LuAnn de Lesseps

LuAnn de Lesseps talks "Yappy Hour," her award, and the perks of being a part of a big family.

on Feb 24, 20090

Aston's birthday was great. Victoria at Hampton Hound holds a "Yappy Hour" every Saturday so I thought it was the perfect venue for Aston, the kids, and of course the Housewives to come and celebrate with us and brings along their pets. I didn't expect Ramona to come with a lizard. Then again, you never know what to expect from Ramona!

"The moment you think you're ripe, you begin to rot."

Here I was getting an award from The American Cancer Society, the biggest award of my life, and I made the biggest faux pas by talking and not listening, which I'm truly mortified about. The American Cancer Society is dear to me and I deeply regret my thoughtless comment on the show. I'm a living example that everyone makes mistakes, which I talk about in my book. Learning from mistakes is what matters. Don't forget: "The moment you think you're ripe, you begin to rot."

My father's battle with cancer was very difficult for my family and me. I was very close to him and feel lucky I got to be with him to help him through it! Being a nurse definitely helped. I was so happy my mother came and that she got to share the evening with me. I think it was emotional for her to see my father up on the screen. She hardly spoke, as she was nervous and very camera shy. She's never been on TV before.

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guess who
guess who

Dear Luann,

I just love the thin hoop type earings you wore when you meet with Bethany and the pair you wore at lunch with jill and Kelly at lunch on the new show. Where did you get them or what kind are they????

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Lu Anne I liked you so much more last season.Don't let this show change you.Love your fashion style and your kids.

Debbie
Debbie

Countess,

I love the show and think you are truly a kind person. However... the title thing cracks me up. Give it a rest!!!! You are his fourth wife. He may get tired of you and give someone else that title. Be careful..very careful. I love your children. They seem to be so sweet and loving. I wish you all the luck on the show. You have made it so interesting. But really, enough with the title!

A Fan

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Bonjour LuAnn,

Did I detect a French Canadian accent when your mother spoke?

emily
emily

Dear Countess, I love your khaki outfit you wore to the lunch with Kelly. Can you share where you shopped? thanks so much! I love your classic and sophiscated style. I just turned 30 and would like to have a wardrobe makeover. I need your help!

Amanda
Amanda

You did NOT honestly say, "the countess does not drink beer of of a bottle"..????!!! For someone who acts like they have such class, talking in third person about yourself, to put yourself above a waitress, is rude. You absolutely love the word Countess. Get OVER IT. No one in America cares.

Josh Indianapoli
Josh Indianapoli

Dear Mrs. D-

I don't care what anyone else says, with title one is blessed with both the responsabilitles of that title, and the history and culture behind that which follows. I admire you and the work with charities you do and wish I had the manners and ediquate to be in your posse.

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Dear Countess,

In learning of your book project on manners and etiquette, I HAD to take advantage of the opportunity to contact you and make a suggestion for a point of content.

In print, script and reality TV dialogue, people continue to use improper grammar. For example, when referring to themselves and another individual, people incessantly use improper pronouns such as "the relationship between James and I," which should of course be, "the relationship between James and me;" or, "hisself" and "theirselves" (words which are not even true words in the English language - if you don't believe me, check my information in the dictionary) instead of "himself" and "themselves." This failure to use proper grammar continues to drive me crazy on a regular basis and it would be greatly appreciated if you could address this issue in your upcoming publication. Given your passion for proper manners and etiquette, I am certain you will agree that an important part of exhibiting good manners and etiquette is the ability to speak properly. Good grammar must be once again integrated into our speech, especially when so many people emulate the behavior of those in the public eye.

Thank you in advance for your attention and I for one would truly appreciate at least a paragraph in your book being dedicated to the importance of using proper grammar.

Best of luck with your book.

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LuAnn, if I may call you that, I have been a bit surprised at the comments I've read. I actualy just become acquainted with this show, catching up so to speak and you happen to be one of my two favorite people. I find you to be upfront,and real. At least that is how you are portrayed via editing. Or at least, I can see past the editing, I'm not sure which is accurate. And just an fyi - I am a 47 yr old midwest Mother of two grown sons, so not a lot gets past me...... Please enjoy this crazy limelight, but continue to live your life with your beautiful children, and appreciate your husband and friends.

smonahan
smonahan

Dear "countess" you are ridiculous. There is absolutely nothing genuine or sincere about you. You may have a title and money but you are totally lacking in class.

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Sunshine... don't you just get tired of us "regular" people asking you to yack a little less about your title?

seriously...give it some rest...it's just not that big a deal in the "real world".

Hugs!

Logan
Logan

Dear Countess LuAnne:

You rock! The title works for you and you work the title! You have an amazing life and 2 beautiful children. Negativity from others is a trait of either ignorance or jealousy! So live large, be happy and enjoy your life!

Logan Greenwich, CT

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Watching this show is indeed a guilty pleasure. My sister and I have a ball laughing at what is really the best comedy on TV. I really hope that most of it is as scripted as it seems. If there are really people like this in the world I think we should all be very afraid.

Brooke Astor
Brooke Astor

LuAnn-you have disappointed me. Stop with the petit bourgeois bull. That is for arrivistes. Surely that is not you, no?

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COUNTESS????? What you are is CLASSLESS!!!! Has the Count ever seen any of these episodes? Obviously not or he would be long gone with that title you love to throw in everyone's face.

I had the "honor" of meeting you this summer and was going to give you the benefit of the doubt, but you are actually worse in person. You even thougt that you were special enough to try and pick up my husband by slipping him your card as I was talking to Bethany. Believe me, we all had a laugh at your expense on that one.

I feel badly for your kids and all those who are forced to be around you. Thank god that Rosie is around so they have some sense of how people should act.

You need a good reality check and a smack on the head from your mom next time she visits you.

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You are so foolish! No one cares about "your" stupid title.

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Sorry LuAnn you just don't quite manage the Countess part. You try at every turn to remind everyone of your status but true class does not come automatically with a marriage license and you have shown your lack of class over and over. The behaviour at the cancer dinner was disgraceful I agree and you got up and flaunted your title then sat down and did just what you had criticised everyone else for doing. I'm European and I think you would not be a hit over there, we know what real class is. It's actually embarrassing to watch you.

Nicole
Nicole

Every time I see you on this show I shake my head in disbelief. You are so hypocritical. You supposedly dislike it when people think that they are better than others. Sure you do. You are an awful person.

Chelle
Chelle

One of the comments above was correct in stating that in the USA we do not recognize titles, and if history shows us anything is that titles like Duchess and Countess were given to those who fell out of favor with Kings and Queens. What do you do with an English King who marries an American divorcee? you make him a Duke, for example. Please spend a little time studying before you speak about such things as your husband's family GIFTING anything to the USA. It is apparent that you were not BRED into wealth, you got lucky and luck does not bring along class or grace.

Karen
Karen

LuAnne or "Countess,

Loved you last year, but what is going on? You told Jill that you hated people who acted like they were better than other's and when asked if you would like a beer at Jill's charity event you said "the countess doesn't drink beer, honey, she only drinks campagne" Don't you think you should have said, "no thank you, but I would love a glass of champagne" instead? maybe you should put that down as another one of your "faux pas"! I felt bad for the server!

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Hi LuAnn,

Welcome to America. In this country, we do not have titles. I will gladly demonstrate respect for foreign dignataries; however, it is by no means a requirement. While I do appreciate the charity work you are involved in, do not expect Americans, like yourself,to bow to nobility. To put it bluntly, you are LuAnn from Jersey. Perhaps, the French would be more accomodating: give it a try.

Valerie
Valerie

"Countess" is fine if you're in France. In New York, you are LuAnne. I thought I read somewhere you came from Jersey. A title does not entitle you to class and respect. That you are involved in charity is a wonderful distraction from your social life. Come down to Earth Jersey girl.You are no better than the rest of us.

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Manners are about making OTHERS feel important . . . as Bravo shows you, you are failing.

Molly
Molly

I completely understand how important titles are. An example is the fact that doctors put years into education and must always be addressed as Doctor. However, you seem so hung up on the title you earned through marriage that it takes away from the events you take part of. I truly hope you are not as snotty as you come across on the show.

Marc
Marc

"Here I was getting an award from The American Cancer Society, the biggest award of my life, and I made the biggest faux pas by talking and not listening, which I'm truly mortified about. "

Are you also mortified about how you ended a sentence in a preposition?

rosie
rosie

you are FABULOUS!! when i grow up, i want to be like you-and i am 50 yrs old!! wish everyone had as much class as you do!!

DaphneCT
DaphneCT

Countess is CORRECT -

It IS Entirely CORRECT to refer to by her title. The title is a kind of public office she represents-- It is larger than herself.

It is not about her, but about the role she performs--aka and represents--The 'office' so to speak. Larger than any one person, the role those who have gone before her perform and those who continue after her will perform. Showing respect for that role. (If The Countess is reading this, let me express how pleased I was to see her work on behalf of the cancer cause--I've lost not only 3 Generations of women (Mom,Grandmom/GreatGrandmom) in my family and 1 cousin to this plague-but have 2 cousins fighting it now. I realize that you have many demands on you, your time can be spent in many, many ways and on many causes. Thank you for your time on the cause of Cancer. Daphne in CT We have seen public officials degrade their public office here. Many say that a former Presidents lurid 'activities' within his White House did just that. I've no doubt Countess De Lesseps will not follow that example but represent herself and her people in the manner that they deserve. (hope you read my thanks)

Mrs. William Paley
Mrs. William Paley

LuAnn my dear- Yes, you are all too human. I applaud your support of the ACS. It is a shame that you blew it by being hung up on the use of your title, which is, quite frankly, irrelevant in this country. Take it down a notch, please.

Barbara
Barbara

Countess de Lesseps, I applaud you for your work with The America Cancer Society. My children and I have been involved with the same cause. We relay for the American Cancer Society. This is our second year on a relay team. Our team's name is Sally's Friends. Sally lost her battle to cancer this past year. Her death has made our team want to make relay more successful this year to honor her. Relay for life is a cancer walk held in almost every city. Our local Queen Creek Relay is held at Canyon State Academy on April 24, 2009. My children and I have done different things to raise money for our team. My daughters have worked at a garage sale that donated the proceeds to relay. The girls and I also make UV bracelets and sell them for $1.00 each. The UV bracelets change color in sunlight to remind you to put on sunscreen. My youngest son shaved off all his hair in support of one of his friends that has bone cancer. My two other sons have shown their support by setting up and loading tables for differnt functions that our team attends. When I started relay last year I thought it would be a great idea to get my family involved. This year as I take a look at our progress, I realize my family are not involved we evolved. We have all evolved into people that want to make a change. I wish everyone could try and make a change. You can visit our web site at www. relayforlife. org/queencreekaz. On the website you can check on our progress, make a donation, or even find out about a relay in your area. I'm sorry to he4ar about your father's battle with cancer. I'm sure he would be proud of the work you have done to honor him. By the way the show is great. I love it. Barbara

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"genial"? did you mean "congenial"?

RvrDelta
RvrDelta

Mrs. DeLesseps,

I admire your guts to get up and request silence from the audience. I've felt that way before at events but didn't act on my feelings. It was unfortunate that you did end up kibitzing after your statement. Yes, you are indeed human.

Humanness brings me to my second point. I don't know if the emphasizing of your title is to stir up the blogs, or "a case of editing" by the network, or you're on a tear to pump yourself up but this is not the countess I knew and loved from season one. Previously you seemed accessible and friendly, now you seem hauty and almost condescending. Please, take a deep breath and refocus.

Ilovethehousewifes
Ilovethehousewifes

LuAnn, I think you are gorgeous and fun to listen to. You are underneath it all just a regular person who married well. Your children are so great. By the way, your husbands family didn't give the USA the Statue of Liberty. His family member was given the honor of presenting it. Have fun, I will have fun watching. PS I am an RN too!

Anne
Anne

Countess LuAnn de Lesseps,

I understand that you came from humble beginnings to marry into your social standing. Like most of viewers whom have replied to your blog I feel the need to put my two cents in. I understand that you are a countess (heaven forbid anyone should forget). In that respect using your title for things such as charity work or parties is all well and good.

To marry into that you've enjoy the status it brought. Yet, the title is not what makes you. You throw it around like everyone is supposed to bow at your feet or kiss the ground you walk on. Sorry, but you bleed red just like the rest of us. So please stop throwing your title around. Without it you wouldn't have a pot to pee in.

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Hi,I don't mean to be mean but in America, we don't recognize Titles. If you live here, you are NOT a Countess. You have to stop saying it otherwise move back to the country from whence the Count was born? What? what was that? He has no country to call his own? So let us all call ourselves Countesses whoo hoo Can you imagine if everyone wants to call themselves royalty. Any by the way, you keep being critical of manners. Having class has nothing to do with your birth, it has everything to do with making someone else feel comfortable. To point out their mistakes is boorish and classless. I think you are a worse phony than Simon. Much love.....Queen Fifi okay okay...Grand Duchess Fifi

casey
casey

Wow...could everyone lighten up. LuAnn was just joking when she told the pizza place she was a countess.

Lola
Lola

Im surprised you didnt make BRAVO edit your blog name with "countess" in front of it... lmao That would have been hilarious.

Discountess, you were great last season. Well spoken, well dressed and well kept.

What in the world happened to you? The childish behavior at the charity was uncalled for. Hope you apologized.

Sick to watch trash like you
Sick to watch trash like you

Can you say narcissistic??? Wow, I can hardly watch this show because of your high and mighty attitude. It’s always trash like you that worms their way into a rich man’s bed, lands the ring, and puts themselves on a pedestal over others. True character is measured by how you treat the people that work with or for you. You treat the woman who works for you like a lowly peasant. Sickening! Get over yourself. I hope someone slaps you back into reality soon!! High class, definitely not – trash is more like how you’re viewed by the outside world.

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I read 30 comments and only 1 was not negative. and that 1 wasnt positive either. it was just asking about if you were still a nurse. I have to say that is really sad. I think the other 29 comments hit it right on the nail. You weren't BORN to the title you married it. Yes that means you are a countess BUT its class that counts and you do NOT act classy. I actually liked you in Season 1 except i though it was snotty and uptight of you to get all riled up when you weren't introduced as countess to the driver. tsk tsk. This season so far your annoying and need some class yourself. Just as the DR on here commented she EARNED her title of DR and doesn't get butt hurt when she's not referred as one. You need to get over yourself and need to quit acting like you have something to prove. if you want to be called COUNTESS then go to some other country that acknowledges it. Here we do not. There's not much more i can say that others haven't already said. Get a little more class and try getting the stick out of your butt.

Ramini
Ramini

LuAnn - We would love to see the Real LuAnn and not the fake one that we see on the show "COUNTESS". I am sure your family and friends have seen you drink beer out of a bottle...

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Dear Countess, Re: your quote, "typical of the Canadian/American Indian". Don't tell us that you are an Indian Princess,too! Oh my goodness! That would make your husband, The Count, a PRINCE! How exciting!

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Good lord are you serious....you tell the pizza man you are a countess! Obviously your book deal is pushing you to emphasize this fact, but it is a major turn off. You were my favorite now I think you are tacky. Sorry, hope the following episodes change that but I think you are all about the book deal and the countess emphasis, too bad.

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Countess - I like watching you on the show and I look forward to your book on manners. I think everyone, no matter what stage in life they are, can brush-up their manners. I find that young people coming out of college lack workplace etiquette. Since I employ five new grads every year, I will require them to read your book. Stay strong. God bless.

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Luann, I think everyone is being too hard on you...the "Countess" reference when ordering pizza was obviously a joke. That being said, true class is being able to recognize a misstep and to take responsibility for it and learn from it, as you seem to have done in the Denim & Diamonds incident.

Keep being strong and keep learning from your experiences...and kudos for allowing all these negative comments to be posted on your blog. I know at least one other housewife who seems to block negative posts from her blog...hint, she's a big loudmouth know-it-all, and she's not Jill (and she's also not actually a housewife).

NancyW
NancyW

Dear Luann,

When the first season started, the first few episodes I really liked you. But, it didn't take long for me to see how pretentious and snobby you can be! I'll never forget how you snubbed Bethany's driver when he held out his hand to shake yours! I believe you did see him do that, but you don'd shake hands with " common" folk. Respect is not something you demand, it is something you earn!!!

Dhg32msa
Dhg32msa

LuAnn:

Are you still an American Citizen? If so, then no one in the entire world should be calling "Countess." One the first articles in the United States Constitution written in 1787 precludes the use of titles by citizens of the United States of America. No cab driver, pizza deliveryman or towel boy should call Countess defintely on United States soil.

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I think many times when LuAnn is calling herself "The Countess' it is done to be tongue in cheek. Does that still leave her some room to get over herself? I believe it does but I am just trying to convey she really isn't as awful as posters seem to think she is.

Connie
Connie

Countess Luann, So, you have been a model, a nurse, and now a Countess? That is quite a trek in one lifetime. Where do you go from here? We, in this country, do not see too many titled people walking around, and you come off as pretty normal and approachable on-screen. Maybe that is why we don't address you properly. In S-1, I thought you exhibited poise in situations that started to get ugly, and smoothed things over rather well. Maybe only a Countess knows how to do that, and so why shouldn't you write a manners book and accept honors for charity work dressed in Ungaro? If all you NYC housewives did was boobs, bling, and self-adornment, you wouldn't stand out so much as you already do, in my opinion. So, keep making mistakes and being the best "you" you can be.

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Seek out the good in other people, not just in yourself.

Berangere
Berangere

Hello LuAnn,

As the daughter of a REAL princess, I must say that you have a lot to learn in the royalty department. I am so surprised that the Count tolerates your behavior and lack of class. You are an embarrassment to the European Royalty! Only an American "Countess" would demand to be addressed as such. Less is more and in this case, you should tone down your attitude. You may think that you are impressive to the "American Society" (vulgar display of money is always impressive to Americans), but in Europe you would not get any positive attention. Actually you would not be accepted as an integral part of the Royalty because you don't know the proper etiquettes. I feel sorry for you because I wish your husband would have educated you on the proper ways to act as a "Countess". Good luck as you need it!