The "airbrush scandal"?! The first thing out of my mouth to Bethenny when she told me about the magazine was "Fantastic." When I asked her about retouching (every magazine is retouched) I was trying to help her, as I've had bad experiences with pictures that get retouched and you might not like the way they look. It had nothing to do with the way she looked, as we all know she's beautiful. It was about the process of making a good cover for a magazine. I was surprised she took it the way she did. I didn't think she was that sensitive. When I realized I hurt her feelings, I told her I was sorry. I really didn't mean to offend her.
I was inspired to write my book Class with the Countess because people are always asking my advice on everything from what to wear to knowing what to say, from table manners to how to radiate self confidence. It became obvious to me that people are confused about what is appropriate in a world in where anything goes. I think people are tired of being treated badly and seeing people behave badly.
I love you Countess LuAnn!!! That was not a nice thing for Ramona to say. I think Ramona assumed that you were insulting her method of meeting men, and she retaliated by making a rude comment about your husband in front of your daughter--not a classy moment. I love watching the show, stay fabulous!
I find it kind of interesting that you felt that Bethaney wanted to "attack" you and was coming at you like a dog with a bone ... but wow, weren't you doing the same with Ramona when she apologized and you wouldn't zip it at the American Cancer Society luncheon (a place where it would have been more appropriate for you to accept the apology and move on?) I thought Ramona looked like such the bigger person. You and Bethaney were having a private luncheon and she asked you about your "rude" comment to her ... which, frankly, just showed your jealousy. You, on the other hand, didn't apologize and just made excuses for what you said.
I think that the Retouching incident was taken out of proportion. You clearly congratulated her in the beginning and then later apologized sincerely. I just do not understand her need to be that persistent on the matter.
I so very much appreciate that you've taken the time this season to highlight the great cause of the American Cancer Society. Like you, I am a daughter who has lost a parent to cancer.
Showing up at a charity event is quite different than being there to truly give to a cause greater than yourself. Obviously you were at the Hope House for the residents- not to engage in the cattiness of your fellow cast mates.
I think you had every right to point out to Ramona how inappropriate her behavior. She really missed the boat that night.
Shame on Bethanny and Ramona for making that night about them- and not using the time and the forum they have on Bravo to do something better.
For the most part, I like you. HOwever, you were not very nice tonight. It was like the pot calling the kettle black. You reacted negatively to Ramona telling the truth about your husband looking old, yet you couldn't understand why Bethenny's feelings were hurt by your "retouching" comment. YOu should treat people the way you want to be treated.
I have news for you. ALL of you ladies behaved inappropriately in front of the cancer patients. The entire discussion was tasteless, from Bethenny's discussion of appearing in Social Life Magazine, to Ramona's discussion of dating, to your powerful reaction to Ramona's opinion of your husband.
My family and I sat with my stepmom through two major cancer surgeries, chemo, and radiation. The last thing patients need to hear about is your petty worries. They are busy worrying if they will a) LIVE b) look and feel normal again. I feel badly for the patients who had to listen to this rudeness.
You, Countess, as the authority on etiquette, should have put a stop to the discussion and taken your grievance with Ramona elsewhere.
I believe that both LuAnn and Ramona were out of line given that they were at Hope Lodge. If I were a victim to cancer and heard that exchange going on between the both of you, I would want to have left or not even be associated with such women. I understand the sensationalism of the show, but please, what Ramona said should have been addressed off camera. You both showed that having money does not necessarily indicate that one has class or manners, be it earned or acquired through a title. Shame on both of you.
I have to say, I think the way you reacted to Ramona's comment about your husband showed that you were in fact the ultra-sensitive one. Also, you may know etiquette, but you don't seem like a genuinley kind or well-mannered person when you say say things like "i was going to knock your head off" and "I'm pissed off."
A countess title doesn't make you a good person, or the Queen that rules the world. I thought it was really insensitive the way you dragged your housekeeper into the laundry room as soon as she walked in the door and started barking orders. Understand she works for you, but geeez.. have a heart?
LuAnn it's clear that you are an educated and sophisticated woman. You are dynamic and fun to watch. You may not realize it but you are coming off like you need to "zing" everyone.
While I think Ramona's comments in front of your daughter were completely inappropriate and wrong you could have handled it a lot better. Ramona was wrong to say what she did, but your response lacked class and seemed overboard.
You might have thought about pulling Ramona aside and letting her know that it was inappropriate for her to make comments about your fathers daughter. Instead you bursted out like a vamp. Not nice!
Bethenny was way off. She's very insecure and it showed. She couldn't let it go. Defending Ramona's poor behavior in front of your daughter. Can you imagine if anyone had made a rude comment about Mario in front of her daughter?
I hope Bethenny apologizes to you. This is the first time I thought she was way off. I now realize how fragile and insecure she is. She's so beautiful but so defensive.
I get quite a kick out of you. You want everything to be pleasant...lovely.
LuAnn, I just watched the episode and have to say that I am so impressed with how you handle yourself in every situation. Ramona is out of line and jealous of you. I can't believe she said that in front of your daughter, it was not right and I am glad you stood up for yourself in such a classy way. I really enjoy you on the show.
I love Bethany as well, and I think that was just miscommunication. You didn't mean to be rude and she took it like you did, and it happens between friends. But bravo to you for being so classy on the show. I think you are fantastic!
LuAnn love you but i think that was wrong. A true friend wouldn't say that. That should have been the last thing on your mind. And your becoming to over bearing about being "Classy" and your etiquette book. Seriously the Title needs a little work. Honestly a TRUE countess wouldn't come a show like this.
I have to say that you were my favorite to watch last season because you seemed a head above the rest of the ladies with their petty cat fights and backstabbing nonsense. However, it appears the show has gotten to your head this season, unfortunately. Perhaps it's editing; but if you are as arrogant in real life as Bravo portrays you, then it's no wonder that you find yourself in conflict with these ladies. You appear to be very caught up in the fact that you married into royalty. Ramona is abrasive, but you have a hard time reflecting on what you've said or how you've acted to admit when you may have contributed to a conversation that turns south.
Just from what we see on t.v. it's difficult to fully know every scenario, but from what I have seen it seems everyone only sees things from their own point of view and very rarely tries to see things from the other persons view point (always on the defense). I agree with your quote about people being tired of being treated badly and seeing bad behavior, there is such a lack of self-control and graciousness these days.
Go Momma Bear! LuAnn, I loved how your protective instinct kicked in and put Ramona in her mouthallmighty place. Victoria didn't sign up for this show, you did. And therefore Ramona's comments should've been kept to herself until the two of you were alone. I think she is a prime example of why you needed to write this book. Making comments in front of a 13 yr old about one of her parents is just plain trashy. Ramona is proof that having money doesn't give you class.
LuAnn, I'm not trying to be offensive, but I honestly can't find a lot of great things about you this season. The other women seem minor compared to your condescending remarks. Are they really necessary? I think you might have been rude to everyone you've come in contact with on the show.
You aren't better than anyone.. And I'm sure you don't mean to come off that way, but you are. I think you need to take a 2nd look at yourself and maybe reevaluate what class really is.. Because it certainly isn't you this season.
What is up with you this season? You are coming across very pretencious and it is not attractive. I believe that "poser" would apply to how you are behaving. Instead of correcting everyone elses behavior you should stake a good long look at yourself. Manners are great but depth of character is more important. I wish you well and hope you will consider these words.
Well i don't wanna be caddy, but in this episode you mention that beth took things too hard but you were just as bad when the conversation about your husband being twice your age you milked that even though ramona apologised a million times?
LuAnn, you are my second fav housewife (my fav is Alex) because you seem a bit more grounded and real and way less dramatic than the other three. But I have to admit I felt bad for Ramona when you were calling her out on the old husband comments. I don't actually like Ramona at all but I thought any minute she was going to burst into tears. If that had been me I would have told you to f off and walked off! But anyway, I still like you!
I believe you should re-think your book. Maybe visit the South and discover what true class is. A title is not class. That is your first misconception. You seem to think you are above others because of your marriage-that is a sure sign of "no" class.
All the best, but this lady is not buying it. Your book or your conceit.
Get over yourself.
I'm sorry LuAnn, but you did not come off well in this episode. Bethenny is like most other women in my opinion who would not appreciate one of the first things out of a friend's mouth to be so negative with the whole re-touching thing. Maybe later on if it came up or later in the conversation it MIGHT have been appropriate, but for someone who makes such a big deal out of social graces you made a huge faux pax. And as far as Ramona is concerned, yes, I agree she has a big mouth, but let's face it, you're husband is older and therefore yes, he does look older. On the other hand, its obvious for whatever reason you're sensitive about it, but jeeze, don't turn into one of those people where you can say anything you want and no one can say anything to you.
I think she already knows that the photos will be retouched as all magazines do but the way it was interjected into the conversation was in bad taste. It's like saying "Oh I love your dress but you could lose a few more pounds".
Countess: in tonight's episode, you went on & on to Ramona at Hope Lodge after she insulted you regarding your husband. Fast forward to lunch with Bethenny: you said that she wouldn't let the airbrushing comments go. See any pot maybe calling the kettle black here? Also, with all sincerity, it sounds like you may have asthma or another breathing problem; I hope you are in good health!
I thought the way you behaved on this episode, actually all season, has been extremely rude. I know we don't get to see everything, but some of your comments and the way you have been treating others is very unkind, and you would think for someone that is writing a book about manners that you would have some. I hope that the rest of this season you can be more pleasant.
I would like to draw your attention to the fact that you were slow to accept or even acknowledge Ramona's multiple apologies (for drawing attention to your husband's age) and you were quick to offer excuses to Bethany, when she asked you for an apology (for bringing up airbrushing). You even criticized Bethany for being overly sensitive, but you had the exact same let's-beat-the-dead-horse reaction as Bethany when you were upset with Ramona's comments. This double standard seems like bad publicity for someone with a book on etiquette. The show is a lot more fun to watch and you are probably more fun to be around when you are being you-- not the Countess. I'm glad Ramona tells it like it is.
Watching you put down everything Ramona was saying with such a condescending attitude was grating on my nerves. Your reaction to Ramona finally saying something back to you was so over the top. I'm surprised she was so calm after all your digs. If you were so concerned with your daughter sitting there, you would not have displayed such terrible behavior by degrading everything Romana and Bethenny were saying.
Then Bethenny tells you in private you hurt her feelings and you don't apologise. You sit there and make excuses and act so superior. You really seem out of touch with reality.
It is really sad to see a grown woman act so ridiculous and self-centered. I thought cooking for the cancer patients was about them but you managed to tell us it was your day and all about you. Wake up, you are behaving like a woman without any class or manners.
Yes, Ramona does not seem to have any regard in screening what's in her mind before it comes out of her mouth. But that's Ramona. Anyway, I thought you were visibly upset & quite caught off guard by the comment.And your first reaction was your true feelings. You will be well advised not to let people get to you at a function like that.It's very "uncountess-like" as Bethenny said.
LuAnn - I don't think you realize how ridiculous you look on TV. I hate to break it to you, sweetie, but your behavior makes you look classless and you happen to have written a book about having class. How ironic.
Dear Countess: I am an avid fan of the show. I appreciate the way you hold yourself to high standards, values, and manner. I'm also appreciative to learn that you are "American Indian" (Native American). How proud I felt, for you, when you mentioned how you've gone from being an American Indian from Conneticut to being a Countess.
I noticed your beautiful turquoise and fetish jewelry. Did you shop the southwest for them? Also, do you ever lend your time and efforts for the betterment of Native Americans?
Looking forward to upcoming episodes, Sharon Member, Nez Perce Tribe
l love the countess who seems to be the only wife with civility and common sense.Perhaps its that new england spirit!The rest of them are so touchy i wquidnot open my mouth!
Countess, I think your husband is very handsome and I wish we got to hear him talk more on the show, I love his accent. I think you and he make a lovely pair. My husband is 4 years younger than me, he is 33 but people have mistaken him for 46 because he is prematurely gray. Many like Ramona just don't know when to stop, one of my biggest pet peeves right now is people not watching what they say in front of children. Ramona was terribly rude and I just felt so badly for your beautiful daughter. You have a beautiful family! I enjoy watching the show.
You were correct to be angry with Ramona - that was a hurtful, tacky and inaccurate thing to say, especially in front of your daughter.
LuAnn I think you are great...but I found it interesting that you were so offended about the comment Ramona made yet you weren't more sensitive to hurting Bethenny's feelings. You kept going on and on to Ramona and then complained that Bethenny went on and on when you hurt her :) Really, who would care IF your husband was twice your age? He looks great.
Countess LuAnn, Thanks for being on the show. You have such a strong presence, and I admire you very much. I grew up partly in Europe, so I understand the need to teach edicate. Good manners is very important in Europe, but in the US people seem to brush it off for some reason. Edicate is very important, and I'm trying to raise my child with the same values. I also think, Bethanny needs to respect your title. As Sophia Lauren once said, " I am what I am".
I believe the quote was something like, "I went from being a Native American from Connecticut to being a countess." Do you still being Native American when you get married?
Countess, you overreacted. I don't know if the editing was over dramatic - but you overreacted with Ramona. There seems to be something underlying there that really touched a nerve. As far as Bethenny, I think she too overreacted however, why didn't you understand her hurt since you overreacted with Ramona's statement? Again, it very well could have been in the editing but I think you and Bethenny went overboard with your reactions to seemingly harmless statements.
luann, i think you are great...sometimes alittle full of yourself, but still great. i have to say, i was surprised at how you reacted to ramona. ramona is annoying and totally over the top, but you were crazed! especially when you said it was "your night"? i thought it was all about the cancer patients and their families? i think bethanny over-reacted to your "air brush" comment and showed how petty she really is. you all seem so aggressive and quick to confront each other. you all seem to talk about each other TO each other - alliances change every week!
Dear Countess, you are my favorite housewife by far. I was astonished at Ramona's comments. She is rude, but watching you handle it with grace only reinforced my opinion of you...class all the way. I think you should give the first available copy of Class with the Countess to Ramona. Cheers!
Luann you and jill are my favorite housewives and I feel you definatley can teach them all a thing about class. Especially the way you handled Ramona infront of your daughter. Bethany used that airbrushing thing as a way to stir the pot and make ratings for a poor attempt at a catfight. Luann definatly has more class than all of the housewives.......
Countess De Lesepp: I realize that you married into royalty. However, this does not excuse some of your behavior. (By the way, talking with food in your mouth as you did at lunch with Betheny, is one of the first rules of etiquette my mother taught me not to break.) I sometimes think that you believe that because you had a ring put on your finger you are better equipped to tell people what to think and do. En contrare. You are insensitive on a regular basis, both with your staff, your children, and your friends. You speak to others like your subjects rather than your equals. If you need to rely on and play the Countess card so often, you should move to Europe where royalty is an accepted way of life. Over here, you are judged by what you make of yourself and not who your parents are or who you marry. I dare say you do not feel they are your equals. You are in America, Countess. A quick look in the mirror, without the glare of your "royalty fixation," would help you to remind you that you will have to answer for how you treat others in this life in the next life.
I would definitely consider buying any book that you consider writing. I think you carry yourself with such class. You are so eloquent and hold yourself so well. You're an inspiraton. I personally didn't see any insulting remarks coming from you regarding Bethanny. If anything, if I were in her shoes, I would be grateful for any advice, being that you have experience in that field. That was a little puzzling to see Bethanny so upset. Can't wait for next week! Take care~
Hello LuAnn, You are by far my favorite character on a show with such an entertaining mixture of personalities. I know it is television, and to a certain degree, not always a true reflection of the moment. I think the situation with Bethany only became drama because she held in her response. As friend we just need to say that hurts and get a hug and an apology. We move on from there.
Ramona really has no tact. She is the reason women need to be taught etiquette. Each episode is her insulting at least one of the other cast members. Can she take a breath and THINK before opening her mouth? Besides, I don't think its anyone's place to judge who we love. It was further compounded by your daughter's hurt expression. Your book is needed! We all need it to bring grace and charm into our lives. This can be a road map to get there. Many blessings. Darlene
i am a magazine photo editor of 20+ years, and yes, every cover is retouched via Photoshop. prior to today's technology the method of airbrushing was used. if the magazine showed bethenny the photos prior to publication, then they were obviously giving her photo approval.some lifestyle magazines do this, but it is a definite no, no with a legit journalistic publication i.e. time, newsweek, the new york times, etc. it is a matter of journalistic ethics. don't know what her agreement was with the magazine, but she also could have asked for approval of the retouched cover image and inside layout. whether the magazine would have agreed to that part of the request, only they could answer that. you were right to bring it up, since some cover photos can look heinous and quite unflattering after the retouching process. many people are not savvy to how the industry works, so i think it was a fair comment. unfortunately, there might have been a better way of introducing it into the conversation.
I do enjoy watching you on the show! I think that both you and Bethany over reacted a little, they are just words and I don't think anything was said to mean. I will also enjoy reading your book when it is out, please keep us posted!
You were right to warn her; there's a website which collects dreadfully Photoshopped pictures - where an African-American becomes white, an old white man has his wrinkles ironed out so he looks less young than waxy and unnatural. It would be awful for Bethanney to see a bad job and think that she looked the way it showed her.
Luann, you used to be one of my favorites, but have fallen to one of the least favorites. What is happening with you this season? Everything about you lately oozes insecurity. Do you really need to tell everyone...including the pizza delivery guy on the phone that you're a Countess? It's getting old. And you're quick to tell people how they should act and behave, yet you do the opposite. You should take you're own advice.
I have never posted but feel I must....
Last night you were tearing Ramona to shreds regarding her comment about your husband. You would not let it die and she apologized numerous times. Yet you scoff at Bethenny for doing the same? Are you the only one with feelings? Seriously? What a shame. I hope it was in the editing but I doubt it was.
You also got up in public and told everyone to be quiet and respect the ladies at the event honoring you then you sat and proceeded to talk. Hypocritical? Yes.
Sorry Countess, but you do not set a great example.