Rosie leaving us had a big effect on our household. She couldn’t have picked a worse time. But we moved so I understand the commute was too long for her. Nonetheless, I was really happy to see her and so were the kids. I’m grateful that even though she isn’t working for us anymore, she remains a friend. I am not as close with our current housekeeper as she’s fairly new, but I hope that she enjoys working for our family as much as Rosie did.
Rosie was with me through the worst part of my break-up so it isn’t surprising that she worries about me. I love that about her. I am getting happier and I’m moving forward with my life. I think Rosie left this visit feeling much better about my state of mind.
I was worried when Kelly said that she had to tell us something before it came out in the press. I thought she was in some sort of trouble. Instead, she had exciting news to share with us.
My first reaction when Kelly told us about Playboy was, what will her children think? I think it’s very hard for children at a young age to understand why their mother would want to pose nude. Hopefully the situation is easier for them since her husband took the photos and they attended the shoot. I think that Kelly's girls will be proud of their mother when they are old enough to read the magazine! Until then, I think it's best to keep the details vague until they are old enough to understand.
One of my mottos is, "Never complain and never explain." If Alex didn’t want to come to my house for the party, she should have just said that she couldn’t make it. Instead, she felt compelled to share how Ramona bullied her into staying at her party. Alex is a big girl and can make her own choices.
Countess, I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. I've been through one and even when there's nothing left of the relationship (in my case) it still hurts. I wish you well. As for tonight's episode,I think you and Jill did the right thing by staying at your house. Going would have only added fuel to the fire. As for Alex's situation, watching her trying to be tactful and leave the party was hard. I don't really think you guys should be mad at her, for this reason, she obviously felt more at ease with you and Jill in telling you why she couldn't come. She thought you would understand and be fair. Anyway, just my two cents worth, I don't think you guys should be mad at her.
LuAnn, you seem like such a gracious and warm person, sometimes I actually feel bad that you have to deal with some of the other people on the show however I think you are an excelant example of how to deal with certain personality types and you handle yourself quite well.I just wanted also to say that as long as you and Jill and Kelly stay away from Beth you should have a really wonderful friendship as for Ramona I think she is sort of the kind of person who likes to stir the pot, if you know what I am saying... Beth will be just fine with Jason I just hope that she doesnt ruin that relationship with her manipulation and controlling perssonality, as for Alex and Simon I feel they owe nothing to Ramona, she treated them so poorly in the past They are good people and I think they just wanted to give her another chance really. I would just like to say that I am sorry that your marriage has ended I wish you the best in your future. xoxo
P.S I wonder if Ramona's husband would have the guts to make an off comment like the one he made to you to say Queen Elizabeth? hmmmm
Jill manipulated you on this evening's show. You played Mario's message and she said Mario said, "Bring it!" He never said that. She could have said "Let's go to the party and you can let him know how you feel - and hopefully it will get resolved." The way I see it, she didn't want you to resolve this. She stirred the drama pot and you jumped in. She is hurt by Bethanny - had to cause a fuss, and align people on her side. She's good.
Luannes behavior concerning Mario's comment and who pays when someone is invited were uncalled for. She wrote a book on manners and in the first two episodes broke many rules of etiquete. In the real world, the person is grateful for beiing invited for their company not because the invitee will pay. As far as, turning to Ramona to get an apology was ridiculous her problem was with Mario and the Countess chose the wrong environment to "attack" an individual who had not wronged her. It never helps to have another individual (Jill) encouraging wrong actions.
I like that motto "Never complain, never explain"---I've heard it somewhere before.
I feel like Alex hangs on by her claws some of the time. . .honestly, she strikes me as a third wheel and gets on my nerves. It was definitely a mistake for Alex to tell Ramona her plans. Obviously, Ramona would spazz out over something like that. . .why not just skip it if possible? Hm, maybe because Alex likes to get into everything. . .
The only thing I am confused about is....didn't Mario call you to apologize and ask you to go to their party? I think they were trying to talk it out and make peace. There is so much drama with you ladies. Most of it would not happen if you discussed things alone, face-to-face without instigators. Communication is the key to good relationships. Still, love the show. Alex seems to be the most real after you. Have fun with your new man.
I think that Alex just doesn't want drama to be frank. I have noticed (and only 2 shows in), you feel the need for drama this season, hmm? While you were married you help yourself up, carried class and spoke different even, but this year...you are out with "guns blazin"! I don't think it's gonna work out for you later on though. Truthfully this is the way it is: Jill is up your rear playing 'mother hen' because you are the 'poor divorced, lonely friend' that she feels the need to take care of. Think about it. She & Bethany were sooo close last season because Bethany was broken, alone and needed someone to carry her through. Now that she has gotten on top, fallen in love, Jill isn't having that!! So..she gets puffy and comes to you. You raged at Bethany because she said little remarks last season, but when are you going to call Jill out on all the remarks SHE made? Maybe you need to re-watch last season and COUNT how many times Jill dissed you and your snobby attitude and 'title'. I think deep down you have a good heart, but be careful not to read too much into what Jill is writing because to her, she comes off to America as Mom..just like she sees her own Mother. She wants to get the same raves her Mother got when she was a guest on the show...think about it....
Countess, part of having class is reserving the teaching to your children. In other words, the best class is SHOWING it when it comes to adults. When others do not hold up to your standards of "class" then having class means you accept others best intentions with grace.
With so many people coming from different backgrounds and cultures, it is mighty presumptuous of you to assume that your way is the right way. In fact, in my studies of different cultures, it has been quite refreshing to learn just how culture and experiences play an intricate role in relationships. It would do you good to study how such tolorance of differences changes the nature of your relationships because its really about respect for others and their individuality.
I don't care, as most people don't, how well you have traveled and how you married someone of a different culture. It does you no real good unless you practice tolorance, reverence and appreciation for those differences. Otherwise, you just come off as ignorant, arrogant and unrealistic. No better than a bigot. See at the end of the day, for people who have worked hard and want, if only for the moment, to leave behind the demands of the world and just spend all to scarce time enjoying friends, no one really cares about your rules of etiquette. Trying to impose your understanding of what is proper is no better than what was done to Native Americans by "puritans" after hypocritacally fleeing from similar impositions being forced upon them. You, of all people, should be super sensitive to such behavior!
I know that people fitting into this little mold that you think they should be in makes you feel safe and secure and everything is neat in its little package but that's not life and that's not people and that never will be what God intended. Do us all a favor and do some intercultural and intracultural studying. Norms are different but the great thing about this country is that we have the opportunity to blend with and accept one another individuality, which make for much richer and successful connections when allowed its full capacity. In that respect, your in the position to do your part and play a much more significant part in society.
LuAnn, I think you're fabulous and I strongly hope you're focusing on the positive nowadays. While disappointing, I think it's unfair to frame Alex and Simon's decision in that way. Don't make it all about you.
Please, if Alex said she couldn't make it you'd find a reason for her having to explain why. She did the classy thing and you fault her for it? She is a big girl and made the RIGHT choice !
You know, Countess -- there's a real disconnect between what you say and how you behave. Alex was torn between two very needy people and neither you nor Ramona would let her take the high road gracefully.
You could have said -- after you actually let Alex know that you were in on the open call -- that you were sorry she had been put in this position, don't give it another thought, travel safe and I look forward to seeing you in the city. That's class. Especially if you could say that without turning to Jill afterwards and making a face.
Luanne! I am in shock over Ramona's accusations. True or false, she crossed a boundary that is unacceptable. I was actually entertaining the idea of purchasing some of her jewelry; not now. You know who you are; the old saying rings true, "Nobody knows what happens behind closed doors". From what I have seen in the last few years, you have been an excellent wife and mother, and absolutely tried to make your marriage work. Only you know the facts, good and bad. The hurt that you are feeling is natural; being an adult child of divorce, I know that it is a devastating situation. Take care of yourself. Remember, cream always rises to the top!
LuAnn, If your motto is "Never complain and never explain". Why did you "complaining" to Ramona and seeking an "explanation" on the comment that Mario made.
How senitive are you? You and Jill are acting like high school children. Get over it, just because Jill has an issue with Bethany, you all are bad mouthing her. Stupid. For the first time I will agree with Romona, speak with her husband about your discontent. Mario did reach out to you, grow up. Jill is acting too needed, friends do grow apart. Yes Bethany and Jill should get together to talk, but like high school "lets get together and add Kelly to the fray" I have my friends you have your fiends. What you should do since your divorce is to mentor, take care of your childred, and stop being so condesending. Be positive.
LUANN, YOU ARE VERY POISED AND DIGNIFIED ON THE SHOW. DON'T GIVE INTO ANYTHING BETHANNY OR RAMONA SAY OR GOSSIP ABOUT YOU. HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH. IT IS NO ONES BUSINESS HOW OR WHY YOUR MARRIAGE ENDED, THEY SHOULD JUST BE A FRIEND AND LEND A SHOULDER IF YOU NEED ONE.!! HANG IN THERE.
Actually, "never complain, never explain" was Henry Ford's motto. It's a very good one, however, and I do hope you will truly start to use it. Right now, your blog is ALL complaining and explaining. Oops!
Love you, but you can't spend the last two episodes complaining about Mario's cruel remark and then apply your motto of "Never complain, never explain" to Alex.
Clearly she was in an awkward spot but she valued your feelings was upfront with you. Empathy and reciprocal respect for Alex' feelings would have led you to appreciate her efforts instead of being critical of them.
We the viewers can site multiple instances where you have complained or explained on camera. It's probably best not to hold Alex to an impossibly high standard which you yourself have trouble measuring up to.
LuAnn, I think you need to read Alex's blog. It doesn't appear that she was bullied at all. I can understand why Ramona would be upset. Deciding not to go to a party and then inviting guests from that party over to your house instead is just, well... classless. You needed to address Mario's comment to Mario directly. He gave you that chance and you declined. I know that you're going through a lot right now and his comment was inappropriate, but people say stupid things all the time. And I'm sure worse things have been said about all of us!
Just watched this week's episode and love that Luann is loosening up a little more than she was last season. She looks so fantastic and is handing her unfortunately public divorce very well. Good for you!
As a past nanny/housekeeper, please keep in mind; Rosie was someone who showed up at your house because you paid her, not because she was your friend. On the episode, it was all about you talking and Rosie nodding. That is why Rosie's no longer with you.
LuAnn, don't become a hater!! You were all about showing class, and all these comments you've been making this season show you to be snarkier than Bethenney. IF you did have affairs while you were married, thats nobodys business but yours. BUT don't go acting all saintly on us!!
LuAnn, I love you and worry about you since the divorce. However, having said that...regarding your new motto 'Don't complain, don't explain.'... 1. You complained to Ramona [and anyone who would listen] about Mario's comment 'Countless'... 2. You also appeared to expect Mario to apologize and/or explain
Although I agree that Mario's comment was unkind--due to all that you are going thru...if you are going to go by your new motto...why the drama?
I think Alex was completely honest in her reasoning for not stopping by your party. I'm not sure where you seriously see her being bullied by Ramona. Furthermore, it wasn't cool to invite Alex & Simon when you KNEW they planned to attend Ramona's. That's the point where you should understand the predicament you and Jill put them in. Strange to see you and Jill behave in this completely immature manner. You should bring out the best in each other, not this nonsense.
Hey Countess, Alex was caught between a rock and a hard place....you drew the line in the sand at the last minute and expected people to coddle you like a small child. Get over it. And as for Bethenney, I think you attacked her just like Kelly did last season. It's no wonder you gals are BF's this season. Not very Countess like if you ask me.
LuAnn: Both you and Jill carry yourselves with such class! Don't all women wish they could refrain from raising their voices during arguments or calling others' names? I have never heard you talk about anyone else's marriage; and to hear other's judge your previous marriage was below the belt. After watching the previous 2 seasons, it seems both you and Jill have remained true to yourselves. It's a shame that the show has really changed Bethenny (& not for the better!). I truly hope both you and Jill can repair your friendships with Bethenny - but she has to meet you half way. Keep your head up; my girlfriends and I are 100% behind both you and Jill!
LuAnn - First let me say that I really like you and your rational approach to most things. I have gone through divorce and cannot imagine having to go through it ON CAMERA. That said, there is one thing that you keep saying that really sounds quite pious. It is that Rosie really enjoyed working for you, not that you were really lucky to have someone like Rosie working for you. I'm sure Rosie had a good job in your employ, but why do you always put it like it was a privilege to her (and the new housekeeper) to be able to work for you instead of how privileged you are to not only still be able to afford staff, but then to find such nice, honest people? Please stop speaking for Rosie and telling us how much she enjoyed working for you. Speak for yourself and say how privileged you were to have such a wonderful and caring woman clean up after you, cook for you, raise your kids for you, etc.!
When explaining that Rosie no longer works for you, you said you have a new "girl" which surprised me because you should know better. A grown women should never, ever be referred to as a "girl" -- it's demeaning and disrespectful. Please don't do it again.
Your place on God’s green earth is no more important than your garbage man’s! Get a grip on REALITY! Stop trying to overcompensate for being raised poor, and understand we are all equal human beings despite our fortune or misfortune. Only children should be calling you "Ms." anything.
Keep your head up Luann, you are fabulous and we love you. The cruelty being hurled your way is uncalled for on a multitude of levels...jealousy is an awful thing but do your best not to let it get to you. When you are strong and beautiful insecure people just want to see you come down a notch, well don't! And a marriage to a powerful man does not validate you.
LuAnn, with you recent change in marital status and your house in the Hamptons it reminds me of Gray Gardens. Your house even looks like the one in the movie in its better days of coarse.Think about this, Halloween, Big Edie.
LuAnn, I think some of the housewives are jealous of you because of your title. Perhaps that is why they are always making snide comments about it. They are the ones that are classless. You have always conducted yourself graciously and with impeccable manners. I was appalled at Ramona's behaviour aboard the yatch, running amok and screaming like a banshee that you were classless. Actions speak louder than words. I am sorry about your divorce and the struggles you have endured. Prayers for your life to be fantastic and for you to heal swiftly from that dreadful wound.
I had the opportunity to see all of the housewives in person and by far, you definitely stood out as the most beautiful and most gracious. I do not think that you need to downplay being a Countess just because your "friends" (especcially Bethany) have a JEALOUS problem with it. It is who you are, you need not apologize for it. They only wish they had it.
To be honest, the way I see it, you have the opportunity now to move on, to broaden your horizons and meet all kinds of new people, and maybe find a few friends that are real, not jealous, and will stand by you no matter what.
LuAnn, you say that Alex is a big girl and should have just told you she wasn't coming... Why weren't you a big girl with Mario? You couldn't even talk to him directly, you had to go through his wife when you had an issue. You never follow your own judegments that you push on other people. What a crock.
Im confused as to how these women are friends with Kelly. Last season she stretched the truth about attending Columbia and her dating life. Now she lies about here playboy spread. She stated twice in last nights episoded that she will be appearing in the 40th Anniversary issue.
Sorry Kelly but the 40th Anniversary issue was published January of 1994.
So I guess "never complain and never explain" only applies to Alex not being able to make it to your home? When you (although I understand through editing, we only see what "they" want us to) told Ramona you weren't going to her Labor Day party because of the situation with Mario, it was complaining and explaining! You complained about what he said (which was hurtful and I would have reacted exactly as you had) and explained you didn't feel comfortable going to her party because of it.
I don't know if the way you are portrayed is entirely from the "magic of editing" but you seem to very contradictory in many of your statements. No one is perfect, and I'm sure you never claimed to be, but the act is getting tired.
Why is always about you! You and Jill were pressing Alex to find out about gossip at Ramona's party. Maybe they don't feel as insecure as you and Jill and don't have to tear people down to build themselves up. You and Jill found a friendship that is built on putting others down. You both are insecure and what is the saying "people in glass houses". Sounds like your etiquette book may need some revisions (after the speaker phone call from Jill to Ramona).....WOW!!
You need to move on from the Count and estalish your own identify. Dropping his name would be a good start. Andy by the way, it's been considered bad manners (for centureis) to TELL other people when you feel they've committed a faux pas. A true lady ignores the oversight and carries on.
Wow LuAnn - "this is a change, me serving you tea" and "I've got a 'new girl'" - these are grown women that you are referring to. I found those comments in extremely poor taste. Rosie treats you so well and you continue to look down upon her. Its really incredible.
Cream always rises to the top! Keep up the strength, grieve when you need to, and celebrate your generous spirit. When rude comments are directed at you, just remember that what others think of you is their business; what you think of yourself is very important. Love seeing you and Jill on the show; my guilty pleasure!
I understand you are sensitive at this point and time in your life, but you are making a mountain out of a mole hills. You should have addressed Mario being as though he is the one that said it, Ramona is only his wife and doesn't govern what he say's and does. As for the Alex and Simon situation you shouldn't put them in the middle of your fight. They were only invited because you knew they weren't invited by Ramona, if you would have been attending Ramona's party you wouldn't have invited them so get off of it...
LuAnn Come on! End the pity party and grow up. The comment was harmless. I too am divorced and weathered way more than a comment like that. Its time to grow up, get on your feet and move forward. You seem to thrive on the pity party drama. Do you ever ask yourself if Jill is just using you...as she did just lose her best friend. You two really seem to stir the pot...its time to grow up, take it all in stride and who cares what Mario says...it was a joke!!
Luann, I know your dealing with alot, but bullying the other women, throwing fits over words that are actually the truth just because your sensitive will get you nowhere. I used to love you, but this season you really have become rough around the edges. Lighten up, go with the flow, forgive and forget. Life is far too short!