Bethenny is a reality TV show professional. This is her third season on a reality TV show. She knows what makes great reality TV, and she knows what will generate press for her. She fought with me, and was in magazines every week. Smart? Very. I asked Bethenny to go to a photography show, and she attacked me at a charity event because she cannot grasp that I have no idea who her photographer boyfriend is. What happened from there on is pure drama. She called me a name, and I will not stoop to her level. No one deserves to be spoken to like that. And I shouldn't have spoken to her at the Brass Monkey like I did. All of the toxic gossip really got to me, coupled with a harassing ex, trying to organize my children, and dealing with the illness of a friend, my driver, who has been with me since I was 23 and was incredibly ill due to cancer. It was touch and go with him every day this past fall. He passed before Thanksgiving, and was an unbelievable man who loved my children and me like we were his own. Bethenny continues to use the drama the show has created to sell her book, weeks after the show has closed. I can only wish her well.
As for LuAnn, do I turn my back on her at parties? Maybe, I wasn't paying attention. I really hate going to parties because I am usually by myself and I feel incredibly insecure being at a party alone. I run around the party as fast as I can, and leave as fast as I can. After ten years of being married, but living like a single mom and rearing my children alone, I honestly cannot wait to leave a party. I feel obligated to go. So, LuAnn, sometimes it's not about you.
As for charity events, I have been hosting and creating new kinds of charity events for the last ten years. I saw a lot of money go into the charity parties and not a lot go to the charities themselves. That is why I started writing the coffee table books. I knew that I could learn a lot about social history and also be able to give to the charities that mean so much to me. Yes, I got something out of it. I learned so much about America, The Hamptons, and the bikini. This charity, like every other episode, is an infomercial for all of these women, and it is frankly boring, because they don't teach you how they did it, they just show off. I hope next season the housewives will empower the viewer with how to rather than 'look at me.'
How dare you knock Jill Zarin's charity work here in your 'blog' as just a venue to 'look at me' instead of actually working hard and reaping the funds for her daughter's chaity! Boy do you have a pair of brass ones! You are actually trying to act as her friend and you say that you 'trust her'! Well, I may only be a TV viewer but I do hope my post gets past whomever scans them and she reads it and sees your blog. You certainly are no friend of hers. And by the way, I don't think the higher ups at Bravo needed you to hold the show together. I actually think the show stinks with you on it. I liked it way better with the original cast. Get rid of you and take Ramona with you!
I think you are and insecure woman, thats why you dont own up to anything you do. You were nasty to bethanny and when asked about it you just say"what? stop, stop, stop" thats because you have no excuse and your embarressed to say you were wrong. All of the other ladies were called out on things and they all owned up to things they felt they did wrong. You constantly contradict yourself.
Kelly- this is my second post on your blog - I get you. I feel like you were attacked by all those housewives tonight except Alex. I never used to like Alex and Simon or how they portrayed themselves in the first season but I think now that they're good people. Don't try to be friends with Bethenny. She's a bitch who demands attention all the time. When will people realize she's a bully - an unattractive one too. Am I the only person who can see through her? That's why men are not attracted to her. What gentleman would want to be with that? I'm like you - if I don't want to talk to anyone, as an adult, I don't have to. You have to learn to defend yourself as I defend you on blogs all the time. Stand up to these bullies especially Jill, Betheny and Ramona. They need to grow up. I hope you'll be back next season. Stay Humble.
Kelly- I really hope you are on the show next season! I enjoy watching all the bs that you create! Continue being the self-centered, self-absorbed, delusional person you are!!!
Oh please.........stop making excuses, you are superficial and sometimes, IT IS WHAT IT IS.........period. You came onto a show you claimed to have never viewed but you are protective of the "marketing and branding" of the Kelly name. Are we really that naive Kelly? There are many single moms out there, me being one of them who raised a kid who is in college and I never blamed him repeatedly for my faults (i.e. lateness). And I certainly held down the corporate persona/responsibilities while being a single mom, I still do! Where is your accountability for YOUR actions, don't make the rest of us "single moms" suffer for your vanity and conceit. When you use the moniker "single mom" do it with respect for those of us who truly walked the walk and lived the lifestyle. I am a single mom who balances all priorities and responsibilities no matter what. What are you accountable for Kelly?
I don't usually comment on blogs, but I have to say that I felt very bad for you throughout the season. With the exception of you and Alex, these women are just sad. You may not always articulate what's on your mind well, but you're obviously a nice person who got caught in the RHONYC mud-slinging contest. I wish you well. I don't plan to watch the show any more. I agree with you that it's just depressing to see women treat each other so badly.
Kelly, This is a two way street, you are the one not willing to give, this is why the "girls" do not get you. Heres to getting real. . . . .
Kelly, I dont really understand the whole situation with Bethenny, she was ready to apologize and you totally attacked her! And are you like insecure or something? cause you are always talking about your great life as if you have something to prove or to defend, if you are as mature as you think you are, you would apologize and it would be done with, but they are right, you do live in your own world
"It will be interesting to see who she is."
And apparently it will be interesting to see who you are too. In this blog you told more about yourself (not about the people you know) then at any point on the show. Part of me wants to be snarky and say did you have a ghost writer for this one because it actaully made sense, however I will leave with if you have something to offer next season I will watch if it more of the same I'll find another way to spend my time.
Kelly, you need to first listen before you speak and even before speaking think about what it is you are going to say and what you are trying to express. You often make little sense and make references completely out of context. If you don't know what it means or aren't sure, then don't say it, especially if you can't say it correctly, it just makes you look bad and further reinforces the idea that you lack the ability to express yourself in an articulate manner. These are sharp (bright, intelligent) women and surely by now you've realised that being clear and articulate are necessary and required. Although, then again that is a necessary and basic level of communication with anyone and everyone. Don't be so reactionary or on the surface of things, show a little depth, if you have any, by taking the time to listen, consider what has been said and then react in an appropraite manner, i.e. with clarity and precision in order to demonstrate some degree of understanding and intellect.
I was your biggest hater. BUT after the reunion, I can see how this is ALL lost in translation. You came into their world not knowing a thing and it was like their fan sucked you in and spat you out and I do think that's you are like "I don't get this"
I do hope you and Bethany could be friends, you two have qualities that compliment each other. I think if you both just sat down, calmly asked the other to speak one a time and clearly state intentions this "fued" would be over.
You two are these most beautiful & single so it just makes sense that you two take on the city together! Hey if everyone can deal with RAMONA then I think anyone can get along at this point!!
Sorry for the non-love but I wish you all LOVE, HEALTH, and HAPPINESS. because when you leave this life, that is what will be in your mind!!
I like outside of the box. It works for a select few and while watching the show it is very easy to draw negative conclusions. However, being one who tries not to be "high school" I can appreciate not stooping to all the low levels. Life is what is important, not 42 minutes of editing. I have never commented on anything on any blogs, shows etc but I do feel that you have gotten a bad rap. Thank you for not stooping to low levels to garner more press.
Hi Kelly, Already, 2 nasty comments..STOP!!! I love your blog tonite and I loved the way you handled yourself on the show..I also wear rose colored glasses so I understand that so well...I am so sorry about your friend/driver and I am sure he was like family to you and your girls. As for Drumm's comment:how can you be such a jerk..the man passed away!!!! Anyway, I so appreciate your honesty and your daily attempt to battle your insecurities and grow instead of tearing other people down. You're great Kelley..just know that!
I am a sucessful professional woman and I have never commented on a blog before but I feel compelled after seeing this episode. Kelly, I understand what you're trying to say, but you don't make any sence. You need to take a class in communications...or maybe even just go back and finish 8th grade. You are probably the least articulate, most immature, and just overall retarded personal I have ever seen on TV. Good television though! Sorry to be so rude, couldn't help it.
I know you are not popular, but I actually like you. When speaking in confrontational situations you have brain freeze. Your Blogs are very articulate and accurate. I recommend a life coach to help you handle yourself in uncomfortable situations. Bethenny is like a child on the playground trying to get all the girls on her side. Igonore and regroup.
I don't know what world you live in. Because you are on a different planet than the rest of the women.Honestly you are six slices short of a whole loaf. If I were you I would be quite embarrassed by the way you acted!!! Please try to learn from it and grow up......
NONE OF MY COMMENTS HAVE EVER MADE IT ON YOUR BLOG. YOU HAVE BEEN IN EVERY MAGAZINE EVERY WEEK TALKING SMACK ABOUT BETHENNY. WE ALL KNOW WHAT YOU FINALLY ADMITTED YOU ARE THE INSECURE ONE, NOT BETHENNY, IN FACT WE ALL ARE INSECURE ABOUT SOMETHING. WE AS WOMEN NIC PICK ABOUT SOMETHING ABOUT OUR SELVES THAT NO ONE SEES BUT US. KELLY STOP WITH BETHENNY IN ALL YOUR INTERVIEWS AND YOU DID GET WHAT YOU WANNTED OUT OF THE SHOW. YOUR NAME IS EVERYWHERE NOW, NO ONE KNEW WHO YOU WERE NOW WE ALL KNOW WHO YOU ARE. YOU NEED TO OPEN YOURSELF UP IN ORDER TO LET PEOPLE IN, WE HAVE ALL BEEN HURT MY FRIENDS, FAMILY AND PEOPLE WE THOUGHT WE COULD TRUST----JUST LEARN TO BE YOU AND NOT SO GUARDED AND ABOVE EVERYONE---THAT IS WANT EVERYONE IS TRYING TO SAY TO YOU. ALSO STOP SAYING YOU DON'T PUT YOUR NAME ON ANYTHING, YOU PROMOTE YOUR PRODUCTS AND SELF, JUST LIKE THE REST OF THE WOMEN. WATCH YOURSELF ON TAPE AND SEE WHAT THE AMERICAN PUBLIC SAW-I DO HOPE YOU COME BACK NEXT YEAR AS A DIFFERENT PERSON. THIS YEAR YOU WERE A _ITCH, THINK ABOUT WHAT YOUR DAUGHTERS WILL THINK LATER ON AND GET RID OF THE FAME BOYFRIEND, SMILE, TARDINESS AND BE THE PERSON YOU SAY YOU REALLY ARE.. GOOD LUCK.
I really hope you stay on the show. You and Alex are the only ones trying to improve yourselves, you admit your faults say your sorry and move on, unfortunately Bethenney won't let anyone move on, or forget, she demands an apology every time she sees you. She even had the gall to tell Jill at her charity event "Say your sorry", talk about bad timing. People think she's funny, not. She just knows how to get more t.v. time than anyone else, how about this for old sayings, "the squeaking anoying wheel always gets the oil. Good Luck, I'm sorry you lost your friend. I know many people drive in N.Y. and have drivers, hey just like Jill.
Kelly--I get you and where you are coming from--you're awesome! Trailer trash Beth-e-nasty will never comprehend what you are trying to tell her because her margarita pickled brain can't stop spinning long enough to listen. Save your breathe, do yourself a favor and JUST SAY NO to that drunk. The Countless--is a phony, I don't blame you for ignoring her. Jill Z is a materialistic backstabbing bimbo--don't trust her. If you can endure her brutal honesty, Ramona is totally misunderstood but genuine. But I think you need to get chummy with Alex! You two would make great girl friends. You both have class and excellent taste! Blessings to you and your kids!
Kelly, bless your heart. I think the fact that your father's words of wisdom quoted to you growing up were "It's not what you say, but how you say it"
I guess you've been like this for awhile, huh?
At least dad tried...
Kelly--you are great! It is so obvious that all the others are VERY jealous (are you listening Luann/aka Crackerjacks--thanks Richard from Gawker recaps!). You are the most interesting and best of the bunch---the only one not a nut case, although Alex is educated and articulate as well. Best of everything to you and your precious girls!
During the reunion shows I had flashbacks to seventh grade. The behavior of the other housewives, except for Alex, illustrates why some women tend to grativate more toward men than women as friends and acquaintances. Who would want to be friends with those women? One minute they love you--the next they are ripping your heart out.
Kelly, I am really not impressed with you. You seem to have the "high and mighty" attitude. It's not attractive! Try something different...try being on time!!!
Kelly, I truly understood your angst this season. I felt your shyness. I used to really like Bethenny, but she has turned into a shrew beyond words. Her agenda is so blatant. Please come back to the show. I really do feel you have a lot to add to it.
Good point about the charity showing off behavior in your blog. You talked some about that on the show tonite but they all moved on. The self promotion within Jill's charity work is shamefull and her bullying behavior is a real turn off. I know you like Jill but she exibits the aspects of self servicing promotion you seem to distain. Good for you to verbalize this and good luck. I hope you all go out for dinner sometime and work it all out.
Kelly, I wasn't sure what you were all about, but after watching the 2nd part of the reunion special and reading the blog, I think that I understand where you are coming from... and a lot of moments that were weird on the show, previously, now make a lot of sense. Please don't let those hateful bullies - Jill and Bethenny - get to you. You are a beautiful woman and your true friends will see that, underneath all the fluff that's on top. And there's no harm in being a guys girl. I'm like that and I actually prefer it. Hold your head high... you are a fabulous woman and a great mother.
I believe that you have said things you didn't mean because you were intimidated by the spotlight or by feeling attacked by Bethenny or the group or whatever. But it's impossible to reconcile your comments within a few minutes of one another that you and B are nothing alike, and then that you and B are exactly the same save your hair color. Leaving aside the fact that you called yourself a blonde (?), it was inconsistent and thus undermined any points you were trying to make about de-escalating the conflict. Those points may have been quite valid. As many others have said, I think you are more inarticulate than brain-dead or cruel. But you have to admit you put yourself out there by being on the show and own it, not play yourself off as the wounded Johnny-Come-Lately who doesn't understand reality TV. I think that is what B, J, L and R were trying to get across to you with their pleas that you demonstrate some authenticity. And that made you cry foul? "Who cares?" [about authenticity] was your reaction to that. Clearly, not you. Out of the mouths of formerly hot, washed-up babes.
Kelly, I find you boring. In order to be an interesting person you have to read, listen, engage people in conversation, and care about others. You do none of those things. The fact that your life consists of blowing into a party for 5 minutes, making some phony chit-chat and leaving, and hearing you state this is such a fabulous way to live, tells me you are terminally boring and shallow. I don't see any hope for you and you're not anyone I want to know or even watch on tv. I think all the housewives feel the same about you. Please leave.
Whew, how did you sit thru that? With Queen Jill and Princess Bethenny looking at each other with every comment ready to band together to shoot everyone down. The two of them are like the 2 mean girls from high school that stick together because there is power in numbers. One minute they tell Kelly that she has to tell them everything because this is a reality show, and the next minute they are telling Ramona that Alex doesn't have to tell her everything she does. What?! They are so annoying. BETH-A-ME needs to get a life and to STOP TALKING!!!!!! Man, does she ever just SHUT-UP?
Kelly you are great!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I totally get you and you are a knockout in so many ways!!!! I fell in love with you tonight. Pay not attention to Bethany. She comes off as a mean spirited jealous shrill. Luann needs to read her own book or at lest the book somebody else is writing for her. Stick with Jill and Alex. They are the only genuine ladies on the show outside of yourself. Thanks for bringing some manners to the show. You are way above Bethany. She looks for fights. You look to avoid fights like an adult. You rock!!!!
Hi Kelly, I first want to say how sorry I feel for all the bad things that have happened to you in this past year. But you are a very strong person, you will move past the bad events, and they did not take anything away from you or your name (you expressed how hard your worked for that). If at the end of the reality show, you came across as a big success. You will do just fine.You will do great!
I live year around in the Hamptons, and have horses also. I played Polo for many years with the Meadowbrook Polo Club. I had 6 horses at one time. Like you I went through a divorce, but I fought to keep my horses, I was able to hold onto 2. Now in the recession the partner that I shared a farm with pulled out, and I'm left with my 2 horses desperately trying to find a place near or on the South Fork that I could keep either both or at least one horse. My means are limited. If you know of somewhere, it does not have to be a full board with stalls, just a really nice grass pasture with maybe a rain shelter. That is all I need. I work across the road on Montauk Hwy. in E. Hampton across from a large farm that they just brought in their Polo Ponies, I assume from Fla. or Argentina (they all have blankets on). They are just turned out in these nice grass pastures all season long. That is all I would need for my 2 horses. If you know of any place or someone that could help me find a place for my horses I would so much appreciate it. I practice on 65 Montauk Hwy., right next door to the ZONE (fitness).
I hope you will be on the 3rd season next year. I don't think anyone knew that you never saw the other seasons. You are one brave person putting yourself out there! Don't stop now, I love your guttiness! That IS a compliment!
If you could help me in some way not to have to lose my horses, I would be so forever gratefull.
My best, Pat Hafen
"Isn't it odd how I never comment on them? Doesn't it come across as strange that I don't ever say anything bad in any of my interviews?"
Are you kidding me? Did you watch the show? Were you not there when they were taping??
Finally some real honesty in your blog. How refreshing. Now I can see your pain and see the real person and not the fake impression you are trying to build. Good luck and keep trying to work on your issues.
Kelly - After watching the reunion, I have to say that you made a lot of sense. "JillBeth" has become the two-headed monster, judging, spewing venom, with the "i can do no wrong" attitude. I hope you stay on the show. Team up with Silex and give bug-eye Ramona, Discountess Countess, spoiled Jewish Princess Jill and insecure-that's-why-she-can't-keep-a-man Bethenney a run for their money. There is no loyalty and they pretend to be friends, but all they exhibit is low self-esteem and anti-social behavior. High school at warp speed!
I get that you have trouble communicating exactly what you mean and it gets lost in translation. I think you and Bethanny could be friends. Just listen to her grievances, apologize without being so defensive, and I bet she would apologize to you as well. Then you can both move on. I think Alex was right. It was just a big misunderstanding because you have trouble communicating.
BTW - You are absolutely gorgeous.
My words exactly. I made the comment on your prevous Blog that you had no idea what the show was about, if so you would have seen that these women are vipers. They smile, blow kisses and then rip each other apart. If that is real,and to which Bethenny says it is, what a waste of energy. Here I am watching the show. Getting angry, and sad that this is how it is out in the real world. How sad that these women have no idea what a good life they have, Money, cars, business's and not one but two homes. Yet, they fight like they are on the Jerry Springer show. I am just waiting for the bodyguard to come out and get between them. The worst is Ramona. She gets such sick pleasure out of cuting people down, and even creating tension. The gleam in her eyes at the charity event was the deal breaker. If you stay on the show, I wish you good luck, you are going to need it.
I think you seemed more genuine and "in touch," and less guarded in this blog. Although your actions and words certainly haven't been perfect this season (whose are?), I felt really bad for you during the reunion. I almost felt sick when you tried to compliment all of the other women and (some) of them immediately began attacking you. While you've also come across as a little inarticulate at times, I can see how it would be difficult to think/speak clearly if you're feeling so attacked.
I truly wish you the best of luck in the future, and if you're on for another season I hope you'll be able to let your guard down a little more.
I would be very interested to find out what the dynamics are between you and your father. I think the animosity between Bethenny and Luann all boils down to the fact that they both were ignored by you at several social functions...as if you had never met them before. Perhaps you need validation from the men around you and feel intimidated by strong beautiful women. ( Mom, is that you?). Obviously you're a shy person (as noted by severe blushing and vein protrusion)and are really uncomfortable in social situations.You can't leave fast enough....how ironic that this shy, insecure girl lands in the limelight. This has to be a nightmare for you...save yourself, your children and Elvis, please leave the building!
I just think that your attitude towards these women is outrageous! You think that you are on the show to cause sparks...you should want to be on this show to contribute something. Your insinuation that these women should battle it out to earn your friendship is ridiculous! You should be friends with Ramona! Her insight to the world is just as clear as yours is. There! Battle over!
Kelly, it's up to you but maybe you might want to consider staying on the show. During the first season, Alex and Simon were seen as wierd and just not liked. Now they're seen as still wierd, but that's ok. I think Alex had a point that you need to articulate better. However, that is no excuse for Bethenny acting the way she did.
No matter what happens, know that there are plenty of us who do like and admire you, and can see how big your heart is.
Kelly, I'm not one of those viewers who thinks you need to be voted off the show. I do agree with Jill when she said this show isn't doing for you what you thought it would. I think that you're an admirable lady who just got roped into something at the wrong time in your life. But you need to articulate yourself better in arguments. I see where you are coming from saying "you're down here i'm up here" but you need to explain yourself fully rather than run away from the situation or I'm going to think you're being condescending. Before you speak just take a moment to reflect and gather your points rather than trying to butter someone up by saying they're hott or just saying something inane. You could easily be a favorite housewife for me but I always find myself putting my palm to my head when you come on because you don't explain what you mean and it gets awkward. I know, who am I to give you advice. But I think it's something worth listening to!
You are so beautiful and a great person. You are wonderful with your kids. Don't let anyone put you down you are the hottest real looking lady on t.v. Be happy and stay sweet. Remember cartwheels are free!
KELLY! You ARE fabulous! Screw what everybody else thinks. You have my complete admiration and good luck in everything you do. I love ya girl!