Teresa Giudice

Teresa's having a tough time finding reasons to love Bethenny.

on Mar 12, 20100

 

From the previews for the week I was very excited to watch, but I have to say, this episode was a little tame. Nothing really happened, just a lot of talking and talking and talking. But I'm gonna start this week where I ended last time, with Bethenny. First, to answer some of your questions, no I do not hate Bethenny. I don't hate any of the Housewives. As I said last week, I really liked watching Bethenny the first two seasons. I liked watching her start her business and write her book and try to find love. I felt bad for her when she messed up. I was excited when things were going well. I am really, really happy for her and the success of her book. I owe her a lot of thanks myself, because her book being a bestseller helped inspire other Housewives like me to write books. (So excited my book, Skinny Italian comes out May 4, but more on that later...)

At Ramona's party, Ramona and Bethenny talked about how friends should be happy for each other's success and not jealous. I think that's really true, and what type of friend you are depends on how confident you are with yourself. I'm really, truly, deep down happy for my friends when they do well. I want them to all succeed and be billionaires. But I've also had people in my life that weren't happy for me, and I think its because they aren't happy with their own lives. I think Jill is one of those people who are really happy for Bethenny because even though they aren't friends, Jill doesn't bash Bethenny on her book. Jill just keeps saying she's hurt. I was a little surprised to see Bethenny admit that she was jealous when others were successful or "got something" she didn't have, but she said still happy for them.

Maybe that's my problem with Bethenny now: she's all over the place and I can't figure out who she is anymore. One minute she's being friends with Ramona, and the next minute she's calling Ramona "Cruella De Vil" and a "psycho Nazi" behind her back. Not nice. When she met LuAnn for a drink last week, Bethenny and LuAnn kissed and made up. Bethenny promised to not talk behind LuAnn's back anymore. Then this week, she tells Ramona all about the drinks and says LuAnn " lost her husband and grew a penis." Who says that???

 

258 comments
Rach2010
Rach2010

You know Teresa you are not my favorite in RHONJ, but I have to agree with you 100% on this blog. Good Job. I totally agree with you on the Jill-Bethenny situation and I just dont get why people dont see it. Good job girl!

Toni C.
Toni C.

I'm just catching up on these blogs..hence my late comment! I don't know if your opinion about Bethenny changed.. but I am definitely a fan of hers. I think she uses her humor as a defense. I don't think she really trusts most of the ladies and I think, especially when her and Luann "made up" it was really more to just keep things civil. Luann wasn't forgetting anyway... she brought up the fact that Bethenny called her a snake any chance she got! Now that I've seen the entire season and how things have played out... did you notice, Luann didn't try to diffuse the whole Jill/Bethenny situation AT ALL. She wanted to play BFF with Jill and if she really was Jill's friend she would have tried to sort the situation out with her instead of always making comments like "yeah, Bethenny's scary...I can picture that look on her face when she said this & that"... We all know Jill was hurt and she could have come around sooner if she wasn't constantly told she was RIGHT by Luann or wasn't always being heated up by her.

Rachel from GA
Rachel from GA

While I LOVE you and your family on RHWONJ, I think you're being REALLY hard on Bethanny. I think that maybe you should have an honest friend "proof read" your blogs before you write them, lol. This blog (and several of your other blogs) make you out to be very jelous of Bethanny. I really hope that you're not meaning to sound so rude & jelous...please address this comment in your next blog so that fans like my self can maybe try to see exactly where you're coming from...On a lighter note, I hope all is well with you & your family! Also, I tried to find your book @ B&N, but it wasn't there..where else can I find it?

Viewer22
Viewer22

I love Her..bc she is her! always.. shes quirky and honest...my god you have to interview would you like if she sat there and lied? said yes i love everybody on the show they are fab?? she tells the truth in a quick-witted funny way. Plus i think people are used to her being the underdoggish, sad needing help and now she feels good about herself and i dont think shes really changed i think thats shes just sure of herself..and while i think that Jill may have liked her as the underdog my guess is she needed Jill regaurdless of why Jill was her friend or any of the circumstances bc Jill was all she had so now she has Jason shes like hey i have somebody who is constant and i actaully am sick of this crap so i dont need it..

plus.. i bet it was old to watch a season where everyone thought you were the underdog..

rhfan{addict}
rhfan{addict}

I'm not liking Bethany this season either. Yes, she had a lot going on in her life and much to be happy about but to bail on her friends at times they could use a friend - that's just wrong. She's not just giving her honest thoughts anymore, she's being mean for the sake of being mean. The skinny girl car is just over the top.

Side note - I will not be watching her wedding show & am put off that she's getting her gig paid for when she is successful as well as her husband.

hulahiphousewife
hulahiphousewife

Hi Teresa,

First of all, I'd like to say congratulations on your new addition to your gorgeous family. I can hardly wait for the new season of RHONJ. Yours and the RHONY are my favorites. Secondly, I total agree with you about Bethenny. She has gotten so out of control this season, with her so called success. We'll see how long that lasts, amongst other things and relationships. When you are a happy person inside, you don't make "snarky", sharp-tongue remarks about people you call your friends. I see Bethenny now for what she truly is, an opportunist, who uses people to move up the ladder, and burns her bridges on the way up. She used to be a favorite of mine and my friends, and now we can barely stand to watch her every week. So you hit it right on the head about Bethenny. She's nasty and venomous.

Vickie C
Vickie C

Met you @ Palace Theatre in Albany, NY last October :)

About Bethenny? I think that she is hurt too and she handles this with her snarkiness, Remember she did not have the love & support that Jill did growing up, so I feel that she tries to hurt you before you hurt her. I hope that they mend their friendship and that Jill, Bobby & Ally are at her wedding this weekend.

aaa
aaa

Hate to break this to you Teresa but the RHONJ was ridiculously boring. Bethenny got it right. I think yall are the most family focused and your relationship with your husband and children is absolutely darling....but boring!! The only drama on the show was about Danielle/table flip and yall not wanting to include her in the fold. boring.

Bethenny is great. She is the quick witted hard-scrabble friend; she is loyal to those she loves. I have not heard her say one snarky/bad thing about Jill. Who doesn't say mean things about ppl that are considered associates and not real friends? Almost all of the housewives say mean things. Shall we recall "prostitution-whore"? Did she make a huge mistake by not being there for Jill? Absolutely...bc there friendship seems genuine and sweet.

Why I don't think you are jealous of Bethenny, I think you are being unnecessarily hard on her. I think you would like her if you gave her chance.

Jacqueline M
Jacqueline M

Hi Teresa: I can't wait to see the HW of New Jersey! Yes, I am agree with you...I don't like Bethenny this season at all....I don't think that she is friend with nobody....selfish girl!!! She likes to talk behind back from everybody,...NOT GOOD AT ALL! Let see for how long she will keep her boyfriend....for now is Bethenny's new toy.

Lo
Lo

Teresa, I completely agree with you on Bethenny. She was always my favorite in the previous seasons and now I'm finding it hard to like her at all. It really does disappoint me because I so enjoyed her! I think that she's lost sight of everything in having experienced success and acquiring Jason. Yes, she did work hard for the success and it's always wonderful when someone falls in love, but it's also important to remember who helped get you there. Friends are more important than money. Also, on a side note, for someone who practices yoga she certainly doesn't act like it!

Ioana
Ioana

Bethanny is not perfect by any means but she's straight forward and funny and she is a good friend. I mean, she says outrageous things to your face so what do you think she says behind your back? That being said, we all talk! We all have private conversations with our friends/spouse about people in our lives. It just so happends they are on t.v. Don't go on a reality tv show if you can't take it! Bethanny's conversation with LuAnn was so awkward with LuAnn asking Bethanny to pay that it was expected Bethanny will make some off the wall remarks about LuAnn, as anyone else would have. In regards to B. and J.'s friendships there are two sides to every story. B. did mention at some point that Jill sent her a nasty email asking B. to be grateful for everything while B. says she has paid her dues. It's weird how B. didn't visit all summer and she needs to apologize but Jill doesn't need to hold B. accountable for everything she ever did for her (which I'm still confused as to what that really was since it looked like the show made B. famous not Jill).

twilight mom
twilight mom

Hi Teresa , I have to say , of all the housewives shows I think that your show was the best. Your friends are more real and sincere .The other wives of NYC ,ATL and especially the OC women are so fake. Can't wait to see season 2 . Best wishes to you and your loved ones .

Kay Holliday Viewer
Kay Holliday Viewer

Teresa, I agree Bethenny has changed, but I still like her. She makes the show the way you make The new Jersey Housewives. Keep up the blogging. I love to read them, and don,t feel bad about Joe. It could happen to anyone.

 rhiannon
rhiannon

Teresa, face facts bethenny has a really unique type of personality. With that said, she is definitely a personality made for T.V.. She's a comedic figure at times, so she's bound to be successful, therefore people are going to want to rip her apart. Jealousy is an ugly thing. Without Bethenny the Housewives might be boring, as she brings a lot of life to the show, as each of the NY housewives does in their own way.

Lucy's Apple
Lucy's Apple

Teresa- I really look forward to reading your blogs because you are usually right on the money and it's a refreshing take since you are on the outside looking in. I do agree with you about Bethanny but only to an extent. Bethanny has changed, loved her the first two seasons, I found her to be really refreshing but now she just seems so mean spirited and vicious, like nothing that any of the housewives do is right however Jill is not as innocent either. I can see how Jill is a meddler, in everbodies business and creating drama ( i know you love Jill but you can't defend what she did to Ramona when she put Ramona on speaker phone and let LuAnn listen in) Jill also has the tendency to take everything personally and create drama in her head (which she admitted to) she also likes to be included in everything and when she's not then the gossip and drama starts so to me both are at fault for the state of thier friendship. Hopefully they can work it out. I completely agree with you about how Ramona treated Alex at the party. You are right, it was labor day weekend when most people have get togethers and most people go from one house to another to visit so Ramona shouldn't have taken it like it was a personal attack on her when Luann decided to have her own get together nor was it any of her business where Alex was going once she left the party. To me the whole episode just screamed high school. Can't wait to see what you have to say next week.

Jolene
Jolene

You are just a doll, really. No bad thoughts, no bad manners, it shows how happy you are with Mr. Juicy..lucky you, and happy for you.

BMW123
BMW123

I Love and admire Bethenney. Bethenney is a comedienne. You can't take that away from her. Her one-liners are funny. It's like saying all comediennes should not be funny. Please women, stop being so emotional. Bethenn ey did good for herself without leaning on any man like the other 'fabulous fake four' did excluding Alex. Please Jill, LuAnn, Ramona and Kelly---Get a life---and while your at it get Jill a Hobby...

justathought
justathought

Its not about who right and wrong here there's always 3 sides to a story their your and the truth. Rumors and he/said she said BS is always drama and most of the time no one tells all the truth. I don't think Bethany is prefect and i don't think Jill is. I think both care ab out each other and both are hurt. which bring out the bad in everyone. especial when your being attack for being who you are you have to defend yourself anyone who doesn't isn't a women i would respect.

Being the Strong woman you are should have more respect how Bethany is as much as your respect how Jill is. Both women say what on there minds and wear the hearts on their sleeves as most straight forward women are. Sadly strong women get alot of grief as Bethany does for always saying whats on my mind as i seen you did many times during your session. end result have to respect both women for standing their ground and hopefully one day they will see its because they are both strong, independent, loving. caring people Your session of housewives touch me most because I could relate more to most of you being from the same background. I think your all great and i wish your family and yourself all the best.

SP
SP

Teresa what's with the Bethenny obsession? I know she said some things about you during your season in NJ, but a real adult would get over it and not grind their axe on their blog every chance they get.

alt24
alt24

Teresa, I agree with you about Bethenny she used to be my favorite house wife but this season i just can not stomach her. Remember last season when she talked about "Kelly thinks she's the queen of fabulosity" It seems to me this season that Bethenny thinks she is the queen of fabulosity!!!

Gia Renee
Gia Renee

Can't wait to see the new season with the Jersey girls, you and the NY ladies, are my guilty pleasure!

Viewerwatcher
Viewerwatcher

Teresa, i don't like you BUT i must agree with you. Bethenny has changed ALOT. It seems like she is a fair weather friend.

Twilson
Twilson

You said it right girl. Betheny has changed. And for the person who said look at Ramona and Mario's Blog you might change your mind. How would you know what they put on they're blog is all true....... I mean come on Betheny talks about people behind backs she just told Luanne she wouldn't talk about her behind her back anymore and than what did she do talk about her behind her back. I tired of hearing her say own what you said and speak your mind to my face and not behind my back when she does the same. Pregant or not you can't talk to or about people the way you want to.....

Midwest Mom
Midwest Mom

Teresa, I feel the same way about Bethenny. She's just hard to like this season. Too bad.

Florida Viewer
Florida Viewer

Teresa, I love, love, love you! You should read some of the readers comments on other blogs and perhaps know a little bit about the before the housewife show of Bethenny as she is self made. You don't need to look very long and hard to find out why you should not only "not hate her" but admire she for being a strong independent woman. Jill did not make her, Bethenny did not use Jill; look back as well of the other seasons and figure who has used the media for their own personal gain first.

AmyBav
AmyBav

Hi Teresa! I totally agree with you about Bethenny this year! The topper for me was at the Labor Day party and Ramona's friend had the "nerve" to speak some truth to her about how Jill might be feeling and the Bethenny was like..."Hello? Who are you? The caterer? Why are you talking to me?" Wow...full of yourself much?? I guess if you don't bow to Bethenny, then you are not allowed to talk!

Texas Mom
Texas Mom

What you said in this blog is right on. I loved Bethanny in the first season but she has changed alot. I don't like the remarks "one liners" behind the other housewives backs. It's rude & mean!!!!! She is going to have to do alot of changing to get me back on her side. LOVE,LOVE your blogs, you keep it real!!

bunny
bunny

Teresa, i love you! i think you are one of the REAL,real housewives. BUT, all these books you and the other housewives are writing/written, (Bethenny,Jill,LuAnn,NeNe,you) this is alot of dead trees. Not saying there's anything wrong with "milking" it but...

Endie
Endie

Teresa you should read Ramona's and Mario's blogs and then see if you feel the same way about Jill and Luann's behavior. There are two sides to every story; it's just a matter of whether or not you want to hear it. Not only did Ramona blow the lid off of Luann's marriage, but Bethenny did too at the bar when she was having drinks with Luann. Teresa you should practice looking at the whole picture and not blaming one person. There is plenty of blame to go around.

Monica
Monica

I love you! You are the best housewife hands down!

Iamamommyof4
Iamamommyof4

I really like Bethany,her honesty is refreshing as is Ramonas. I have to say, all of these ladies seem pretty untrustworthy. Looking for every opportunity to stab each other in the back. I know this is great television, but horrible moral character. That is why "all" of the housewife shows are my guilty pleasure.

Julie in RI
Julie in RI

hi Teresa! I feel the same way. I loved Bethenny in the first two seasons, not because she was the underdog but that she seemed to really care about those special people in her life. She fought for friendships and she spoke her mind. Now, she is still speaking her mind (which I admire) but it is coming across that now she is in a serious, reciprocal relationship, she feels like she doesn't need anyone else in her life. And that attitude can bite you in the butt down the road if the relationship doesn't work out. I think it's important to always cultivate friendships and close relationships, no matter what your relationship status is. I hope she and Jill become friends again though. I thought they were great together and showed such true friendship!

Donna Guevara
Donna Guevara

You hit the nail on the head. I'm torn by this new Bethanny too. Is it because she gets the most attention, publicity of all of the nyc ladies? Did it go to her head?

south beach
south beach

Teresa, Bethany was/is pregnant! Have you forgotten already what that was like? Have some sympathy for her raging hormones. Bethany tried to make things right with LuAnne, as soon as she walked into the bar after driving how long.....LuAnne ambushed her. Talking about her being cheap always letting someone else pay. That was not why they were there. It is funny now that LuAnne is common folk, no longer queen of the manor! She needs to get over herself. Ramona I love the hair. Jill watch out LuAnne and Kelly are not your friends.

Viewer 36
Viewer 36

To Viewer 40 I agree. BORING/ talk talk talk talk fight fight fight talk talk blah blah blah. Don't care if I miss an episode or not on this one. Can't wait for HWNJ or rerun the OC or something cuz the NY women are boring and obnoxious now.

Beth Donahue-Weedman
Beth Donahue-Weedman

The reason we love Bethanny is because she's the only one who isn't 'petty'. I mean come ON....that 'drink' scene with LuAnn? Are you kidding me? Bethanny is the only one who diesnt act like a 12 year old (besides our beloved Alex).

rhonyc-superfan
rhonyc-superfan

I agree. Bethenny has changed and is NOT NICE. Remember during the last reunion show Alex said the one things she didn't like about Bethenny is that she says one thing to your face and another behind your back? Well, she nailed it! Bethenny is showing herself and may soon learn what "Karma" really means! Can't wait for RHNJ!!

KDP
KDP

Teresa, I agree with you on both blogs from last week and this week. I will not be watching the show this season. I have watched the first two shows and I disappointed. Jill and Bethenny were my favorite to watch together. I thought they were real friends but now I realize Bethenny used Jill to get ahead. Even if Jill was for the underdog she was always there for Bethenny and a real friend takes the good with the bad. I hope they will work it.

Viewer40
Viewer40

Hi Teresa - Love your blog.

I agree with you, this episode was a snoozer. I hope this season gets better. So far, all these woman do is talk, talk, talk, and fight, fight, fight!!! It's really boring me. There is no depth to anyone or anything. They are bringing on the drama and I think it's backfiring.

christine Titus
christine Titus

Teresa , first off you are by far my favorite housewife , On all the shows , you are so sweet and kind and if your mad you tell it like it is , you have a beautiful family , I cant wait until the NJ housewives are back on , I was thinking the same thing when I heard Bethany make that comment about the countess , I thought how mean and crud , and I did think do people say that WHO wood say that ! what kind of a women is that ,

Marylyn
Marylyn

Teresa--why the obsession with Bethanny? In addition to having new babies, East coast wit...you are both obviously similar in one big way---you call it like you see it, and most of the time, you are RIGHT!!! I think Bethanny is actually quite sane and when she gets frustrated with the insane minutia from the other ladies, she spouts off---sort of like you (remember the table flip?)

I think the two of you would make an indelible force--so team up ---it would be great publicity!

TiaMarie
TiaMarie

Uhm Teresa...because Bethany is REAL..she is not afraid to say out loud what other people are only thinking. I appreciated frankness over butter coated pleasantries any day! Viewing your personality from the show I thought it was something you would appreciate too.but understand that most people don't.

jrsygirl
jrsygirl

Thank you Teresa for explaining in such a nice way exactly what I was feeling but was only able to communicate in a way that would have sounded "mean". I also was a great fan of Bethany [and you by the way] but her actions this season and from what I have heard so far about her fight with Jill, even from her side, she is not the same girl. You do not treat your friends that way, ever. Men come and go, your friends are their forever, if you are a good friend. Nice insight. Sweetly done. Be good and save.

Bart 55
Bart 55

I was hoping Bethany would get her own show and leave RHNY, and that way I would not have to watch her at all. Sorry, never cared for the snarky sharky one-liner queen.

platinumrg
platinumrg

Teresa you are one of my fav NJ Hosewives and everyone is entitled to their opinion but I am so tired of everyone bashing Bethenny. Instead of point out all of the bad things she is doing why don't we give her some pointers on fixing her friendship with Jill. I agree they are both to blame. Jill admits she likes taking care of the underdog and she should know that Bethenny was probably overwhelemd with her business and new man and hoping that everything worked out that what Bethenny said was out of frustration and not the heart. Bethenny and Jill get it together please.

LuAnne is a trip she used to talk down to everyone because they were not on her level and now that she is on their level (without title) she wants them to rally around her. She has to be a friend to get a friend. She is probably hanging with Jill because Jill likes helping and LuAnne is lost. Kelly is weird and should go somewhere else she does not bring value to the show. Alex and Simon are well, Alex and Simon. And last but not least Ramona is Ramona what ya going to do. I look to see what quirky thing she will do next. - Ramona I love the hair cut :-)

No BS
No BS

Just own it, you don't like Bethenney and spent half of your blog talking about her because you are in fact JEALOUS... Then you promoting your new book with "Skinny" in the title. I wonder where that idea came from? Sounds like something Bethenney came up with first. Also, you are only blogging here because of the TRUE statements that Bethenney wrote about you in your boring season 1.

JennaP
JennaP

I think I lost patience with Bethany during your season of Housewives, Teresa! I thought her comments in her blog about New Jersey were a little out of place and not that funny. She reminds me of some of the girls I've been friendly with who depend on being sarcastic and always having a snappy comeback for everything, it's exausting to be around. That's how I feel watching Bethany now. She had some good oneliners in the first New York season and then she ran with that persona. I'm so glad you're blogging! I'm really imaptient for your new season now, though!!

emilyintx
emilyintx

I don't see why you have a problem with Bethenny. She is the BEST person in HWofNYC. She is crass but lovable and truly relatable. I know she does seem different these first few episodes but if I remember right she's also pregnant during this time.

I can't tell you what an enormously obnoxious person I was during pregnancy. Even before I knew I was pregnant I remember wanting to bite most people's head off. The first few weeks of pregnancy I still remember yelling at a lady in the intersection for honking at me. I felt like like a nut and then I took a pregnancy test and realized, wholly hell, no wonder I'm a nutjob. In Bethenny's defense she normally is a go getter with a 'tude but being pregnant I think she is having the opposite effect than I had and the hormones are making her mellow and then nuts. You've had kids I know you must understand. So, give the girl a break. As a mom to mom you know what hormones do to you.

ViewerMN
ViewerMN

I agree with your observations. I feel that Jill is very hurt over how Bethenny prioritized her life. Bobby, someone she claims to love, had cancer. So how does Bethenny pitch in...she sent flowers. I don't get that. I would have been there for Jill and her family. Yes, it could get draining and overwhelming but family illness can gauge the strength of a relationship. When the ship takes on water your friends are there to help you bail it out and share their life jacket with you but your fair weather friends jump ship. Jill just learned that Bethenny avoids real life issues. Her one liners have become too snarky for me. Her comments border on cruelty, just like Ramona often does but unlike Ramona she doesn't own it or apologize. Ramona will "eat crow" when she knows she crossed the line. I am also born and raised in Chicago so, I know snarky, strong women...this is something I have been said to be but I have never bailed on a friend.