I cannot believe how fast this season has flown by. I have to admit it has been fun blogging and reflecting on all that happened in the past year. It seems so long ago, and what happens in each episode seems so surreal. Any time a camera gets into a moment, the moment changes. Even with our own cameras, don't we all use funny voices to prompt our children to smile or say the right thing? Filming The Real Housewives of New York City was very similar. Someone edits your footage until they feel you're an evocative character, and then poof - there you are on screen. As I said in my Harper's Bazaar interview, no one wants to know how much Tide you use. People want to be entertained.
The final episode really highlights the way Jill ran her charity. We were all at Jill's house, which is in the highest high-rise I had ever been in. I have never seen so many apartments in one building. After Bethenny sat me down to fight about fighting, I honestly wasn't in a very creative state of mind. Ramona joined the meeting and started discussing the 'step and repeat.' The step and repeat is where most of the high-paying donors put signage. So if a photo of a CEO or a celeb is taken, the company can refer to the photos to confirm that they were acknowledged for their donations. Ramona and Jill started fighting about what is more appropriate and sophisticated...I just sat there. I have been to a lot of meetings for charities before, but I've never seen two women engage each other like that. But once the "appropriate police" started in on each other, all we could do is sit and watch. In my opinion, everyone who donates to the charity deserves some kind of recognition. But with the Housewives, they love to have their names all over the place. Bethenny with her bar, Jill with her fabrics, and Ramona with her skincare and her jewelry - it is a nonstop product placement. Instead of focusing on the charity, they spent their time bickering and working about self-promotion.
As far as self-promotion, you're right in there with everyone else. People with integrity don't criticize others for doing the very things they're doing.
Don't listen to all this neg. sh_t....just be yourself...i think that you're not only smartest on the show but def. the hottest!!!!!
The persona you created for yourself this season was draining to view! If we have to think so much about why you do what you do, then it's hard to connect to you as a person or even as a character. Trust is built on believing people are who they represent themselves to be. Will the real Kelly please enter?!
I wasn't sure what I thought of you in the beginning, but I have to say that I think you are the one with the most class Kelly. If you do sign on for next season, stay as you are. The ridiculous comments and confrontations from Bethenny toward pretty much every castmate, her backstabbing talk about everyone, and the cattiness amongst all the women were just exhausting to watch. It was refreshing to get glimpses into your life with your kids, friends, fashion/modeling, work (without ridiculous self-promotion every time the camera was on you; side note-this season was like an infomercial), and doing things other than chugging down too many skinnygirl cocktails and bitching about your own life and other people behind their backs. Thanks for giving us a refreshing glimpse into a NYC housewives life!
OK, you actually came off on this episode as the most normal and controlled one in the group. Good for you. YOu're not one of my favorites on the show, but I'm excited that you came back down to earth for this one. Your blog was also well written. I"m sure you're a good person with good intentions, but just be aware of how people perceive you due to your actions. Best of luck to you!
You certainly don't have me hooked. If you are part of the cast next year that will free up an hour a week for me. As it is now, I have to tape the show and FF through your scenes (unless Bethenny is in them)!
Kelly, I read in your last blog you said you "attend many" charity meetings. You told Luann "I don't lend my name to charities". So what you are saying is, you will attend meetings to get into the event for free, get tons of free stuff, free cocktails, and free publicity? Actually putting my name to the charity, that's gonna cost ya!
I think you are probably a sweet person I am sure the producers edit for sensationalism but honey, take the high road and do not engage. Bethany is a straight shooter you do not have to like her but she is well loved. I am surprised you can not see what she has to offer.
Good luck to you...
When Jill forgot (for a moment) to call your name for a "thank you" award, I caught a glimpse of something I'd not yet seen on you: humility. It was really and truly like looking at a different person, and for that brief moment I wanted to like you! (Which is tough because you really do come across as narcissistic, arrogant, and condescending, with a little splash of 'crazy' thrown in when faced with a challenging conversation.) I'm sure you're not as self-obsessed as you were made out to be, but nevertheless, try the humble thing more often. It looks great on you!
I would just like to say how much I enjoy seeing you(Kelly ) on your show. I enjoy the show immenselly, for various reasons. Kelly you are so accomplished, magnetic, not only regally beautifull, and so down to earth, but you help generations of young woman by your example of living life to the fullest. You are a woman who is true to herself and her values. It takes a deep belief in oneself to approach another when you do no want to cause hurt or anger. I believe down the road the tension will lift between you and Bethanny. In the meantime you confronted her and you were willing to speak with her again. You were a lady I respect all of you on the show because you are all individuals, strong beautiful women, who actually organize abd make things happen to help people who are in need. Your vivaciousness and great beauty uplift the spirits of those around you I worked in the fashion industry for years in the late seventies, when Diane VOn Furstenberg started her cotton wrap dresses. I was a buyer and I loved interviewing new designers and writing articles for our office. I applaud you on your journey! Bravo to you Kelly. Thank you for your generous contribution in fashion , charity, and showing us what "a zest for life" is all about. Sincerely, Eileen L.
Kelly, I actually really enjoyed this blog..... I'm glad you finally felt comfortable enough to discuss how you felt about some things. If you would do this more often I think people would understand your side of things better and get a sense of who you really are. I really don't understand why someone so private would ever decide to do a reality show, it just doesn't make sense to me.
Kelly, I think that your egotistical personality is your biggest downfall. You are quite the name-dropper, and you do so strictly for the attention. I'm sure that half of the people whose names you have mentioned deny your friendship and hide their faces when in the same vacinity as you. You are down right pathetic. Your personality rests soley on the boosts of confidence you get when people look at you and tell you you are beautiful; they merely kiss your ass and mock you. It's no wonder Gilles ditched you. I'd rather be married to my camera lens than you. And on another note, Bethenny didn't sit you down to "fight about fighting." That was Jill's attempt to get you to stop acting immature and to get over yourself to patch things up with Bethenny.
I think you were the only one on the show that has it together! I enjoyed watching some charisma to the show!
It seems like Bethenny's attack dogs are on the loose! Why can't people like Bethenny without writing such vile and hateful comments?
You don't know how to fight with other women, that is a good thing! I wouldn't want to fight with Bethenny either, she's a pro.
She thinks she is always right, never admits when she is wrong and must have the last word. It seems like Bethenny loves to start drama by trashing people and being rude then acts like she is innocent when people have had enough of her negative attitude.
You are getting a raw deal with all the personal attacks and I feel it's shameful that people can be so incredibly mean and vicious. Your big crime is that you don't like a person that has trashed you and been very rude, seems pretty normal.
Some are taking your comment to Bethenny and twisting your words and leaving out most of the conversation. Since I'm not a rabid attack dog I actually know you told her that you don't like the trash talk and rudeness and that she is on a different level how she behaves with people she doesn't like.
Telling her to come up to your level was not about social standing at all, it was telling her to stop trashing you and being rude. You're not friends but that is no excuse to play so dirty, it was good advice to Bethenny yet look at how it's been used against you.
Some people will hear what they want in order to advance their cause, other's will actually listen and understand what was actually said.
If you say something, own it. And if someone questions why you said something, answer them. Doing anything else shows that YOU are the child and so insanely insecure. It's ok to be sorry for your actions and words. It's ok to apologize and listen to someone. If you don't agree, than you have serious issues.
I think in the 'Playland of Kelly' you feel you are one dynamite chick. One could not disagree if one also lived in that fantasy land. However, the one thing that sticks in my mind and plays over and over is the comment "I'm up here and you're down here". Did you really, truly think that Bethanny would not be offended by this comment? If another person said that to you, how would you feel Kelly? Ask yourself this question next time you have a moment for reflection. I wonder if other viewers are stuck on this comment as I am. Yes, Bethanny is not your friend, nor probably ever will be, but it does not give you free reign for distasteful insults. Please learn a lesson here. Take a 'big girl' pill.
Good, bad or ugly we've got you hooked is the whole problem with these shows now...I stopped watching housewifes of OC because of the tacky fighting and it seems Bravo wants the same from you guys. Well I guess I've seen my last season of NY as well...I've already seen previews of NJ and WILL NOT BE WATCHING!! Just more Drama!!
You lost me when you explained to Bethanny that "You're down here, and I'm up here." No editing misrepresentation there!
"after Bethenny sat me down to fight about fighting"....that comment says it ALL about your ego and your personality. Please resign from the show.
You weren't surprised that Jill forgot to thank you?! Of course you were. With your face away from the camera you made a comment to the woman next to you and she clearly said "I know. What about you." So. It bothered you enough to make a comment. At least be honest with yourself!
Kelly-I can't believe the way you talked to Bethenny at the pub and in Jill's home!!!! Don't you realize how stupid you looked??? You were so mean to her when you verbally and with your hands showed her how much lower she is than you- and then you didn't even remember that you said those mean words to Bethenny ---I WAS SO ANGRY WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please leave the show!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh my where to start!! This woman, Kelly BenWhatever, is such a waste. Okay, that is a little harsh, I am sure she is a great mother (when she isn't hastling her children about always sitting up straight and whatnot,) but other than that, this woman truly sucks at life. I have never seen someone so stuck on themselves, it is almost sickening. To top it off, I have never even heard of her before she came on the show. She just thinks that she is someone that she really isn't. She is not as popular as she believes herself to be, nor is she as wonderful, intelligent, and kind as she likes to think she is. Her argument with Bethenny was just hilarious to me. I mean, she was really trying to go somewhere with it but sadly, she really just made herself look like a complete idiot. She made no sense at all, all I could do was laugh at her.
Hopefully, some day, this woman realizes that life is NOT all about money, clothes, modeling, and fake tans. Those things arent what make life worth while. I hope some day she realizes what it's really all about.
Ouch! I cant believe all of these negative comments. I dont agree with everything you say or do, but my life is far from perfect so I will not critize you and tell you your short comeings. You are somebody's mother and somebody's daughter and I'm sure that they would be hurt if they read these nasty comments about you. People can be so hurtful when they are jealous. I hope you dont pay to much attention to these blogs and let them bring you down. Your family's opinion of you is all that matters. Keep your head up and try to stay positive. Negative people are ugly and they need to get a life.
The comment of "I'm up here, you're down here" was NOT about social standing!
The comment was in regards to the nasty comments and how Bethenny treated someone she doesn't like, you were simply telling Bethenny she should come up to a more positive level and stop trashing you.
People don't have to be friends, they also don't have to act so nasty and say mean things. You made a valid point and it's a shame how it's been used against you!
If Bethenny said the same thing to someone that was insulting her, she would be told how smart she was to let the person know that their behavior was "down here" and they need to come up to a positive level.
This has been taken out of context in order to make Bethenny look like the injured party. Bethenny started the drama and you responded to her treatment and now you are being attacked.
Why is everyone required to take all of Bethenny's insults and trash talking? Why aren't people allowed to be fed up and tell her to stop being so negative and rude? It's a shame Bethenny is allowed to trash talk about everyone and then act like a victim when other's are insulted and push back. Talk about major double standards.
I guess the fact you are held to a much higher standard than Bethenny is good for you, at least people think YOU can reach a higher standard!
Hello! I think you come off as incredibly sweet and fun on the show. To be honest I think that people see and automatically do want to like you because you are so beautiful and have so much going for you. I think Bethenny was jealous of you from the very beginning which made her hypersensitive to anything that you did or said to her. You are so fun to watch and I am definitely on Team Kelly!
I agree with "positive is good" 100 %. Your statement "you're up here and she is down there" to Bethanny just meant you don't indulge in the cheap thrill one-liners that she does. How people fail to see such a simple thing I don't understand. Had nothing to do with social status-that's Beth's prejudices being made to fit into your words. I am not looking forward to see you being made to feel small at the reunion- the side on the left of Andy is the non-intellectual site (I mean Beth/Jill and Luann). Will Bravo please please post this comment ?
You maintain that you are a person with class, but that is not what we see on the show.
Whenever someone tries to talk to you about something you don't want to hear, you interrupt in a loud, harsh voice saying, "STOP!". Learn to listen and you may learn a lot. Consider that the other person may have a valid point. If you would learn to listen, you might be able to grow up.
You have a phony, junior high voice that you use when you enter or leave a group. It is pathetic, and it does not make you look young and hip --- just phony.
You say you wanted a costume that is appropriate for a mother, so you wear a Playboy bunny costume and show up with a guy in underwear. You missed your goal. Not to mention the "outfit" for your letter A photographs.
You expect your little girls to behave well in public, which is great. But, then you engage in a pillow fight in a retail outlet, using merchandise that is for sale.
You take great pride in the "flirt fests" you have with Max. You behavior and appearance is silly and make you look desperate to look younger than you are.
You appeared to be high on something when you met with Bethenny the first time. You were frenetic, you couldn't maintain a train of thought, you were inarticulate, and your were erratic, at the best.
Kelly, you are a train wreck.
Kelly, you are my favorite on the show. Second is Luanne. I cannot believe Bethanny. She is SO toxic and it was illustrated by her temper tantrum at the auction. She has no class, and how could she, she is basically an orphan. I am not shocked that she is single. She is insecure and toxic. I feel terrible that you got a bad edit with all the drama between you two. I hope you come back next season.
Positive is Good...
Wow! You are really digging...how do you know that the Comment "Im up here and your done there" is NOT about Social Standing? Are you Kelly or a friend of Kelly's that was told this????
Why didn't Kelly explain this to Bethenny, the other housewifes or the viewers? Why are you??? Kelly doesn't even remember saying it....Where are your facts???
Sorry...but that's your opinion and of course your entitled to it,(your really giving Kelly the benefit of the doubt and that is sweet of you)but sorry i didn't feel that message from Kelly at all...i felt she was being very mean how she went in their like a mack truck and just plowed Bethenny with her sarcastic, mean, cruel words! Kelly could of did that over the phone...not at a public bar and being 1/2 late!
I really hope you are off the show next season. The only good thing about you is that you start drama. But other than that you are a waste. You think so highly of yourself and you are nothing. You treat everyone "below" you, especially Bethenney, like crap and from what I saw on the show this season, they are so much better than you. You are really immature and need to get over yourself. I am sure your kids are embarassed by your behavior.
Kelly, you are absolutely awesome! I only watch the show because of you! Let's cut to the chase.... Bethany, why is she on the show? To my knowledge, no kids, never been married? Not only are you beautiful inside and out but all, I repeat all of the women, especially Bethany, Oh, and I would not count out LuAnn-Countess... give me break, on the show are jealous of you! Stay strong and keep up the great work. Kelly you are the only true success on the show. This show just proves that the more money people have the more insecure they are.
I hope ALL the NYC housewives come back next season. It was fun and I'm already looking forward to next season!
Are you kidding?! The step and repeat is not for the donating companies to refer back to photos of "celebs" at the event to ensure their name is up there - It is for all of the public/consumers to see the company's name as advertisement in! DUH. Why do you babble about how you "never lend your name" to anything and then look so disappointed Jill forgot to mention you? You seem like a dual personality case...for all the charity meetings you claim to attend here in your blog, have you forgotten how you are tape saying you don't have time for charities? Lastly, how lame for you to accuse the other housewives of trying to self-promote themselves all the time when you have done just as much IF NOT MORE tooting your own dumb horn more than anyone?! You are truly dillusional.
There you go again using the word "integrity" of which you have none. Lack of integrity is an open invitation for the people around you to call you on your actions when they are inconsistent with your words. This season you have delivered every week. Every episode what you said was the opposite of what you did. Hence the feeling of being "policed" by your peers. No one is perfect. Integrity is showing up on time when you give your word to be somewhere at a certain time. Otherwise what you are saying in a passive aggressive way is, "My time is more valuable than yours." Integrity is listening when others are speaking to you instead of interrupting them with your whining "StahhhhhhhhP!" You never know what gift someone might bestow on you with their words. But you will NEVER know, if you think you know everything already. Integrity is taking the high road - which you have claimed to do in a prior blog. But Kelly, let's be honest, you could not find the high road with a map. Namaste
I am glad you were in the show and I hope you stay. You not wanting your name in the charity tells me a lot about you. The other housewives are so much about themselves, but you were really were about the charity. And that is a true volunteer heart. I don't know how many times I heard "skinny girl", about their brands, or "my book". Sometimes the show looked more as a comercial than a show. It seems so funny to me that the only 2 housewives that I wouldn't mind exchanging lives with are the ones people hate the most. Can we say jealous?
Kelly was my favorite Housewive of New York! I can't believe the husbands on this show, Ramona's husband acts like a complete idiot! I did not like the show this time around. Too much negativity and too much drama!!! The husbands I believe need to stay out of the women drama. I really enjoyed the balance from the Real Housewives of Atlanta. There was drama but they also weren't all wrapped up in the "ME" factor.
I believe you are the only one on the show with integrity. I had never heard of you before but I have since Googled you and I think you have accomplished quite a lot. I almost don't think you needed to be in this reality show. However you have brought a lot of class to the show and you are so interesting. Your style runs heads above the others. I think they put you down because they don't understand you and are threatened. I thought the fact that Jill forgot to thank you at the charity event was tell-tale. It is her loss and only makes her look small.
Anyhow I hope this show has no ill effects on your two girls. I hope the are not kidded about it in school. If so.. I would resign from the show if so. They must always come first.
Anyhow just want to add that you are great and I hope that things work out well and you get away from this wolf pack. Life is to short to be upset by idiots.
Kelly, I think you have been misunderstood and made out to seem like the "bad guy" unfairly. I think it is totally okay that you don't like Bethenny. I think you are a cool gal. A note of caution: if I were you, I wouldn't get too chummy with Jill. Clearly, she is on team Bethenny and she will stab YOU in the back and not her.
Do us all a favor: 1)Quit interupting everyone when you try to control conversations. Let others speak once in awhile
I think your girls are adorable and so well behaved in the spots they were on. I can't understand why you were so condescending to ALex at her party. Asking her "where are we? In relation to NY??" Isn't that the same insult luann said to you when she came to visit you at your place? A home is where someone lives and loves, not just a show place. It's like you 'payed it forward" to ALex after Luann insulted you. I can't get over how nasty you ladies are to each other. SO many cutting remarks and comments!
Kelly, Remember Bethany is used to playing games. She was one of the finalists for The Apprentice. She is a smart, cunning, success-driven person, who is alway looking for opportunities to advance her career. It's unfortunate that you played into her gameplan. Her ambitions has turned her into a media saavy manipulator. I believe she was out to get you "Wild Up" from the start. Bringing you down to her short-sided level of perception. I would call it Media Dodge Ball. Bethany knows how to hurled a big inflated black ball filled with her insecurities at people. And the cable TV public is playing into her hands, by siding with her. I guess we never really grow out of that "high school mentality".
Once again, I wish you a happy and successful future. The only opinions that should matter are from your family and your closes friends.
I'd love to know what you really, honestly felt when watching yourself on the show later. I can't imagine you being proud of the way you acted with Bethenny or when snubbing Ramona at the horse show, or when fawning over Max in your little-girl voice.
So Kelley, I already posted here but needed to tell you this..as I watched the final episode I realized at the end Bethenny claims to spwak French..when she was on her date with Phillipe one comment she made to the cameras was that there was a slight problem due to the language barrier..if she could speak French, really and truly, she would have used it then...it just made me think she is delusional and lies about most things and remember, she went to the same culinary school that I did...you are so real and I just wanted you to know this..her fans are so blind to her bs...stay well, gorgeous and happy as you always are...
I love watching this show, but I do take it with a grain of salt. I think in some ways people get set up, a lot of what what we see is not what happened. I hope Kelly is making good money off this. I can't understand why anyone would put up with it. Once she explained that the reason she did not want her name on the charity was because she did not know how it was being run, or who the people were who were running it, that made sense.
You wrote in your blog: I have been to a lot of meetings for charities before, but I've never seen two women engage each other like that. UMMMM...seems like your memory is slipping again. Remember the fashion show where you told Luann that you barely had time for your own charities? When she asked you what charities you supported you were caught...you fessed up to not supporting any charities.
You wrote in your blog: But once the "appropriate police" started in on each other, all we could do is sit and watch. UMMMM...you needed an appropriate police yourself with the Bethany sit downs, but since you didn't have one, read your blogs to decide who was appropriate.
You wrote in your blog: But with the Housewives, they love to have their names all over the place. Bethenny with her bar, Jill with her fabrics, and Ramona with her skincare and her jewelry - it is a nonstop product placement. UMMMM...I've read all your blogs...you're the worst at self-promotion. Guess what? Not buying a thing that you endorse.
Kelly, the phrase "arrested development" comes to mind when I think of you.
Kelly, You are so funny to watch! So self-important and self-absorbed. It is so apparent that you're secretly in love with Bethanny. "You are so cute in that Zack dress"... OMG You got so flustered and red in the face sitting on the bed with her. You with your slim boyish hips and big manly shoulders. Just tell her that you love her and get it over with. And as far as you not lending you name to anything (Madonna) , here's a tip....no one knows who the hell you are!!!!
Wondering if you will be returning next season. You didn't seem to enjoy it.. say that you are very "private" and did not seem to get along with any of the cast. You say that don't lend "you name" to anything, but, have self-promoted your jobs, name, and everything you wear or write, and are selling underwear, tee shirts, etc.. So, what's the "deal"?