they also made mistakes, but dont want to own that. It was so shameful how some attacked you on the reunion show, and never once showed any remorse how they acted all season.
And how disgusting a few were attacking you that you had to show up on the island and in 30 seconds fall at their feet shouting mea culpa. They look like such foolish mean girls who always justify their actions, but they have ripped others apart, and ripped you at the reunion.
I dont care for how you acted all season. You had been my favorite. I hope next yr is better and some of the things they have said re you re how you treat others, or call the press, etc are not true, or it will stop if it is true. Otherwise I am done with the show.
But they have not been much better and I think they should be shown for just how disgusting they are and have been. Do they think we dont see the footage and then they just say it is being honest, etc??
I hope Bravo reads all the comments on the board. The show has sunk pretty low, and needs to be fixed. I hope you get to know Sonja. She seems fun, seems to have a heart, and doesnt seem to want to slice people apart.
Best wishes to you. Pls bring back the old Jill that so many loved.
Read Alex's very well-written blog for the real recap. She even included many links to actual articles & footage ("SHOW ME!!!!")
Jill you went through a lot this season and people who still continue to bash you need to get a check on themselves. I think you held your head high and made it through so much at the reunion show. I still think you are a good woman with a wonderful heart, who like the rest of us has made mistakes in life. Good luck to Ally at school and may you and your family continue to be blessed.
Jill, I just wanted to say that I like you very much. Please do not let people get you so upset. You are alot more sweeter then any of the other people that put you down. You and Bethenny are the only ones that I really like on the show. I was so very mad about the way they acted againest you this season. You were always very lady like, and you did not tell them off like I would have told them for you.I just wanted to say hi and I really do think you are sweet. Lisa Leffew
Wow, drama and then some! I don't believe you acted any worse or better than any of your other cast mates, yet somehow they don't see that and just can't seem to forgive you. To me, you redeemed yourself and I thought your apologies were sincere. It's easier to attack someone else rather than to look in at ourselves. You sure did try though! Good for you. By the way, I laugh my a** off every time I see the scene of Ramona walking the runway. You nailed it....no way I would have apologized for that!
In order for you to move forward in a positive way you must forgive. You need to let go of this anger w/Alex. You don't have to be her new BFF but this is not healthy for you. I do hope you return next season.
Wow, Jill! You must be positively exhausted from all that back-pedaling! If you and Alex "have never been friends," what were we watching in past seasons when you and Bobby had dinner with Alex and Simon?
You lead such a privileged life. Why do you waste your energy trying to bring down your "enemy du jour," i.e. Alex? Why not put your energy instead toward making a positive difference in this world such as helping the Haitian earthquake victims rebuild their lives or helping victims of domestic violence learn how to break the cycle of abuse or working to lower the drop-out rate at an underprivileged school in your area or whatever social cause speaks loudest to you? DoSomething.org has some great ideas. For a huge eye-opener, volunteer to help serve just one meal at a soup kitchen and keep your eyes and ears open and your mouth shut. If you have a pulse, the experience will at once (1) break your heart, (2) make you realize just how fortunate you are, and (3) make you think about how many people in this world desperately need the help of people like you.
Good luck! You're gonna need it...
Jill I know you got a good heart but it seems you are oblivious to how you come across to people.....you could use a little self realization...
I wish you all the success and happiness in the world. Have a great summer.
If you decide to do the show for another season, please watch your back, the other castmates with the exception of LuAnn and Kelly will be out to get you. I want even discuss their hypocrisy in making you the villain of this past season when some of their behavior was far worse.
You handled yourself wonderfully on the reunion show and have done enought apologizing. If certain people can't accept you for you, move on and forget about them.
Jill - I applaud you on your blog journal! It really sounds sincere and you own your actons from this past season. I feel as though I have been in your position before and admire your straight forwardness and honesty. There are times when you are so sad and hurt that you feel you can't crawl out that deep, dark hole for air and I can only imagine how much harder that must be under the scrutiny of millions. You have always been one of my favorites and have taught me that it's ok to make mistakes and move on. Apology accepted Jill and I so look forward to next season! Take care and keep on keeping on!
Jill, I have tried posting to your blogs many times and have never seen my comments make it, but I'm crossing my fingers on this one. I am your biggest cheerleader (second to Aunt Cookie I guess) and I think you totally redeemed yourself last night! We are all human, we all have a side to us that is less than favorable, so kudos to you for handling the harsh comments and attacks with style and grace. Enjoy your summer!
I too quit following you on twitter. You really did change this year and I'm not sure what all happened to cause it, but take a big look in the mirror and bring back the old Jill. Be nice!
Jill, I just want to say goodluck to you and your family. I love your advice about dating and marraige. I have recently remarried and this time I married someone that "loves me a little bit more than I love him." It is the best let me tell you. Let the men do the chasing for a change. Anyway, I can't wait to start reading your book this summer "Secrets of a Jewish Mother."
Jill, I can understand that what you did came from your heart & that you didn't intend for things to come out the way that they did. You really need to own up to what you have done & when you make an apology, you must do it whole-heartedly, not just because you should. Karma can be tough to handle....but I have faith that you can redeem yourself.
I know you want Bethenny to not hold a grudge against you and to forgive you. Why won't you extend the same gesture to Alex? Watching you last night with Alex was very "high school" and reminded the viewers of the early episodes of Season 3 when you were mean to Bethenny and constantly shut down her attempts at reconciliation and forgiveness. You're doing it again with Alex. Actions speak louder than words.
I don't know how you do it, you are amazing My only wish is that you and Bethenny become friends again. It tore me apart when she was going through major milestones in her life and you were on the outside watching. I watched reruns of season 1 yesterday and you two two were so great together, you compliment each other, finishing each others sentences, and you are the only housewife that can keep up with the running commentary that she does.
Love you, Thanks for allowing us to meet your family and live your life for a bit. Best Wishes
Jill I think you are who you are and I enjoy watching you - We all make mistakes and I think you have learned from yours. I do hope you can try to understand Alex's side and bring her back into your life - I really do like you I think under it all you are a kind person - Good luck with all your endeavors.
I don't care what anyone says about you, I think your a doll. No one is perfect but we are all mostly good, not bad. Good luck in the future!
I just signed up for your news letter so I can stay informed about your new bedding line.
I can rehash everything that has been but what's the point. Bottom line, the choices you make are your own...good or bad. Just remember you are a classy, intelligent lady who brings spark to the Housewives Show. I hope you continue at least another season so we may see you in your "real" element. I'd love to see the housewives showcase more of your work and charity causes. Oh, and of course please continue to show us your fabulous style choices.
Thanks for letting me into your life for an hour of much needed escape.
There was a NYC Housewives marathon on Bravo yesterday, and I really missed how everyone was the first season! Jill, what a nice final blog. You really handled yourself well considering... I did notice, as you thanked all the people in your life, what ever happened to Brad??? He was such a part of your life the first few seasons and totally absent in this one! I thought he was not only your friend but a business partner?? Look forward to your bedding line! I'm sure it will be great! Hopefully we won't have to be "Real Housewife" to afford them! :)
It is priceless that you say "you" decided to get a hobby - when Bethenny made that suggestion, you were insulted. It is an understatement to say your behavior was disappointing this season. The deal was sealed when you actually said the worst thing to ever happen to you was leaving the Island...my god, after abusing Bethenny about Bobby's cancer and how awful it was that she wasn't around for you, you now say island-hopping on a private jet is the worst thing that's EVER happened to you? Hopefully, you will no longer wonder why some of us don't want to see you return to RHONY....the mean spirit and facade of friendship you exhibited and "I'm not perfect, so what?" attitude are too much to bear....
Jill Was always a fan of you an bethenny together You two were very similar. Yes you disappointed me this season and to tell youthe truth did not like you so much this season. But I am sure you get it. Loved what bethenny always said. She was spot on. Her delivery sometimes I was like ok less is more. I get bethenny. I have the same humor and sometimes the same delivery. NOTT always recieved well Trying to be more blow pops and gummy bear approach the last few years. lol Jill I think and it is just me but you were jealous. I think you wanted to be NYC most talked about girl. I read you reference Denise Rich(NYC socialite) in a interview, and then a light bulb went off. I though oh I see now. Jill you are a good girl, with a great life, and very lucky. Stop trying so hard you made it. Yes I invested to much already in this post. lol I watched the show and think both you and bethenny will one day come around. Not like before but better You both can be a bitch. And both of you will agree Try to remember Bethenny's history those are not just walls the have bard wire glass and lights on them. So when she lets them down and something like what happen this season. Not only does the walls go back up but add 10 feet and a guard and search lights. Time Time Time Time and some more time However Jill I think you will have to acknowledge the jealous part. Hell we all are. Have a great summer!! First weekend after labor day you two girls should go on a weekend away together No camera's get to know each other again YOU BOTH HAVE ALOT TO LEARN> and learning is a good thing Best of luck to the both of you
I guess I may be in the "minority" after this season because I still like you, regardless of all the drama. You have proven that everyone is flawed. Initially I thought you were the person who had it all, the nicest, the most grounded. Now we realize that you're like the rest of us. If you feel hurt, you can hurt back. You can sling the mud with the best of them.
All of the ladies have their demons, no saints in the group. Some are more open while others make their jabs behind the scenes. For example Ramona, she is always saying things but she's honest about it. She doesn't seem to care if it hurts as long as she says it to your face.
Yes, I think you had your darker moments this season, so what? We all have them. Just wait, we'll be seeing the nasty side of Sonya in the next year or two.
Jill's made her apologies so let's all move on folks!
Jill, I am glad that you were able to tell Bethaney that you were sorry for all the things that happen between both of you. Friends are always fighting, because no two people are the same. If she still does not want to make up with you, then you can have me as a friend if you need a Jamaican friend.
I applaud your blog being positive but you have to deal with the past in order to handle the present and the future. You did some pretty mean things this season and some mean things were also done to you. I hope that you come back next season showing the public how you have changed because you did not show it on the reunion special. I have nothing negative to say to you; I would like to advise you to stay out of mess; don't follow it and don't allow it to follow you. I wish you the best.
Jill, move forward with life and try to get along with Alex. Maybe she didn't think before she acted this season but neither did you or Bethenny.And please come back next season because the show would not be the same without you or Alex.This season was a tough one all the way around.You have so many good things in your life...be grateful.If you and Bethenny ever have a friendship again realize it will be different.She's grown and has new priorities.While Bobby and Ally and your parents are your priorities , her family should be hers.If you want to help someone, please help Kelly.She had some sort of a breakdown and she believes the ladies bullied her on the St.Johns trip and that is clearly not true!!!!
Jill, I have truly enjoyed watching you the last three years. I find that you have more class and inner beauty that most of the other ladies (and I us that term loosely with some of them). Ramona is not your friend, please don't go there, she is all for her self. Alex is a self serving nutcast as we can all remember from season 1. She and Simon will use everyone to advance with they feel is their right to climb the social ladder. Lets not forget how badly Ramona treated them and now they are "Birds of a feather". Hold you head up high, you do not owe these women anything. I admire you for being a much bigger person than any of the 3 who find so much pleasure in seeing you hurt and seem to want to keep their petty remarks front and center week after week. Your real fans are still there for you. You can never let them get you down. Please continue to be your beautiful self.
Great blog Jill. I must admit I wasn't your biggest fan this season, but your blog changed my mind. Kuddos to you for taking the high road. You were able to take everything that you dished out and learn from it all. That's all we can do! Stop apologizing & get on with your wonderful life. Only time can heal when it comes to Bethanny. Wish you the best!
Jill, I agree people should find forgiveness in their hearts but you also need to be accountable for your actions. You (and your new BFF Kelly) love to deflect criticism and point the finger elsewhere. The bottom line is that you did/said so many hurtful and mean things that while your castmates may forgive you, they don't want you in their lives. I wouldn't either. You're toxic and like cancer, people have gotten rid of you.
Jill-- You make the show-there would be no NYC housewives without you. During Kelly's "confused tirades" she said something that had perfect clarity, "Jill and Luanne don't act and the other's do." Hopefully Bravo and the viewers see that truth. I'll watch as long as you're on and even though Bethenny & you made up, I still won't watch her show. She's not as interesting without you in the mix.
I'm hoping to see you back next season and not Alex. She was definitely not my favorite this season. and enough with telling Betheny that you're sorry, she's too focused on her own life to care. I say good riddance. I'm happy that she's leaving the show because she's very difficult to watch.
Jill. My heart hurts for you, you have been the bigger person through all of this. You have a very big heart and deserve forgiveness from Bethanny. If she is unwilling to give that forgiveness than yes you need to move on. The best of friends have "fall outs", if she really loves you then she'll forgive you. You have been through so much with Bobby's sickness and all of this drama, put it away and allow yourself the peace that you deserve. Your family is beautiful and you've been blessed with much. Good luck with everything!!
I agree Sanda721. It takes two people to make or break any relationship, so you and Bethany both contributed to the problem. Alex should not have delivered that message from Bethany, it was not her place. Bethany could have addressed it later or sent a note explaining how she felt.
I am not of fan of Alex - I think she has become a drama queen. It is one thing to stand up for yourself and find your voice, it is another to inject yourself into every conversation so you can hear yourself rant.
I am sorry the reunion show turned into a three-part series of tear Jill apart. Bethany has let her success go to her head and Ramona and Alex are going along for the ride.
If the show returns I hope you cime back.
This season has been hard for me to watch. I really, really like you, and I feel so badly that Alex has used attacking you as a vehicle to keep herself relevant. Sad. Keep your chin up.
Ok, Jill we get it you have to be mad at someone so it didn't work out to well with Bethenny so now it is Alex's turn. You might want to remember that history repeats itself. If you go after Alex like you did Bethenny next season you are going to have even more viewer's that HATE YOU!!!
Wow! Jill, yes you made mistakes. But who doesn't! Nobody is perfect. Not all viewers like Alex by the way. Keep up with the personal growth. Keep looking at all the positive things in your life.
Jill, "Hire" Bethanny to "cook" for your next big bash! I am sure then Bethanny will come around and get off that high horse and want to be your equal again! Jill, YOU ROCK!
Jill, Alex & Bethenny are wrong. I hope you stay on the show but I quess Bravo is trying to keep making you look like your the only that did wrong while Alex was the one stiring up the trouble. Notice how they only post good comments about Alex & negative about Jill. I know this because quite a few feel Alex needs to leave the show but our posts don't get approved.
Among all of them, I like you the best, all the good and bad. Sometimes I even see myself and my husband in you and Bobby. But I don't understand why you were so desperate to try to make up with Bethenny, just to be part of her show? Let her go. She has a mean spirit and very self-serving. You have the charm and power to establish another beautiful friendship with someone more grateful and kinder than Bethenny.
Jill, I must say you and Bethany were my favorites last season. This season, in the beginning I was really shocked at everything that was happening with you and Bethany, and was on her side. But then I really think you totally proved yourself, and as you said your intentions were never mailicous and your heart was in the right place. You did not deserve the way the women were acting at the reunion. You handled yourself really well and I must say, the hug at the end really bothered me, I cant believe Bethany didnt even lean forward...whatever...you are a successfull, stong, beautiful woman! Hope to see you next season!
I KEEP posting positive comments about Jill and they never get posted. Interesting . . . somewhat like this anti-Jill season.
Jill, I believe you are a wonderful lady. You may have lost yourself at times but that happens to the best of us. What Alex did to you this season was not only unnecessary but it was mean spirited and so wrong. Karma will pay her back ten fold.
Hang in there!! There are people who love you despite what these posts show. I am sure there are just as many positive comments and they just haven't made it up. I know I have repeatedly tried.