First of all I think you are FABULOUS!!!!! I also think you are the most genuine person on the show. I love your openess and honesty and I think you are a breath of fresh air to the show. I look forward to seeing more of you next season.

Sonja - Thanks for being on this show....I love your out look on life! You are very refreshing after the breakdown of Kelly and I hope you stay on and they rid of us of the mentally unstable Kelly.

Amen, sister!

You really are a joy. I think you will have a large following next season. Watch out for Jill. She will see you as a threat if you become as popular as everyone thinks you will be. Good luck, stay strong and stay just the way you are. You say it, and you own it!

I really really like you! So glad you are on the show!

You're my favorite housewife!! So glad you joined the show!

(Hope they kick Jill off- she's frustrating to watch.)

You are a breath of fresh air. Keep it going. You are honest without being hurtful. Most of the others could take lessons from you.

Sonja, I love your attitude (I too am a Sag) about looking within when we feel negative feelings such as jealousy. It is all about changing ourselves and not changing others. You are always so grateful and gracious about catty comments or actions of the other women. I feel like you accept the other women for who they are which makes you a great friend. You dont let what other people say make you feel bad about yourself. Remarkable! The others could take lessons from you. Love your spirit, bring it!

I just adore you. You are a straight shooter. What a breath of fresh air you are. I hope to see you on the show next year. You did a great job trying to help Kelly out when she went insane on crazy island. You're one hot mamma! Good luck to you!

Sonja I have to repeat my comment of last week. YOU ARE A BREATH OF FRESH AIR!! Thank you for joining the RHNYC.

Sonja you are a welcome addition to the RHNY!!

Sonja, You're an amazing addition to the Housewives! You have figured out Kelly in a relatively short amount of time. BRAVO to you! You are right - she doesn't share her feelings like most women do, and then she berates others for doing so. Sounds like she was raised in a household where showing emotions was not acceptable. I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate the way you handle yourself with the other ladies. I think you're going to be a true friend to all of them, but you also don't have any problem telling them how you really feel!

You seem to be a centered, secure woman with a positive outlook.

Uh-oh..I'm afraid for you!!!

Sonja,

I absolutely love the fact that your on the show! I really really hope that no one gives you too harsh of criticism! You are an amazing woman and I would hate to see you change at all. I cannot wait to read your book and get to know you more in future seasons. Please continue to be your beautiful, full of life self. You bring a completely different aspect to the housewives (that aspect I'm referring to is sex) and its so refreshing! Men these days seem to be the only ones allowed to talk about it publicly - but you and women like you are changing that! Thank God. You are an inspiration to all women - you show that its easy to embrace yourself no matter what, despite what society tells us is acceptable! Love you girlfriend!

Jules

Sonja, You hit the nail on the head in that last paragraph. Kelly is just a negative and confrontational person. She just does not see it. I think Kelly needs to watch the same channel everyone else is. Bethenny said a mouthful last season when she said Kelly comes from a place of NO. As soon as someone says something to Kelly she finds a way to make it a negative. WEIRD, that she believes she lives in such a positive and happy world. Sonja, you just came on the scene and can sum up Kelly in one paragraph, BRILLIANT!

i think your fantastic! and the most normal on the show.

I love you! I have a serious girl crush on you. I will only watch next year if you're on

Love you!!!!!!! And you're honest about who you are- no lies, no backtracking, no hidden agenda. Love you

Sonja,

You are such a breathe of fresh air on this show. The other ladies have been putting up with Kelly for a little longer, so I think as you get to know her, there is a possibility you might want some distance. AS you stated on "scary island" you are the sain ones and she is not! She is off her rocker!

I do not really agree with the one night stand thing, but at the same time completely respect that you are a confident woman and know how to carry yourself with grace and class. Knowone should judge you for being who you are, and your not a bad person for living your life as you see fit.

You go girl, do you and keep the great personality you offer to the show!

i love you!!! Thanks for some honesty and insight!

Sonja you are such a wonderful addition to the show. You seem to give balance where it is needed. It is hard for those of us that have become statistics to watch people like Lu Ann and her crazy ideas that she is Ms Proper. I find it o difficult to see charity events turn into lavish parties when there are people in this country that have health problems , extreme problems and someone like Lu Ann who can't carry a tune in a bucket have a cd release party...I mean really. And Kelly, well she definetly is dealing with allot of demons and is a very ill person. But it is great to be seeing you bring about balance as that is what feminie energy is suppose to do. Welcome, I look forward to seeing you on the next season! Blessings, Pamela

Love you as an addition to the cast! I think you bring fun, drama, and a sense of humor to the table this season. I agree never say never. It just makes you look like a hypocrite when you stumble. In reality we are only human and we all break our own rules occasionally, but if you don't say you would NEVER do that then you don't look so bad!

I really enjoy you! Thanks for making this a great season!

Sonja, What a joy it has been to have your energy brought to the show! You are delightful and I find you to be as real as Bethany and Alex have been, which is refreshing! In these hardest of times I find it so ridiculous to see the lavish parties given for charity when there are people like my husband and I that have lost everything in our 40's and now in our 50's are starting over. But can't even get our teeth worked on. So how much that is received for charity actually goes to charity and not for the party? I am sad to see Bethany leave but glad that Alex has finally made her voice known and Jill has seen the light. But you are such a delight and I wish you all of the best! Pamela

It really doesn't matter what YOU think...Kelly thought you were a bully and that's that in Kelly world. You can try to be generous but it won't help. Good luck trying to walk that fine line.

Sonja, you are a breath of fresh air! Awesome! You are funny, down to earth, supportive and gorgeous. The kind of friend I would love to have. You know how to have a good time and take it all in stride. Good for you girl, you are my favorite NY housewife.

Brilliant post! Great minds think alike. You have a unique and amazing perspective on life and are great at articulating it!

Im so glad you joined the show. You are a breath of fresh air in a VERY stuffy room!!

Please stop making excuses for your behavior. I so enjoy watching you. You are an absolute breath of fresh air...confident, interesting and down to earth. In following the Housewives (CA, GA, NY, NJ), I'm always a little leary of a new cast member. You add such flavor to the cast, I always look forward to your episodes!!

Well said, sistah!

Love, Love Love You!

Love, Love Love You!

you are my favorite of the housewives Sonja. But why write that Kelly is too guarded on expressing her feelings but when she gives her opinion on drinking, and sex you judge her for it and say its an insult?

Sonja, you read people so well. You have it all figured out and I applaud you for that. It's nice you want to help Kelly, just be careful okay. I personally think Kelly needs someone who knows how to help someone who is mentally unbalanced. And I really do feel she's very very unstable. You Sonja, are just what this show needed!

I think I am in love! You are awesome!

HI !!

You are my FAVORITE...along with Bethenny and maybe Ramona (since Ramona is a lot more likable this season.) Anyway, Sonja, I am 43 and I soooo hope I could be more like you! You seem very kind, confident, sexy, and just all around like a fun, likeable person.

I am sure will get to know more about you on the next season...and I look forward to your book coming out.

You were great with Kelly on the vacation! Actually you were the peacemaker for everyone. You were so right that Kelly is the "crazy" one...or needs therapy and better communication skills...let's say. Anyway, I hope you and Ramona and Bethenny and Alex become good friends! I like Luann too...but sometimes I am annoyed with her. But anyway...I do wish all of you the best.

I think it's a wise decision to keep your daughter off the show. Dina in New Jersey did the same this season and I do agree it's best to keep your kids OFF this show.

You crack me up!!!

Take care, Lynn San Diego, CA

you are my favorite on the show! you're drama free

Sonja, You have been a great addition to the HWofNJ. You are pretty, nice, objective, smart, and a good friend. I look forward to seeing you on upcoming seasons.

Sonia - You are such a breath of fresh air to the show. You have helped balance the drama and lighten it up. I truly enjoy watching you!

Sonja, Wow, are you terrific. You and Ramona are just the kind of chicks I'd love to hang out with. Keep the sex talk coming baby - isn't that what we all talk about with girl friends? The "customer" comment was dead on - anyone who is your friend knows your kidding. You are doing a great job holding your own with a twinkle in your eye. In a way you are more effective than Bethenny because you stand up to those crab ass women in such a sweet way. Welcome aboard! Looking forward to next year with you! Cheers :-)

Sonja, Wow, are you terrific. You and Ramona are just the kind of chicks I'd love to hang out with. Keep the sex talk coming baby - isn't that what we all talk about with girl friends? The "customer" comment was dead on - anyone who is your friend knows your kidding. You are doing a great job holding your own with a twinkle in your eye. In a way you are more effective than Bethenny because you stand up to those crab ass women in such a sweet way. Welcome aboard! Looking forward to next year with you! Cheers :-)

Sonja, very happy you joined the show, You are the breath of fresh air. Your input at the Island was priceless. You are a voice of reason much needed on the UES. Carry on and Good Luck.

Dear Sonja: Your blog was so spot on!!!! You are as Andy said such a breath of fresh air. Just thought you were wonderful on the reunion episode. You are so elegant. Your assesment of Kelly was very acurate. I wish you the best and I am looking forward to your book. Debbie

Sonja, you are a breath of fresh air and reality on the show!

Sonja...you are a ray of sunshine...just love your personality....I am happy that you dont take yourself so seriously...

Sonja, You are like a breath of fresh air on that show. Don't ever let fame change you, and someday you will have your own show. Like Bethanny you are true to yourself and others you tell it like you see it, and that is a GOOD thing. Please STAY AWAY FROM TOXIC JILL.

I think you're great fun Sonjia, you have a fresh outlook and bring a lot of laughter to every situation. You also seem like a peace maker, you let us see your vunerable side and you are upbeat. I really felt for you when you shared with Bethenny and Kelly on the boat. I know a divorce can leave you feeling doubtful about yourself. By the way, you look awesome. Like you said, sometimes we get what we need rather than what we want. I look forward to getting to see more of you on the show! Take care.

You are spot on regarding Kelly - in a very tactful, restrained way. I applaud you - I think I'd go out of my mind trying to speak with her in any sort of setting. I like your style - keep it up. p.s. I love your frankness and honesty about the role of sex in life. I believe it's an important message for women, single or married.

Sonja, you seem to be the only one that really understand everyone and tries to fix or should I say help to repair the problems between the other ladies on the show. So glad you are on the show!!! I think you hit the nail on the head about the jealousy part, Jill and Kelly both are too jealous of Bethenny! Kelly does seem to have her guard up and I think it is because she feels that she is not as smart, talented or something as the other ladies and maybe she feels they are looking down on her so she is going to be the first to fight back before the fight begins. Either way I honestly dont think she is crazy, maybe she just to talk to someone (Dr), is really seems to be so unhappy in her life and with herself. Also Jill is just plain ole self-centered, but I am sure after she watches all of this season and the reunion shows, she will do alot of changing for next season. BTW...you are my favorite and before you came on the show I was about to give the NYC wives up!!!

Team KELLY!!

I like you, Ramona, Alex, B., and Jill. You five seem real and taking care of Jill while she was a diva this season elevated your status! You're funny, unique and have a great appetite for life... best of all, DRAMA-FREE!!!!! It doesn't get any better. I look forward to you next season, you keep it light and airy!