Apartment hunting was fun because I was really looking forward to starting fresh with a new apartment in New York. I forgot how expensive NYC could be. So much money for so little space! Having my good friend and interior designer Bill Stubbs with me was a Godsend because he knows me well and could quickly decide whether or not an apartment would work for my family.
In this episode, I’m looking at downtown apartments because I love going out downtown, but I decided it’s a better destination than a residence. I like to live in a neighborhood that isn’t so casual, where people make an effort to look good when they leave the house. Also, I need a doorman building now that Rosie is gone and the children are teenagers. I was open to trying something new by living downtown but after visiting the neighborhood, I decided to focus on the Upper East Side.
I had a great time at dinner with Kelly and Sonja. We all have a lot of joie de vivre and share many of the same friends. I think that Sonja is very open about her personal life while Kelly is more reserved, which makes for very interesting dinner conversation.
I was very surprised when Kelly said she wanted more children. Being a single mother isn’t easy, but having a new baby is even harder. I hope that Kelly marries the man of her dreams (pool playing, beer drinking and Met going) and wish her luck finding the right guy.
I like you and don't like you. I don't know what it is that I do like about you - your sense of humor maybe, your sense of decorum. UNTIL you decide that you need to get in other people's faces. Like Mario & Bethany at the Gotham Party!!!
If you had people coming up demanding apologies everytime you snarked behind their backs, we'd never see your face! Yet you think you have to keep harping on an apology from Bethany & Mario. True, what they said was tacky. It would be nice if they apologized. But when they don't, then DROP IT!
About the apartment - I truly wish you the best on finding a good home in the city. Perhaps you've already found an apt. I'm sure you'll make it a nice place as you also have great taste.
Dear LuAnn, I once found you a joy to watch. I respect your ability to separate yourself from the show's demands and thought you showed tact - often misunderstood tact. The show, I understand is edited and there is so much that happens so fast etc. But here on your blog you are not edited by anyone but yourself - I presume. That said, please, after validating how expensive NYC is, do not then proceed to put down downtown for its false inability to dress up. This is one untrue and two highly insulting to those of us who cannot afford the expensive uptown zipcode. I realize Kelly dropped the statement first, but I believe she meant it as a sort of you can let your hair down remark. I have worked uptown for over 15 years and make my living working with clients much like yourself, who I believe over time loose track of reality outside the Hamptons / Uptown / Resort mentality and crew of people. This is a wonderful group of people, but other equally wonderful realities exist outside of this expensive exclusive club. To loose track of this is a discredit to yourself. I am sure the loss of your husband and the loss of married money/luxuries are a humbling experience. A experience to perhaps embrace and enjoy - as a life free of unneccessary self placed expectations is a life lived in a much larger world.
LuAnn, Why do you make everything about you??? You cornered Ramona's husband and then Bethenney. Why??? These two have opinions of you and rather you like it or not that is how the feel.They don't have to change their mind just because you don't like it. And the way you have acted this season they hit it right on the mark.
Dear Countess de Lesepps,
I love watching the show and all you lovely ladies of NYC are very entertaining. I watched the show last night and was glad to see that you congratulated Bethenny on her engagement. While I am sure it was well-intentioned, shouldn't the self-proclaimed etiquette guru be aware that it is not quite proper to congratulate a bride-to-be?
Sincerely, Molly in Cleveland
I don't agree that Jill did the right thing -- if she really cared about Bethanny she would not have left the table as soon as B arrived, and once she heard the news of the engagement, her response would have been more immediate. Jill's actions are that of a woman who is more concerned about what people think about her rather than how much she cares about B. Too little too late for me Jill.
I think you are the most beautiful and the kindest of all the NY women, and I don't understand all the Countess bashing going on this year. It seems that you have gone through so much this year, are vurnerable, but people seem to want to kick you while you are down.
LuAnn, Did you really think it was appropriate to confront Bethenny about the snake comment when she was there celebrating her big news? Couldn't you call her or talk to her at a different time? You didn't think it was appropriate to discuss it with her at a fashion show. So why was it o.k. now? And honestly, you need to let that countless comment go for crying out loud. Don't hold onto these things for so long. It isn't healthy.
Rude to speak one of your "extra" languages in front of others, just so some will not understand - should have excused yourself with Mario.
You're always mentioning on the show how the Housewives like to take on conversations at inappropriate times and here you were doing the same thing with Mario AND Bethanny at the Gotham party. I'm starting to wonder if someone else wrote your book on manners. As for Jill, I thought she caused too much of a scene at the party. She could have made a more graceful exit when Bethanny arrived and to go on and on about Bethanny's ring after not having wanted to speak to her all this time is 100% disingenuous.
LuAnn- I cannot believe you took the party as an opportunity to confront Bethenny. That was horribly rude and disrespectful. It was not the time or place for that type of conversation. I hope you have since apologized.
LUANN, I LOVE YOUR STYLE!! I HOPE YOU FIND THE MAN OF YOUR DREAMS AND A NICE APARTMENT TOO. YOU NEVER STOOP TO THE LEVEL OF THE OTHER HOUSEWIVES, YOU ALWAYS STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF.KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK , COUNTESS!!!!!!
I really admired you this week because you were charming, caring and supportive of everyone around you. It was interesting to see what New York has to offer in terms of real estate. I hope you find the home you want at a reasonable price range for you. It seems that you are blossoming since your divorce, which is very nice to see. I was glad to see you wishing Bethany and Jason happiness in their upcoming marriage. You rose to the occasion by approaching them, even though Jill would not, and I understand how you broke the ice by making a joke about the snake comment Bethany gave you a few weeks ago. Your sense of humor was great with Kelly and Sonja. You were my favorite housewife this week!
Luanne. Let it rest already. Demanding apologies? AGAIN? I feel for you because you're re-building your life, but honestly just move ON already. And for once? Just try being kind. Be a KIND person. Don't smile while you get in one more little put down. It doesn't become you or anyone.
Luann : i am a huge nyc fan since the show started, but i can't help say that i think that it should have been best for u to stay out of the diagreement between jill and bethenny and ramonna should have also. best of luck to u and kids. i do think u are a class act,but i think your remarks when u met bethenny for drinks could have been worded better and with more class than bringing up what happened after scuba diving over a year later?? it is more healthy not to harbor the old feelings and just try to get them out when they bother you .
It was pretty rude of you to bring up the snake comment when B was announcing her engagement. That wasn't the appropriate time at all. Do you have to make everything about you?
Why can't you let the smallest slight go...you make such a big deal of everything and continue to drag it out that whenever you're on camera is such a drag to watch.
Dear Luaan, Donot hang out with Jill. You both bring worst out of each others. when I see you with other girls u are nice. but with Jill every thing changes.... Stay far away from Jill
This was a better week for you LuAnn. The only issue I have with you is your entitlement factor and again you showed it when you congratulated Bethenny and took issue with Mario. Instead of simply congratulating her you turned what should have been a simple sentence into something about YOU again! The world does not revolve around you and your feelings. This was not the time or place to have brought this up to Bethenny or Mario... again.
Figuratively speaking you have such a facad about you and I can't pinpoint it. You seem like you'd be such a fun, easy going, even somewhat wild woman yet you hold back because of what others might think. Take a cue from Ramona, view your divorce as a time to renew. Don't care what others think and LIVE! Life is too short.
Luanne: If I stop watching the show, it's going to be because of you. I found your behavior last night to be quite childish and innapropriate. While you always talk about the time and place to do things, daaahling -- you failed to read your own memo last night. Why in the world did you think it was appropriate to mention Bethenny's snake comment and ask for an apology while she was announcing her engagement? Why couldn't you just let her enjoy her big moment. You'd be upset if someone did that to you. Also, I was proud of you for going over and congratulating her, but then you ruined it with bringing up the past. Also, please stop trying to protect Jill. It is none of your business.
LuAnn, I really think you came off as "too much me" , the world does not revolve around you. And please, for someone with so called class, I think you should have behaved yourself and just let go. You seem to always contradict yourself just like your bff Jill.
Jill did not do the right thing, she did the exact opposite of the right thing. That night should have been AMAZING for Bethenny and Jill just couldn't go over to her and say congratulations. How childish of Jill to leave the table as soon as Bethenny arrived. She is a grown woman she should behave better than that.
Welcome to the REAL world LuAnn! Yes, we do have to live on a budget - oh, and yes we do look at the prices of our living quarters. Shocking isn't it!!!
Must have been watching a different show than I was. Jill did not rise to the occasion. She stumbled into the occasion and then inelegantly and stupidly focused on the ring and nothing else. Your comment to B was equally as bad. What you should have said, and what would have been good manners to say, is simply "Congratulations on your engagement. I'm very happy for you both." To put in the dig about "even though you called me a snake" negated any class or possitivity that could have been gained from your comment. You and Jill snark at everyone else for being inappropriate and not letting things go and you are the worst offenders of everything, including bad manners. Grow up and get a life.
Discreet is an adjective meaning “to be careful not to cause embarrassment or attract too much attention”. Discrete is an adjective meaning “separate
You should have dropped trying to get an apology from Mario a long time ago! And that wasn't the place to bring it up again.
As if you didn't know speaking in Italian wasn't going to get you attention! Are you sure you just didn't want everyone to know you speak Italian??? LOL.
LuAnn, I think Mario hit the nail on the head. Your behavior this season continues to prove him right. This country was founded on NO TITLES. Clearly, you continuing to carry one around is absurd. Welcome to America, where everyone is on the same playing level.
Jill was awkward with Bethenny and it's never cool to comment on the size of the ring. Very crass. The only exception would be if you were with a very close friend and speaking in private.
HOLY EGOMANIACS...YOU CAN'T LIVE DOWNTOWN BECAUSE THEY DON'T DRESS TO YOUR STANDARDS??? LUCKY DOWNTOWN... IF I WERE JILL I'D LOOK OUT...YOU SEEM TO BE SUCKING UP TO YOUR NEXT VICTIM... POOR SONYA... OR NOT??? AFTER ALL BIRDS OF A FEATHER... SHE SHOULD GET OUT NOW...
I cannot understand why at every single event LuAnn attends she brings up past dramas immediately on the handshake (or double cheek kiss) "why did you say that, why haven't you apologized"...etc. If these issues are so important meet with the person one on one and discuss it. You weren't invited to cause more drama....
WOW! I don't normally leave comments on blogs but I am afraid LuAnn you have pushed me to it! Whether you are on Team Jill or Team Bethenny or Team Whomever, it is astounding to me that you made the comment about Jill rising to the occasion. The truth of the matter is that, as it was shown, Jill's behavior at the party was despicable and completely childish, especially in light of Bethenny's engagement. Rose to the occasion? I think not, and shame on you for pretending that she did.
Countess, Good luck in your apartment search. Something great will arise, and you will know it the minute you see it, just like finding the right man once again. You are fabulous! Also, it was so impressive and enjoyable to hear you speak Italian, even if it was to square things away with Mario once and for all.
Rehashing the "snake" remark as you are congratulating someone on their engagement is the absolute height of your many "classless" remarks this season. No wonder you are the least favored housewife.
So I guess that appropriate timing only applies to others in your world??? How could you choose that night of all nights to attack Bethany and demand an appology? I know better than that and I am not the author of a book on manners and class! Luann you need to learn to let things go a little bit otherwise you will turn into the "snake" that Benthany said you were. It seems that all you do this season is spit venom at your fellow housewives. I was physically ill watching your behavior with your pal Jill who hasn't blogged yet. She is still waiting to write anything until after everyone else has blogged so that once again she will have the last word. Things that make you go hmmmm???
I can see you and Jill on the phone with her dictating . . . "Be sure to say that I do the right thing". I know this is her manta this year but talk is cheap and her actions speak volumes. Jill needs to concentrate on doing the right thing instead of just yapping about it. I hope she takes the lessons she is to learn this year seriously. She treats people horribly. Bobby is a saint. Jill . . . stop making excuses for your behavior . . . and listen to what people are saying and writing. This is an opportunity for you to grow into a better and more mature person. Yes it will be difficult but that pain is necessary in order for you to change. It's LONG overdue.
'Congratulations, you owe me an apology?' Why is everything about you? I thought, according to you there is a time and place for everything and this wasn't it! I was really hoping Mario would tell you where to stick it..in Italian of course.
If you didn't make such a big deal out of the "countless" comment, it would have gone away. Now, that's your nickname. Also, sorry that you felt it necessary to speak in Italian to Mario... just let it go. Life is too short.
LuAnn, What happened to you?. I mean when the show first aired you were by far the one woman that carried herself with alot of Class.. You really didn't engage in gossip, You tried to hear everyone and stay neutral. Now you meddle, gossip etc.. Take a momment and look at yourself then and now..
I'm confused at your confusion about Bethenny's being upset with you and calling you a snake.
You insinuated yourself in an argument between Bethenny and Jill. After listening to a private voice mail that Bethenny left Jill, and that Jill broadcast in front of you and in front of cameras, you never asked about the message. You never attempted to understand Bethenny's side of the argument. You egged on Jill's antipathy instead of trying to help her reconcile with Jill.
While you may say that you are Jill's friend, and that it wasn't your business, you let this argument be your business as long as it suited you.
Perhaps THAT is why Bethenny was upset with you.
It's always about you isn't it? "Congratulations on your engagement - now what about you calling me a snake?" What the heck? Time and place countLESS - time and place!
Really LuAnne?? Was approaching B like that necessary MOMENTS after she announces her engagement? You couldn't say "Congratulations, I'm so happy for you (as you claim you were). I'd also like to speak to you alone when you have a moment but not tonight.. enjoy!!" That would have been a classy thing to do, I would think. I don't know what to call what you did.