Kelly Killoren Bensimon

Kelly shares her reaction to Part 1 of the dramatic reunion episode.

on May 12, 20090

I was so taken off guard by "The View with no viewpoint" style of interrogations on the reunion show that I said, "the facts are this..." From the moment we walked into the Cipriani Wall Street venue the tension was so thick you could cut it with a knife. Is all the blogging, bickering, blaming, and berating just part of the show, or do these women really feel they can police one another? Most of the time, I just sat there listening to the back and forth commentary of: you said this, and now I wanna say some really mean to show America how really mean I can be. It was so incredibly odd to watch and be a part of it. When I spoke about my recent issues that have appeared in the gossip pages, I quickly recognized that these women were reading word for word everything that was written by gossip writers. I was thinking to myself that was great kudos to the gossip of the world. Yes, out of high school, people give credence to gossip. The women were even interrupting me and telling me the facts of all the situations surrounding me. Writers are entitled to freedom of speech, and they don't need to print facts. They can editorialize and sensationalize, and yet somehow their words are interpreted as fact. Welcome to New York, the media center. As far as the specifics of the show, I am not going to rehash what you can TiVo. I will, however, say how I was truly embarrassed that they were fighting over fighting, crying over crying, and talking just to hear themselves talk. Alex is very well mannered. She says what is on her mind, and makes very clear points. Good job, Alex.

I don't know where all this jealousy stems from. Who cares how Alex got her book deal, she has one. What an amazing journey for her. Why the jealousy towards Ramona? She is a brilliant woman who is maximizing on her presence on the show. The jealousy and mean-spirited nature was so crazy to watch. And on top of it all, the hottest topic of the season: "I don't acknowledge these women." So, because they feel I am not their best friend or trying to be a part of their clique, they've deduced that I don't have many female friends. What? With friends who talk like that, who needs enemies? I have more than three friends - I was making a point. I don't care who you are, or who your daddy was, or who you are married to, if you are a good and honest person, we will be friends. I am nice to everyone, I even threw the crew a thank you party for being so nice to me, and the housewives got mad. I was also befuddled at how they are so sensitive to hearsay, and why they are so competitive and jealous. It's fundamentally weird. Bethenny, I have to be honest, Tommy Hilfiger and I know each other better than I know you. The New York Times magazine article said it best: Bethenny started the fight for no reason, and couldn't get out of it. Even in Ally's room, she just wanted to fight as long as the cameras were rolling, and my eyes were rolling. Why is Bethenny so obsessed with associating with the "fabulousity crowd?" The crowd does not make a baker good; the baker makes a baker good. No, I didn't know these women from before, and for some reason, they have a bone to pick. It doesn't make me a piece of anything, it makes me real.

401 comments
yasmine
yasmine

Kelly, Going to that trip was a bad choice, and it was very toxic for you and we saw that in the end you were burned out from all craziness they put on show and they have tried to reverse it back to you. Those people are simply mentally sick and you have no business being with them. Talking to them is like going to a mental institution and wanted to prove a point to a mental case. Dear Kelly, you belong with LuAnn and Jill. Leave the rest, they are bunches B…crazy, lunatics with full of complex. Please tell Jill as well. You were right about Bethany since day1. She is full of complex issues and messed up manipulator. I really do meant that.

Lindsay
Lindsay

Kelly,

You make me wanna watch the show. You're so interesting, yet I completley do not get you...not sure I ever will, but that's what makes it fun. Thanks for keeping me entertained.

Marge
Marge

I watch the Housewives of New York City and enjoy the show very much. The house wives are outspoken, have different personalities, have arguments etc etc, but they are a group and basically get along. You Kelly are not in the group, you don't want to be in the group and you take everything WAY TO PERSONALLY. I realy don't know why you are on the show. You really don't add anything to it.

Viewer
Viewer

The ladies and some of the viewers are right- regardless of anyone's opinion regarding you and Bethenny- you seemed to be the one to instigate the problems with her, only to exacerbate by inviting her to "chat" and then reaming her. What you say to her doesn't make sense half of the time...it's either incorrect or irrelevant or mean-spirited. She's hasn't been "perfect", either, by talking about you, but you cause the confrontation. Maybe you now see from viewing the show that what you said was innacurate? You do seem to have a very high opinion of yourself; one that goes beyond confidence. There are a lot of beautiful, attractive women in our county.

Viewer
Viewer

Kelly,

I would personally like to see you return to the show. You and Alex are the two people I like best. I would personally vote off Bethenny because she talks like someone from the "hood"--some of her earlier comments--"I'm a ball buster"--I'll stick these chopsticks in your eyes". In my humble opinion she is not only jealous of you but jealous of some of the others--including Martha Stewart who isn't on the show.

I agree that ALL of the housewives wanted you to like them and indeed reacted badly when they felt you didn't give them their due--whatever that is.

AZsun
AZsun

LIPGLOSS??????!!!!!!! First of all, love you...love the show....second, what kind of lipgloss were you wearing on the reunion show? Absolutley have to have it!! Hope to see you back next season...really love your taste in clothes and how natural you keep things.

Lizzie
Lizzie

The viewers don't need to be reminded every show that you're down to earth, a hard-working single mom, or different from the other housewives. (Earth to Kelly, you are not the only single mom on this planet.) Who or what you are will shine through every episode. Chronic tardiness is definitely a sign that you think your time is more important than anyone else's.

I wonder why you're on the show. You talk in circles and make no sense. When confronted, you always start that whiney "Stop, stooop! Okay, wait," or you claim that the conversation doesn't matter to you. On the reunion episodes you didn't even want to talk about the show. If this isn't something you want to participate in completely, why not leave?

If you come back next season, please try to be more honest. Take responsibility for your actions. The housewives made an effort to be your friend and you blew them off. I think you should try to invite them out this time around and be on time. Max is not an amazing person. Try a new pretty boy next time. I know you love men to drool over you and you need all that attention. But, PLEASE, find other subjects to discuss when on a "date." The "Max scenes" were dreadfully boring.

Viewer
Viewer

I think that Kelly has a ghostwriter for all of her editorials and blogs. She seems too inarticulate to put together a thank you note, much less anything else.

Viewer
Viewer

Kelly, please have your doctor up your meds.

qttpie2002
qttpie2002

Kelly, i enjoy watching your positive personality. please don't let the nay sayers cause u too leave. The world needs more positive forces like you

Az chick
Az chick

Get over yourself. You are not famous. I had never heard of you before the show and still don't know what you would be famous for. I can't, for the life of me, figure out how you consider yourself successful when you can't even put a sentence together. You contradict yourself right and left and make no sense whatsoever. You seem to be unable to focus on a simple question and just answer it. Are you on medication that makes you foggy? Watch the show. Look at yourself honestly. Get help or get off the show. You are painful to watch.

Viewer
Viewer

You say you didn't watch Season 1. Why would a Columbia educated professional, mother and "socialite" not prepare herself so as not to be associated with an unfavorable project? I would think you would have done research on the show.

Cheryl
Cheryl

Kelly,

It is very hard to say what is the real you. Alex made a very valid point ... you are not articulate when attempting to verbalize your thoughts, whether you are upset of simply answering a question. You speak in half sentences and often contradict yourself in the same statement.

You commented on your blog about Bethenny wanting to continue the argument as long as the cameras were rolling. The fact is, she was trying (at Jill's) to resolve the conflict. You were the one who simply refused to acknowledge what you had said to her and explain yourself.

Regardless of the fact that you drive a pick-up truck, you strike me as a woman who was very spoiled as a child. If I were to describe you in one sentence, it would be: Kelly is an island surround on the north, south, east and west by Kelly.

You probably are a nice person, but you come across as someone who has put herself up on a pedestal and the rest of the world should simply be grateful you deign to acknowledge them.

If this is not who you really are, then you truly do need to watch the show with a very critical eye for your own behavior. You need to modify your ways to come across as the nice girl you appear to want to be, or maybe actually are, in your blog.

Good luck next season.

Mary
Mary

LOVED the 2 reunions shows!! hey kelly..all i want to know as LIP GLOSS junkie...what color/ brand were u wearing??LOLLL Thanks...it looked so pretty ..

Angela C -Chicago
Angela C -Chicago

I sat here and thought of so many names to call you but as Jill said why say something if you can't say something good.

So I will just say, Kelly.. in all "realality" you really need to get some help before it all catches up to you and you have a breakdown and not know why.

I have a friend with your same personality and it will catch up to you one day as it did her, when you run out of excuses as to why you choose to hind in your little world and live behind rose colored glasses.

I hope you understand what I am saying and you read message for your own sake. I do not mean to be mean or nasty in this comment box. Good Luck!

hedgelaw
hedgelaw

Kelly - You are the best!! My favorite and have more character than all the other shallow complainers put together!! Keep on -

kodiak
kodiak

Kelly I think you are wonderful. I can't think of any reason to stay with these horrible women. Without you I would never watch the show - you are the only good part. Please don't let these women access to you any longer - they are only going to hurt you - they are mean (except Alex) and bitter - stay far, far away from them - life is too short for this kind of stuff.

Viewer50
Viewer50

I can't believe how you try and compliment the other wives when they call you on your sh*&t! What a phoney!

Yah, you're so amazing and beautiful....right...

Sonia
Sonia

After watching the show, you were the one of housewife who wouldn't acknowledge or take responsibility for your actions. Even Ramona would admit to the things she had done and give a reason for why she did them. You invited Bethanny out to tell her off, and then later denied half of the things you said to her! It's recorded, you should actually watch it some time!

After watching the show, you were my least favorite. Although I will admit that you express your thoughts and actions much better in your blogs, then you ever did on camera. You actually come across as a normal person with rational thoughts. On camera, you always came across like you were better than everyone else and no one was worthy of your time.

I am anxiously looking forward to next season!

Rachel
Rachel

I hope this actually gets posted; you saying that you never said anything bad about anyone in the interviews??? What about the things that you said about Bethenney?? I don't get it, Kelly. You have been so mean, not to mention that you're time is more important than everyone elses'. I think you got off reallllly easy on that show. You should be writing at thank you card to each of them for being so "nice" to you. There is so much more that could have come up, like with LuAnn called you on what charities you're involved in, when you were complaining about not having time to "lend your name" to Jill's charity. LuAnn said, "What charities do you support" and your repsonse? "I don't do any charities." Wow.

Viewer
Viewer

TEAM BETHANY!!!ROCK!!!

Viewer
Viewer

It is always disheartening to see you try to defend yourself against these witless creatures. You and Alex are the classier ones by far. I would not comment negatively again, then see what they can say... unfortunately, they'll say something anyway, just stay classy. You have alot of fans that you are not even aware of. The only times you are negative is when you are trying to defend yourself - you cannot assert yourself against ignorance - ignorance just does not understand you. All of my best & God Bless you and your daughters! Thank you for sharing.

NY Photographer
NY Photographer

You're really not at Heidi Klums level. Why do you keep dropping her name around?

Smile923
Smile923

Kelly,

Forget Jill stay on the show! We love you! You are the prettiest by far so remember that is going to cause you some trouble. Bethany is so stupid always complaining about not having a man. Stop telling her she is beautiful and wonderful. She has to find that out for herself. Not that I think she is. She is a petty short little self centered troll.

They probably want you off the show because you are so great! Hang in there girl we are rooting for you!

The rest of them are just jealous heifers!

Viewer
Viewer

Kelly, I think you are intelligent, ambitious and beautiful. I loved it when you first came on the show, after seeing you in action I agree with Alex...you need to be more articulate or specific on what you are feeling or wanting. The way you handled the Bethany conflict was very poor, you became emotional and left without really discussing anything about how you felt when she called you 'Madonna' and you didn't hear what she had to say. Not good conflict resolution skills. Get someone to talk to and learn how to express yourself without leaving the scene. Honestly I think you and Bethany could be really good friends if you both apologized to each other and stated your needs. Yes, she does have a sharp tongue but she knows it and is willing to take responsibility. You both are athletic, ambitious and intelligent. Make it work somehow.

Sherri
Sherri

It is amazing to me that you can say that Bethenny wants to pick a fight with you. Yes, she does now, I would too if someone talked to me the way you talked to her. You never let her speak, continually you interrupted her saying things that were very rude. I understand why the girls are hard on you because I think you are fake. You try to say what you think everyone wants to hear or what makes you look good. I was amazed how many times you lied on the show this season to make it look like you were the victim. Please!!!!

Viewer
Viewer

Kelly was quiet in the Reunion show because Kelly has trouble expressing her thoughts. Alex came to the rescue and articulated what Kelly could only express with hand gestures.

If Kelly wants to be understood, she needs to work on her verbal skills, otherwise stay tuned for more hand signals next season.

STAAHHP
STAAHHP

all I have want to contribute is.....there is no way Kelly wrote that piece! She's not that articulate!

Maybe Alex wrote it!

Viewer
Viewer

Kelly ~ I watch the "Housewives of NYC" with my 17-year old daughter. We watched the reunion special together. Without me saying anything about you, she said "why doesn't that woman make any sense when she talks."? I said I wasn't sure. But what sealed the deal for us was your "explanation" of why you and Bethenny weren't friends but then changing that to "we could have been friends"... we are so much alike, huh? I can't imagine that all those women are *out to get you*...they just see, as we do from watching, a shallow woman who enjoys *her* life and says "who cares" about anything or anyone else.

ShoSho
ShoSho

Kelly - you never seem to answer the questions. You talk about something else. They asked why you IGNORE them at parties - not why you aren't their best friend. Either start answering and telling the truth or leave. Maybe Alex is right - maybe you are simply inarticulate. I don't know but from where I sit you need some professional help. You only see things from your own perspective.

GoGirl
GoGirl

Kelly - Jill blurted out that you live in a $15m mansion in the Hamptons. Sounds pretty authentic. That must be the stick up her back when it comes to trying to eliminate you. I look forward to watching you grow and prosper as we have seen with Alex. You two really do have class. It would be fun to see HER as your new BFF.

Nancy
Nancy

This goes out to all of the housewives. I felt like I was watching a episode of the Jerry Springer Show!! No one could get a word in because everyone was talking over everyone else. Very disruptive. All of you need to grow up a little bit!!

Viewer
Viewer

drama drama drama. you just seem to draw so much drama. and as a typical woman, you think it is because everyone is jealous of you.

Derek Zoolander
Derek Zoolander

The facts are these: In "Kelly time" the goals are to be young, really, really good looking, and carefree. Bet she good really give a good eu-goo-lo-gy.

Sonny
Sonny

San Diego Luvs you Kelly, we get it and you do too. Leave those freaks and come to California!

Corinne
Corinne

Hey-- just fyi, if writers are publishing lies about you, you could sue for defamation (this may have been said before by other viewers but I don't have the time to look through 300+ comments).

Kathy
Kathy

Kelly:

Just finished watching the second reunion episode and you are my new favorite housewife. Kudos to you and Alex for putting your kids first. You both really showed the other housewives what it means to have grace and class (take note Countess). I do like Bethany, but she lashes out in the most unpredictable ways.

What's clear to me after watching these two shows is that ALL the wives wanted you to like them and reacted badly when they felt you weren't giving them their due. Can't wait to see what happens next....

Viewer
Viewer

Bless your Heart!

Viewer
Viewer

Kelly you go to such lengths to make it so clear you have the best life in the world, and are the SO much better than the other women on the show. Please do us all a favor and go live your fabulous life off Bravos cameras.

Crazy, narcissistic, flippant, arrogant, condesending

Blake
Blake

Kelly never fully addresses the other ladies. She talks about how zen and drama free her life is but she always seems to be in a constant state of drama with someone. I think that Kelly thrives on the drama so that she'll get more camera time because america tunes into it. "What is going to happen next?" is what keeps Americans watching and Kelly does her best to keep her name in the headlines. Then when another cast member confronts Kelly about her poor actions she turns her focus on what the other castmember looks like and how successful they are. Attempting to butter them up while she completely ignores the entire situation and acts like she has no idea what they are talking about and that everything is childish when she herself, doesn't seem like she has left high school.

realdupagehousewife
realdupagehousewife

Kelly, I have no idea why they wanted to focus all the negativity on you...You are a free spirit free thinker bright beautiful woman..the hell with the rest of them.

Viewer
Viewer

I don't quite get you. I think that you are a nice person for the most part, but you come across as being flippant. I do understand that trying to balance children and a career is hard. I respect you as a working single mom. You show no depth, you just seem shallow. I don't know if that is your true peronality or if that was TV, but I just wanted to scream, "Get it together, Girlfriend."

elyyy
elyyy

I just have to say that I really like kellys style. I do have to agree Bethenny is always trying to start a fight. She whines about everything. whine whine whine she is worse than my 8 year old child. Kelly stay postive and get away from the negative people.

NYDIVA
NYDIVA

YOU ARE A VERY BEAUTIFUL OLDER WOMAN. I REALLY FEEL THAT THIS SHOW WAS NOT YOUR SHOW...HONESTLY YOU CAME ACROSS AS SOMEONE FEELS LIKE THEY ARE ON A PLATFORM HIGHER THAN ANYONE ELSE. I DON'T FEEL AS NO ONE IS HATING ON YOU BUT REALLY CONFUSED ON YOUR PERSONALITY. BUT THE THING IS YOU DON'T CARE WHICH IS HARD TO UNDERSTAND WHY WOULD WANT TO BE ON THE SHOW. THE CARELESS ATTITUDE THAT YOU HAVE DOES NOT SET THE PRECIDENSE OF WANTING TO COOPERATE WITH THE REAL HOUSEWIVES OF NY...

Viewer33
Viewer33

I think kelly is a hot mess. I liked her in the first few episodes, but she really showed her true colors. I believe she does think she's better than the others and well, it's very unlike-able.

Tina
Tina

Kelly will say one thing then say something else to contradict it. Bethany is right, you are not on this planet. You should go back and watch these shows and really see how you come across. I have never in my life been moved to make a comment like this about anyone on any television show, but this has been so ridiculous, I had to. Watching the ridiculous scenes with Kelly were enough to make me not ever watch the show again. I'm sorry, don't want to be hurtful but you really need to take a good long look in the mirror and stop thinking with your ego.

Beverly
Beverly

Mae, I thank you for being an angel on this earth. Strong hurses who do the jobs,noone wishes to go to.

Your right. America is all spoiled and unruly. It is pettiness, selfishness, self-rightrouse who ruin it all. Life is precious.

Life is Precious...........don't waste it. My new muse, someone we all need lots of times...takes you back a step or even two....

People in your line of work are sent from God, someone just right to do the job at hand. As yours are few.

Marc
Marc

Kelly I love I think your great! I am like you and people need to stop hating! Don't let anyone get you done!