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Please stop saying your American Indian. It gets very annoying and racist when White people always claim to be Indian. Yet many of them have African American. Why is it White Americans don't say they are part Black? Why mess with us Indians? Leave us alone. Your ancesters, and American people today, have done enough harm.

get over yourself...you're very passive aggressive...and it's obvious....you are in no position to write a book on manners and be taken seriously...you have a "high and mighty" attitude, and you always try to come off as helping people or looking out for others, but it's so showy....I really liked you in the beginning but your true colors have shone through, and I'm left quite disappointed.

You may stand tall in stature but not in grace. I suggest you reevaluate yourself and gain better perspective. Also, learn how to say " I'm Sorry" while looking the person in the face.

Luann,
I hope that time has given you some perspective on the episode at Hope Lodge.
I hope that you have the insight to see how the irony of juxtaposing your argument against the problems of the lives of the women you were helping.
How disappointing your behavior was!
The Hope Lodge should have been an opportunity that brings a smart and kind group of women together to help other women that have REAL problems! (Instead of petty bickering).
I am curious. Acting as a role model for manners and tactful behavior....what if I asked you to give advice on how someone (other then you) should handle the same situation?
Would you advise:
1. re: Bethanny- Take a moment and really listen to your friend who is sharing good news, acknowledge the good fortune? Or.. would you do it quickly and then jump to giving advice to a friend that has not even asked for advice? It really did appear rude. Isn't part of having manners and friendship... not always projecting yourself and YOUR experience onto someone, but really LISTENING to another and providing advice when it is REQUESTED? At least Bethanny had the self control and maturity to put off discussing it further in a different context.

2. RE:RAMONA When advising someone what to do when confronted by a person who is very impulsive and self focused and ...at times inappropriate....would you tell someone to engage in argumentative bickering? I am sure that is not the first time that you have dealt with that topic and I am sure that your daughter has dealt with it among her own friends.
I am sure that You have certainly learned a lot about yourself from this episode.
Perhaps redirecting and refocusing the immature Ramona to something else would have worked. If it really bothered you- deal with it in another context.
How sad the the women at Hope Lodge had to eat food with such negative conversation happening during its preparation.
What about some focusing more on the organization and some of the work that has been done there by you and others.

HI again,

I think bethany maybe was just a bit sensitive that day, I saw more wrong with her not letting it go. of course she should mention it hurt her, but I think you were supposed to like be devasted and frown and not enjoy your lunch or somtething.

I'm glad ramona although VERY STRAINED is holding back, but I cant wait to see who it is she finaly blows on this season. LOL

I think you are great and some of people could learn a thing or two from you. Ramona speaks of class and making people feel comfortable, when in fact she so obnoxiously rude it never ceases to amaze me.

LouAnn

I understand what your "true intentions" were when you were trying to help Bethenny. I know you could have worded it differently with a much better tone. Everyone has good "intentions" but the fact remains that they can be delivered in a wrong manner. You are loosing your fan base due to your lack of honesty with yourself. It would have been "countess" of you to openly admit that you were wrong as to how you treated Bethenny without any form of an argument on your side of the conversation. For me, that moment with Bethenny explaining her feelings to you and you not being more of a friend to her by admitting your fault was "classless." I hope you spend more time reflecting on your behavior than on writing your book.

LuAnn,

To thy own self be true and practice what you preach.

LuAnn,

In the first season, I found it fascinating that the show included a countess, as aristocratic titles are very rare in this day in age. However, any fascination abruptly ended when it became apparent that it was really the only title which seems to define you. Why not introduce the viewership to LuAnn and not the Countess; I would like to think that LuAnn is actually a fascinating individual who can bring something to the show besides a title.

The problem is that you rely upon the fact that most Americans are ignorant about nobility and royalty. (In case people were curious, French noble titles were abolished in the mid 1800s; a noble title is not the same as being a royal title. Additionally, the United States does not recognize hereditary titles.) When people hear "countess", they immediately think of castles, servents, and prestige; but the truth is, your husband's title affords you no extra privileges and your husband holds no political power as a noble. So, you are just another Mrs. at the core of it all.

Another aspect that I find offensive is that you are now claiming to be an "American Indian from Connecticut". If this was something so essential to your identity, than you would be identifying yourself by your tribal nation and not some generic phrase such as "American Indian". What tribe are you? Does your tribal community recognize you as a member? If not, then don't claim it. Wearing expensive turquoise necklaces don't validate your claim, it only makes real Natives shake their head in disgust at yet another individual exploiting our identity for the sake of being unique.

In whole, it seems that you try extremely hard to make yourself appear more exotic than the average individual - first as an "aristo", then as a "former model", and now as an "American Indian". You'd be a heck of a lot more appealing if you could manage to be something other than the Countess.

Hey LuAnn!
I think your very nice and generally a very classy woman. I think Bethenny totally over reacted to your comment about air brushing her photo. It was obvious that you were just talking about common occurrences that go on in the modeling world. It's too bad that she took it the wrong way.
As far as your book goes I think it is great; I would like to recommend however that you not talk with your mouth full on national TV. I don't mean to criticize; I've been guilty of this myself and certainly don't think I'm perfect, but since you are setting your self as an example I think you should be aware of this. I think your great,and have a good heart, so continue to be generous and stay away from the catty trash talking.

LuAnn

Why is it wrong for Bethenny to be upset about you saying what you did about her Magazine cover picture and not for you when you went off on Ramona, in public, I might add. At least Bethenny got you in private.

And I might add that you need to learn about "Class" before you write a book on it. You also need to get over the "Countess" bit. That doesn't mean a thing in the United States. Here we are all equal. There is no royality here.

You meant no harm. You're simply watching out for your friend so she would not be shocked at her representation. Shocked positively or negatively. Depending on her perspective. She is just an over-sensitive little baby that likes to throw her weight around (all 45 pounds) and try to shame you into a worhtless, unnecessary apology. How sad she needs so much attention. No wonder she doesn't have a fulfilling, meaningful relationship with a readily available man. What man could keep up?

I am a contess by birth and not one of my friends know it.
I am also an American and beleive in "all men are created equal". There is no need to throw your title around unless you are a insecure snob!

I have never cringed more during an episode than I did when you said that Ramona's comments ruined a night that was supposed to be about you [or something to this effect.] The night wasn't for you, it was for the families at Hope Lodge! Shame on you all for carrying on a petty spat in front of families that you were supposed to be helping.

Also, the way you carry on about your charity work makes it appear as though the recognition you receive for doing said charity work is more important to you than actually helping the people in need. I sincerely hope this is just how Bravo has chosen to edit things this season, because that is an incredibly sad way to live one's life. You should be doing charity work if you genuinely want to help others, not to just show the world what a great person you are.

I guess I missed the episode when you discussed your Indian heritage. Which tribe are you from? Perhaps it would be nice to make that part of you personna as important as being a Countess seems to be. That would make a great story line. A young native American girl, hard working, strong in character grows up to marry a Prince/Count! I do think you a very nice person. Continued good luck and health to you and yours!

LuAnne,
I had to say that I really do like you alot. Aside from Bethenny, and Jill, you are one of my favorites! However, as someone who is 22 years old and suffering from an eating disorder, I did not think that your comment in the "on their high horses" episode was very funny. After you made your point about making sure you eat so you dont look like you have an "eating disorder" you laughed as if people with eating disorders have no etiquette. That is not the case, and this illness if NO laughing matter. Thats all, I still love you though.

Proper behavior is not causing a scene. I am afraid you were the culprit of the scene, not Ramona. Your daughter ought to have been embarressed by your response more than anything. I agree with the person who said you should visit the South.

The petty spat regarding your husbands age when you were supposed to be volunteering for the good cause of preparing a nice dinner at Hope House was tasteless.

You 'talk' about manners.

Luann - forget the "hater-nuts" that are emailing this season. You and Bethenny are still the reason I watch. Great job on calling out Ramona - can't believe her comment when you said she was "rude". She actually said "I know,I know". DUH!!! Still love Jill - she's just so completely herself.

Luann,
Like you I also modeled many moons ago as I am now 49, (and do not look in any way shape or form as good as you), however, I was fortunate to have been at Studio 54 for Willie's private B-Day party prior to her death in 1979. If someone did not touch up my pictures I'd be in court so fast your head would be swimming, lol. Also the comment about your husband offended me directly as the age difference between you and your husband is the same as the one between my parents, and they led a charmed life, he died one shy of their 26th anniversary. I hope you and the Count have 56 or more, God Bless you and yours.

Luann,

For some reason this season you have come off as snobish and holier than thou. I am not sure where this is coming from but you are killing what little following you had. Please get rid of the condisending attitude. Use your powers for good not evil.

Dear Countess,

Oh, how I do enjoy irony!

Best,

Margaret

It is too bad you hold everyone else up to standards you yourself can not reach!

Hello there sugar!!!!

Oh my gosh! I think it is FABULOUS that you will be writing a book! First off - how NEAT and INTERESTING it IS that you ARE a countess! Wow! Seriously, I think a lot of people WANT to hear your story!! I know I do!! ; )

I have a three year old daughter - and would love to know I am teaching her the "classy" ways of the world! I would love to read about manners/courtesy in regards to being around equestrian events!!! And of course every day things, going to a party, hosting a party etc etc!

I hope to be reading Class With THE Countess soon!!!!

All the best!!!! ~ Megan

OMG People back off......WOW. Because She was constantly being asked manner questions, She said she decided to write a book. And She is being attacked on every muscle movement She makes. And come on people haven't you ever said something to a Friend in the moment, and your words were hurtful but it wasn't your intention? I believe everyone has been there. Anyway I adore all the New York Housewives, and I think this touch up comment has run its course. I wasn't in LuAnn's head but I am 100 positive her comment was not over jealousy or intended to hurt.

It seems like I recall back when they had the reunion show and Bethenny brought up the episode with the driver, Luann said that her children have been taught that when they speak to an adult they are to use Mr. or Mrs. But I noticed that when Rosana returned they did not do this with her. Is this because she is the housekeeper?

With all due respect,

Please, please, please stop with the "as we say in French" comment, or else someone is going to start a drinking game about it!

#1 You are not French, so enough with the "we" thing. And #2 you are saying it before extremely common phrases ("bon appétit") that I think even the most common of us KNOW is French. And what is worse, then you "translate" it to English!

I would suggest reserving the comment only for when you will be reciting longer, uncommon phrases, or making original sentences. And then it would be appropriate to translate those utterances into English for your audience who might not speak French. But translating something as common as "bon appétit" or "bon voyage" that seems incredibly condescending...

Luann,

I really liked you last season. You seemed calm, fun and easy going. However, this season it is quite the opposite. I undestand that you may have a lot more on your plate that we can see on tv...but you also live a very privilidge live that you only have by being married to a count. You come from a very humbled background it seems, and maybe you should try to look at your roots a little harder.

We at home should not judge, but we are the ones I am sure would be the first to buy your book. Thus far I am not going to waste my money.

I hope that you things get better...it really seems like something is going on behind the scenes for you. You are flyng off the handle way too quick. Not only that you are acting like a complete and utter snob.

Good Luck getting yourself back..I miss the old LuAnn

LuAnn...knowing what good manners are has nothing to do with having class!!! Acting on your knowledge of good manners might get you there but you certainly lack class as evidenced by your "better than others" attitude!!!

I am sure you have heard the expression When in Rome do as the Romans do, well you are in the US you could stand to turn down the countess thing (no disrespect)just a tad

you should probally take a few lessons from people who were actually born with a title and raised in the lifestyle you try so hard to present yourself as having. when it comes to being a countess you behave more like a haughty scullery maid. you were born an american and are an american indian. you were not born a countess so stop blowing it down everyones throat. and for the record here in america, we do not recognize titles of nobility since we have none you are simple mrs. de lesseps. after all who do you think you are, consuelo vanderbilt? let it go.

America I am sorry but I love LuAnn. I do not agree with her asking Bethany did she get airbrushed, that was one of the most happiest moments for Bethanyy being on the magazine cover and all LuAnn said was "Did you get Airbrush". LuAnn, If you wanna keep friends you should destroy their confidence. But either way you get much from me, muah!

"People want to know how an Indian from Connecticut became a Countess". I can't stop laughing!!!! Are you for real?

You said in one episode " I hate when people act like they are better than others" Or something to that extent..But that seems to be the mottto for the way you live your life..How ironic..

Luann, that comment you made to Bethanny was uncalled for. especially coming from a Countess. I actually expected more from you. you should have waited to see the photos before asking that question. and as for Ramona's comment on the Count, i think you may have been alittle dramatic. especially in front of Victioria, you could have pulled Ramona aside and have her apologize in front of Victoria. yes, it was not nice, but you put yourself in that situation. you were not very nice to Bethanny or Ramona, she was just giving Beth some dating tips. you did not have to comment. so please do things with CLASS especially if you are writing on the SUBJECT.

It is very obvious in this second season that you take your title by marriage way to seriously. "Much Ado about Nothing," springs to mind.

Your husband's family did not give the Statue of Liberty to America. The statue was a gift from the French people to the American people. Ferdinand de Lesseps was selected to make the formal presentation because he was head of the Franco-American Union. It is unfortunate that you are misinforming your children about the history of the Statue and its presentation. There is a big difference between giving and presenting.

Someone with true class does not stand up and lecture an entire audience about appropriate behavior, when she was doing the same thing before she spoke, and again right after sitting down from her chastisement.

A person with good table manners does not use her fingers to take a bite of her meal. (lunch with Bethany)

A person who truly wants to teach young people proper table manners does not laugh at a young girl when she asks if the meat should be cut one bite at a time or all at once. You belittled the young lady, and embarrassed her in front on others; a classless thing to do.

A person with class does not berate another individual in front of a room full of people over a statement about something as unimportant as her husband's age. It would appear that you are very sensitive about this. A simple answer of "Oh, no, he is only _ number of years older than I am." And if you had to get the claws out, "Thank you for the left-handed compliment that I look so much younger."

A person with class would not mention the idea of airbrushing when told that a friend was going to be on the cover of a magazine. Calling upon your experience as a model (I believe you said it was mostly catalogs, not high fashion and not covers). And then, "I wanted to protect you." Bethany is a big girl and doesn't need your protection.

As another viewer said somewhere along the way. You do really need to read some of the other books out there on your subject before you try to publish your own.

Correcting other's manners in public is the height of rudeness and the number one no no in any book of good manners.

An apology should be offered as just that, and in just that tone. A simple "I am sorry I did not mean to offend you" and leave it at that is a proper aplogy. Any attempt to defend yourself slides it right back in to the bad manners catagory. Saying anyone is "that sensitive" takes it right over the top into crassness.

The same goes for either accepting or rejecting an apology from another. "Thank you I accept your apology" or "I am sorry I do not accept your apology" end of subject. Regardless of your feelings you do not keep dragging it out after the other person has apologized repeatedly. Take a lesson from Jill, Alex and Simon. They apologized to each other and it was done.

LuAnn,

The late Princess of Wales always introduced herself as just Diana - not HRH or Princess or even Lady - just plain Diana.......now THATS class. Class is not something you aquire with a title.
A little respect for Hope House..it wasn't about you lovey, it was about the residents and the charity.

Isn't every night Luann's night?

Didn't I see your bra strap showing at Hope Lodge?

Countess De Lesseps,..people say way to much here and I find rudeness all over these blogs. We aren't there to know all of this. Bravo only shows what they want to stir the pot. I believe you to be a Lady..as for Countess I think you deserve that honor as well. If you choose to want to be called Countess that is your privilaged right. Hurting someone's feelings comes to us all not meaning to we can't always know what is right to say or wrong. We are not inside someone elses mind to know this. I think getting past it and not being in front of camera's you and Bethany worked it out as real ladies do. I see beyond the camera and I don't judge anyone of you except Ramona oh my word that woman has no class what so ever. She married into money and it shows. She deserved what you gave her. I to have gotten pissed over a remark made like that at me. It about flipped me for a loop but infront of your daughter was rude and I believe you were right with your proper dating ediquette. Romona strikes me as trampy anyway and being a lady will get a woman a proper man being trampish can only lead to being what it is. you strike me as being classy and true to your Title Countess. You have to culture between Europe and the United States..I've been to Europe and I find the French to be well put together. We take life for granted here in the U.S. but I'm American and proud to be..Be a bit light with your wants here..I know it's crewel but it's not Europe my dear. I hope all worked out off camera between you Romona and Bethany..Good Luck..I admire who you are and how you carry yourself..I'll buy your Book!!!

Countess:

I think you are more bold this year than last. I like it!
You seem more relaxed. I blogged Bethenny also and I told her that it did not appear to be a malicious comment, but it sure is getting everyones panties in a wad.hahahaha

I think your great!

I find it funny that LuAnn is writing a book on manners, because in several episodes I have seen her with her elbows on the table and eating with her fingers instead of her fork. Thats doesn't scream bestseller to me.

As a former Santa Fean I must comment on your elegant, fantastic, fetish necklace and turquoise jewelry - amazing! A real pleasure to admire......

Countess,

Ignore the comments which are ignorant. While I do agree that titles are meaningless, your actions are that of a CLASS ACT. It is for this reason that you asked for advice and should write your book, people do not ask your advice because of a title.

I personally consider your title to be a part of the proper pronounciation of your name. Just like Mister is part of the proper pronounciation of my name.

Your title is "Countess", mine is "Mister". Although, I do like to be called "Citizen".

Comedian Denis Leary used "Citizen" as a title in the movie, "Judgment Night". While I certainly would not want to be in a similar situation as the characters in that movie, I did take a liking to that title. So, please put "Citizen" in front of my name anytime.

Luann, do any of you watch the episodes? I would think that if you do, you would see that your comment to Bethanny was not meant as a "dig". It was a casual comment of one model to another. The problem is that Bethanny is not a model and therefore not familar with the terminology. It would also show that you did apologise since it was not your intent to hurt her feelings. Your comment about her "being a dog with a bone" however was a bit of the pot calling the kettle black, since your response to Ramona was very similar.

All that aside, I think the show is great and I would love to see NYC meets OC (especially Romona meets Vickie)

LuAnn- I would like to suggest reading an etiquette book instead of writing one.

Your behavior, when Bethenney approached you in a very appropriate way, was appalling. You are so busy pointing out the slips of others, you fail to see your own shortcomings.

Also, to say that the cancer event was "your night" was extremely low class. You have so much to be thankful for yet your jealousy really comes out when you are not the center of attention.

Last season I thought that you had some degree of class but now I am wondering if your true colors are really shining through this season.

Luann, I think at most times you are a class act. I love that you are writing a book and I also believe that people need to be educated on manners. I have to tell you that when you call people (darling and sweetheart)it sounds like you are talking down to them,and I know that is not your intention. Part of good manners is realizing that people come from all walks of life and showing respect and wanting to understand their background and differences is the ultimate in good manners.You are an American Indian. I would speak more of that than being a countess.

You seem to forget your humble beginnings and those happened to occur being brought up on the Berlin Turnpike ,Ct. It would not hurt you to "humble" yourself a bit and come down off your pedestal now and then and be a little nicer to people.

LuAnn, you don't get it- Bethany was offended because of what your comment implied. It isn't about your modeling background, it's about how your words are heard. You seemed to discount that you said anything upsetting, and you did. It was your mistake, not Bethany's.

LuAnn,

This week's episode left me disgusted. What is it with all you ladies? You are at Hope Lodge to prepare a meal for the lodgers. Did you interact with them, sit down and eat with them? You made catty and pompous remarks to Ramaona and overeacted when she called your husband old. Stomping out of the room and saying "it was supposed to be your night" was ridiculous and childish. I thought it was a night to help out the cancer patients and their families. I thought it was supposed to be a night to give of yourself to others? But it was "ruined" for you because of Ramona's remark? Grow up. Not very countess like behavior or if that is how a countess thinks she can act, turn in your title. Maybe it is all in the editing. If that is so, I would leave the show now. You do not come off very well at all.

Countess:
You are a beautiful woman with obvious poise. However, your overreaction and consequent counterattack on Ramona were less so. You do carry yourself with a certain "je ne sais quoi" and air of confidence which is always attractive and interesting. What I find less interesting and was surprised about were not only your comments to Bethenny and Ramona, but your avoidant glances when you were trying to (excuse the New Orleans reference) crawfish out of your photo comments. I am not a psychologist, but you appeared jealous and uncomfortable about the fact that Bethanny was getting some attention/notoriety. Perhaps, the jealous/uncomfortable feeling is not a frequent feeling for you and you did not know how to handle the internal conflict. Jealously is never attractive; it makes you look green. Reflection is a necessary ingredient to personal growth and should be undertaken at regular intervals. Be your confident, Countess self. Real grace is exemplified by being supportive and happy for others' successes. There is room on the mountaintop for everyone, especially a Countess.

My Dearest Countess,

How rude were you !!! Please return to the original Luann.
After all is this title not something you were born to. Your husband is the heir to the title.

You owe Ramona an apology. She did not need to be berated constantly after she apologized.

You owe an apology to all those present when you took your little tantrum. Again it was not your night but the cancer survivors night. The least you could have done is serve them as oppose to offer them a buffet.

You speak before you think and that is a primary rule in good etiquette. You must think before you speak and thereby you will avoid hurting peoples feelings.
Not a countess but raised with good manners.

Luann,
When you had the luncheon on table manners for your daughter and her friends at the Hampton Classic. A young woman asked you an honest question about cutting your entrée all at once; I was shocked at your answer, you laughed in the poor girls face, and gave some sarcastic remark about “cutting food for a 10 year old”. Your response was condescending and extremely rude. If I were that young woman I would have not asked another question, nor would I attend another luncheon with you ever again.

Dear Countess,
I have a question about etiquette. I am a former model, and an acquaintance of mine who is not a model, has made the cover of a magazine local to our area. As a former model, I know that pictures are routinely retouched and/or airbrushed. Even so, I made a point of asking my acquaintance whether her pictures would be airbrushed. I don't understand why my acquaintance was offended by this. Maybe an etiquette-expert such as yourself could shed some light on this. Alls I know is that I wanted to "protect" her.
Thank you,
A Commoner

Go Countess LuAnne... Bethenny said in her interview she expects that people will be envious and she projected her expectation onto you.

I find it rather arrogant of her that she would think she doesn't need retouching. If Heidi Klum needs retouching - then God help us all!

Sometimes you do small things that I oculd see a person, knowing your title, taking as you thinking you're superior BUT I also get the sense that you are a very down to earth woman who reaches out to many people whatever their status.

I can't stand Ramona! She called your husband old and in front of your daughter. What a B!TCH. I would have tossed her out on her tush.

First I would like to say that as a NYC resident, I absolutely LOVE the show- I feel blessed to share the same city with such interesting people. In addition, it is wonderful that you are bringing attention to organizations such as the American Cancer Society. I was so surprised to learn that you have Native American ancestry! I hope you elaborate more about your background on the show. Being that NYC has the largest urban Native American population, it would be interesting to see how you may be involved in native organizations within the city.

Congrats on the book and I wish you continued success!

Dear Luann, I think you are a very elegant lady. I can understand why you are proud of being a Countess. It is a part of your husband's heritage that you and your children share. A little advice, however, don't let it go to your head. I believe your remark to Bethenny was a bit catty and I think your apology could have been a little more heartfelt. I don't understand your attack on Ramona for saying your husband is an older man. He is an older man. So what! You seem on edge. Is something else going on with you? Why were you so upset when you couldn't reach your husband on the phone??? Just wondering . . .

As a cancer survivor, I could not believe the way you girls handled the situation at Hope Lodge. I remember my pain and agony and the last thing I wanted to be around was anyone bitching, especially a bunch of catty women!!! I saw the poor woman in the kitchen wearing the head scarf, looking obviously uncomfortable, and all you did was continue to argue. I almost cried remembering how awful I felt when I lost my hair. All I wanted was a safe and quiet place to retreat to recover. All of you should be so ashamed. Unbelievable. Instead of putting together a 'screaming match luncheon' or 'a night for Luann' at Hope Lodge, get out there and raise some real money for cancer research. Do something,,....!!!

Wow, with friends like you who needs enemies.

You being a Countness does not mount to a hill of beans. You cares. You carry yourself off like you are better than others.

Goodness....everyone really needs to get a life!!!!

Unlike so many viewers, I think you are a class act. When people are taking something you say out of context or the wrong way, it shows how small they are. You are not a mean person, most people aren't. Always assume that until proven otherwise. Of course you didn't mean to hurt Bethany's feelings. Her comment about your husband however was malicious. Hmmmmm.

Clearly, this episode did not show you in your best light. It seemed that you were having a really bad day (or days). What happened to your cool, calm, collected demeanor from S-1? So far, this season, you are more controlling such as; telling your mother what to say to you, asking your housekeeper for presents, expecting everyone in the world to call you countess (including the pizza man). Now you blow your cool due to an off handed remark from the dingbat diva Ramona. You behaved like a dog with a bone as much as Bethenny did with your cutting comment. All of you girls are behaving like immature teens or as though you are in need of some good meds. Maybe you could go for group counseling session.

neither yours nor ramonas comment was intended to be hurtful. you made ramona over apologize to you, now bethany is makin you over apologize to her. it's all silly really your grown women. when someone apologizes, you should just accept it unless you have good reason to believe it's not genuine, which it seemed to me that both apologies were so it should just be dropped so we can focus more on the important things, like ramona dancing. its the greatest lol. they should do an entire episode of ramona dancing. id be glued to the t.v.. the confidence she exudes is hysterical yet it's very endearing.

Luanne, you're a likeable person and all, but really, the "countess" crap has got to stop. Americans don't really get into titles like that...they like you or don't like you because of the person you are, not because of a title. People would like you more if you were more humble by it. And as far as writing a book on manners...maybe read one and be a role model of manners first. Set the example on manners first.

Maybe being a count/countess still matters to some degree in Europe, but here in the states it is kind of a moot point. Further, aren't these titles issued out to just about anyone? (For example, Sir Elton John...)

Regarding the retouching comment - not showing too much social grace there Countess - MEOW! Being "protective" - really now...

Luann, let's talk about American Royalty. Aside from the fact that there is NONE, we don't recognize your 'title' which is valid by convenience of marriage only.

If you want to talk about American "royalty", I can think of few who'd fit the bill.

Of those who just got lucky by birth, how 'bout Lee Radziwill. And you, Luann, are no Lee Radziwill.

You have done nothing to earn respect, other than act like a princess, and remember, you are just a countess. You're 'causes' are for television only, require only a financial donation and no real legwork or sweat equity.

I can't stand Ramona, but you really, really were unfair to her and did NOT act like an expert on etiquette, and this was your golden opportunity to pretend that you actually were one.

You accused Bethenny of reacting exactly as you did with Ramona...only Bethenny didn't attack you, and was gracious about it.

Though Ramona committed yet another faux pax, she is the one who showed manners in the end. Not you, and I don't think anyone will buy your book.

Luann,

You started it with Ramona. You strutted around the kitchen correcting her about dating. The "not in my world" comment was condescending. Then when she mistakenly thought your husband was twice your age, you just flew off the handle and pressed her continuously. You were the rude one, not Ramona. You owe your own daughter an apology, as well as the lady in the headscarf sitting next to her. It was embarrassing, and you proved that you know nothing about manners. The "this is my night" said it all.

Interestingly, you didn't apologize to Bethenny when she calmly told you that you hurt her feelings. Your touchup comment was catty.

And I felt sorry for Victoria's captive friends--how pretentious of you to correct their behavior when yours is so bad. You should know better.

Not liking you much this season.

Ramona is Crazyyyyyyyyyyyy

LuAnne

I know this series was filmed about 5 months ago, so it will be interesting to see what transpires. We don't get to see what's really bothering you, but something was clearly bothering you throughout the filming of this season. You have lost your "cool" so many times.

I think you need to get over your title. You talk about it too much. I have always believed that if you have to discuss "class", you have none. There is nothing "classy" about talking about class or even using the word. Something tells me that you are a little uncomfortable with your role in society now, and this "countess" obsession shows as something that you yourself have a hard time grasping. Ok, so what. You married the title, but get that title out of your book because it's tasteless and arrogant and misses the point entirely. I think this season may have done you some damage in the book arena as well. At this point, I don't like what I see.

DeCountess how can you write a book on manners? You have none. Get over yourself.

Please lower your standards for a moment, Madam, and read a note from someone well below your "station".

I have taught my children to behave better than you did at the public event at Hope Lodge. You threw a temper tantrum over a remark. A simple "that is untrue, your remark is incorrent & uncalled for, Ramona" and acceptance or refusal of apology would have sufficed. You made a bigger scene than anything Ramona said. You showed ZERO class, maturity or graciousness. You DID show that you are a Countess in name only. I once admired your tenacity and calmness in the face of stressful situations. I now find you boorish & vulgar & a petty drama queen.

I will watch commercials during your segments from now on. I am sure the loss of one little viewer won't kill you...or will it?

Dear Countess de Lesseps:

I think you're a treasure! With American manners at an all-time low, you are a shining beacon of casual good grace and charm. Too many people (especially those living in New York and Boston) have confused rudeness for sophistication. I was always taught that the point of good manners was to make others feel more comfortable and welcome in social settings—not to make them feel awkward and inferior.

Unfortunately, that is exactly the sort of pettiness Miss Frankel and Mrs. Singer express to you and your family. I can only offer the advice from one of my old professors. He used to observe, “Never overlook jealousy as a motivation in others,” especially when one does not understand the reasons behind any unwarranted churlish behavior. Ms. Frankel is positively green every time she has to make any reference to your title. That was quite evident at the restaurant when she once again brought up the so-called airbrushing incident. (Bethany has real ego self-image problems.) People's motivations are so transparent if one takes the time to observe them.

Social climbers want desperately to have the easy grace and acceptance of someone like yourself, Countess de Lesseps. You have already arrived socially due to your marriage into your husband’s famous noble family; more importantly, however, your kind temperament speaks to the best that is noble in all of us. Thank you for maintaining real standards, not superficial ones.

Dear Luann,

I am the Founder and Director of a company, MANNERS DO MATTER... AND SO DO YOU! in Houston, Texas, in operation since 2001 and featured in BUSINESS WEEK MAGAZINE in 2003.

After watching tonight's episode of the show, I am thrilled to learn that you truly care about the importance of having good manners. However, I do have a few observations that I would like to share with you:

1. As my Aunt Bootsie would say, "Luann, Luann, strong and able, keep your elbows off the table".

2. The terms "manners" and "etiquette" have the same meaning.

3. A true lady should not use the word "pissed" to express how she feels on live TV, most especially if she and her book are to be taken seriously. Arguing and bickering in public is the poorest of manners.

4. One "scoops" their salad, never "stabs" their lettuce.

5. Never touch your hair or face while seated at a dinner table.

6. Your handbag is never placed on the dinner table.

7. Stemware, or your wine glass is never held by the bowl, but by the stem or base, only. The temperature of the wine may become too warm if you hold the glass by the bowl.

8. Luann, read, read, read! Read all of the original traditional books written by the very well-respected and knowledgable etiquette experts before you attempt to write your own book. Remember, you will be watched very closely for error at every corner, so learn as much as you can, quickly. Try to stay away from the so-called, "new manners". Try to stick to the traditional ways.

My best to you,

Karen B. Marlow

Common Folk Response When A Friend Has Good News: "Congratulations, you deserve your good fortune!"

Countess Who Wrote A Book On Etiquette Response When A Friend Has Good News: "Fantastic, are you sure you deserve your good fortune?"

Luann,
I'm sorry to say this to you but Ramona was not rude at all when she said your husband was an older man. She was speaking the truth. For you to go around saying whatever you want and claiming you always do the "classy" thing just makes no sense.
Your comment to Bethany was also rude, and your apology was fake. For someone who expects so much from other people, you should look in the mirror and stop making such a fuss. I think you're ridiculous!

Luann
You are balancing the world of Europe with the classic American lack of grace. They say "choose your enemies carefully or you will become like them". The same can be said for choosing your friends. With the exception of Alex with an Aussie husband and the sexuality of the very upper class, you are surrounded by people who have no clue of the world you live in with your husband. You hung in there pretty well in the recent attacks (both overt and so subtle that probably only 3% of the viewers noticed them.) I think this show is good for you as I suspect it will give you the grist to recognize within yourself that you were meant from birth to be a Countess. Keep your sense of humor... it is appreciated. Oh - and your husband? Old? No, no.. He's a Man - as opposed to being a Guy. That can be confusing for some.

Countess,

I just wanted to say how excited I was when I heard The American Cancer Society on the show! My family is all very involved with Relay For Life here in Clovis, Calfornia. We have had many friends and family touched by cancer and fighting back is our mission. We are currently fundraising and promoting our 2009 Relay which will be on May 16th and May 17th. Would it be possible to have a letter from you about how The American Cancer Society has affected your life, a letter that we might be able to read to our Relayers during our ceremony? Thank you so much!

Clovis Relay For Life

LuAnn,

I watched the episode regarding air brushing. It was your night??? Unbelievable!. That night was for the cancer patients, not you!

I think that Ramona's remark was rude, but you response was more rude. Stop running around calling yourself "countess." You sound ridiculous. You need to get over yourself. I am originally from NY, and I think that you along with the other women give all the housewives of NY a bad name. You're all about drama over the stupidest things. All of the women need to get over themselves. Why don't all of you commit to doing something for others - work at a homeless shelters without the cameras around. Seeing how others struggle with real issues will open all of your eyes, and, hopefully, it will show all of you that you complain about total BS.

You are an insecure woman who should not be giving anyone dating advice.

You need a reality check.

WOW!
It is incredible that you receive criticism for taking responsibility of your title as Countess. I hope your continued support, for your community and other affiliations for those in need, will prove to be an indication of your devotion to the betterment of life as well as the desire for societal bliss.
Great work and best wishes to you and yours in all future endeavors.

I don't understand why you're so mad at Ramona's comment about your husband being so old when you started it by inferring there was something wrong with Ramona dating a lot of men even though it was innocent fun. I think Bethany was right you passive aggresively slapped Ramona and Ramona slapped you back. You try to act like you have all these manners - what a joke.

I have a question about your etiquette and table manners. From which country are you getting your table manners from? I was taught table manners from my french grandmother, and they completely differ from american table manners. For example, where you place your hands. In France you must always keep both hands above the table at all times. To hide your hands is consider rude, who knows what you're hiding. But in America you don't know how many times I've had people try to correct me. There is other things that differ and it can be quite frustrating to me because Americans assume the way they do things is the only correct way and its just not true. I'm sorry French etiquette has been around waay longer than American.

Hi Luann, if you actually read this, I will be surprised, but I have to say, that your comment, as you said was about being protective, came across as quite the oppposite. For a non-model, getting the cover is really something! As a viewer, it seemed to me, that your reaction was less than enthusiastic and why mention the retouching at all? Then, when Bethany told you over lunch that her feelings were hurt, you suggested that she was overly sensitive. That, was dismissive... not a supportive friend comment at the least.

Really, Luann, if we care for our friends as I am sure you do care for Bethany, whenever we hurt their feelings, even if we feel that we didn't do anything intentionally, we make sure they know we did not mean to inflict harm. Your apology to Bethany was anything but sincere. Hopefully, in private, you have made amends. She deserves an apology from you for your insensitivity... on two occasions... and no, she is not (from what was shown on the episode), overly sensitive.

Oh, and BTW, I looked up the table knife design issue. Turns out Cardinal Richelieu with whom the current design is attributed, created the current design not because his dinner guests were stabbing each other, but rather picking food out of their teeth with the sharp point. Thought you might like to know. The research is online. Of course, I apologize for the correction, as I know it is bad manners.

You can't buy class and a title says nothing when you do not have any. Be a little more gracious. Vulnerability is an attractive quality. It is ok to admit you are wrong (Bethany) or that you are hurt (Ramona). If you had been more honest about either one of those situations you would be much more likeable. It seems you are constantly trying to prove that you have class and manners. If you really have them, you have nothing to prove.

Luann is great because she handles all of the other housewives in such a slick way. I dont think that she should have wasted time with the airbrush dig because she has been there done that with modeling in her hay day.

Your comment about this being your night at the hope lodge just shows how self centered you are. it was about the cancer patients not you.

What's with the American Indian reference in the show...Pocacountess?? What next LuAnn?

i was struck my luann referring to the dinner at hope lodge as her night and ramona ruined it. it wasnt luanns night -- it was hope lodges night. so that seemed self centered.

Hmmmm.... manners? I do believe that after you so rudely asked Bethanny if they would be retouching her photos, you said under your breath, "I hope so." We all heard it. Shame on you.