I would never have thought that a remark of mine that was not even made on the show would start a war between the Housewives. I think LuAnn and Jill's reaction and continued obsession was overkill. I can recall a lot worse being said by others on the show. One thing I know is that I did not say "BRING IT ON BITCH." I called LuAnn in the hopes that she would come to our Labor Day luncheon and we could discuss what was bothering her about what she overheard me say many weeks ago at Polo. Looks to me like it is Jill who is not having "normal thoughts." Why did Jill get involved anyway? She just wanted to add fuel to the fire and make it into much more than it should have been. Perhaps if LuAnn came to the luncheon, she would have received the apology from me she wanted. I found it somewhat strange when Jill made the comment about how happy she was that the Count was not there. Surprising that LuAnn did not take offense to that remark as well, but acted as though she never even heard it.
When we arrived on Friday in the Hamptons a good friend of ours had a wonderful dinner party. Jill and Bobby came sans LuAnn. I guess Jill’s excuse about not leaving LuAnn alone because she was her house guest only pertains to Ramona. Since our lunch was on Monday, Jill could have certainly come as she was heading back to the city and our home was on the way back. Her weekend with LuAnn was at an end so that was a pretty lame excuse on her part.
As you can see Alex, Simon and Ramona and I have come a long way since last season. Not only are we getting along, but Simon and I are now on the same wavelength about the way we dress. Guess we should not go to the same designer. We are enjoying one another's company and they seem much more at ease now that they have gotten past social climbing and are just being themselves. Alex was honest enough to let us know that LuAnn had invited them to her house. I must have missed the chapter in LuAnn's etiquette book about declining an invitation for an intimate lunch but then inviting guests of the party you did not attend to your home. It seems LuAnn can get away with that kind of behavior because she wrote the book on bad manners and as such does not have to be "a countessable."
Bethenny finally has it all with her new love Jason. He is a great guy and I am very happy for all her success, unlike some of the other housewives on the show. I look forward to their marriage and birth of their child.
Kelly is posing for Playboy but since it is the 40th anniversary it is not really like posing for Playboy. She did say that, right? She cannot understand why Bobby collects and enjoys Playboy. That’s why they call it a men’s magazine. Funny that she would be surprised that guys she knows would want to pick up a copy of the issue. I have to think about that logic for a while...
Oh my, is it really that hard to do a simple apology? Even something as basic as "I'm sorry if that hurt your feelings, it was not my intention." Good grief, all we ever hear from Ramona and Mario is how *they* think people should react, what *they* think about what they say and how *they* think it's a non-issue. A little empathy and appreciation for others and their feelings (heck, that applies to all the housewives!) would help out considerably. And let's not forget..."treat others how you would want to be treated"...goes a loooong way!
You, much like your wife Ramona, like to stir up trouble! You owed LuAnn an apology. Rather than apologize & be done with it, you'd much prefer to be the center of a "war" (as well as the center of attention). Grow up!
You can rationalize all you want that your tacky comment (delivered in public) as being LuAnn's problem. Ignoring the issue doesn't make it disappear. Since you know it hurt her, why wouldn't you want to apologize? If it had happened to RaMOANa, there would be hell to pay and you both know it!
I love your comments. you crack me up. This season Jill and Luanne are very annoying to me with all the issues they have with everyone. They started off the show by acting like they are above everyone and making issues about everything. I love the fact that you guys started off the season with such great attitudes, and can also understand responding to their (Jill, Luanne)'s grudge against you guys. But most of all I love how you stand by your wife (eventhough she could be a character, sweet but firey at the same time- love her).
So you made a comment LuAnn overheard. So what? She's a big girl and shouldn't be hammering your wife for something you said. But please be kind to Ramona and get her out of hot water by telling LuAnn you didn't mean to hurt her feelings. Ramona's heart and feelings are all that should matter to you right now. Hugs.
Are you kidding? You'll only apologize (maybe) if Luann shows up to your party? What a man!!! Try a little sincerity Mario. You just wanted another opportunity to humiliate her.
I love your new look Mario.It makes you look so much younger.Love the hair.You and Simon having the same taste in your clothes,I cracked up.You both looked so good too.You guys might have more in common than you think.When you see LuAnn, just tell her your remark wasn't meant to hurt her feelings.I think she's over reacting, but I think the shabby way the Count treatd her has made her insecure and sad.Be a good guy and show some compassion.
Mario, apologize and be done with it. Yes, they've all said worse to each other but that's between them. This involved you. If you're so fond of LuAnn as your own wife says, you shouldn't have said it in the first place. Own up! I'm glad you're nicer to Alex and Simon as they've never done a thing to you and Ramona. Props on that. The "You have to pick a side" thing is juvenile, though. I hope you were just being facetious! Stay out of a bunch of catty womens' nonsense and yes, that includes your own wife's. How long Alex and Simon stay at your house is up to them and whoever else they choose to visit is up to them. You two should do the adult thing and not influence them one way or the other.
Oh, no, no Mario. Do NOT listen to Selena_g and change your picture. That hair is priceless. Looks like a steam and set.
As for you and Ramona, please keep it up. It's so entertaining to see Ramona's bulging face when you're acting like a 10-year-old and she gets so steamed, backing her man. Wow. Looks like she's on the verge of an explosion. You two are such a pair!
Didn't your mother ever teach you that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all? If you followed this simple advice you would probably be silent at least half the time. Being unkind is never attractive. I hope you are gentleman enough to apologize for your hurtful remark regarding LuAnn being "countless". On the other hand maybe you enjoy hurting women's feelings and would like to see them cry because you do have a bit of a mean streak in you.
You to some extent seem to be a decent guy but...........you are always picking fights with women. Why don't you ever do this with the husbands since you appear to be so confrontational. It is very childish and unbecoming on your part. Please reflect on this and stop this behavior. It only makes you look bad. MA
I agree with you 100% Mario.Worse things have been said amongst the housewives and all of a sudden these 2 women who think they are the epitome of high class are acting like they are so offended and can't let it go. Jill has no business to take part in this this. I'm almost sure LuAnn can handle her own battles. You just handle your own and let it go
You never said once "I am sorry for my comment, I hope the next chapter in you life is a great one, Romana and I would love for you and your kid's to come to the Pary". No, you were snide arrogant and selfish in whatever you would call you so call Olive leaf (in no way was it a branch.) And why not invite Kelly she was all alone. I've realized there are three types of behavior the East Coast rich, the West coast rich, and the one the rest of us live by.
Mario, sometimes you just have to man up and say you are sorry. You reminded me of a middle school bully with that "count-less" comment. Grow up for Pete's sake.
Mario, you should listen to Jill. You made an extremely cold-hearted and nasty remark about a woman who had already been kicked in the teeth (metaphorically) by her husband. All you need to do is apologize--genuinely. That's all Jill was telling you. And she was being a friend by telling you that. A true friend tells you something you may not want to hear but that you need to hear. If you're really a man, you'll apologize. You were out of line.
Mario, I love the truth!!! Unfortunately Jill's die-hard silly soap opera watching friends don't. I can't believe one viewer implied the only reason you wouldn't give the apology was because you wanted it for the show. DID she miss the point that the comment was made 6 weeks prior to her confronting Ramona about it - After having seen you one time after the comment and not saying anything and NOT saying anything to Ramona when she was invited to come on the boat. BECAUSE those things did not occur during shooting of this season... Seriously, if Luann wanted some resolution, WHY did she purposefully ignore the call when she saw it was coming from Ramona's phone and THEN after hearing the message choosing NOT to return the call to discuss like an adult to OBTAIN her apology...seriously??? I am starting to feel like the soap-opera watching nuts of Jills fan base right now. I am just happy that she is showing herself to be who she finally is (luann & Jill) and her fans still only edit and see and hear what they want???? AMAZING!@!!!! I love your wife and you and am glad that all of you are continuing to be who you are - not some persona that you have taken on for this show.
Mario, You should just apologize or at least explain your comment. You and Ramona do create drama too. But I guess that expected. I think the hubbies need to be stay behind the scenes.
Hey Mario, just continue your friendship with simon and alex..your life will be so much better for it...
I think all you needed to do was apologize. It is that simple. And Romana was just as bad. You said something that hurt someone's feelings and instead of being an adult and just apologizing and it being over and done with, you and your wife made a production out of it like somehow Luann was wrong. As far as Jill goes, she was there when they were talking about and she just happened to agree that is was out of line. If she had agreed with Romana then there would not have been a problem with her saying something. Grow up and be a man instead of little boy starting unnecessary drama.
Too funny. I think I might skip watching the show and just read your blog instead. I find it creepy that Jill can go on and on and on for months about 1 thing but if somebody else mentions something twice she's all over them. That psychic business was bogus. Why didn't Jill ask the psychic why she can't seem to stop obsessing about Bethenny? Strange it took her 3 months to actually say to Bethenny that she was upset. Oh well, I guess it makes for drama.
Love "a countessable" !!! You're not one of those husbands who just sits there and says nothing, that's why they don't know how to deal with you - good for you, continue to hold your own and push their buttons!
Mario, I found your comment about LuAnn being 'countless' spot on. I thought it had a good deal of humor in it. And it's true. Why she got so bent out of shape is beyond me. Big deal! she probably is alot of other things and we don't know about it. Jill called you an 'ass' on national TV because you wouldn't apologize to LuAnn and I thought that was extremely rude of her. Did she apologize to you for that comment? I felt that was worse that your comment. I hope you and Ramona don't bother with them anymore other than a coy hello as an acknowlegement. They call themselves new yorkers? I have another name for them. LuAnn tries to be someone she isn't and it ain't working for her. Her book is joke because she doesn't even abide by her own rules. Life goes on and I hope for your sake without them...
I just want to know why you couldn't just apologize!? Why couldn't you just call her up and say sorry instead of doing it at the luncheon? Then again, I guess you like the drama. You really would not have to deal with Jill if you just apologized.
I didn't hear the Count comment either. Look, Mario, you should have said, I'm sorry." Instead you're playing a tennis match with the ball. You are wrong.
OMG, this is the HOUSEWIVES of X...this is the one reason I think that the show is NOT better off with husbands blogging or on the reunion show. If we wanted their input, I think Bravo would start a The Real HUSBANDS of X. I get Simon (NY), he's one of the housewives but I am over Mario, Jim, Simon (Orange Couty) and hello...Slade is not even a husband of a housewife, well if Gretchen was a housewife if would make sense but Gretchen is not a Housewife so you tell me what she's doing on the show.
Nice to see you blog this season. It's good to see the NYC men instigating some of the drama! Keep it up.
Your blog is too funny; you must continue to blog through out the season.
I can't believe Jill and LuAnn interpreted your phone message as "BRING IT ON BITCH".
you are right on!!! especially this part: I must have missed the chapter in LuAnn's etiquette book about declining an invitation for an intimate lunch but then inviting guests of the party you did not attend to your home. It seems LuAnn can get away with that kind of behavior because she wrote the book on bad manners and as such does not have to be "a countessable."
Thank you for saying what every person in America was thinking!!!!!
Dude you need a new picture for your blog -- not only is it not current, it has the quality of a cell phone picture.
I like you, I really do. BUT! I foresee you going down that catty road of housewife politics. One piece of advice: Turn around and hit the accelerator!
Your blog seems very defensive, and frankly, very rude and tacky. You should NOT be defending your words about LuAnn. In-fact you should not only be apologizing for the snide remark you made but also for the comments your wife made over the phone about her. On that note, LuAnn should not have to enter the lions den to receive "the apolgy she wanted." You are a grown man, now start acting like one and apologize for hurting her feelings--as I am sure it was NOT your intent to upset her, right? It may kill you to bite your tongue and do such a thing but remember, you have to lose some battles to win the war.
Furthermore and since you touched on it, Jill did the what any respectful house-guest would do. She opted not to attend an event that her weekend host was not comfortable attending herself. Respect her decision as you would wish for yours to be, had the tables been turned. And, for Pete's sake, it was Labor Day weekend--millions of families entertain on this glorious weekend. LuAnn was not being spiteful by having a few friends over for a casual meal.
Well, I think I have said enough for now. Remember, don't get wrapped up in the drama. What has been recorded and is ready to air cannot be changed. However, at this point, you CAN choose to be gracious and humble (possibly even apologetic)in your blogs. I wish you the best.
It was very "countless"like for her to invite Alex & Simon knowing that she was invited by you & Ramona, everything that she has said or done this season so far, has been countless and having no etiquette. She's really grasping for straws when she is begging for compliments from Rosie like she did. No wonder Rosie left. I can only imagine what she heard and saw during the break-up/divorce. Jill shouldn't have have the phone on speaker, but I love it that Ramona called it like she saw it. I always thought LuAnn had something shady going on in her private life but I had no clue of so many infidelities!!! I'm glad to see that you & Ramona and Simon & Alex are getting along. Love the matching Bobsey Twin outfits that you and Simon were wearing to dinner!!! Can't wait to read next week's blog!
So you called her count-less within earshot. While it was insensitive and perhaps not very gentleman-like, LuAnn is making a much bigger deal out of this than is warranted. You did call her and leave a message indicating you regretted saying it and that you would like the opportunity to square things with her. She did say that is what she wanted and yet it seems what she really wants is to continue to be mad. Kelly on the other hand is nuts. She is posing for Playboy and is put off by the thought of Bobby ogling it? I guess she just thought it would be teenage boys and lesbians.
Mario, The one thing you didn't do is apologize. You said, "let's discuss it". Why is it so hard for people on these shows to just say "I'm sorry. I made an insensitive remark and I hurt your feelings. Please accept my apology." But somehow you think it's okay for you to say these things.
I agree with you 100% that Luann just needs to get over it.. pple say things all the time. .she can't let every little thing get to her.. its actually pretty funny! ha!
Mario, you should apologize. It was mean and totally unnecessary to criticize Luann for not having a husband. You continue to blog about how it wasn't a big deal and Luann is merely creating drama. Now you've got Jill in your sights. If it wasn't a big deal then why is it impossible for you to say you are sorry for hurting her feelings? You're not making any sense here.
In the very least you should have spoken with LuAnn so she would get off your wife's back about the issue.
Hey There Mario, First of all I want to say I get you. We have the same sense of humor. That being said, I know we all are guilty of making comments that may be considered rude or hurtful. Please remember that when you say something that hurts someone, no mater what, a sincere apology is always in order. ASAP! I hope you were able to do so since this happened a while ago. Luv Ya. Jul
Yes, you and Ramona and Alex and Simon are one big happy- You're the modern day Bob & Carol, Ted and Alice. You and Simon are the Bobsey Twins dressing like bookends and talking like a couple of harpies. Gossip much? I was surprised how you've aged since last season. Now you look as old as your wife. Maybe, it's from living with menopausal Ramona and her mood swings. Your take on things is quite stilted because it's always in your favor or for the people you like for the moment.
Mario - I was so pleased to hear and see your actions resolving this LuAnn thing. I am someone that can speak from experience when it comes to a friends husband offending you. I have actually lost my best friend because her husband insulted me. However, he did it repeatedly over 2 yrs and enough is enough. I think LuAnn is making a mountain out of a mole hill. I wish my friends husband was more like you because I miss her very much. You make me smile because you are so funny!!
Much Love, Ramosa
Oh Mario, you know you wouldn't have apologized to LuAnn. Why risk Ramona going into a tailspin of tears and rants, victim that she is, it would have spoiled your little impromptu gathering of what, 8 people? Of all the others in the cast, both you and Ramona really are the ones with not so normal ways of thinking.
Enjoyed the blog - I agree with you about Jill stirring the pot and Luann forgetting her etiquette. It's pretty pathetic that you all are split between being on one team or another. I do hold out hope that someday the lights will go in in Kelly's attic and someone might be home.
I don't have a proverbial horse in the race, but it is blatantly obvious to even the most casual RHONY viewer that both Jill and LuAnn enjoy goading Ramona. Time and time again Ramona declined to involve herself in the "countless" debacle, but Jill and LuAnn appeared as sharks smelling blood. They kept pushing Ramona to the point where she was in tears. They do this often and repeatedly with everyone from Bethenny to Kelly to Alex. It's akin to eavesdropping on two seventh graders. If LuAnn was so insulted and embarassed and insulted by your off-the-cuff comment, why would she mention it repeatedly on-camera and on national television? Jill just has too much time on her hands, apparently. In this economy, most of us regular people are too busying working to make the time to initiate clandestine speakerphone conversations designed to feature others in a poor light. One sometimes wonders how the "other half lives". After watching the impropriety of both Jill and LuAnn, I'm thankful that I grew up middle class in Northern New Jersey, and not within the New York City social scene. It's wholly apparent that money and a title cannot buy class, maturity, and manners. If anything, they owe you and Ramona an apology, not the other way around.
I really enjoy reading your commentary each week and hope it will continue.
What I found most offensive this week was the fact that Jill would call Ramona and have her on speaker phone, not tell her she is on speakerphone, and have Luann listen to the conversation. That is unforgivable and classless.