I don't understand why Alex couldn't have gone to both houses, as she originally intended. Ramona continues to fascinate me, to put it mildly. My daughter's in high school and she isn't petty about who's friends with whom.

Kelly's posing for Playboy demontrates her strength and independence, qualities I admire in you, Jill, Bethenny, and Alex.

I wish you the best of luck in dealing with the strong opinions voiced by everyone you consider friends, and those you don't consider friends.

Countess, (LOL!!!)

You are amazing, beautiful, a great Mother, you always do the right thing and I feel you always handle yourself very well. Keep doing what you do best, and that is 'being yourself'. Anyone who judges your title is ignorant.

At the fashion show you were caluculating when you acted suprised that Bethaney would be present at such an event, alone. You went out of your way to act suprised to see her, purposefully making her feel uncomfortabel,as if she had to explain why it was perfectly natural for her to be in attendance. You were probably expecting B. to shrug it off. And, you could continue acting as if you are the superior Countess. It was tacky and catty and you needed to be put in your place. Divorce, low selfesteem or, having a bad day is no reason to behave so poorly. You are a little too far removed from reality, when it comes to knowing who you are. You may want to get another hobby and quit the mind games.

This is a question for Lu Ann or her daughter... I watched the espisode from thurs march 18th and I fell inlove with the head piece that Victoria was wearing , since that day i've been looking all over the web for something alike and i cant find anything like it :(...the question is , WHERE DID YOU GET IT? I'll die if i dont get one :) thanks hope for an answer.

why did your daughter have both arms in casts?

It wasn't that Alex didn't want to see you and Jill, it simply would have created an awkward moment for her host and hostess. She was perfectly correct in phoning you with the change in plans. Your less than gracious response was disappointing.

LuAnn, if your motto is never complain, never expalin, then WHY are you so hung up with what Mario said. Unfortunately in life people will say mean things in the moment and not really mean it and mya not apologize. Let it go. It was mean spirited for the moment but not for life. I understand you were sad about your marriage of 16 yrs dissolving and people should be sensitive to that but we cannot control how others act just how we react. You should have let it go. We are only on episode 3 and I am tired of hearing it and everyone ganging up on Mario. He says crazy mean stuff that is just him. Everyone including you and Jill have said something mean spirited about someone on the show at some point and you have not apologized.

LuAnn-
I always thought you were a lovely woman who seemed to laugh at most of the drama on the show but as demostrated in Season 2 it seems as if you are a little judgemental and think to highly of a title that has no bearing here in the U.S. I get that you are proud of it as you should be but don't put others down because of it. It also seems that this season you are getting really caught up in drama. I know that Jill seems to have a big heart but Jill is a meddler, she is in everybody's business and she seems to create drama where there is none, be careful with getting caught up with her which what you are doing. The whole telephone call between Jill and Ramona while you sat and listened unbeknownst to Ramona just left a very bad taste in my mouth. Since you are woman of etiquette then you knew what you were doing was not only rude but underhanded as well then you should have announced yourself when Jill failed to do so that way it would have been a level playing field. You also have no right to expect Alex to pick a side, your beef is with Ramona and Mario it should stay with them, don't bring other people in to it and don't expect others to pick sides just because you are upset. That my dear is high school behavior, Alex has the right to hang out with whoever she wants and you as a grown woman shouldn't take it personally. Alex did what a classy woman was supposed to do and that was to take your feelings into consideration and to be upfront and call you and let you know what was going on. Now had she called and said I couldn't make it and left it at that, and then you saw what happened at the party once the episode aired then you would have swore up and down that Alex was doing something sneaky. I actually respect people when they are upfront with me, whether or not I agree with them is one thing but I do respect it. Maybe you should to.
And that comment about Rosie leaving you at the worst possible time is really telling to how self centered you are, it wasn't like she just up and left and maybe found another job with no regards to your situation, your life changed, you were the one who made the decision to move to the Hamptons, so she is supposed to uproot her entire life to accomadate the changes in yours? Really? I'm sure if she had a choice she would have wanted to continue working with you but since she didn't she did what she had to do and you should respect that instead of making it about you.

Lord help me for saying this...I agree with Ramona! It is not a classy or adult action to leave someone with the impression you MAY be coming to their party and then set up your own party and try to steal away guests. This isn't an accidental double book. You intentionally hosted a party at the same time and same day as Ramona. It's like middle school all over. Ridiculous behavior for a woman who claims to know all about manners and etiquette.

LuAnn,
I don't care what they say about you--I think you are a fine lady and have more class in your little finger than any of the other housewives (I like Jill too ).
I have 4 children 1/2 Native American(one of their tribes is Seneca) and have intimate ties to 7 tribes New Mexico/Arisona. Be proud, and walk tall. I have a beautiful Indian prayer I want to send you.
I am proud that you have kept your business to yourself and wish you the best. You have great children and I can see how well they are going to grow up with you being their mother. I love the special time you make with them and the lessions about life that you are teaching them.You show dignity, love and respect. Alex and Simon need lession FROM YOU!

Native in Arizona

Luanne,
In the past I have liked what you brought as a person to the Housewives show because you seemed to teach by example and dealing with situations with grace and tact while not letting petty issues bog you down. You seemed to be very well grounded.

Since you announced your book deal on the show you seem to have been slipping into teaching by harping and tacktlessly pointing out others faults at the most embarassing moments. You also seem to get some satisfaction out of making as much going on around you other peoples fault and that they owe you for understanding.

The way that you blame Rosie for leaving, while it was your moving that made it impossible for her to work for you seems to be bit of this blame assigning you are doing more lately. Trying to make it sound gracious that you dont blame Bethanny for being late to meet you for drinks and then blatently pointing it out to her. If you were truely gracious, especially after acknowledging you knew what the drive would be like, you would never have mentioned that she was late at all. Anyone from the east end of LI can tell you holiday driving is insane. To be fair you should have met her half way and assumed you would be paying for your own drinks and be gracious if she offered to pay later. Unless its a date you should never assume the other will pay unless they say they will.

I wish you the best, everyone deserves happiness and hopefully once life settles a bit for you we can see that Luanne from the first episodes that I would have liked to emulate.

Dear LuAnn,
First let me say that I am so sorry about all that you have gone through recently. I am sure by now you have realized getting a divorce has presented you with the opportunity to be with someone that will appreciate you for the beautiful person you are. Also don't take anything Ramona and Mario say seriously. They talk about everyone. Hopefully they never have to experience what you have had to go through. They are completely insensitive. All the best to you and your children.
Mary Ann

This comment is for Lu Ann and her daughter. When I watched your show on Friday 03/18/2010 I noticed you and your daughter were NOT wearing your seatbelts. People look up to people on tv and you and your daughter are not sending out a good message by not wearing your seatbelts.

LuAnn, you are beautiful, poised and despite the "snarky"comments YOU DO HAVE LOVELY MANNERS. Please ignore the ignorant remarks about reading your own book, being fake and the innuendos about your marriage and the very personal details that are NOBODY'S business (even though you're on a reality show, there has got to be a line that is not crossed). Your children seem well behaved and extremely in touch with their pedigree. You do not have to apologize to anyone about your title. Oh please set Ramona straight about titles in America. We wear titles every day (mother, wife, daughter, friend etc...) It is a part of your life with your former husband and is still retained as the mother of his children. People should be less myopic and I feel it is a touch of the jolly green demon that causes the whole "countess"BS that the other women seem intent on harping on. To her credit I feel Alex is the most genuine and normal (aside from yourself), no matter that her personal preferences or techniques may not coincide with your basic ideologies. There will always be someone with something negative to say because insecurity usually helps insert foot in mouth. You are devine!

LuAnn, I understand, because I have been through a difficult divorce, that it is hard to start over again but, why dwell on the past? It seems like you don't want to move on and that's what I would tell you, "Deal with it and MOVE ON"! Or, are you going to milk it till you can't anymore?

LuAnn,
You say, Never Complain, Never Explain but you constantly complain about the actions of other. Then, (after you’ve decided)... corner one of your friends to explain what they did wrong (in your eyes) and how they should have handled themselves.
Has it ever occurred to you that passing judgment is not an acceptable behavior??

You have commented on several occasions about your Native American ancestory. However, you never mention what your tribal affiliation(s) is and what type of work you do for the benefit of Native people. I would think a woman in your position would want to go back to her roots and support the ancestory you claim to be a part of. I do not mean this in a negative manner. What an opportunity to support the empowerment of Native women, the importance of education in their culture and self improvement.

LuAnn, You are strong and brave to continue on the show under difficult personal circumstances. I think you are great.The fact that you have to deal with Ramona's husband Mario's tasteless insults about your marriage is elementary at best. HE should know better, and it seems Ramona was perfectly aware of the incident. You were right to get it off your chest and discuss it with Ramona on the boat...I mean, clearly Mario did not choose an appropriate time or place to make his degrading and hurtful comment.

Why are you blaming Rosie? You're the one who moved.

"Rosie .... She couldn’t have picked a worse time. But we moved so I understand the commute was too long for her."

I watched the first 2 episodes of season 3 last night. I YOU NEED TO READ YOUR OWN BOOK!!!!!!
Friends do not start a greating with "MRS.D"
I am sorry that you are going through a divorce but it sounds like you had "friends" throughout your marriage which I truly do not understand.

"BE REAL" people will have more respect for you that way.

i think it's unfair to say rosie picked the worst time to leave if you are the one who moved away. phrasing it that way makes it sound like she quit on a whim.

Dear LuAnn, When I was going thru divorce I had two close friends I shared with. Eventually one was identified as 'toxic' so I chose to drop her entirely, forever.
My best friend is someone who has similiar values, ediquite, spirituality, pleasures in life. We both share the love of ethnic foods, shopping, humor, sleeping habits...what I'm saying is...we're that close & trusting of each other that we can let our guards completely down. No pretention.
You would truly benefit from seeking one person you admire, one lesson in life to learn, one 'hobbie' or interest to delve into.
One book to inspire. One space to revisit. One closet to pray in, once in awhile.
You need some healing time and you're not inviting it. Choose not to invite the drama. You're letting that replace what, otherwise, would bring so much joy in your new life ahead!t what I've learned is...if you wish to be engaged with people who live with an elevated behavior, (& who appreciate that you are a countess)you must change who those people are NOT attempt to change the same people. Do you understand? Be the countess you wish to be, instead of announcing to the world that she is here.

"Never complain, never explain". Really??? You should take your own advice.

By the way, Alex did make a decision. She decided not to go to your party. Get over it.

Luann, I have always admired you. I think you are a classy lady with a good heart. Your well bred children speak highly of how you and "Rosie" have raised them. However, why are you holding Ramona responsible for what Mario said? We are no more responsible for the words and actions of our spouses than we are for that of our children. Let that bad energy go and move on. YOU ROCK!

To all of you who are suggesting that Alex and Simon should have "slipped out" of Ramona's...um....they're all on camera! How were they going to pull that one off? As for being mad at Alex and Simon--you two ladies seemed to be the last ones at your party and it looked like you had already changed and were in a "post-party" mood. So, what's the big deal?

LuAnn,
I watched the show last week and couln't help but comment on your visit with Rosie. You say she is your friend and that she has been there for you during difficult times yet she still calls you "Mrs." Since she doesn't work for you anymore and is still considered part of your family, why don't you insist that she call you LuAnn?

I was just curious as to what happens now that you are not married to the count anymore. I read somewhere that you can keep your title of countess, but people don't have to address you or introduce you that way and that you don't get all the perks entitled to a "royal" person? Can you explain?

Blessy you, LuAnn, you are looking beautiful and are always so positive. The OC housewives could take a page out of your classy book.

LuAnn,

I can't believe you took a comment from Mario to heart! You know Mario and Ramona well enough by now to know that they just "say it" in the moment. I'm sure Mario did not realize just how hurtful and mean his comment was. Men almost always talk first, think about it later. You should have just spoken to him about it right away and I'm sure he would have been a gentleman enough to apologize for it. Did Ramona hear the comment when it was originally said? If not, then she did not deserve to be told about it during the boat lunch. If she did hear, she could have spoken to him about it in your defense - privately. (and maybe she did!) At any rate, you have a lot more good in your life than many of us viewers. Focus on that and rise above what others say in the negative. You only have to "be someone" to your children.

Throwing stones at glass houses.... this show is getting to be OLD like the OC wives.... where is the reality... and why do you change your mind and thoughts of others as we do our underclothes.... wow!

LuAnn, Wwhile I do agree that Marios remark was insensitive he didn't mean it to be hurtful.Just get over it and move on.He did call personally to invite you to the party.That was his way of extending the olive branch.Jill didn't encourage you to go because she really didn't want to go because Bethenny was there.I can't blame her for not wanting to see Bethenny.Bethenny has been arrogant and disrespectful to Jill.She has let her success go to her head and I've seen her on other shows and she's just gotten too big for her britches.I won't be sad if she leaves the show.Anyway I know you're still hurting from your divorce.Just let time heal.It will and you're beautiful so in time you'll be happy again.

"Never complain, never explain" unless someone says something about your marriage, then all bets are off.

hi luanne i think your right alex is a big gril and should have not used ramona as exquse to not show up to me it wuz like she wuz taking her side

Does anyone have the "wonderful red snapper" recipe by Rosie?

I would love to try it!

LuAnn,

I can only imagine how hard it must be to go through a divorce, publicly no less. However, the way you treat people will come back and bite you. Rosie is your friend, why is she now "allowed" to call you by your first name? Also, if you have a problem with someone, shouldn't you address it with that person? (i.e. Mario, not Ramona). I know your brain must be frazzled considering everything you are going through but that does not excuse your classless behavior.

LuAnn, I think you are a classy lady and a great mom. You are beautiful. Ihe most important thing is to stay positive and to show your kids that you can be strong on your own.

Hi LuAnn,
I sure hope you read your blogs because there is alot there for you to think about. It is hard adjusting after a divorce,and I wish you and your children well. I am sure it is tough and you are hurting, but please stop referring to your "marriage of 16 years" as though you have earned a special dispensation and deserve to be treated with kid gloves. Sorry, but Bethenny is right, you are calling people out for their behavior, but not behaving so nicely yourself. You did make a mountain out of a molehill over Mario's comment. You are complaining (ALOT). Eavesdropping on the phone? Trying to steal guests? Snarky comments about who pays? Finally- someone who works for you is never your "girl".

LuAnn,
I'm appealing to you to see if this will get through. So far this season is high school mean girls and gossip! It is truly ridiculous. Alex is the only person who seems to be up front with everyone, trying to stay neutral, trying to stay out of the B.S. and of course, she'll get raked over the coals more than everyone else. She was trying to be honest with you and Jill, and she gets slammed for it. You all are talking about each other, you can't be a big girl and confront the people who you have a problem with AND THEN LET IT BE. If Ramona's husband is rude, then let him be rude and don't talk to him anymore! Drop it!
If Ramona is rude, let her be rude and don't talk to her anymore!!
Get the picture. I just don't see why you are up here on Mt. LuAnn always pointing out what other people do that's so unacceptable, but then you turn around and do the same things.
I guess maybe if you want friends, then you need to stay in the following categories: if you want a true best friend type- then choose wisely and don't talk about them unless you're talking about them to them! If they are directly confiding in you their dreams, troubles, whatever it may be, then you can have a dialogue and put your 2 cents in. If they aren't talking to you, and you hear things from gossip, then say nothing!!!
If you want someone to just go have some fun with, keep it light and at arms length, then maybe you can choose someone that you might not have a lifetime friendship with, but might be fun for now or totally opposite from you to see how someone might do things differently. If that person does some things that just don't cut it for you, then don't hang out with them!
It seems to me that when you're "up here" looking down on everyone, constantly talking about the way one should act,etc you really aren't looking at yourself & how you act AND you are just being too hard on everyone around you. We all do it, but lighten up a bit. Half the time someone kids around with you, you have no idea what they're talking about. Its you, not them!
Have some laughter in your life, I'm not talking about "snooty, oh darling did you see she had last year's designer clothes on, ha ha ha" I'm talking about truly letting go, being silly, being unafraid to laugh you ass off at something that's real, and not something tacky at someone else's expense. You made the choice to be on TV, so everyone sees how you act, and all the other women, but you made that choice, so don't be surprised when the viewing public has an opinion. I started watching the show honestly because I live in TX and have no idea the completely different lifestyle led in New York, plus I wanted to see successful, strong women. I did NOT want to see gossiping, backstabbing, snobby women fighting over the dumbest things in the world. I can watch daytime TV for that.

Are you kidding me - you complained to Ramona about her husband. You brought up last year with Bethanny. All this should have been done when it happened and privately. I dropped my mouth when you asked Rosie "So how do I look?" After the visit, I think Rosie was glad she moved on. You and Jill (who I use to like) did a high school move and called Ramona on the speakerphone to talk about the dinner parties. I really like NYC, but this year I just see some of you acting like your teenagers again, and you are in the in group - you have joined Kelly's world

Luann - I have been a fan of yours since the beginning of the show, and I am very sorry to hear about your recent divorce. Divorces can be nasty enough without having to deal with them being out in the public eye. Best wishes to you and the children as you transition into a new, albeit perhaps unplanned, stage in your life. Surround yourself with friends and family and that will be your best medicine.

I must chime in on one item. As for Alex "complaining and explaining," I must issue a rebuttal. Alex could have easily bailed out in some dishonest or cheesy way. Instead, she was completely forthcoming with you and Jill. It's just that you and Jill simply do not like the choice that Alex made. If you are indeed friends (or friendly) with Alex, then recognize that she was honest and that she had a difficult decision to make. Don't chastise her for not picking a side...when she shouldn't have been put in that position to begin with.

I think you are fabulous.

What Mario said was insensitive, and wouldn't have been such a big deal had he simply apologized. It was disgusting watching a grown man behave like a ten year old. It amazes me how inconsiderate some of the other RHONYC cast members are being so far this season considering what you have been through.

You and Jill are the most genuine people on this show, and I love watching you all!

Hi Luann!! I will get right to the point: you really need to put Bethenny in her place. She has called you some names that are really inappropriate! I believe that she truly speaks without thinking and she says anything for a "laugh". I do not think she is funny at all and I hate her making jokes at your expense! Please tell her to stop!! Thanks for being you, and keeping it classy!! :)

LuAnn you are dwelling over nothing with the "Countless" comment made by Mario. It seems to me that you have made the title "Countess" make you who you are. Before you met and married a Count you were a normal person with no title...Welcome back to reality. Sorry.

It was unfair to put Simon and Alex in the situation between you and Romona. If they were invited first by Romona and they were having a good time that was their right to stay. They did nothing wrong. Personaly I think getting mad about what mario said was pretty petty. If you had a problem with what he said you should have discussed it with mario. It is unfair to involve a spouse to go in between. People tried that with me before and I told them to discuss it with my husband.

Yes, Alex can make her own decisions, but who are you to bring her into your drama with Ramona? Alex clearly did not want to get in the middle of it (which is why she called to apologize!!!), and I feel it was very unfair of you to do that to her. I understand that it's possible to get caught up in the heat of the moment, but seriously? Please LuAnn, I've always thought very highly of you, but this season you have not started off on the right foot.

I have to be honest, I am niether fan nor foe.

However, you have the ability to blow my mind like no other.

Never have I ever seen or heard a person ask someone..."how do I look?..."do you miss me?..."are you paying? "she couldn't have picked a worse time to leave"

LuAnn, does it even cross your mind to "give" a compliment, instead of asking for one? To "offer" to pay for a round of drinks, EVEN if you were the one invited.?

As for Rosie, I'm glad she remained a friend to you, but as far as leaving you at a worse time?...come on, you came accross as the only thing you missed about Rosie is, your inconvienced by having to get to know a new housekeeper. If that's such a blow, might I suggest you grab a broom. When your done with that, you hop in the car and drive the distance to visit Rosie.

I think it does rain gummie bears in your world!

Best Wishes

Luann,
I loved, loved, loved your pink sundress you were wearing on the second episode. You and Jill were having breakfast and she made the phone call to Ramona. Can you tell me the designer of that or where it was purchased.

Lue-Lue, Im soso sorry for your loss. I Just think at this time you might want to take a step back till you feel better. I had a nervioce brake down wen I went though my devorce, (I was hospilitised!!) screw every one else take care of you and your angles. please dont iNDULGE The girls and thats how thair4 acting like girls,dont go thair.

LuAnn, what is the matter with you? Rosie is your guest for the afternoon but your visit and now your post is all about *you* and what Rosie thinks of *you* and how Rosie picked a bad time to leave *you.* Honey, the world does not revolve around you.

"Never complain and never explain"?? You're kidding, right?