As the season unfolds, the drama deepens for all the wrong reasons. Most of the women feel like they need to turn up the heat instead of being real. It's hard for me to be in some scenes, because some of the women are so inauthentic. Bethenny is pursuing her own path, and the playing field is no longer equal. Some of the ladies are jealous, some don't care, and some feel threatened by the new ladies on the show. It's all so strange to watch for I was actually there. I honestly just want these women to be real.
Jill felt abandoned by Bethenny. It's a hard breakup, and Jill is really effected by it. I can't comment, I can only support. I hope they reconcile and either become friendly or recognize that they don't get along. You can't always get what you want, you get what you need.
At the yoga center, I spoke with the girls about my experience with postpartum depression. Everyone always asks me how I did so much at such an early age. Instead of letting the hormonal depression beat me, I immersed myself in my young children and writing. Everyone goes through hard times in their life. It's not the game, it's how you play it. I am proud of what I went through - it makes me so grateful for all the amazing opportunities I have today. Life is full of lollipops and unicorns for me, I am so thankful for the life I have.
I thought it was sweet and funny when Jill encouraged me to not use "like" too often. I use it as a pause. I have since learned that when speaking you can take a breath and then talk. "Like" and "um" are crutches for a breath.
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kelly...ms. journalism at columbia major...jill is 'affected' not 'effected' by the breakup. come on...we learned that one in second grade.
Great blog message Kelly. I agree with you - many of the women this season seem unreal. I am glad you are supporting Jill. You are a great friend.
Yes, get real.
Jill doesn't feel abandoned by anyone. She feels she stopped controlling the flow of the drama, and that is what upset her. She thought she would raise the drama by talking about Bethenny's supposed betrayal, and that Bethenny would crawl back. When Bethenny flipped Jill the same finger Jill gave her, Jill realized she miscalculated the situation.
You really should probably try harder to absorb what is going on around you.
Okay you seriously need your head examined! Jill feels abandoned? Lets ask this Kelly.... How many times must you kick a dog before it doesnt want to come back? Over and over and over (3 times) Bethanny has tried.... you truly are on another planet!!!!
Have you forgotten that Jill pushed Bethenny away. How many times did Bethenny go to Jill and Jill was not ready to move on. I don't feel sorry in the least that Jill is now suffering. She deserves to suffer, she caused the break up.
What do you mean 'Jill feels abandoned by Bethenny'? Jill was the one who decided that SHE was done with Bethenny. Jill deserves everything she gets.
Kelly, I am really impressed with this weeks blog. I think all the things you said are true, and I appreciate the fact that you weren't afraid to put real observations out there. Good job.
Kelly, Don't worry about "how" busybody Jill expects you to speak. Trust me, she is not alway grammatically correct. You seem to be genuine and sweet. You really should get away from Jill and LuAnn!
Kelly--it wasn't cute of Jill to point out that you say 'like' a lot, it was passive agressive and rude. She wasn't listening to what you had to say at all. She was just counting outloud how many times you said the word 'like' in your story, rudely, interrupting you to make fun of you. That is typical Jill, always tries to be the loudest and steal the spotlight, no matter what. She is truly an awful 'friend', if I can even call her that. She really is a wolf in sheeps clothing and I wish you could see that she is laughing AT YOU, NOT WITH YOU
Kelly, I am really warming to you this season. You seem to be a genuine person and even if you act a little out there, it's refreshing to see that you're being yourself!
Jill told Bethenny 3 times that they were done. How can Jill fill bad she wanted TOXICITY out of her life. Didn't she get what she wanted?
Kelly sorry you just like are not like understanding like how like mean Jill is.
The spa scene was such a nice change of pace. It's good to see genuine connection. You have proven yourself to be a wonderful support & friend. Best to you & yours!
Hi Kelly!!! It must be fun living life so carefree!!! I've never known anyone even half your age that still has the outlook of a pre-teen age girl. Cartwheels, lollipops and unicorns. Some day your girls are going to grow up and be older than you!!!
Kelly, Why would you let Jill talk to you that way about the "like" verbiage? Shame on you for letting her treat you that way. Why are your following Jill around like a little puppy dog? Jill is not your friend....she is the mean girl and your time will come soon. Shame on you for being a follower.
Do you want Jill to like you so much that you are okay with her telling you, not even politely, that you have to change the way you talk? You are insulted by everyone else speaking out but you're okay with this? I really don't understand you. Why wouldn't you let Alex talk to Jill without you in the middle? Is it now LouAnn and your jobs to protect Jill from others? What did you think Alex would do and how were you going to stop her?
jill did the breaking up so if she is affected she has no 1 to blame but herself... its time she took responsibility and paid for some actions--- umm hasnt she 'broken up' with you at least once... because 'your friends with someone i dont like'... i never even saw you address that... (so high school), its called a backbone Kels, get one
I like you better this year than last year, but instead of listening to the bad teacher Jill and watching how often you say "like" - (be sure to let Jill know every time she is annoying...which is every time she speaks...period) but what I wish you could work on is the way you stretch your voice when you say hello in greeting someone. It's not natural.
and... the "like" thing was rude... she wasnt doing it to help but ot insult... open your eyes.. u were insulted at that moment and it was written all over you face.... backbons... priceless (really, if you saw your daughters beign bullied by mini Jills or being followers of mini Jills, youll know why they think its okay)
You are very sweet and smart, I'm glad you havent used this as an opp to bash Bethenny and have stayed neutral. Thanks for being a more truthful perspective!
Kelly, you actually said it right this week in reference to the stupid feud. It is something that need never have gone as far as it has. That happened for a few reasons.
Jill and Bethenny had some sort of falling out. Jill confides in her girlfriends because she is sad. That is fine we all do it. It went wrong when the friends she confided in felt it was their duty to protect her from talking it out with Bethenny. Why? You and Luann were on Bethenny at the fashion Show (in public). Why? Jill said to Bethenny I can't do this and left. Bethenny heard her. Luann should have turnrf around and followed her friend out, Period. You should have left and followed your friend out, Period. You guys ganged up on her that day. 3 against 1 is what the viewers saw. Was it accurate? Did someone speak for Bethenny that day? No.
Everytime the issue could have been put to rest by them just talking Jill didn't want to speak to her, hear about her (had she been listening she would have heard about Bethenny's dad when Alex tried to tell her Bethenny needed a friend), she put her on speaker and laughed about it. Was that editing, a character she was playing for the cameras, or was it Jill not ready to make up yet so let her suffer with her crying?
I am sorry but Luann had no right to speak for Jill if she is going to say Ramona and Alex can't for Bethenny. Your right that they need to solve it if it can be, and at this point without knowing all the rest of it, I think we all know it is truly over. You cannot keep shutting someone down, having your friends do your talking, just because you want to decide that when you are ready to make up you will. Well too late.
"Like" and "Um" are not substitutes for breaths, they are the automatic responses from your brain when it can't transmit data quickly enough to your mouth. Seriously. Read more, you'll find that as your vocabulary grows, your "ums" and "likes" diminish greatly. It bugs me too, honestly. You're a writer, so you should be able to speak eloquently.
I don't know how I feel about you yet on this show. Sometimes I think you're fine and sometimes I think you want to be in the "in crowd" too much. Though, perhaps, with all that you've gone through with Bethenny and Ramona, I can understand you getting "in" with LuAnn and Jill. However, remember that Bethenny and Ramona, while outspoken, will always say things to your face. Beware two-faced people.
Alex seems loyal and real enough, though, so I guess we'll see how you two interact.
Don't, you know, worry so much, you know, about your overuse, you know, of the word "like." Have you ever, you know, listened, you know, to Luann, you know, speak?
You are a little to unstable for my taste. Last season you weren't friends with Bethany, now you want to be friends with her but the next minute you don't. Does your friendship mood change depend on who you hang out with Oh my God, no one can keep up with you seriously, pick already.
My advice to you is stay the hell out of the kitchen with Jill and LuAnn...keep your distance. They are toxic and your gonna get bit!
If you or Betheny had any sense you'd run for the hills and stay away from Jill. She's already taking you on as her next underdog. Be careful. Once she does that, you'll owe her, and she'll feel as though she owns you the way she does Betheny. Jill wants from you whatever will help her. She is the mean girl. She has no talent and everything she has is because of Bobbie. She grabbed him and takes him for everything she can get. She is not nice. She likes to help people so she gets "credit" for it. She's a conditional friend. These women are taking you down with their negativity. Alex is the only one with guts to tell the truth to Jill. And...it had to be the way it went down as nothing else would have had any impact on Jill. The rest of you were afraid because deep down inside you know what she's capable of. Alex did this the right way. Nothing else would have affected Jill. Bobbie, as Jill's enabler, even tried to get Alex to make up with Jill. Why didn't he try to show Jill the error of her ways and ask her to make up with Alex? He had to give the junkie her fix or she would misdirect the anger to whomever is left. She will eventually alienate every last one of you if given half the chance. She is Toxic.
You know Kelly I wasn't going to comment on your blog but I just couldn't help myself. Please elaborate - who isn't real? I think Bethenny's interactions with Alex and Ramona have been very real. I think Sonja is being real - she's still fresh, so we shall see. I think LuAnn and Jill live on planet gossip and hypocrisy. For Jill to feel abandoned by Bethenny is crap - she was the one running around saying "We're done". As for you I sometimes feel like you live in your own land of Kelly.
Kelly, I Like(sorry I said Like) the way you ARE a real person. You recognize your faults, stay true to your friends and try to always improve yourself. You give selfishly and are honest about all your doings on and off the show even if your not proud of them. It's especially cute to see you not knowing exactly what to do at these fancy get togethers, It gives us the viewers hope! I think you must be a great Mom, Go girl there is a wonderful guy out there who better know how lucky he is.
Is there some kind of petition I can sign in support of your removal from the cast? It's clear you don't want to be on the show anyway. Can't you just ride off into the sunset and I don't know, wear fur or something.
Kelly, I just can’t figure you out. It is just so hard for me to believe that you could be that empty. You’ll have one opinion one minute and then you’ll turn around and say the very opposite. My faith in humanity makes it hard to believe either this would be an intentional act, compared to the thought that you could really be that scatter brained.
I thought that was so funny that Jill made that comment about your saying "like" a lot. It gave me a chance to see how horrible I am when I do that to my husband. He says "like" all the time and it drives me up a wall. I did it just the way Jill did too (right in the middle of when he was trying to tell me a story). I guess it's a case of two wrongs don't make a right.
Your Mick Jagger quote "You can't always get what you want, you get what you need" is out of place and not applicable to the situation. What degree did you earn from Columbia? Your writing is juvenile and full of grammatical errors.
So you are among the ladies that are jealous??? You brought up Bethenny AGAIN! You are completely hung up on her! At least once an episode and/or blog you make a refence to her and most of the time it has nothing to do with the drama with Jill and Alex. A few weeks ago you brought up the "Madonna" comment. GET OVER YOURSELF!!!
I think you need to grow up, and stop being such a whiny butt. You are not # 1, you treated Bethany like dirt last year, and I still can't get past that. Keep your nose where it belongs, on your face.
KELLY, ONCE AGAIN YOU ARE THE VOICE OF REASON. ALL THESE WOMEN ARE SO IMMATURE, THEY NEED TO ENJOY LIFE A LITTLE. YOU KEEP IT REAL.!!
I was not surprised when Jill tried to change the way you speak. Yes you say "like" a lot, but she should get over it. It was soooo rude for her to count on her fingers each time you said "like". She wants to control everything and gets frustrated when she can't. I think she is most frustrated that she can't control the situation with B now. She shouldn't take it out on everyone else.