Kelly Killoren Bensimon

Hear more about Kelly's modeling career and Halloween party drama!

on Apr 20, 20090

A young twenty something girl from Florida Facebooked me and asked me, "Is it really you?" Of course it's me. Who else would it be? So I emailed her back and she asked me to call her friend to wish her Happy Birthday. On Saturday, I called to wish her friend happy birthday, and the girl was screaming on the phone when I said, "Hi, it's Kelly." And she said, "Kelly Bensimon?" My older daughter was in the car with me because I had just picked her up from swimming and she was giggling as I spoke on the phone with the sweet girl. After I hung up, my daughter told me how fun it was to have that girl be so excited. Then it dawned on me - yes, it was fun. She was right and so insightful. This whole process has been so fun, hedonistic and filled with vicious gossip and crazy press. (Even TMZ followed me with my twin brother walking down the street.) But making that girl happy and exposing people of all ages to a life I am so proud of and grateful for is amazing.

Modeling breeds such insecurity...No one cares how you feel, or what you think.

Modeling breeds such insecurity. You have to look a certain way, fit into a certain size, and be tall. No one cares how you feel, or what you think. If you are the look, they will do whatever it takes to keep you happy for the time they need you. Every day you are with new people, some who are so nice to you, and some who never give you the time of day. I have been every hair color - blonde, brunette, and even red. But traveling, meeting new people, synthesizing information quickly, learning to speak foreign languages, and acclimating in foreign environments within days made modeling an amazing experience. I did all of this while I was attending Trinity and Columbia. At Trinity, I had all my classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays and took the 4:26AM train to New York and the 6:05 back to Hartford every other day. That's why I transferred to Columbia so I could work. There, I went to school year round and took exams after flying back from London, and wrote papers weeks in advance to be sure they were on time. It was so stressful, but I don't regret one minute of it, because I wouldn't be who I am today if I didn't challenge myself.

509 comments
Laura
Laura

I'm from Italy, I'm 27 and I loved to watch the show since you come in the pic.

I think that you are great mum, an example of an healthy and beautiful woman and great socialite too.

I'm 27 working and still studying, living with My boyfriend and sometimes when I feel tired I get some of the energy that I see in you...

Congrat....

Laura

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Viewer

Calling someone for their birthday is AWESOME.... it shows how caring you are and how self-centered you aren't.

helen
helen

Kelly,

Luv you. Your the only woman on the show with style and stunning good looks. Why is Bethany on the show? She's never been married she not a "real housewife"! Good luck with your jewelry line it's fab!

Best Wishes,

Helen S.

Arturo Garcia
Arturo Garcia

Kelly I am a New York Classical Realism Painter, I never watch this show but I was in vacations and I was watching you and I get really curious about you, you are really cool, fresh, nice and beautiful, and I think the rest of the crow are jealous of you.

BUT YOU ARE THE STAR.

ARTURO

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Viewer

Kelly, I enjoyed reading the contribution you made on this website in your own words. I wasn't aware of how educated you are, and I was impressed by it :) You also seem to be a very good mother, and I like that too.

However, I agree with Amy; you DID seem to be ON something during your bar meeting with Bethenny. (btw, there is far too much drinking that goes on during the show). And after seeing you both resume your argument at Jill's I see that you are both in the wrong as of right now. You seem to be kind of controlling and that only detracts from your physical beauty. It's too bad that you and B. can't resolve your differences in some way. At any rate, I will continue watching the show (it's my one and only "guilty pleasure" lol) and you keep right on running in the middle of NYC!! :)

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I have to say that I completly agree with Tammylouwho, well said!! Kelly I never really liked you and couldn't understand why you were on the show except that you do add to the drama but you don't really contribute anything else. You are what we call fluff my dear, nothing of substance. Yes your beautiful, that is a given, but what else is there?? Yes you know many famous people, but is that what makes a life great?? Yes you have a very prileged lifestyle, but what do you contribute to those who don't have what you have?? Bethanny is not only drop dead gorgeous, she is smart, independant, articulate, driven, strong, witty, charming, honest, and above all has a good heart. Can she be scathing at times, yes. For me it comes across charming and I think you have to be certain type of person to get her kind of wit but underneath all of that you can see that she is really a caring, geniune person. You seem really threatned by that, is it because you find that lacking in your own life? Your actions towards Bethanny indicate that you expected her to bow down to you, to kiss your fabulous butt so to speak and when she didn't, when she admitted that she had a problem with you, you didn't know how to deal with that. So you resorted to trying to bully her which to your chagrin didn't work, it only made you look immature and childish. Then when Bethanny was woman enough to try to rationally talk it out with you like an adult so you two can move on you showed how inept you were with dealing with someone as strong and articulate as Bethanny. It's almost like you lived in a fantasy world where Kelly can do no wrong because you are so beautiful and fabulous and that you are so self absorbed you failed to recognize what part you played in the contention between you and Bethanny. Did you ever stop to think that Bethanny might have a valid reason to have issue with you? I highly doubt it. I really hope that you can look at your behavior this season and understand why so many people have the reactions that they do towards you because as the old saying goes 'can't everybody be wrong'. I hope the show serves as a tool for some much needed soul searching.

Cindy
Cindy

A cash bar at your Halloween Party - You should be ashamed of yourself! Did you even know any of the people who were invited other than the other Housewives?

Bethany
Bethany

Kelly, I think it is great that you have worked so hard to get where you are today. I have a really hard time understanding how you can really have a real self confidence because it you seem to think that you are so much better than the others. true confidence comes from the inside, not from talking about yourself and everything you can, have or will do. So you are pretty. Is that all. People wont remember what you look like ten years down the road. They will remember the way you treated others. You can be smart, kind and beautiful. I have kids and I know how important it is to teach by example. We need teach todays kids that beauty is only skin deep and true beauty comes from our soul. I was offered a modeling job and was so excited. it is great to feel beautiful. but the whole package is beauty that begins on the inside.

Tammylouwho
Tammylouwho

Oh Kelly Oh Kelly Oh Kelly, You seem like a wonderful mother. Your children are lovely. I noticed when I watched you in the jewelry store with Jill's friend (with the pugs) that you were wonderful (the woman could not stop telling you how beautiful you are). In some situations, with some people you are relaxed and lovely. So what's up with Bethenny? My guess is, that when you were introduced to Bethenny you were threatened. I think you were threatened by her wit, intelligence, charm and beauty. I think the thing that pushed you over the edge was that she didn't bow down to you and I think your not used to that. Kelly you are a beautiful woman with a rocking killer body. You know that. The thing that's making you look ugly is your behavior towards Bethenny and not only that but you continue to rationalize yourself. If your were just honest about what really happened and why you attacked her, you could gain the respect of millions of people. These message boards are full of people saying the same thing over and over. Ask yourself "are all these people wrong"? I think you have had so much handed to you because of your beauty that it's hard to see the truth. That's difficult for everyone Kelly but when your a model I'm sure it's even harder. My second piece of advice to you is this, ask yourself, "What is my intention?" because when you said to Bethenny "I'm up here and your down here" What was your intention? Was it to say "I'm better than you? Or was it just "F__K you"! Or was your intention to say, "I can't stand you." Or was it, "Die Bitch Die" or maybe it was "I wish you liked me but since you don't I'm going to get you before you get me". Kelly I don't know your heart but I think you need to search it. Your friend, Tammy

Trac in jerseyey
Trac in jerseyey

I am a real housewife that lives paycheck 2 paycheck, live in nj and have always loved this show until u came along. You are pretty there enjoy the compliment, however u r nothing else than a spoiled little brat who cannot even confess to acting like an ass! You should not be on this show next year because quite frankly you are an instingator, full of yourself, and cant seem to realize how awful u treated Beth. At times we all wish we could take things back, you wont even admit you were wrong, that is so pathetic. So keep lookin in the mirror, just watch out 4 the taxis they might run you over..from a real housewife

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Viewer

You're stunning and I think a lot of the women envy that.

What??????? Stunning? Maybe to some people,maybe years back, who even knows her?

But ENVY???? OHH Come on, OMG, maybe if you envy ROCK GARDEN!

Also her head is so big now, it is ready to fall off, If she reads your blog, it will explode.

Sara
Sara

Kelley, I love that black swim suit you modeled in during one of the episodes. Where can I get one like it? I loved it. Love the show too! Sara

Emily
Emily

Kelly, why are you such a jerk to Bethenney? Are you serious? You tell her she's acting like a child and yet you're the child. You tell her to meet you at a bar, show up 30 minutes late and then proceed to tell her how you're better than her,then at the lattest "sit-down" you don't "remember" saying that to her. Sometimes I question what planet you're from, you just seem not fully here.Overall I'm just extremely disapointed with your behavior, I love Bethenney and I actually wish she would have just given it to you when you treated her like crap, but instead she took it like an adult.

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Kelly,

You obviously suffer from an over-inflated-sense-of-self-worth. Get over yourself.

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Viewer

Every time Kelley appears on the screen, I take the opportunity to leave the room. Setting aside the whole castmate-fracas, Kelley appears to be dim, inconsiderate and self-absorbed -- even judging by the very low standards of reality TV>

Sharon
Sharon

My God girl- you're an English major and can't come up with anything to say except "Amazing"? Everything is amazing, your amazing life, amazing boyfriend, amazing parents. Grow up- you're not 16 woman, speak like an adult.

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Viewer

Kelly, You and Max looked ridiculous in thos outfits for halloween! Oh and BTW how much do you pay him to appear to be with you on the show?

Melinda
Melinda

Kelly, I can see that many people are hating on you right now and that can't feel good, not to anyone. My advise to you would be to go back and watch the episode with you & Bethenney at the bar and try to figure out where you went wrong. Seriously, I'm trying to help you see what you could possibly change about yourself to become a better person and grow from these experiences. In my opinion you were so worked up way before getting there that it all just flew out of your mouth, like you couldn't help it. You attacked her. The whole conversation never had a chance of being productive. Maybe try to go in to these kind of things with a different frame of mind, with the hopes of having a good outcome. Good luck with all this press.

Luna
Luna

"I don't understand whatever possessed the powers that be to put kelly on an otherwise entertaining show." As stated by Nancy, and I've to say TOTALLY AGREE WITH HER. Go Go Bethenny!!!

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Viewer

Kelly, I am a midwest women. You seem to have accomplished alot in your life. Please consider this message as a bit of advice from one midwesterner to another. People that you may have encountered during your life may be harboring hurt feelings from your actions of the past. Your way of handling personal issues is by dismissing them and that is O.K....for you. However for the other person that may be involved,this may mean it is unresolved. Please think carefully of how you portray yourself on & off the camera.

Alyssa
Alyssa

Kelly,

I don't intend to be cruel like some of the posts. You took time to write your lengthy blogs, and we all took the time to read them. I hope you read the comments, too!

Now, since you're on a show, you must know that "hate" mail is inevitable and some will be just out of sheer jealousy. You do live a fabulous life that little to few people will ever even brush near in their lifetime. That being said, which it has been numerous times by you yourself, you should appreciate it and truly act that way.

Your behavior is most definitely not that of a person who is confident and proud, which you SAY you are constantly. If you are truly proud, say a nice thing or two about someone. Not just how "cute" and "flirty" Max is but more about the women you do have to share the show with. Your conversations and bullying is repulsive when it comes to Bethanny. You may not think she's funny, you may not think any of them are, but you can try and find a way to be kind and maintain that strength you like in yourself so much at the same time.

Your "sit-downs" were mean. Even tough-girl Bethanny was able to say, "look, here's what happened...let's move on" and you neglected to even acknowledge what you had originally said.

I find it depressing you can't bring your ego down a notch and see that you're missing out on the best part of life, living it. You just keep talking about you and your career and your friends and never see that it's all going on around everyone, not just you... Take a moment or two to smell the roses and don't expect them to be your roses...

Chasity
Chasity

I think that Kelly is great!!!! She i beautiful and I give props and lots of respect to any single mother who puts her children...her position has a mother...and responsibilities to indulge that!!! I'm a single mom and it isn't easy being a fulltime everything. As far as Bethenny vs. Kelly...obviously I don't know either of the two of you personally, but from what the reality shoow portrays it seems that Bethenny is very jealous and threaten by you! She was the single pretty gal and now you have come along. I feel she should focus on herself and not waste her energy on whether or not if you s[eak to her! What is her universe gonna stop if you don't acknowledge her!? It seems to me she has some interpersonal issue going on and you are the scapegoat.

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I love Ellen! Amen!

Nisy
Nisy

I love the show, and each lady on the show have their own personalities and styles within themselves, that's what makes the show so entertaining to watch. Kelly is a beautiful lady as well as the other women in the cast, but I don't understand her. She does not practice what she preaches. The only way to get respect from someone is to give it, and at times she doesn't seem to understand that except when it applies to her. I give both Kelly and Bethenny for trying to hash things out, because bottom line their quarrel with each other is petty. Kelly wants to be acknowledged her feelings are important, but what about everyone else?

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Kelly,

Are you serious running in front of cars and cabs down the streets of NYC? Not to mention with your hair down- looking side to side to see who is looking at you? I am sure if you saw how absurd you looked, you would never do that again!!

I also wanted to inquire about your thought process with your Halloween costume. Let me get this straight- you didn't want to be to revealing in your Playboy bunny costume( because you are a mother) ....but the pictures of you in lingerie on your Halloween party invites were completely appropriate and not at all too much? Hmmm doesn't make to much sense to me...

austexapb
austexapb

Kelly, it is clear that you feel little inside, that you have relied on your looks for your forty-something years and that is all you've ever had. You need to remember that pretty is is pretty does. The way you behaved in your 'sit down' w/ Bethenny made you look absolutely rediculous. Get over yourself and grow up. Try living authentically, if you even know what that means.

P.S. Won't be buying any of your clothing or jewelry. I don't buy things from nasty people.

An opinionated 14 yr old :)
An opinionated 14 yr old :)

When you first came to the show I thought you were really cool! But then you act like some people at my middle school! & all the Housewives of NYC evolved from season 1. Maybe you needed to watch yourself on the tv? Who knows? Team Bethenny & Jill. All the way(:

Amy
Amy

Kelly, I am pretty sure you are reading your blog b/c you are very self indulgent. However, from what I have seen, you seem like a good mother. It takes maturity to be a good parent, which surprised me on how you handled your meeting with Bethenny.

Your actions at that meeting can only lead me to believe that you were "on" something. You definitely were not acting sober which explains the immaturity of you bashing Bethenny.

I do hope you have watched that episode and realize that you were not acting "up there".

????????
????????

I'm confused. Kelly said she never gives her name to anything - that was her excuse for not being on the invitation for Jill's charity function - but then she gives her name to a halloween party?

The open bar raised money? How does that work?

Kelly invited the women to a party, didn't show up until an hour and a half after she told them to be there and excuses her behavior by saying they got great air time?

In the voice over of the show Kelly said she got to Silex's early because she didn't know how long it would take to get to Brooklyn (is your life really that limited) but her blog says she deliberately got their early so she would be there before the other housewives. Which is it?

It seems to me that Kelly is a master of revisionist history. Must be nice to go through life creating your own reality.

Reality
Reality

Hi Kelly, At the beginning of the episode, I mistook your character as anyone can in an edited TV program. The first confrontation with Bethenny was definitely not handled properly and I think that some of your personality is definitely misconstrued and honestly does look like you are a little in your own world, nonetheless I have to say that this is just your personality and that you are a caring person that does not intentionally mean to harm anyone. Your tardiness is rude but hey I am a late person as a single mother, but better communication and scheduling might solve those issues. NONETHELESS, after seeing the conversation with Bethenny I am leaning to your side. Bethenny has alot of inner issues and clearly has not gotten over your dismiss of her in the past. I think she is very combative and wanted you to kiss her ass, quite frankly I dont know what she wanted, it didnt seem like she wanted to call a truce. Sometimes you just cant be nice and I agree its not worth your time or hers anymore to keep going at it. Be professional and keep on walking! I liked how you handled this past "talk."

lenee
lenee

Kelly is very self absorbed,and very insecure at the same time..she seems very caught up on trying way to hard to be a young model, well she's been there but can't stay there..move over and enjoy your life and stop being a nasty girl to Bethany..

Amy V.
Amy V.

Hey Kelly! Just FYI, it really isn't all about you. I know you think that it is, but you're wrong. You might want to reflect on that. And for you not to remember that you said to Bethenny, "I'm up here, you're done there," is nuts! Are you on meds that might make you forget something like that? I mean, how can someone not remember that? Or was it that you don't want to admit to saying it? Pretending it didn't happen doesn't make it go away. It just makes you seem DELUSIONAL!!!

Pam
Pam

Kelly, I truly think that millions of viewers would agree with me when I ask you, actually BEG you to watch some past episodes of your show and for the love of God, acknowledge what you said to Bethany. You have completely denied the "I'm up here and you're down here" comment, over and over. You said it, you sounded like a complete fool and you continue to look foolish when you deny saying it! For the love of God, admit it, apologize and move on. But for someone to say something on national tv and then deny it?! As you would say OH STOP!

NYC_Girl
NYC_Girl

Kelly is unreal... she is so self involved and I really don’t know why. She’s not even a household name. If it wasn’t for the TV show no one would know who she is.

Really Kelly? You should thank Bethany that she even speak your name and gives you some type of role in the show. If it wasn’t for that, your character would really be uninteresting

Viewer
Viewer

i have to start of with, i am the last person in the world to wrote on blogs, however: i really can not believe that you live your life that way, please watch the show and re-examine your mistakes because the whole world is laughing at you. You should not show your life on TV; it is so CADDY

Viewer
Viewer

Kelly, Stop talking about all of the lavish parties and extravagant fashion shows you're invited to, and all the celebrities you're apparently best friends with, and maybe, just MAYBE, the viewers could gain an ounce of respect for you. You don't realize it, but you come off as extremely unlikeable. I hope you're not really like that in real life. It's kinda sad.

RCK
RCK

Wow, can someone really be THAT full of themselves? Now I have truly seen and heard everything. Watching the show as I type and, sorry, but Kelly doesn't have issues, she's got volumes lining the shelves of the world's biggest library. And at her age it's too late to grow up and wise up.

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Viewer

I guess Betsy summed up all I had to say. I 100% agree with you!!

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Kelly,

I think if the word "LIKE" was removed from your vocabulary, you would be mute. Honestly, listening to you try to hold a conversation is comparable to listening to a group of 12 year old girls describe their day at school. Sweetie, at your age this is not cute.

Barbara
Barbara

Kelly, everytime you open your mouth, you sound like a 14-year-old. Lose the word "LIKE", as it makes you look and sound like an airhead. Your personality is so immature, selfish, and utterly ridiculous. I only hope you are not like this in real life!

kae 8D
kae 8D

its funny how you said "i'm a mom, i dont want to be over the top." but you're over 40 and you wear a bunny costume ? that's embarrassing and DEFFINATELY over the top. that bunny costume wasn't flattering to you at all, it made your boobs look disgusting. you made yourself look ridiculous when you were talking to bethenny, you wouldn't put your "OH SO PRECIOUS" name for something for a good cause ? who do you think you are ? you're not famous. stop thinking your Oprah and that people care what you do.you should never been put on this show, it was so much better with out you !

Mike
Mike

I think you are beyond hot but you do sorta contradict yourself on the show. That comment you made to bethenney about you being "up here" and she is "down here" was out of control but I liked it. That whole catty thing makes you even more hot if thats possible lol.

Viewer
Viewer

Your treament toward Bethenny was totally uncalled for. You don't show up late and then tell someone off. You also don't wait in the doorway to attack her again. What is wrong with you?

Take Kelly off the air
Take Kelly off the air

Kelly, you keep saying how Bethenny doesn't mean anything to you. Fine, then let it go. Quit calling meetings with her trying to get in the last word, and getting obviously annoyed that you can't phase her. First of all, you are so inconsiderate to call a meeting, show up a half hour late, then say "Oh, that's too bad" when Bethenny pointed out you were late. You tell her "we will never be friends". She agreed, so leave it at that. Grow up, be an adult, and walk away. You try to put her down and then get annoyed that you don't bother her. Apparently you're insecure that you need to put other people down. You think you're so much better than her. Frankly, I had ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA who you were until you unfortunately showed up on the show.

I hope the network takes you off the show because my finger is getting tired of fast forwarding through your segments.

Viewer
Viewer

First I am embarrassed to say I just finally got to watch the episode where you gave Betheny the 411 in the bar. She didn't deserve that. Are you really like that or is Bravo doing it's level best to make you look really bad. Everytime you are on you are super rude and act as if the entire world revolves around you. Are you really always late to your appointments? I know there is a ton of footage shot and lots of editing done to get the show they want. You might ask them to make you a little nicer, if that's possible. I can't believe your PR people would allow you to look like this...unless this is you?

MADISON
MADISON

Kelly, I am nine years old and i am in forth grade.I love the real housewives of New York City! When you called Betheny to come talk about what happend at the meeting,How come you just did not let that slide. It is just being called "Madonna." It is very childish to hold on to such a little thing,and look what you made it turn into!You are just trying to get atention!!!!!!! Betheny already said sorry a billion times! When you went to talk to her about it, you said that you were up here and she was down here and that you will never be frinds. You are missing out. On the Red Carpit, I loved when Betheny wore the big heels and said " Well gess what we are the same size" LOL YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!! LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL!!!!!! Betheny is right and you are Wrong SISTER!!!!!!!!!! lol lol lol!!!!!!!! END OF STORRY!!!!!!

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I don't get why you emphasize how important it is to have MANNERS, yet you're late to every event! I think being late, especially to your own event, is EXTREMELY rude!! I really don't think you're in any position to say you're "up here". I also think you're self-centered and full of yourself!! It's really sad because you're attractive, but your personality shows otherwise! Definitely on TEAM BETHANNY! She could teach you a few things!!

SuzyQ
SuzyQ

Kelly seems rude and very self-involved and boring. Her attack on Bethany was ridiculous and made her look like an idiot. So many of these "Real Housewives" are so incredibly shallow and selfish. Wanting credit for yoru good doings is very tacky (ask LuAnne.) True friendship and true charity comes from the heart with no requirements / strings/ attention. Get REAL.

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Viewer

Nobody remembered who you were until you came on this show and embarrassed yourself. Truly confident people don't have the need to constantly promote themselves and condescend to others because they feel good within themselves. It is painfully obvious how insecure you really are. As chic as you claim to be, I'm surprised that you haven't yet learned that being mean and haughty is never in style.

laura Garcia
laura Garcia

ok Kelly, you seemed really cool at first, but seriously you need to get over yourself...you are absolutely crazy, miss "being confrontational is not cool" and those were your exact words, and then you call Bethany to be confrontational and tell her how much you don't like her...OK! And you are not on any higher level than Bethany, you're actually pretty low...and making a charity for tuberculosis is NOT CUTE...seriously!!!!!