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you could have told that little girl that she needed to be more healthy, not loose a few pounds. the proper thing was for you to explain to her what healthy means. real class is about knowing what to say and how to say it.

and by the way I heard an american cant accept a titttle, so can you explain your rational as to why you decided to call yourself the countess? Although i would accept the tittle b/c it does sound hot, but Iam just wondering your reason for it.

Enough with the weight thing !! The comment did sound out of place the way it was editted, but doesn't everyone realize that they edit the comments to cause the most controversy possible??? Does anyone know what was actually said before and after that comment?? Could it be that the young woman raised the weight issue herself, and that the comment made by Luann was in response to that, to reassure her, and give her a boost to try and loose the weight? The viewing audience will never know.

Hi LuAnn! I see the your housekeeper Rosie really loves your kids. Hope you treat her well...

Ok, so I wrote my comment on the wrong blog page (I am new to this) so I will say it again. I CANNOT believe that you said that to the poor girl. I don't care if it was because of editing or not. You should NEVER tell a young girl that she needs to drop a few pounds if you do not know her. If I was that girl I would have been mortified that you pointed that out if front of cameras. There is a time and a place for everything and you chose the wrong time to tell that poor girl she needed to lose weight. AND another thing, you are right, those girls don't care that you are a Countess, just like most of America. Those girls probably don't even know what a Countess is. Just keep giving your money, not your presence to those girls.

Luanne,
How could you tell that girl she has time to lose the weight?Just because someone is over weight doesn't mean she can't be a model.There are plus size models out there.Big is beautiful!!!!!Not every person in America is stick thin!!!!!!!!!!Next time think before you speak.

I don't care if it was editing or not, there should never be a time when you say the words you did to a little girl her age LuAnn. Even if the child stated she thinks she needs to lose weight, etc., and you're simply replying, you SHOULD just continue to focus and comment on the child's positives. That is horrible and children her age don't need a "reality check" about their bodies. They need confidence, confidence and more confidence to make it through the really tough times, like when others judge them...just you did LuAnn did when you commented on the girls weight.

OK--it is sooooo obvious that the "losing weight" comment was editing! I bet anything that the girl made a comment that she needed to lose weight to become a model and LuAnn was trying to be encouraging by saying that it is easy to do. Look at the girl's reaction--she looked happy, not offended! LuAnn would NEVER tell a child they are fat.

I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU CALLED THAT POOR LITTLE GIRL FAT!

CLARIFICATION, PLEASE!!!!!!

Just a quick note. I don't know if you think your fooling people or you have just fooled yourself. I've watched the show and I have never seen someone so fake. True to your real disposition, you showed your true colors at the Boys and Girls club. Please make sure you enclose in your book "How to pull your foot out of your mouth while you are trying to educate us on proper manners" People who have class are told they have class. They don't go around telling people they have it.

Luann,
There was a time when I could not stand you, and for that, I offer my apologies. Now, I find you to be the most honest of the cast. I love Bethenny, don't get me wrong, and I especially adore her sense of humor (perhaps it is because I am far too cynical myself, but people with such fabulous wit (I hope all those reading this can hear my dripping sarcasm!) are hiding something behind their sarcasm.

Anyways, at one time, I believed you to be pretentious, and I was just so wrong. You are not the least bit fake--your verbal missteps reinforce such a conclusion. I honestly don't believe you hold anything back while in the cameras; I think you are just so proud of how far you have come in life. You may be conceited and condescending, but I don't think you mean anything by it. I just think that you perceive your station in life as an earned stance. Kind of like a promotion...

Regardless, you are one of my favorites, and I will enjoy watching you in the future. Most of all, I have become convinced that you are really a person who puts their heart into charity. Others may scoff at me because of the impressions you warrant, but I think it is so.

I think you are fabulous! I just want to say that you are one of my favorite house wives. I think you are a great mother and friend. I think that you have done this show and maintained a lot of class. You, Bethany and Jill are my favorites! Stay true to who you are I think you are one of the classiest ladies I have seen in a long time.

Dear Mrs. de Lesseps,
I was so saddened to hear of your separation from the count. From the coverage of the show you have been shown to be a loyal and kind wife. Obviously this was not your fault. Stay strong for your children, they will need you to be their rock. God Bless and God Speed

Sorry Luann but you are self absorbed and obviously insecure. Again, we are Americans, we don't care if you are a countess. That wasn't something you earned, it's what you married. Get over it...and get some class please. How uncouth was it to make such a rude comment to that little girl. Did you tell her there is no Santa too? It's obvious thru the other posted comments that you do have some fans who think it is perfectly okay to make crass comments to little children but I'm betting most of us know better.

Enough with the "Class with the Countess" stuff already!

Love you luann. People all you heard was luann saying lose weight to that little girl. Come on editing comes into play here, and the whole conversation was edited for entertainment. Folks I don't think Luann is the witch that you are all making her out to be. Yes maybe her making sure everyone knows she is a Countess is tiresome, but she does a lot of wonderful things for the community, you definately have to give her credit for that.

Just a quick question.... What tribe are you from?

PLEASE LUANN !! Clarify what exactly happened before you made the comment to that little girl about losing weight.Please tell us maybe she said,"I want to be a model but I know I am overweight" And THEN you said to her."Well,losing weight is th easy part" Please clarify the situation...if it was due to editing etc.BUT if it was not due to editing,if you just flat out said something mean and nasty,maybe you should apologize.NO MAYBES ABOUT IT !!! APOLOGIZE if you need to.Don't write about all you good deeds to the club in your blog and act as if it wasn't said.Stand up for yourself OR APOLOGIZE.I have a sister who was overweight most of her life and childhood.We have an evil mother that pointed it out to her every chance she got.And she esp. enjoyed doing it in front of others.Like my sisters friends.I can still see tears quietly rolling down my sisters face when my "mother" told her "Maybe you should eat more salad instead of asking for more potatoes" In front of her friends and our cousin of the same age.My sister was 13 at the time.I was 11.I had never in my short life wanted someone to die...until that day.And I wished my mother would...or atrleast run away from home.Instead,it took another 6 months or so but my sister attempted suicide at the age of 14.She is 42 years old today and I truley believe she has never had a day in her life that she has felt good about herself.So please stand up for yourself or make the situation "right" Atleast as much as you can

LuAnn
News flash: there is no royalty in the US and you are no more royal than I am!. The countess title doesn't mean anything to anyone but you. You married a man with 3 failed marriages (are they still considered Countesses?). Class doesn't come from a book! Be proud of your Native American heritage!

You are the Jackie O of the 21st century. Classy and beautiful and always appropriate. You are graceful and a great mom and wonderful wife. The charity work that you do is amazing and giving back is great. Thank you for being a part of the show. Don't ever leave. You should get your own show, you would be wonderful. Come back for another season so I can watch and learn. You are not only a countess you are greatness.

Speaking about The Girl's Club and your comment the girl should loose some weight it was absolutely true. If she wanted to be a model, you cannot say Sure! go ahead! sign now for Elite! That it would be a lie and totally unrealistic for the girl. She knows now that in order to pursue her dreams, she has to work hard, like everybody else.

Maybe your comment not only it would make her a model but also much more healthier.

Oh LuAnn.....I like you so much and was disappointed to hear you tell the 10 yr old girl at the Boys and Girls club to lose weight! Come on, you know better than to say something like that!

For all of you that agree with Luann's comments, you are idiots. I was a chunky child and made fun of about my weight all the time. Whether or not it's the truth, it's not cool to say that to a child. I have had weight issues my whole life. At 19 years old, I starved myself down to 80 pounds and still thought I was fat. I didn't see any changes when I looked in the mirror. I shopped in the children's section for my clothes. I still struggle with eating to this day. Luann, use some tact. You obviously can't relate to today's youth. For the record, I'm African American. So for those that think that eating disorders don't happen in the black community, think again.

Shame on you!!! I don't care how many compliments you had for that little girl. The one insult about her weight negated all the rest. I was embarassed for her. As an African American mother, I wouldn't let you give my daughter a pep talk on self-esteem. It was obvious that you could not relate to those girls and they definitely did not relate to you. Please leave the self-esteem building activities to people who can look beyond physical appearances, money, and titles.

I must join the chorus of those who were concerned over the comment you made to the young lady about losing weight. It seems like such a flip thing, but that is all it takes to trigger an eating disorder in a young girl. As the mother of a 13 year old daughter who has recently been diagnosed with and is in treatment for an eating disorder, I cannot help but wonder if it was a similar seemingly innocent comment that brought this on in her. We will never know for sure, but I think as adults we need to be more sensitive to the pressures that these girls are under to be thin and work hard to lift them up not bring them down.

I really think that you meant well with the kids, but I don't think you were really able to relate to them.

When the girl talked about wanting to be a babbysitter, you should have not laughed. You should have instead related to her about your baby sitting career.

You should never tell a 10 year old to loose weight to be a model. I agree that someone needs to mention weight issues with children, but it should be up to their parents and Pediatricians.

You should not just have talked about being a countess. You should have explained your day to day life, the time you spend helping charities and time you spend with your children.

I guess it has been long since you have related to children that are not your own, but some practice will do you good

Dear Countess, You are beautiful on the outside and seem to be so on the inside, you are a good mom, a good person and you provide entertaining reality tv but someone as well versed in manners as you are should really practice the less is more rule when it comes to your constant Countess references. Please show us more LuLu and less Countesssss. NYC is in America right? The title that was bestowed upon your husband's family was done so in France so please try not to be so imposing with the title.

I have to tell you I thought your comment to the young lady who wants to become a model was rude. The show was about self esteem and what do you do...you tell her that if she loses weight she can become one. How about making her feel beautiful EXACTLY how she is? You crushed that girl..did you see her face after you said that? Unbelievable. Obviously a title does not give you class..you need to get over yourself. It's a shame because that girl will remember that always..the same way I remember the first time someone said something negative to me when I was 7..I'm 45 now. Luckily for me..the comment was not made on TV, nor will people see it in reruns. Shame on you!!

You are my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE and the most FABULOUS woman on the show!!!

LUANN IS A GOOD PERSON.AND I LUV HER NANNY.SHE SEEMS LIKE A SWEET DOWN TO EARTH NANNY THAT IN THE SAME TOKEN DOESNT TAKE ANY CRAP FROM THOSE KIDS.THEY REALLY REPECT HER AND IT SHOWS.THAT TELLS ME ALOT ABOUT LUANN///HE REAL LUANN.

LuAnn,

I think that you are a very beautiful woman, who is very confident in herself. But I do have some concerns when it comes to how you say things to people, I think that you have wonderful ideas and you have alot of input on things, like when Bethenny was doing Social Life Magazine, you made the statement about re-touching the photos, I think that you didn't mean it the way it sounded, but it was kind of harsh. In another situation with the little girl at the Boys & Girls Club, when she told you that she wanted to be a model, you stated that she had a beautiful face, I could tell this made her feel really great about herself,but then you told her that losing weight would not be hard, or something to that effect, I could really tell that hurt her feelings, I know that being overweight is a big issue,because I'm an overweight person but when a kid tells you her dreams, don't make her feel even worse about herself by telling her she needs to lose weight,Remember when Ramona told you how old your husband was? and the fact was that he wasn't? It made you feel bad & you didn't like that did you? but nevertheless, I still love you. Just be a little more sensitive with people.

Lou Ann,

I was very suprised to hear that you are a Native American!! But, name your tribe and it's not indian it's more approprate to say Native American-First Nations. You very much pride yourself on your husbands french family than your own heritage!! I understand that he is a Count but, he isn't of royalty here--never heard of him. And actually Lou Ann, Native American-First Nations were of royalty, depending on what tribe you came from.

Eiquette, manners and respect really should start from you, please stop writing that book if you don't follow your own advice. Being a Native American-First Nations people, respect goes along way. I really like you a lot but, it shows in poor taste when you told that young lady "the weight can be lost!" You are the role model at the time, and first impressions last forever, that first impression was very ugly.

Lou Ann, I love it when the Native American-First Nations people can be successful but, please don't disrepect others. You are a lady and you are my favorite one on the show, along with Jill and Bethenny.

Love the show ! However are you really full Native American or just a little? You just don't look like both of your parents are full blooded. If so I sure hope you have a chairty for them. Native Americans have the highest infant mortality rate in our nation.If your going to boast about your blood line then help your people.

LuAnn, I wouldn't worry about the comments of other viewers. I think you were just fine saying what you said to the heavy girl... you stressed that she has the underlying stuff, height and looks and she would have to lose weight to be a model... maybe you could go back and try and teach these girls about eating right and exercising, because if that girl was only 10 years old and was that big already, it will get harder to lose weight as she gets older!!

I hope that the way you act on the show is simply that . . . AN ACT!

Okay, I am british and have known many people who have been born with a title, and I don't recall any of them in the 30 odd years that I have known them to speak of their title. Please stop downgrading the family name that you have married into, one can be proud of one's family heritage without coming over as new money with a title.

Being a Countess does not make a person, nor does it bring class.

Luanne,

Anytime you're ready to be anonymous send me a note let's talk, I think you are the best!!

Please show some etiquette and get over the Countess thing..you are an American in America...we don't care.

The losing weight comment was tactless and hurtful...I really hope the producers edited out the girl asking you about her weight, otherwise you were very mean to that child...especially after your major tantrum to Ramona because she mentioned your husband's age in front of YOUR daughter!

LuAnn,

I don't usually watch these shows, but I caught you one evening, and found you to be the best. Good luck to you.

FACT
Anyone who wants to be a model cannot be obese. Plus size models are usually normal weight or somewhat overweight, not obese. LuAnn's comment related to the child's chosen goal and was not a personal indictment.The modeling world is very tough and judgmental in terms of looks. Don't you people watch MMASM on Bravo as well? Salome calls herself "the fat girl" because she actually possesses a visible rear end!

REALITY CHECK
The girl WILL need to lose weight or she will fail. How is telling her that "white oppression"? Is Salome white or black? Are the rules different for white models? Perhaps the kindest thing to do would be to re-direct the child's future goals to something more realistic.

Obese children develop serious health conditions. Apparently attempting to improve the child's health and future doesn't sit well on this board. What would the reaction be if the comment came from one of the black Housewives of Atlanta?

Countess Luann, you have a lot of class. I admire your style and grace. Very Princes Grace. I think your style is needed in this country. Plus I admire the charity work that you do. All of those people need to stop being negative. What have they done in their community to uplift someone. Nobody's perfect. We've all said something
that we which we could take back. Continue to be you.

I have to agree with the numerous comments regarding the trip to the Boys and Girls club. As a new mother of a baby girl and a speech pathologist in a public elementary school I have become very aware and concerned about the pressures society, family members, and even those trying to help, put on girls in regards to physical appearances. Perhaps you should reference some of your self proclaimed "manners and etiquette expertise". I can only hope that it is because of TV editing that there seems to be such frequent and egregious lapses in the dear Countess' manners.

Luann
At first, I didn't really care for you - just a tad too pompous, but you've certainly grown on me. Sorry to hear about your life changes, but you will be better off. You are so much bigger than this new situation and I'm sure you'll come out the better for it.

love you luann. you are a great role model and a countess all the way!

I am not sure who you think you are to tell a young girl that she needs to lose weight. No one caers if you are a countess or not. Get over yourself!

Yikes - you need to get over yourself. You seemed so uncomfortable around those girls. And etiquette? Your views are SO OUTDATED!!! Women who work, are independent, self made people are role models. Not someone who is riding on her husband's family's coattails.

Thank you for taking the time from your busy schedule to help the SMART girls. It sounds like a wonderful program. We admire your sincere effort in helping others as well as your grace and style. Perhaps Kelly could some lessons from you?

Wow LuAnn,

From the moment, the girls started their list your face read like a book. You need to understand that they won't have the same aspirations your children may have because of their backgrounds. Maybe, educating them on the many possibilities would have better served you.

You speak to everyone as if they are in your "circle". Its a shame that we didn't get to see the entire interaction but you did say what was shown. That being said, I commend you for trying to give back.

I thought that your going to the center and spending the one on one Time with those girls was great. Donating one's time to speak with girls and bond (basketball) and laugh and have fun with them is the best role modeling that adults, parents, siblings, teachers, therapists, counselors, coaches, etc. can do. Kids remember those times (THE INTERACTION AND FUN)..more than sitting in chairs talking. GOOD JOB, LUANN!! More people should donate their time with those in need of help..rather than all of the pretentious dinners, expensive parties that they throw for charity that end up costing more than they end up donating!! We all saw that on the Atlanta show. The ladies meant well, but, they fought and spent a ton of money on elaborate charity events that only included the rich and huge tax deductions. None of them ever actually take the time to meet the people they want to help..

With your background on “etiquette and manners” I find it absolutely unforgivable to tell a 10-year old she had plenty of time to “work with her weight”. That goes beyond bad manners to just plain playground mean. You were there for a self –esteem class, I thought, to help them build it up. Instead, you tore hers down. Shame on you! Just because you’re a countess, which by the way, I’m tired of hearing about, apparently doesn’t make you an expert on good behavior! I don’t agree that it was well meaning or that you were caught off guard. If your manners were at work, you could have handled that way differently.

You'll always be a first class Countess! Hang in there...life goes on and gets better.

Sometimes we need a dose of reality to return our focus inward vrs criticizing the world. You give great advice, I suggest you take some of it.

A self-esteem lesson should be one that elicits a confidence and pride about oneself. While yes you presented yourself as a secure woman, you presented a facade--a woman who prides herself on her courtesy and her manners, yet one who defies these ideals. . Not only will the girl you told to "lose weight" to is bound to feel bad, but how will the others now take what you say as worth. I was really disappointed to see this, as I would not envision a book writer on etiquette and decency reveal such a critical and judgmental nature. I imagine myself as that girl, and I have to say that your comment would have stayed with me for my entire life. I am sorry to say that, but I feel horrible for that little ten year old girl and all the others in the room, let alone those watching the show.

I COMPLETELY agree with 'unimpressed viewer.' You might have meant well, but you came off as completely condescending to those girls. It seems like you do these charities more for yourself than for the people you are trying to help! Ever thought about downplaying it a little? Next time you go into a Boys and Girls Club in a low SES neighborhood, wear jeans, a t-shirt and sneakers. Come down to their level, don't expect them to try to climb to yours. Not going to happen!!!!!! Those girls' outfits probably cost less than half of one of your boots!!!! Mentoring is all about relating with others to build them up, not trying to get others to strive to be something they are not or don't want to be. Wow, I need to stop now, I'm getting all sorts of worked up.....

Oh come on people. A chubby girl says she wants to be a model and LuAnne is supposed to say - great, you'd be perfect. What a way to set up a child for failure. Obesity in children is a serious issue. Ignoring it is unhealthy for the child.

Your comment to the little African American girl was painful, but has a definate reality to it. I am sure you realize now you should not have made such a comment to her in front of friends, and on national TV. But childhood obesity is a real problem, and someone should be helping that little girl with her eating habits, and healthy eating. It is a reality that people don't want to face when it comes to our kids being over-weight. So while the timing was awful, the concern was true. Also, please, please, please stop talking to "everyone you meet" about the Countess thing. You live in America, you married the so called title, so in reality it's something that just makes you look foolish when you bring it up. You would be far smarter, and more interesting to talk about some of your harder to come by accomplishments. Give it some thought, and please realize this isn't being said out of envy, it's being said because you truly have better things to offer.

LuAnn,
Just a quick note to tell you I think you are a classy lady. I am sorry to hear of the problems with your marriage. It is his loss. And please ignore bad comments by rude people - I think they are just jealous.

Though the weight loss comment was unexpected and a little inappropriate, I am more disgusted by all of the posts accusing you of potentially causing her to have an eating disorder. Child-hood obesity is one of the biggest problems our kids face today. And children who are obese are more at risk for heart disease, diabetes, and numerous other adult diseases. Too much tv, too much junk food, and not enough exercise. If you go back, please emphasis healthy eating, exercise, and healthy self-image to all of the girls, not just potential models. Weight is less important than being healthy. Love that you played hoops with them!

"Don't get mad. Get everything." - Ivana Trump

Out of all the ladies on the show you are the most respectfull and lovely lady. You are from the old school. I admire that very much and so should everyone else. Your children are going to be wonderful adults. You are doing a wonderful job with both of them. It is very odvious that they respect you and care what you think of them. I thought you were right to go after Ramona when she attacked you over the age of you husband. Your daughter saw how hurt you were, yet you were upset over your daughter having to listen to an ignorant woman go on and on. I would of felt the same way.
LuAnn I agree with Rob S. and totally disagree with Chelle T. She seems to forget that you told the little girl that she had a beautiful face. I also do agree with Michelle, I do think the child was messing with you.
I admired the way you handled yourself at the fundraiser meeting. Bethenny went off on Kelly and I saw your face. I knew what you were thinking. The meeting was Jill's, Bethenny had no business expressing what she thought. She made a fool out of herself. Kelly was right.You should be asked if you want to be on the committee, not told. In the end, Kelly came out to be the star. It made me like Kelly because she really cares to help. She does not want the glory. I can see why you like her.
Good luck to you, stay as beautiful as you are.

LuAnn, you are really not all that interesting as you think you are. Inner city children are definitely not interested in what the "countess" has to say. You are not a role model-you just think you are. You probably spend time on these charities because they make you feel better about yourself. Get real and get over yourself. If you are still writing a book about manners, teach your children to chew with their mouths closed!

I dont think LuAnn meant to be rude to the 10year old girl, she should have said something else besides "losing weight". She will eventually lose all that weight once she hits that teen girl years, when she starts to take more pride in her appearance. Luann should visit with her again to tell her she was not trying to hurt her feelings on national tv, as a mother would to their child. Keep inspiring young girls LuAnn, we need to see more women who have CLASS.

LuAnn,

You were one of my favorites on season 1. Not anymore. Have you had a knock on the head recently? Class and Manners? Really? Do you get physically ill when you watch yourself? I most certainly do. You can only be described as a "self-indulgent-self-serving-thinks-she-knows-it-all-snob". Oops, where are my manners...

These comments for the castmate blogs are a joke!!!!! I have been a loyal viewer and have tried to make comments many, many times and have NEVER ONCE had my comment put up....What is up with that??? My comments are not half as rude as many I have seen - they have been a mixture of positive and negative opinions....what gives Bravo????
and I am not the only person to complain about this, there have been many viewers who have written on the boards about never having their comments printed.

Luann,

I love your sense of style! You are always dressed appropriately yet stylish and sexy! you keep the class and stay sexy which i love!

keep lookin hott!

I guess its nice to see where several viewers really love you, and I did as well last season. But, you have traveled in areas that are best left alone (or unsaid). You DID NOT have to say anything to Bethanny about the pictures and airbrushing, I believe the magazine have an abundance of professionals that can make that assesment better than you. Also, you really showed yourself when Ramona made a remake about the age of the count, who cares, it was embarrasing to your daughter. I believe that you really feel your importance in the world but you don't impress me, your pretend, imitation manners are so fake and misleading.

LuAnn
I am a big fan of the housewife series and i just wanted you to know that you are my favorite along with jill and bethany you are a wonderful and smart lady you definitely make the show worth watching for me and my husband

Countess!
If you ever want to go out with a hot confident 43 yr old WOMAN
please call me!

Luann,
I am writing you because I am confused about something. I really like you and so I am not sure if maybe for entertainment purposes they have edited the show to make you appear a certain way or if thats how you are for real. Something you said that struck me funny is how the girls were very grateful for you taking time out of your day to spend with them. I have found when I am working with youth in a volunteer or charitable way its me who reeps the benefits. I feel blessed that the kids take time out of their day for me. So I guess I'm wondering if you do charity work because your truly touched and want to give back or if you like the recognition you receive when you do it. Please don't get me wrong I think that all that you do is wonderful and a lot of hard work that is really not seen on the show. I just wonder what is your motive and if its coming from a good place or not so good place in your heart?

Humility, or being humble, is the defining characteristic of an unpretentious and modest person, someone who does not think that he or she is better or more important than others.

I love your show and I am not trying to insult your integrity. Good luck in all that you do!!!

I love that you "give back". However, I really do not feel you connected with the girls the way you could have. These girls have no idea what the Suez Canal is much less what a Countess is. The next time I believe you should be more on their level. These girls goals are not to be NY Society or Countesses. Of course, they can reach those goals but I believe theirs are more simple. Keeping a family together, getting off of welfare, staying out of gangs and off drugs. These girls need to know how to take advantage of any opportunity that presents itself.

LuAnn,
Those of us who were raised in the Deep South know a thing or two about being genteel, hospitable, and exhibiting proper manners and ettiquette. We are taught such things as soon as we begin to speak. Consequently, I am unimpressed with your declarations of what is proper and what is not. My grandmother spent a great deal of time emphasizing the importance of being "well bred", and manners is only a portion of the total package. I would say, that you appeared quite condescending (which you usually do) at the Boys and Girls Club. The very definition of graciousness is to overlook the shortcomings of others, especially chubby little girls!

LuAnn, I love the show because of you. You are a very beautiful person in and out.

Love,

Nadia

LuAnn, I think you are a modern classy lady. You are beautiful and I know that you will do just find without your husband. You deserve better. Please don't pay attention to the rude people that sometimes write you.

LuLu please stop talking about writing an etiquette book and blowing your own trumpet until you learn how to be kind and diplomatic. The comment to that poor little girl about losing weight was cruel to say the least and this was coming from someone who always preaches "making others feel comfortable". What you did was unforgivable!

Thank God my child gets her mentoring from her parents and church family, AND FROM PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY HAVE GONE THE WORK !

I watched last night's episode with great anticipation as you were talking to the young lady wanting to be a model. It seemed to me that you were doing your best to cushion the "lose weight" remark. The fact is, that will be necessary if this young woman would wants to become a model...it's sad but so true. I'm painfully aware of remarks and society's opinions effect on eating disorders....I've studied them for decades and have had people close to me struggle with them. You were just being realistic. You haven't always been as careful with your comments in other shows, but I really didn't feel like you were trying to slight this girl by telling her the truth.

I hope that behind the cameras you approached the girl and raised her confidence level up a bit. If not, you should go back to her (if you are allowed back at the B&G Club) and offer her advise and guidance. Maybe help out her parents. Did you ever think that since she may be underprivelged maybe her parents can't afford healthy food like fruits and veggies which are a lot more expensive then mac and cheese? Since you have Rosie raising your children and running your household, maybe you can find the time to acutally do some good!
FYI: In America you earn titles like Doctor, Rev, Senator....we left countries with royal titles a long time ago, maybe you should include that in your "history" lessons.

I love to watch this show. I am a misplaced NY'er and miss seeing the Big Apple. I have a question: Were you a smoker? and are they your teeth with caps on them?

Sorry to hear about your break up with the count. Has it been along time coming?

i saw on people.com that you and your husband split up. you've got our support! you should enlist jill in the creation of "Team LuAnn" t-shirts!

LuAnn,
I really do think you are a nice person and I love the fact that you believe to "give back" to the community. Even though the weight comment seemed insensitive, I do think that childhood obesity is an epidemic in our country and if we don't make a conscious effort in teaching our children to be healthy and not just thin, we are going to be dealing with much worse medical conditions in the future in our population from diabetes to heart disease. Maybe LuAnn your next venture could be fighting against childhood obesity?

Countess - visiting and spending time with the young girls was nice but... someone needs to speak to you about talking to children. That's twice now - the first was when that young gal asked you if it was appropriate to cut up all the meat at once, or cut one piece at a time. (I have seen MANY adults cut up all their meat at once and it, of course, displays a lack of manners). This girl was asking you a legimate question and you laughed at her. Ever thought about saying something like "good question!" The heavy girl that wants to be a model, you did a "dream killer" moment. Don't you know when a child says that they want to be "the president, the king, a teacher" you always agree and tell them they'd be wonderful. As adults they will realize their limitations.

LuAnn,
I have to say that you and Bethenny are my very favorite housewives. I think you always display such elegance and class, and you have a way of including all around you. While I thought your comment to the 10 year old was inappropriate, if she wants to truly go the modeling route, she's going to be told to lose weight countless times. Even skinny girls are told to lose weight in the modeling world.

Also, I just read your article on people.com about your split from your husband. I just wanted to tell you to hang in there. I'm sure you and your kids are going through a tough time right now, but keep your head up. He cheated on you; you've done nothing wrong. God bless you and hang in there!

Lu Ann,
I think that the girls did really enjoy you playing with them and hugging them. I believe that is what they really care about, someone who is willing to spend time with them. I did feel bad for that little girl, I think you being a former model, and have lived through being critiqued on weight probably all the time, don't really take those kind of comments personally. An overweight little girl, would definitely get their feelings hurt. I do although believe that childhood obesity is something that our society is ignoring and good nutrition as well as exercise is something that has to be taught at a young age. Maybe taking on childhood obesity could be your next venture?

LuAnn,

I think you have many sterling qualities. The fact that you give up some of your free time to help and encourage others is an example of one of these qualities. However, you were condescending to the little girls you visited. That is not classy; that's classless. Your comment to the little girl about her weight, and laughing at the little girl who wants to nanny, prove that you're too self-absorbed to be a role model. Children aren't impressed by titles and stories about canals they've never heard of. They are impressed, however, with kindness and sincerity. Check yourself, LuAnn, before you go on another "charity" mission.

I am off to pre-order your book for my niece who will be attending college for the first time this fall. I anticipate that it will be a perfect guide on modern manners and 'just the ticket' for a young lady entering a new social chapter in her life. The Real Housewives of NYC is my one reality show guilty pleasure. I adore the silliness alongside the sophistication and find each lady quite likable and very entertaining. I wish you much success and hope your book is especially prized this graduation season as an essential for a young lady who is leaving home for the first time.

I agree with the viewer who said that the show is edited and of course it is edited to get the most "bang" out of the show.

I think the overall big picture is that you gave your time and yourself to these young ladies and I feel it is more than those do who are complaining. I understood your story about going from American Indian to a Countess and it wasn't about bragging rights. You were telling them that anything is possible to achieve if they put their minds and hard work towards attaining their goals. Thank you for caring and giving to our young girls. I am proud that you are part of the "Sisterhood."

Why do you think marrying someone with a title is an accomplishment? Did Gloria Steniem and the babyboomer generation of women teach you NOTHING?

your the reason why im watching

Hey, Countess
Things that came out of your pretty mouth don't always sound like you intended them to be but you are fun to watch with your ta-ta way. I, too, shift my fav. between different NY housewives. This show is getting very popular among college kids. It's great to study group dynamics and idiosyncrasies among the elite fools.

I agree with some other viewers about your comment to the little girl about weight. At one point you actually said that losing weight was easy. Seriously??? Have you ever had to lose more than ten pounds without a personal chef and trainer? Countess, welcome to our world. Losing weight is NOT easy for most of us without titles and celebrity wealth. We have real jobs and cannot afford your luxuries, nor do we have the time. I know you were trying to make the girls feel comfortable with you and I think it's great that you volunteer as much as you do, but this was awkward and painful to watch. They need a more realistic role model.

The thing that I appreciate in everything you do is all of your charity work. You are truly giving of yourself. All of us have personality quirks and none of us are perfect, however, you demonstrate sincere kindness with your dedication to helping others. Thank-you for not getting too involved in the pettiness and showing that a privileged person should share their privilege with those less fortunate.