LuAnn de Lesseps

LuAnn explains why she declined Ramona's invite, and is baffled by Kelly's behavior on the trip!

on May 20, 20100

When Ramona invited me to join her on the St. John trip, I declined so that I could be with Victoria on her birthday. When Jill mentioned over drinks that she was considering going anyway and surprising the girls, I cautioned her again not to go. The incessant bickering between the girls was incredibly rude to Ramona. Now I understand why Ramona went overboard with the Pinot Grigio.

As for whether Bethenny is a chef versus a cook, the first time I met her, she was in the kitchen cooking for one of my best friends and I can vouch that she was hired as a chef. She may not work in a restaurant, but she is a chef nonetheless and it looked like she put a lot of effort into the dinner she made for the girls.

I encouraged Kelly to pass on this trip because I knew that she couldn’t defend herself. I’m still baffled by how antagonistic she was at the dinner party. I think that Kelly may have had other issues going on at home that pushed her over the emotional edge. Kelly’s lack of empathy makes it hard for her to be a good girlfriend. After watching this episode, I can honestly say, I’m glad I stayed home! I don’t think anyone could have helped Kelly in this situation.

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Lady Frances M
Lady Frances M

Countess LuAnn:

"You are simply the best, better than all the rest." Truly you reflect a woman of strong character and grace a credit to all woman big or great. Thank you for bringing some balance to this mad house of over privileged, ungrateful small minded females, that have no clue of how to embrace celebrate life as a woman.

All the best,

Viewer445
Viewer445

I LOVE U AND I LOVE YOUR SONG! COOL STUFF MAN!!! YOU ROCK TOTALLY

OMG
OMG

OMG, poor Kelly has only succumbed to the snide giggling, backbiting and hateslinging against Bethenny that you and Jill have carried on this entire season. She's her own worst enemy who started herself down this path. It was wonderful to see the R, B, A & S e-n-j-o-y a day without the smacking around that K, J and You bring. Even amongst yourselves you smuggly dressdown and put down people, including each other. And so it is obvious who brings the hate...the 3 of you...Kelly, Jill and You.

VAViewer
VAViewer

Seattleviewer is absolutely right. You don't fool me with your underhanded digs, disquised as something nice. I knew I wouldn't like you when you reprimanded Betheney for introducing you as LuAnn to the driver in season 1. You are not better than that person and should not act like you are. That shows more lack of class than any Miss Manners mistake. PS: I also really dislike your tag line. No one is asking you to feel guilty for being privileged. However, thankful would be nice. The fact that you choose that tag line as the one thing that you wanted to say every show opeining says a lot about the type of person that you are.

lady2
lady2

Darling, Love the jewelry.....but you need a publicist. You have inserted yourself into an argument that you had no business being in. So darling, we've watched you all season.. throwing up obstacles to mending relationships and being a main part of the mean spirited behavior that you accuse Bethany, Alex and Ramona of... Please please look at the video we saw. You may instantly grow an edit button for your own behavior.

annabran
annabran

I can't stop giggling about your interaction with Kelly about the Crazy Island trip and Kelly calling B a ho-bag...so dern funny! I love rewatching it on the best quotes video clip. thank you for your humor! LOL

SMGAZ
SMGAZ

You crack me up with some of your comments because they are so "spot on". You do exude class, no matter what anyone says and you sure as heck don't need to be a countess or whatever to do that. But I must implore you...no more singing!

Marika
Marika

Luanne,

You are such a lady and although getting a divorce is generally depicted as a totally negative circumstance, it can be a good thing in some ways and can lead to alot of positives.

P.S. Take is easy with the dating - I must say you have alot of "moxy" by taking a plunge in front of the world!!!

LoveGod
LoveGod

I was shocked that Sonja bought into the catty games that Romona Bethany and Alex were playing. It was very clear they drove that poor model over the edge with their little emotional stabs. I really liked Sonja too and thought she was legit, hope she proves that she is differant than the others. The way they treated Bobby who did nothing to them and to treat Jill like that was evil. I am clearly on team Bobby and Jill. Still digging that Sonja since she is the sexiest of all. But shes got to get off of the Jill hating band wagon

Lck
Lck

Countess....Good for you! A blog that is objective and unbiased! Yeaaa, I was hoping you would come around. That " team Jill" at any cost was getting old.

Erin G
Erin G

Countess, I have to say, I liked you last season more. You butt into people's business, and you think your opinions are what makes the world go around. But I have to agree with you on this one. Kelly should not have gone, if she was truely having issues that made her react that way at home she should have stayed there. But she had every oportunity to decide not to go, and I think the best thing for everyone would be when Jill shows up....take her back with you. She needs help!

RHONY
RHONY

Love that you're breaking out of the status quo & trying new things. I think that sends such a positive message to women of our age who may watch RHONY. I also love that you speak your mind honestly, but say it with class.

I think it would be great to put together an intervention for Kelly. She's obviously a whackadoodle & could use some honest feedback from someone like you.

Bravo to you & your new life!!

dat900
dat900

Luann, one more thing, Bethany is going to have her own show soon, I think Jill feels left out of the spotlight and wants in on the Bethany fame. I think that is why she suddenly wants to talk to Bethany. Jill feels left out, she can't stand not be the center of attention. Call it like it is, if rekindles her friendship with Bethany, you'll be 2nd choice.

GeriF
GeriF

Hi LuAnn,

The reason you didn't understand what Kelly was saying is because she was not saying what happened exactly. My impression - Bethenny was blamed for saying something to the press derogatory about Kelly by Kelly - and Bethenny told her, "I never called the press." She (Kelly) ranted and raved. Personally, you're better off staying out of it - Kelly went off on a wild limb and no one really gets why. Jill took offense that all Kelly did was send flowers and an email while she was away on a junket. My opinion, it's childish of Jill to expect Bethenny to run back from a tour commitment to sit with her and her husband - frankly, only family should be at hospitals during surgery and the aftermath.

I applaud you for not getting involved. You at least have good common sense.

My opinion only!

Topchefer
Topchefer

Imein33: This is what this show needs about now. Everybody "NOT" getting down in the mud and wallowing around. Let the countess be gracious if she wants.

Vee Lu
Vee Lu

Finally..............you're right on point. I have to agree with one of the other bloggers. If Bethenney was indeed "hired" to cater and that's a fact, cool but it felt like a dig. Hopefully you didn't mean it that way and hopfully Bethenney doesn't perceive it that way. I have to make one comment. You stated that Kelly couldn't handle herself with those women. I disagree. I think the four women are made out to be the villains but Kelly gives digs just like anybody else so if she can dish it, she better be prepared to take it or keep her mouth CLOSED! I wonder does that fall under PR101 or PR102?

pattyu
pattyu

LuAnne, I totally believe you Know Sarah the Dutcess of York. I hope you stand by her and Kelly. After the year you have been through you especially know what these ladies are going through. Number one, just like you, protecting thier children, providing for them and trying thier best to survive in the work world they know best. Please stay by Kelly, Sonja, and Jill you are all the REAL New York Housewives, not trying to sell anything (Except books to help others.)

Take care, stay classy, I love your songs, charities, and elegance is not the money but how one behaves!

Christy731
Christy731

Countess, there is a side of you I adore. This is it. You were wonderful in last Thursday's episode -- classy and wise. My hope is that your wisdom will begin to steer you away from Jill and Kelly. I'd love to see you spending more time with Sonja. She is obviously a TRULY kind person. Also, I believe your relationship with Alex could still be salvaged. And perhaps even Bethenny to some degree(?). I think Jill sucked you in to her childish games this year, but this most recent blog post demonstrates that the classy Countess we all know and love is still there.

lmein33
lmein33

LuAnn, you will always be my favorite. But you are WAY too kind regarding Bethenny. You are always wishing her well and talking nicely about her, and what does she say about you? She talked about you behind your back last season, then her excuse was that you supposedly weren't great friends - you know, instead of apologizing to you. Then she freaks out on you and calls you a snake due to one remark, and never apologized until you confronted her, after you very graciously congratulated her on her engagement. Now you are defending that she was a chef. Seriously, I would never be that charitable towards someone who clearly has no respect for you as a human being!

Anniej1234
Anniej1234

Finally I actually agree with you and respect your blog. Hope you are being genuine in your level-headedness and not just changing your tune to make yourself popular.

Emy
Emy

LuAnn, YOU ARE ONE SEXY WOMAN!!!

I'm 20 myself and I think you look gorgeous and hope to look just like you in the future!

Other than that, I think you should continue to stay away from the bickering and try and focus on future careers minus the singing. I believe you have more to give.

Furthermore, in past episode you would confront people about something you weren't happy about and they'd apologize. You really don't need to carry on complaining after they say sorry. It lags on and it's unnecessary.

I'm happy your finally seeing someone! Good luck with that! X

hmm...
hmm...

LuAnn...Why do you take it upon yourself to always dress someone down??? There have been many times when you have been out of line and deserved a slap on the hand. You seem to always be looking for the opportunity to talk down to someone. You have an exagerrated opinion of yourself....or, so it appears.

VicAnn
VicAnn

Welcome back, Countess! Telling Jill not to surprise Ramona on her getaway is the best advice you've given all season. Too bad Jill didn't listen. As we shall soon see and hear about, too - over & over again - it was a really,really bad idea. Hey, you tried!

Tasha N
Tasha N

What a bunch of haters on here. People watch a show and believe they know each and every one of you personally. Has anyone ever heard of producers?? I'm shocked myself for making a comment, but I can't help it when I read some of the comments here from complete strangers. Just be yourselves and all will be fine.

SatchelsOfGold1979
SatchelsOfGold1979

Are you friends with Sarah Ferguson or did you just meet her once? There's a difference.

Angelique
Angelique

It was nice of you not to "stir up the pot" and encourage Jill to visit the ladies on the islands. Instead you told her the truth. That is being a friend.

I still think Jill misses Bethany terribly.

kimmie b
kimmie b

Luanne, loved you last season, you were focused on yourself, kids and holding everything together. This season....? Stop letting Jill dictate your behavior and choices. She slammed you a couple times this season and you let it go right past. She will throw you under the bus as soon as something good comes your way and she is not included. You are protecting her and with her passive agressive behavior she will let you have it one day and it will not be pretty. Hang out with Sonia, she will be straight with you.

High Schooler
High Schooler

It was great when you told Jill you weren't going to go with her to surprise everyone on the trip. Very classy. It's always good to stay out of crazy people's business. If you keep acting the way you did in this episode, I might start to like you again.

gayliebee
gayliebee

It is nice to have the real LuAnn back. Hope to see more good things and normal mentality from you.

chaltu85
chaltu85

LuAnn girl stay away from everybodys business and get a job.

Please...
Please...

(Saw you on Larry King Live) ...you being friends with Sarah Ferguson is as believable as Kelly being friends with Gwyneth Paltrow.

artist69
artist69

Luann,

I am glad to see that you are moving on with your life after your divorce. Kudos to you for that, however, I do not think that Jill is the person who you need to have in your world right now. My opinion is that she takes pleasure when her friends are down and tying to get back up...and this year I really saw a different side of her and it was not good. I applaud you for venturing out on some of your aspirations and dreams this year like singing. However just because you always wanted to sing, does not particularly mean that you are good at it...I don't really think its a good song and I think that when you are at a certain status in the social arena that you tend to have too many yes people and the truth of the matter is that your not a singer..but you are beautiful and striking I must say and just want you to stay positive and stay around people who are positive and are not pushing their negative energy off on you...But much luck to you with your book and stay away from negativity...We as women have to keep each other uplifted and not tear each other down especially those we consider to be our closest friends..

JKnox
JKnox

If you meant what you wrote above, then I apologize for the things I've been thinking about you. I do not understand why you would align yourself with Jill and Kelly. Jill's friendships are conditional and if she is nice to you, she feels as if you owe her something. She even expects you to be angry at someone simply because she is. Not good traits. I don't need to tell you anything about Kelly except to say that her jealousy of the other women, especially Bethenny, seems to have caused her to become unhinged, for lack of a better word. I don't envy the position you find yourself in with those two.

Masie
Masie

LuAnn - You amaze me. You wrote a book on edicate yet you have no knowladge of proper edicate. You are recording "songs" yet you can't sing. You are a joke and your new love interest is icky. Your desperation makes me ill.

Viewer from Kansas City
Viewer from Kansas City

LuAnn, I don't understand people's objections to you interjecting French words and phrases while speaking. Having grown up in a home where a second language was spoken, I know that every culture has specific idioms and sayings that perfectly describe situations, but don't translate well into English (they lose their meaning). In addition, you grew up in Candada, where French is the second 'official' language of the country, and I'm sure you were exposed to speaking French at a very young age. We are one of the few industrialized nations who don't require our children to learn a second language throughout their school years. But we expect everyone on the globe to speak English to us! When someone is fluent in more than one language, their brain will sometimes choose the one that best describes the situation at hand. Those who think you are affected when speaking other languages are jealous and narrow-minded. Carry on!

SeattleViewer
SeattleViewer

There you go again with the backhanded comment that of course Bethanny is a chef because I met her when she was the "hired help". Now I know what Bethanny is talking about. All you had to say was that Bethanny is a professional chef. Period.

ViewerDanNY
ViewerDanNY

I guess the "real" LuAnn is BACK!!! Yea!

ms nikki
ms nikki

LuAnn, I don't get what the issue is about Bethenney being a cook vs a chef. I mean she is great at what she does and she makes a living off of it, so why are you so consumed with people having these titles? I mean does a title really define who a person is? I am very surprised that you dind't have more to say about the way that Kelly acted on the trip because had it been one of the other girls, I am sure you would of had a little more to say.

S Jersey Girl
S Jersey Girl

Luanne, loved you on Larry King, and I just wanted to say that I was thinking the exact same thing you were, it's very possible that Prince Andrew knows all about this and Fergie is protecting the family. The royal family should make sure the ex wives are taken care of. I understand she has made money from her title, but let's face it, the Duchess of York can't walk around in dresses from TJ Maxx. There is is a certain level of expectation and the royal family should make sure it is met. Fergie was always my favorite royal and it's sad to see her in this position. Nice to see Jill isn't the only red head you will defend. Take care.

Carlotta
Carlotta

Your songs are lots of fun! it's so much more valid for you to be doing this than that God-awful Kim!

Carlotta
Carlotta

Well said, LuAnn! In addition, bravo to you for not going, and for giving Jill "good girlfriend" advice.

It seems that Jill can be a good friend, but she really did sweep you and then poor Kelly up in that "allies" thing, which turned out to be a real detriment for the two of you.

VelvetNnaples
VelvetNnaples

A guest on Larry King?! A close friend to Fergie?! Yeah right. You'll say anything to show your mug. You're so transparent.

Pask
Pask

It was kind of refreshing to see what I think was LuAnn in this episode and not The Countess. I think when you're not around the girls and the bruhaha, there's a more genuine side of you that comes through. I particularly enjoyed the date with Coert and seeing you at work. Not sure how many more episodes are left in this season, but I hope LuAnn makes more appearances between now and then. PS I actually prefer Chic,C'est la Vie to Money Can't Buy You Class.

Way to come around
Way to come around

Well put. I thought you might come around. And I admire that you aren't defending Kelly despite your differences with Bethenney.

Momof2
Momof2

I've been wondering what you (and Jill) thought of Kelly's behavior now that you were able to see it for yourself. I'm sure Kelly gave you a very different version of what she thinks happened. I'm pleased you were able to express your thoughts on the situation so clearly and with such class. Well said, Countess...

Catherine in Tulsa
Catherine in Tulsa

I think Kelly considered you a friend. It's a shame that at this time, you couldn't return the favor and understand the bullying. You've been called a snake and a dumb drag queen by Bethenny, you've seen Alex in action, and Ramona, well, we've all seen Ramona. Yeah, Kelly made a big mistake going on the trip, but that didn't give those women the right to bully her because they were able to get her alone and trapped on a boat with them. If they had started gossiping about you, instead of Jill, would you have had more understanding why she initially got annoyed with them?

Lisah
Lisah

I am very proud of you for telling the truth. Kelly was a little off, I will give you a few points back.

d in the city
d in the city

I think of all the housewives of NYC Luann is the biggest instigator and the snotiest. The way she went up to Alex and Ramona in the past telling them the should of "told Jill" was really childish. To be perfectly honest I feel sorry for you that you are so full of yourself and think you know it all. You want to teach manners but lack them yourself. I think it is significant she is not even listed on the house wife poll about who would you like to take a cruise with! That is because no one would probably pick her. I really think at the end of it all Luann is an empty shell that needs lots of love because she may never really of known it.

Miss Theresa
Miss Theresa

LuAnn,

Your blog this week is great and I appreciate the advice you gave to Jill, too bad she didn't follow it.

You are beautiful, talented and can be a lot of fun, but I think you hit people over the head a lot with the whole manners and etiquette thing. You tend to take digs at people like you are doing them some big favor and then get mad, blow up, and hold onto resentment when someone basically does the same thing to you. I think because you are titled, well-traveled and cultured you inadvertantly treat other people like they are inferior to you. You may swear up and down that you never do that or perhaps that is not your intent, but nonetheless, I think that is the effect. You talk too much about your role as a countess and how other people ought to behave. You feel like its your place to get into the middle of other people's arguments and try to correct them. It's not your place and you do it in a demeaning way.

I think Jill will wind up being a bad influence on you and may turn on you in the end. I wish you would be more down to earth and kinder and gentler with your castmates.