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Jill Zarin

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Jill Zarin talks about losing Bethenny as a friend and why she still does the show.

Mar 5, 2010

Drama drama drama! or should I say "ratings, ratings, ratings?"

So much has happened since the reunion which you will all see soon enough.

I know what's on everyone's mind. I thought Bethenny and I had a real friendship even though we connected through the show. I admit my radar is not always good but after talking 10 times a day about her, her career, and her relationships, I thought our friendship was real. When Bobby was diagnosed with cancer, I thought my world would end. My friends called and came over everyday to see how he was. The one person I thought would be there for us no matter what was Bethenny. By the time we started filming, three months had passed and we had hardly spoken. There are a ton of things that happened between us but it all seems so petty now. Bobby's mother, Miriam Zarin, passed away last week. We were surrounded by our friends and family and I feel so blessed. Life is so short.

This season was so real to me, and the reason I keep coming back for more toxicity is because of you. Many of you have inspired me, reached out to me and have made my family feel very special. For that I will be eternally grateful for. Will I cringe watching the show? Of course
I will. Will I want to put words back in my mouth? Who wouldn't (or lies if they say they never would). But I am human and not perfect. I strive to be a better person and learn from my friends and sometimes my foes (a Kelly word!). Please don't be harsh on any of us. He who
throws stones....

I made some new friends this season and had a lot of fun doing lots of things that you will see during the season. I can't wait for  you to meet the new housewives in future episodes. I update my blog and Web site almost daily at www.jillzarin.com,and have a fan Facebook page and Twitter @jillzarin. This is a reality show meant to engage and entertain you. But please, DON'T take it too seriously and just enjoy the show. Oh, and don't forget to give your loved ones a big hug and kiss!

Love,
Jill

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Jill: You are truly my favorite housewife in this crazy addicted series. I somehow relate to you even though I'm a Catholic girl you seem like a friend that I'd like to have in my life. What women would't want to have that special friend that she can bounce back with about life's ups and downs. The sort of friend that is your touchstone in life when you need it most. I too had a friend like that and out of the blue she stopped connecting, corresponding, etc. To quote a line from a movie, "She ended our friendship and didn't tell me". Bethany did the same. Even your Mother Gloria reached out to her! It's Bethany's loss and someday when she comes down off her mountain, she'll realize it. I'm looking forward to seeing the new season...stay strong and enjoy your wonderful life! Liza

Love you Jill Z. Wish I had a friend like you. Can't get over Ms. B. Good to hear that Bobby is doing much better. I would like to know who does Ms. B think she is. Sounds like to me she just used you. Jill you are still my favorite housewife.

C.Penn Hbg. Pa.

Jill,

Love love love you. I think you have a lot of offer as a friend and I am sad to see that Bethany has walked away from you. It was very shocking to hear since you were both so close last year. I am sure that once Bethany comes to her senses she will remember who her true friends are and you two can start over.

Hope you and your family continue to do well.

Jill . . . YOU throw stones. How does it feel?

Jill,

My hopes for you to heal along with Bobby. I think Bethenny has been cold and disloyal and I hope she realizes her mistakes. Love your huge heart and fierce loyalty to your friends.

Hi Jill,

Favorite housewife ever. I hope Bobby is doing well.

I think most of the viewers believed you and Bethenny's friendship was real and I think that she dismissed you like many women do when a man comes into their life. I will miss the two of you together but looking forward to seeing the new friendships you've created on the show.

All the best

Jill,

You are a drama queen. I love you, but you can be very pushy and suffocating. You have all the things Bethenny has been dying to experience and she finally does so of course she doesn't have a lot of time to spend with you! Be happy for her! Accept the fact that her life is moving in a different direction now so some things have to change. I understand you're hurt, but you need to allow her the space to finally enjoy her life. She's worked hard to get there.

It is very evident you are jealous. Green is not a nice color on you Jill! Other people can have success besides you!!

Dear Jill:

You blame Bethenny for your friendship being lost, but the truth is that you ruined it with your lack of "OBJECTIVITY" you started talking about your issues regarding Bethenny with the other housewives; and Bethenny hasn't done that, not even when LuAnn baited her to do so B stopped her on her tracks. You do like to be heard, to be followed, to be considered in other peoples decisions, and that is NOT real friendship. A real friend doesn't want to impose herself on her "friend" or try to guilt her into doing stuff because it pleases you. A real friend supports,lets the other person "be" & breathe.

What is the real reason she dropped you as a friend?

Team Bethenny...........ALL THE WAY.

Jill, Im glad your on the show... okay totally off topic, I went to the Patti Stanger Show at Mohegan and she said you and Bobby were there the night before... I would have died if you were there too~

Your awesome

You, like LuAnn, need to get off your high horse. It's clear that you have a hard time accepting other people's success (i.e. Ramona's Jewlery line - cheap because she didn't give you anything - serious? When clearly she was excited and wanted to share it with you and get feedback from "friends"). It's easy to "judge" others and state your opinions, as you so clearly do in your blogs on other shows, your show etc., but it's not so easy when the roles are reversed, is it. Perhaps Ramona was right last season when she said that Bethenny is the "underdog" and she is your project - now that she's established herself you can't handle it. Right or wrong, it's clear you need a reality check, step off your high horse and come back to reality. You are no more special or better than any of these other ladies - no one is perfect...you are the negative dramatic energy that fills the place, in every scene, there you are with your negative energy. Grow up, stop gossiping, trying to get everyone to feel sorry for you because Ramona and Bethenny don't bow down to you anymore and graduate Jr. High. My 2 year old niece is more mature.

Do you really seriously think it's all Bethenny's fault and she has no valid points? We've seen with our own eyes times when you've been petty and jealous. I wish we saw more of the warm jewish mother side.

Now you know. B. is not a decent fish no matter how hard she may try. But it doesn't matter. One can roll w/o her.

She's out of your 'broght-up from good parents' league, unfortunately. You, Kelly, or LuAnne had better parents. And it shows on you guys. Simon & A as well. No mean spirits.

Poor Mona's been bettered w/ bad background/environments including the husband who doesn't know how to behave like a gentleman. B is jealous of all you people since she never had it and talks mean stead of taking advantages of what is to become of her better environment. She is her best enemy. Sad.

Just roll with the best people and life is good. We can't have people who trys to drag down to their level. Have fun with life. Not too serious. Doesn't have to agree with everybody's life-style since yours is quite decent.

Jill,

I have gone from disliking you to loving you to disliking you again. As time goes on and you continue to show your true colors its obviously that you are disingenuous and prefer to be friends with people who are "beneath" you so that you can feel better about yourself. I cannot comment on what truly transpired between Bethenny and yourself, however, if it was truly a friendship worth saving then you would have gotten over it. I think the problem is that she has finally achieved success, fame and has a family now and that was a little too much for you to take. Before she was single, unhappy and someone to make you feel better about yourself. Similarly, its interesting to see that you have become close with Luann now that she is divorced...coincidence? I think not. Perhaps you need to look deep within yourself before pointing the finger at everyone else for problems that truly lie within you. Just food for thought.

I think you are great, Jill. I was a little upset with you after watching the show until I read your blog. Seemed like the season started out with you being one of the "mean girls," or so I thought until I read your blog. It reminded me that no one is perfect and it is not my place to judge and there is no way I can truly know what happened between the two of you. I'm sure you will get a great deal of flack this year over your broken friendship with B. The viewers could really relate to the bond the two of you had. I (and I'm sure many others) really hope that eventually you and B will become friends again. I'm sure there are hurt feelings, but it was very obvious to the viewers that each of you cared deeply for each other (and probably still do). Sometimes we hurt and are more harsh to the people we love more than we are to complete strangers. If the two of you didn't love one another then you wouldn't have cared what was said/done. Maybe one day the two of you will be able to heal and will be even closer because of the hurt you have been through. All relationships that go through hard times are stronger when they pull through. I'm cheering for you!

Give me a break! It is so ridiculous to act like a child on and off TV. Tick tock goes the 15 minutes...

Great to have NYC back. It is my favorite. Also glad to everyone blog, some of us look forward to that almost as much as the show. Excited to see where the show goes this season and to see what happens with you and Bethenny. Like you I thought yours was one of the only true friendships on this or any of the RHW shows.

Just listened to you on your sisters show. You have an amazing family. I do hope you and Bethanny can find common ground, especially after her conversation with your mom last season. (I want to adopt your mom btw) Blessings and good wishes to everyone around you. xxxooo

Jill you are great, I really like you. I don’t know what happened between you and Bethenny. butI have been is similar situation and I know that I Felt disappointed and cheated. I could never understand what you have seen in Bethenny. I am sorry that you had to find out the hard way what she is made of. I will not be throwing any stones I will leave them for B based on yesterdays episode she needs them to shatter Countess’ “glass house”. I am just not sure if stating up front that she wants to be authentic means that you she be rude and obnoxious. Sorry Jill she used you....

does anyone know what kind of thyroid cancer jill's husband was diagnosed with? there are several types and some are VERY scary!

So glad you are back on!!!! You are my FAVORITE housewife! God Bless you and your family.

Jill Jill Jill!

I swear you use to be one of fav's last year (Actually I loved the entire NY cast! Atlanta too!). So far this season I don't like the direction your taking. ( I know it's only been one episode) If you don't care for Bethanny then that's cool. However, it appears your trying to rally everyone up to be Team Jill. It's almost like you like drama. And what was up with you getting involved in LuAnn's and Ramona's fight? That was none of your business. You called Ramona cheap! You called her tacky because she showed off her gifts. It almost appeared as if you were jealous. I don't think that you were. However I do think it was a bit catty!This is someone who invited you as a guest! It almost makes me beleive Bethanny may be on to something!

Not cool Jill!

Che

I think your great jill I'm a big fan, and I have to agree with you. Life is too short to hate.

Jill, you look gorgeous! Sorry to hear about the falling out with Bethenny, but honestly it seems like she has changed and not for the better. Maybe when everything settles down for both of you things will get better! Her baby should have an 'Auntie' Jill and Gloria, wish I did!:) Hope Bobby is doing well? Well, I've always been on Team Jill and still am, can't wait to see what happens next week!

Oh Jill . . . Jill . . . Jill . . . you love to lay on the guilt . . . guilt . . . guilt.

You've been the one to throw many stones. How is it feeling?

Hi Jill, Watched the show on internet this morning. I think you are a great person. Hope what we have seen so far is not all that we will see of Bethenny because she is coming of like a bit of a Snot making Kelly look good. Who would have thought? Anyway, best wishes to you and your family.

Go Jill! You are great to watch and seem very real. Bethenny basically used you to get famous and now she acts like she is better than others. Bethenny seems to be one of those women who cannot maintain a friendship with other women because needs to be the only one in the spot light. Blehhh. No wonder she is 40 and just now settling down.

I am sorry about the lose of Bobby's mother and to learn about his battle with cancer. You were a better friend then Bethany deserved.

Team Jill! It's great to see RHoNYC back. I'm sorry to hear about your mother-in-law. My condolences. I also hope Bobby's getting better.

And OMG, what's with Bethenny! It's like she's turned into quite the "mean girl" this season. It was horrifying enough to see her dump on you and LuAnn on the show, after all that you and she have gone through lately... But to keep the vitriol going on "Watch What Happens"? That's just tacky.

So keep speaking the truth, keep putting smiles on our faces, and I can't wait to see you and Nene on next week's "Watch What Happens"! :-)

I'm still not clear why you are so upset with Bethenny. I just think it is a shame. When women get serious with a guy, they ususally don't hang with their girlfriends as much. Usually it takes two. Can you not look at your part of it?

Mrs. Zarin first I would like to send my thoughts and prayers to you, your husband and family; my mother just under went surgery for colon cancer so I completely understand your worries for your family. I am also from Long Island and I find you incredibly inspiring for speaking what you feel and admitting when you're not perfect. I appreciate that you put the REAL in the Real Housewives.

Jill: I am so disappointed to see how you treated Bethenney in the season opener. She has always defended you to others and been honest with all of you. Bethenney deserves better.

I know you have had a rough time and my thoughts are with you and Bobby on his recovery. But I just don't like meanness.

Jill,

LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU!!! THat is all I can say. DOn't like the fact that Bethenny did you wrong, but what I will say is, last season should have been an eye opener for you when you had your charity event and used all the space for herself.

Take care, be strong. YOu and your family are wonderful, I am so happy that Bobby is doing better. Barb

Jill--Are you a BIG girl? You and Bethany are like Ethel and Lucille Ball you too must get back together. I think your argument with Bethany is so small--Are you guys in high School? Bethany is having a baby and I know she could use your advise. To me Bethany may have changed once she found her man but friendships last a lot longer. Sorry about your husband-give him my love:)) Get Back together with bethany!!!

Jill, I love you on the show and while I don't think this is a harsh statement I must say I was very saddened watching the first episode! I hope things get better, my condolences on the loss of Bobby's mom and I hope he and Aly are doing well.

As a thyroid cancer survivor of 15 years, best wishes to Bobby. If he's feeling tired and on synthetic replacement, have him try a natural alternative. Welcome back. We missed you.

We love you Jill...both Behtenny and Romana seem too hostile. It's tacky that they are always attacking people and going below the belt. They remind me of mean girls from middle school who have no life. Some people are toxic and should be removed from your life..good work :O)!

Hi Jill,

I knew it would be a matter of time for you to figuire Bethenny out. She is a user and an abuser!! You are better off without her and surround yourself with true friends that are just as genuine, giving and lovely as you:) I wish you and your family the best!!!!

I really hope you and Bethanny mend your friendship, what would Gloria say?

Jill, Betheny has always been there for you & taken up for you with the others. I think you're sad for treating her this way. You need to call your WONDERFUL MOTHER for advice and stop starting stuff like at lunch with air head Kelly & Count-lesss Luann and on the boat with Ramona

You need to cut Bethenny some slack. She has HER life to lead too.

I can't deal with this break up with Bethenny! How I was not consulted? I have an emotional stake in this relationship too! Say it isn't so! What does Gloria have to say about it?

Dear Jill, one of the things that I admire about you is how you always say "own it" and that you are the "queen of accountability." I hope you will "own" you atrocious behavior on this episode and be accountable for it. I feel that you owe an apology to your many, many fans, particularly the younger viewers who look up to you. Please, be a better role model and be the bigger person.

Jill, so good to see you again. Very sorry to hear about Bobby. Hope all is well now.

I think that Bethenny thinks that because she has a boyfriend now and her career has taken off that she doesn't need you anymore and that is so not right. You and your family has done so much for her. I can't believe she is acting this way.... She needs to get her priorities straight and realize what she is losing out on. Hugs Jill, love ya!

Jess

P.S. (Can't help but wonder what your mother thinks about all of this)

Hey Jill,

This show is absolutely my "guilty pleasure".

I'm sure you have read these very same words from a number of people.

How very sad to learn of the demise of your friendship with Bethenny.

With that said, I have lost interest in the show.

It was your friendship that made me tune in.

Kelly is just useless. The "Countess" is boring.

It's you, Ramona and Jill that keep the show going.

I will miss all of you.

I'm going back to my books.

We had a nice ride, but now you are just fodder for the tabloids.

Nice save Jill. But not nice behavior on the opener, I love the show, but not the mean stuff.