Kelly Killoren Bensimon

More from Kelly Killoren Bensimon about her picnic with Top Chef's Sam Talbot and LuAnn!

on Mar 17, 20090

The drama gets juicier the farther we get into the season. Even the entertainment writer from The New York Post can't get enough of the show. Her comment from the last episode was that I was an irresponsible mother for riding a horse I had never ridden in the Hampton Classic horse show. These are the facts. The horse I fell from was actually a mare, whom I had been riding all summer. She thankfully stopped right before the jump, because there was nowhere for her to go. Not only was I nervous about the horse show, but also I was also nervous to be filmed riding on a television show. Another horse, a gelding that I had tried the night before, did so well for me that I decided to take him into the 3 foot ring during the Classic. He moved so well, and took me over all the jumps with the greatest of ease, even though Ramona was distracting me before I competed. I am not a pro, and riding is a fun hobby I love. If I thought I was going to put myself in an awkward position, I wouldn't have done it, ever. But, what is more evocative television: watching two women gossip about their "friends," or me falling off a horse, getting back on, and trying my best? The good news is that because of the episode, I have met so many interesting people who have great horses for me to potentially buy. I am so sad about the sale of my "Mr. Handsome," Mirado, but there is a new horse in sight, I can feel it. And, more importantly, it was a great lesson for my girls. When you fall off, get right back on and try again.

In this episode, LuAnn wanted to come downtown and see my apartment. So I decided to organize a play date for all of us. I am not the "let's have drinks and chit chat" kind of girl. I prefer creating new memories, and the best way to do that is through activities. I didn't know LuAnn very I had already taken Ramona to the Richard Meier model museum, but I still didn't know LuAnn very well, so I thought we could cook together. I have already hung out and eaten super chef Sam Talbott's food at the Surf Lodge in Montauk. I've also met his wife and cooked with the Top Chef star on my show Behind the Hedges on www.plumtv.com. So, I knew that it would be fun for LuAnn and my girls to cook a little together. LuAnn came downtown, the girls came home from school, and we made a light meal. When I was a child I always tried to cook after school with my friends, but always unsuccessfully. Because they don't know LuAnn, having Sam there made it more fun for the girls. Also, with Sam there we were sure the food would taste good!

81 comments
Von
Von

jill I think you are awesome. You are the most real person on the show.

Caroline
Caroline

Kelly, I watched you meet with Bethany tonight. Wow.... keep it cool you seemed to have lost you're footing. I could just about feel your adrenaline pumping and it was uncomfortable to watch. You measured yourself to be so above Bethany with your hand movement and that was not at all classy or what is the case. You appeared to be trying to convince Bethany of something that you don"t whole heartly believe yourself, but only hope could be true. Just be real and not force your social status on anyone, because it goes as fast as it comes. Take care of yourself, Caroline

mechell
mechell

Kelly I like you, you're a pretty together person. Keep it up.

tina
tina

You call yourself a writer? By the way you write in this blog you are neither fluid or interesting, and I think many would agree!

RHNYCfan
RHNYCfan

Kelly, I love it that you are so blunt with Bethany. She is very insecure, and very judgemental. It is refreshing to see you put her in place. I can't wait to see the next episode when you will have a drink with her and tell her off. I love your carefree attitude. Keep it up girl!

Armand
Armand

You are fabulous. Your personality, is the type that sends insecure people over the edge. You don't feed into their tired drama, which is the only thing they're familiar with. You force them out of their neurotic comfort zones and it just makes them crazy. I love it.

Bradley
Bradley

Come on Kelly,although no one sees what goes on behind the scenes,what I see on Television is ridiculous. You act as if you are above reproach. I find you very self-involved and down right "uppity". As several people have already said,we get it, you know famous people. Big deal, if you didn't you being on the show would be pointless. Get over yourself! I can decide who is the bigger "snob", you or Luann. It's a close race. You need to realize that you are the new girl on the block and should act accordingly. Learn your place!

Viewer
Viewer

I have to agree with another viewer. I don't understand why you are on the show. It has to be to further your own agenda but the entertainment factor just isn't there with you. It seems like you really don't want to be on the show. You seem so uncomfortable with the whole thing. You give the other women such little regard. You always look like you have somewhere else to be, something else to do. It doesn't come across as busy, it comes across as rude.

Queen
Queen

Kelly....yawn....BORING!!!

Girl from the Oc
Girl from the Oc

Okay, you are now the least liked...didn't know if anyone could beat Ramona! Nice job! Who are you and why do you feel so special?

Bikewriter
Bikewriter

Really, a "journalist"? Hahahahaha ... common, what a sham ... Yeah, a journalist in the modern day takes notes with a pen and scrap of paper atop her lap! Umm, mini recorder?! Who could possibly take you seriously? You're a terrible fake. I pitty any mag that picks you up ... keep to the blogs Honey.

Rhonda in Kentucky
Rhonda in Kentucky

Kelly, I have no seen all the episodes of RHNY but I'm very impressed with you so far. You seem genuine and you certainly are a beautiful woman. I must admit Brethany is my favorite. I love her sense of humor. I love her and Jill together... remind me or Leverne and Shirley for some reason. I do suspect Bethany of a little jealously. Not sure what to make of it. She seems to be holding a grudge. Something about an ex boyfriend. I also think the two of you have very different interest which is cool. I was very impressed when she was being "short" with you at the fashion show and you extented your invitation. Seems you were going out of your way to get to know her. I assume she didn't accept the invite. Sometimes people just don't "jive" and that's okay. Look forward to the other episodes. And THANKS A MILLION for the Chanel quotes... Love them! Your girls are beautiful. You seem to be a great Mom. Do you ever come to the Derby? Seems you and Bethany would have that in commom... with her dad being a trainer, etc.

Francie
Francie

I think that you and Sam have a nice chemistry. You would make a beautiful couple. You are the only one on the show that acts like a real person. I hope that you can keep that quality for all the seasons to come. Keep it real.

SA-TX
SA-TX

I'm with you Kelly, who is LuAnn to judge your riding, has she ever done it? I've ridden for years, and just just never know what will happen when you get in the ring.

Viewer
Viewer

Hi KKB--I really think it is hilarious how jealous Bethenny is of you!! She stated that she thinks you are "unAuthentic" --well how about that book of hers?? pretty phony--Huh??? Just keep smiling girl--you have it going on and Bethenny just can't stand it !!!

summer
summer

You are a super fun addition to the cast.You bring a youthful, hip, casual but elegant vibe to the NY housewives scene. You are in killer shape, have sick style,your little girls are darling and your're a great mom!! Thats totally cool -keep it up!!

mims
mims

Quotes from Coco Chanel? How original. I don't think you may have even misquoted her. Kelly, you lack insight and depth as a writer and I find you are a total snooze fest. The reason people think you are boring is because you appear to be shallow.

tammy
tammy

Could you please get over yourself and your fabulous, fantastic, wonderful, fun-filled life!!!!

Viewer
Viewer

For people asking why Kelly kept the name Bensimon after her divorce, it is probably because she has two children with that last name. A lot of women who get divorced and have young children do this so as not to confuse the children. Why is this such a big deal?

MaryPurls
MaryPurls

I thought that luncheon was fun. Much nicer than a staged restaurant. I don't know why LuAnn was so critical. Especially in front of your children. But you were gracious and that's what good manners/breeding are all about. Your children will learn this from you.

And they were lovely in their matching sweaters.

SR
SR

Yawn! Liven it up a little please, Who cares about the Coco Channel quotes?

Viewer
Viewer

OMG, Kelly, don't worry about the censors - they really don't know you anyway. You are a good person and your children are lovely. Just keep on boxing on. You bring a lot to this show and I am so glad that you decided to join. You are one of my favorites!!!

Jon P
Jon P

Hi Kelly+ Blogetttes, This note is to all the people that comment on Kelly not being exciting. Kelly is a ft mom/dad/model etc. Also Kelly comes from a low key family do not know but feel it. Life needs a balnce, and the whole world cannot be drama queens, or create stuff for the cameras. Love YA KKB! Jon P

Viewer
Viewer

Surprised that you are into beauty products...it doesn't look like you wear any make up. Kind of refreshing.

Caroline
Caroline

Kelly, although you have a boyfriend now, when you were dating did you find it hard to meet a man you had chemistry with?

Kate
Kate

Hi- I love the show, entertainment value for sure. You I am unsure about, on one hand you seem grounded and yet on the other, seem like a phony....can't make you out yet. You always seem to be looking around you to see what else is going on when you are having a conversation with someone....I don't get that, its a major pet peeve of mine, and you seem very caught up in the celebrity world/social climbing. I hope you will "keep it real" because I can see a part of you is genuine and real, your girls seem really sweet also. Out of curiosity, why do you keep Gille's last name, Bensimon?

K in KY
K in KY

There used to be a little song on the Sesame Street show that goes "one of these things is not like the other, one of these things just doesn't belong." That's you, Kelly! You're a refreshing addition to the show for however long you can stand it!

Viewer
Viewer

Kelleeeeee, this is my 2nd post, and have read a few of your earlier blogs. It is so refreshing -and cute- that your daughters are your top priority -and hate to be a little petty and mention Luann as one of my compliments for you is that you're above the pettiness of the show, I hope you stay that way- but Luann seems to be the opposite, and her kids take a backseat to her need to appear as the interesting socialite. You definitely ooze class and have your priorities straight, I'll have to see how things play out but you're definitely growing on me, love that you're educated, have integrity and values (strong moral code) and know what you're about. I'm a fan!

Plum
Plum

Kelly - I always dressed my daughters in matching outfits when they were small. I loved how they looked, so well planned, and I got many compliments on their appearance. Keep dressing them in their "sissy" outfits for now, because once they hit their teen years, they won't want to do it any longer, and you'll be sad - trust me. It's a precious time. The good news is that even when they no longer want to dress alike, my girls look back at the pictures and talk about how cute they looked in their matching outfits. You're making memories all the time - I love your attitude about that!

I also noticed you do a great job keeping an eye on and correcting the girls' manners. I only wish I had thought of the term "princess napkins" myself!

Celia G
Celia G

Hi there! I enjoy who you are as this series unfolds. Your kids are really sweet and I don't doubt they'll evolve in fine young ladies as they mature (I hounded my son about good manners for at-home, as they travel with you, hopefully w/good results!) And I hope all the sniping I see on the show about your person is due to simple ignorance of your person rather than deliberate petty uglinesses from the insecure - though I fear I'm wrong...!

kat
kat

still not getting these blogs! write about the show...the entire show!

laura
laura

very boring!

trynac
trynac

Kelly- Am I wrong but ive noticed that you prefer male company over females. If its true I dont blame you..Most of my friends are male(gay and straight).. Had a few female friends through the years but what is up with the cattiness and jealousy?(I dont get it)..Love that your not catty, and you do seem very caring. Bethenny seems a little not nice(at least on the previews to next tuesdays show)... You are a breath of fresh air. Carefree, loving, and above the gossip between friends.. I have to say, what is up with these girls? they play nice, but then have nasty comments behind their backs. I do love Jill though. Alex is growing on me, even Ramoma. Bethenny? not a fan yet...

Viewer
Viewer

Sorry but I don't get why you're on this show...you have nothing to do with any of these women or seem to want to and then you randomly plan these "dates" as if you were doing a segment on a talk show. What's next a trip to the zoo with Alex?

Just in Case
Just in Case

I think everyone is underestimating you. You may just be the real diamond in the rough!

Vivenne
Vivenne

Kelly

You seem like the most interesting woman in the bunch - I can't wait to see more of You!!

And don't let any of these other bloggers get you down with their pettiness and jealousy.

What is with everyone telling Kelly that they can't believe she is a writer?? Now everyone is an English teacher!!!

Please People!!!

kjc
kjc

So boring.

Rubydee
Rubydee

The quotes are great thanks!!! There is so much more to you... the shows not showing it though. I like how you build memories and not just sit around drinking and eating. Good idea...

Susan
Susan

Love the quotes, Kelly. We are still getting to know you . . . love the show. I have two daughters, ages 10 and 6 and I dress them the same sometimes too--it's cute and sisterly :)

LMV
LMV

You really put the rest of these girls to shame!! Loves it!

Viewer
Viewer

OMG we get it, you know every celebrity known to man!

Kathleen
Kathleen

Kelly - You are fabulous and you know it and that's one of the many things I like about you! Marianne Williamson, a famous spiritual author and speaker says, "When you truly show your light to the world people either run toward it or hide from it." You are a light onto the world and because I am fabulous too and am not threatened I embrace you and say "You go girl!!!" Let the boring haters keep criticizing you - they truly are jealous:) PS: You look amazing in the Saks WEAR line - especially the green and white dress with that black belt.

Viewer
Viewer

Kelly, you are the only one I could connect with on the show ~ it's refreshing to see a genuine person who rises above the others.

I think the other women are not portraying themselves as good role models to their kids...not sure how they can live with that. Who wants a catty mom that lives to gossip. Kudos to your achievements - you seem like an amazing, beautiful person AND Mom.

Viewer
Viewer

Why won't Howard mention that you and Beth Stern are friends. They have even shown you sitting with Beth at NY Fashion week (next episode will confirm). I can't imagine how you are friends with any of the RH NYC? You don't belong with those low lifes. You have other interests that they could care less about. You are hotter than any of them, classier and it would be great if you stole Ramona's husband from her. The only thing I get from NY friends is that you are not Kelly Klein although she is a much better horsewoman than you you both are similar also except for you bank accounts, her is much larger. Get off the show!

Deb in Texas
Deb in Texas

Kelly, Thanks for the quotes they were great! Your daughters are adorable and I loved their pink sweaters.

Viewer
Viewer

Ok, I got it - some things are over the top but not you Kelly. You girls are lovely and I thought the sweaters looked cute.

Katerina
Katerina

First off why did you keep Bensimone as your last name? Second don't get involved with Ramona,this is my opinion she is the kinf of person who doesn't process things before she says things which causes most of the conflicts she's in.The lights are on and no ones home,there nothing going on up there when it comes to Ramona.Your a smart woman don't wreck that by associating with Ramona,you can do better when it comes to the people around you Kelly and Ramona isn't one of them.

Viewer
Viewer

kelly...sorry but u are booooooooooring. big yawn!

Viewer
Viewer

Since you say the "Bensimon's have a lot of rules," here's some punctuation rules for you:

The Bensimon's don't have a lot of rules, but the Bensimons do.

You don't need an apostrophe when you're making the family name plural.

If you want to make it possessive, it's the Bensimons' rules.

It's NEVER Bensimon's unless one guy named Bensimon owns something.

Since you say you're a writer, you might want to review rules for who and whom as well.

T.M.G
T.M.G

Hi there, I have been watching regularly, and as of present I have not figured out your role in the show. I am sure the editors are somewhat responsible for what the viewers see, but your airtime has been meaningless and uninteresting at best. I don't get it. Are the editors building you up slowly for down the road? I am curious as to your thoughts on how you are being presented....because so far I do not see what purpose the 6th housewife is serving. Ramona is a little crazy but harmless, LuAnn is just a ridiculously pompous fake from CT, who is full of herself, Jill is the Yenta, Alex (Sarah) the shallow ugly skinny girl, Bethenny; straight forward in your face honest - where are you in this mix? Aside from all that and none of that 'phony balony countess' non-sense, manners are incredibly important for children, I agree with you entirely. My 4 children 11 and under are constantly under a microscope at the table. What you teach them now stays with them forever. Hope you develop with the future episodes...looking forward to it.