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Season 2
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View All PostsMario Singer
Finding Closure
Mario describes the emotional reconciliation between Ramona and her estranged father.
April 2, 2010
I did not have a sister growing up, so I never understood the dynamics of a father-daughter relationship until my daughter Avery came into my life. When I watched this episode and saw Ramona opening up about the emotional scars that her dad had inflicted upon her during her childhood, it was very painful to watch. Over the years she would tell me some of the events that defined her relationship with her father. She would always remind me to show my love to Avery as I would have a tremendous effect on her future relationships with boys and men as she grew into a women. Avery is now in her early teenage years and boys are becoming a part of her life. I hope that I have given her a good foundation so that she knows what traits are important in a guy.
I remember one Christmas a couple of years ago very vividly. My mother had been living with us for nine years and we always celebrated Christmas with Mom in our home in Southampton. After she died, Christmas was not the same as we had lost an important member of our small inner family. Avery has always lamented that we did not have a large tight knit family. When I suggested to Ramona that we invite her dad to Southampton for Christmas, she thought it was a terrible idea. His health was failing and I knew time was running out for Ramona to break through that wall that separated her from her father. I knew this because I had experienced that breakthrough just before my dad passed away. Ramona finally agreed to invite her dad and it is one of the happiest memories that I have. I was thankful that I was able to bring her the Christmas gift of love and forgiveness that brought her peace and closure with her dad. There is a large framed photo in our living room of Ramona sitting on the arm of a love seat next to Dad, with her arm around him. Both of them are smiling. Whenever I walk past that picture I am thankful that they had those days together.
Mario, at times I have thought you were boorish, but you have redeemed yourself! Your blog brought a tear to my eye, Ramona is lucky to have you for her husband. Forgiveness can be so difficult especially when it involves abuse by a parent. I think everyone can see by Ramona's new "glow" she has been "renewed" by clearing the air with her father. And on another note, your daughter Avery is so beautiful and poised, a testament to the wonderful parenting she obviously receives.
Mario,
Your blog post has brought me to tears. Thank you for sharing such an intimate part of your family life, it was very touching. Ramona and Avery are amazing lucky girls to have such a wonderful compassionate and loving husband and father.
You have brought a little sunshine into this firestorm of a season. Thank YOU!
Mario that was very sweet.
Mario you are awesome! You and Ramona are very genuine, fun people! You have done a great job raising your daughter.
It seems to me that I've misjudged you, thinking you maybe just a crazy flirt who I wouldn't trust two steps from my back or front door. I found it very touching to see your patience with Ramona in this episode, and that was before I read this blog.
Avery is a doll, and I'm proud of both of you.
With all of the petty fighting and mean-spiritedness going on this season, this blog made me cry. Family.....this is what's important. I wish you and your family all the happiness in the world!
Bless Ramona, her honesty is unbelievable, I don't expect that from "TV" people, so I have to say I was in shock when I saw her share her story, shocked and so very proud of her. Your blog entry says allot, you guys are just a fun, lively couple, raising an incredible daughter, with a deep understanding of caring mixed with jeux de vivre, Good Luck to all, how you deal with the rest of them is beyond me.
You're sweet; you remind me of my husband. Very understanding with a good sense of humor. Good for you for encouraging Ramona to see her father one more time.
Excellent Husband-ing & Father-ing, Mario!! :-) You'll never know how much you've given Avery by ensuring she knows you love her unconditionally. Good man!
Well, I pleasantly surprised by your sensitivity this season! Ramona is lucky to have you as a husband.
As I just commented on Simon's blog, sometimes it does take a lifetime to confront childhood abuse or issues. It took me 49 years. If you have not been through it, people just do not "get it". I hope that your wife has worked through it. I am still trying to. It is hard to forgive a parent that wants to deny everything and "recreate the past". Do they honestly think that we do not remember?
I have tried to post on this blog and have been unable too.I hope this time works.It was sad to see Ramona so unhappy .I'm glad she had closure with her Father but our childhood has such an affect as to how we turn out as adults.I hope she can put this aside and enjoy the life she has with you and Avery.I was so annoyed with how she treated you when you two were showing your jewelry, but thinking about it maybe being in control now is her way of making up for the lack of control she had in her childhood.You're a good man Mario...a keeper!!!
you are an amazing man mario....ramona is a lucky girl
Very touching post, Mario. It is wonderful that you were able to help facilitate Ramona and her father coming together at the end of his life. Good modeling for Avery, too.
This is the nicest blog I have ever read. Good for you and your family. God Bless
You are a loving, patient & understanding husband.
Ramona is a blessed wife & your daughter will one day find a man who will cherish her, because of you.
God bless! Happy Easter!
MARIO,
WOW ! YOU WERE ACTUALLY HUMAN THIS WEEK . PLEASE STAY THAT WAY FOR THE REST OF THE SEASON.!
Mario,
It's nice to see this sensitive side of you again. You're acting like you did in S-1. I'm not sure what provoked you to behave so askew in S-2 & the first couple of weeks into S-3. Keep the snide remarks to yourself. Keep the cute quips and supportive style for Ramona out here. It's rare and far more interesting.
That is indeed a wonderful gift. That is great that she has been released from the depression and unresolved issues from her childhood. Kudos :-)
Mario, Beautifully and thoughtfully said. Avery has a good father in you. Ramona is lucky to have you care, and to know how this little gesture of inviting her dad for Christmas would probably break down the barrier built up inside her over many years. It is a shame he passed away shortly thereafter, but I believe he may have been holding on for that very moment of reconciliation with Ramona before he would let himself go.
You did good Mario, you did good.
The scene with Ramona this week was very emotional! I just wanted to give her a hug. My father is very emotionally abusive/manipulative and I COMPLETELY related to Ramona when she said she used to act as if she grew up in the perfect house to others - I did the same thing for years. Mario, you must be a special, supportive, patient guy for Ramona! And I want to say thanks for being there for her - it's the scariest thing to show people where you come from when it's bad. Avery is a lucky girl to have you as an example of what a man is supposed to be!
This is the side of Mario I want to see more of.
You're the shiz Mario! Keep up the good work!
Hope I find a man like you someday. Have you and Ramona ever considered having another baby??
What a nice and thoughtful blog. Avery is lucky to have you as her dad.
I really felt for Ramona as she was telling her friend about her childhoood with her father. One time I wish they hadn't been filming for the show. It did take a lot of courage for her to not ask the camera to stop filming.
My heart went out to her watching that scene.
mario,
you might melt this cold hearted old woman before long.
i thank you, not only for the gift you have given ramona but to me as well.
thank you from my heart...
i loved the white rice comment and how much you love romona for being herself.
the good, the bad and the never ever ugly.
(o.m.g.)
Mario,What a wonderful thing you did getting Ramona and her father together to find closure.I must admit up til now,I could take you or leave you...You are fast becoming one of my favorite cast members! I have enjoyed seeing Ramona come into her own...Boy,did she nail it on the head on the boat...Jill and LuAnn are the'Mean Girls'.
I have to admit, that I wasn't exactly fond of you last season, but now I'm putting that down to editing.
Avery is a lucky girl to have two parents that care and love each the way you and Ramona do.
She's turning into a beautiful young lady, and all I can say is the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
That closure will go a long way towards Ramona beginning the healing process growing up in an abusive homes brings...obviously she never talked much about it, which isn't unusual. So glad they made peace before he died. My mom's dad got sober his last year of his life, but she never got to see him as she lived in another part of the country with three small kids...all she ever said was he said he would have traded all his years on earth for that last year when he was sober (he was the nicest guy sober, but a mean, abusive drunk). Ironically, he was killed by a drunk driver who ran a red light almost one year after he got sober and found Jesus. Glad Ramona had her chance and the picture memory...what an awesome gift Mario...she couldn't have gone there herself! And I'm glad you have listened to her about Avery who is such a beautiful sweet young lady!
What a lovely blog Mario.it shows how much you love your wife and daughter.I'm so glad Ramona was able to have closure.It's so sad that sometimes parents have no idea as to how much they're hurting their children.You're one of the good guys Mario.I hope all of you have a happy and blessed holiday!!!
Mario, I love your salt and pepper hair and also the shorter haircut this season!
Mario;
Bravo.... You have a great daughter but most importantly, you are a great dad.. And a wonderful husband. May not agree with how you deal with people most of the time, when it comes to the ones you love, you are a superstar..
Mario, that you did that for your wife is an outstanding thing. You are definately worthy of respect on that one.
Ramona is very lucky to have you as a husband. Your two are imperfectly perfect for each other...I mean that in a good way!
WOW!!! Mario you really did Ramona a great favor. You are both so lucky to have one another.
Mario,
You've redeemed yourself very well from the previous callousness you've displayed toward your castmates.
Ramona did credit you with helping her forge a healing experience with her father for a positive end note.
This is the best light you've shone thus far. From S-1, you seemed like a model father for Avery too. It was good to read your sensitive comments here. Keep it up!
You are a loving and thoughtful husband and father. Ramona and Avery are blessed to have you. The good thing is that they know it! Continue taking good care of your girls.
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