Do I ever have to say how excited I am to be guest blogging for the season of The Real Housewives of New York? Love love love it! They definitely know how to bring the drama. The season premiere was so good, I watched it twice. Jill and Bethenny are not friends anymore because Jill thinks Bethenny used her, and Bethenny thinks Jill is too needy.
I listened to both of their arguments and tried not to take sides, but I have to say, I think I have to go with Jill on this one. Here's why: we saw from the first episode of New York Season 1 what kind of person Jill was. Jill is a person with lots of connections who likes to hook people up. She just likes to do it. She doesn't get paid for it. She not in business to do it like a professional matchmaker like Patti Stranger; she just likes to put people together. When we met Bethenny she really didn't have any connections. She lived in this tiny apartment, she talked about how poor she was, and about how much Jill helped her. The reality is that Jill did help Bethenny. She helped Bethenny A LOT. Jill was Bethenny's freakin' fairy godmother. Now that Bethenny has gotten successful, I think she's forgootten how she got thay way. Yeah, Bethenny hustled. Yeah, she works hard, but without those connections from Jill, she never could have made it happen.
The first two seasons, Bethenny was a weeping, hot mess. And that's what people loved about her. She was real. She got sloppy drunk in front of her boyfriend. She had to stay with Jill in the Hamptons because she couldn't afford a place. She had to borrow Jill's mom for self confidence because she didn't have a family to give her any. She wasn't born with any big advantages. It was great to watch because that's how a lot of us were born. She was scrappy and fiesty and wanted to win and Jill saw that and helped her win. Bethenny won; she's got a lot of success and she's busy now. But why is she too busy for the person who got her there? Bethenny says she is grateful and that she's thanked Jill and that she can't thank her enough to ever satisfy Jill. Jill is a strong woman, so you can maybe see how that would be the case, except that Jill tells us Bobby had cancer this summer and Bethenny sent flowers but never stopped by. If that's true that is completely uncool.
LuAnn shows up and says she's getting the same treatment from Bethenny. Bethenny didn't used to be able to get into any of the fabulous parties, and LuAnn was great for hanging out with. Bethenny really enjoyed knowing a "Countess." But then Bethenny got successful, and didn't need LuAnn either. Bethenny says shw was just busy, but LuAnn made a good point saying her whole life fell apart and Bethenny wasn't there even once. Bethenny tried to defend herself saying she sent a basket over. LuAnn had one of my favorite lines of the episode: "Gift basket"? I wanted a hug!"
Ramona has some of my favorite lines of the show like: "I'm a nice girl ." Maybe I'm mean with the things I say because I'm honest, but I'm a nice person." What the hell???
Of course, Bethenny telling Jill to "get a hobby" was not cool at all, but i thought Jill handled it well when she said, "I did get a hobby and its not hanging with Bethenny". Loved it. Go Jill. I hope we do get to see a new side of Kelly this season. I knew she was married to a famous photographer, and that he's older than her, but I didn't know she was only 23. When she said that time in her life was like being Rapunzel stuck in a castle with two small kids, I thought that was really interesting. Now she wants to be Robin to someone's Batman. LuAnn didn't get it, but i got it. She wants to be part of a team with a great guy. I hope she gets to.
I totally agree, now that Bethany has her relationship, which she sobbed over for the past two seasons she is totally forgetting the friends she has leaned on.
She is a nasty person, who uses the excuse of being "honest" as an excuse to belittle and be cruel to the people she has used in the past.
Teresa, I agree with you 100%, girl! Very nice guest blog. I am so glad that you are going to be giving us your take each week, since you seem to have a gift of "telling it like it is," without getting mean, petty, or devolving into childish name-calling. Looking forward to reading more from you!
First of all, i miss your cast! but i think you are being a little harsh on Bethenny, perhaps because she has her own career and you just live off your husband? yep, I think that's it!
OMG!!! YOu nailed it T-Girl.....I am laughing all the way through it. I agree that B has gotten a little too big for the britches and not because of the pregnancy.... They had an airbrushed and non airbrushed online and you can totally see an old skin Bethanny and then a young skin Bethanny all of a sudden. Soooo glad you are guest blogging. LOVED YOUR TAKE...Keep it going sweetgirl. Hope your lttle cuties are good.
LOVE IT!!!!! You tell it like it is and I LOVE IT!!!!! I can't wait until Jersey comes back on, it is by far the "realist" of the real housewives.
teresa, i concur in full with your review of the entire episode! great analysis, great comments! completely on jill's side w this one! b's changed and it's taken tack to another level.
Theresa I am so with you on Jill and Bethenny. Could not agree with you more. B is a total social climber and she took Jill for all she's got. It is sad to watch how the claws came out big time. I hope that the rest of the season we will not have to watch B running her mouth to her boyfriend ( if this one will last all season) about all the other housewives.
Theresa I missed you! You are a freaking table flipping goddess! I agree with you about Team Jill. Cancer trumps everything. Betheny was never too busy to stay free at Bobby and Jills in the Hamptons so she should have made time when Bobby was ill. I'm going to enjoy this season. Agree on the PETA campaign, tacky and a little too much. Looking forward to your blogs. You are funny for real as Caroline Manzo says. Betheny seems rehearsed to me with all those one liners.
Theresa, I agree 100%....You are right on!! Bethany seems to be getting too full of herself. She forgot where she came from....
I like you Teresa! You are so funny! However I don't know if I agree with the entire blog. Jill was very catty to Ramona. She got Luann all excited in her dispute with Ramona. Called Ramona cheap to one of her friends. Also talked about her showing jewerly on the boat.
I'm starting to agree with Ramona here. Maybe Jill only likes when someone is not doing as good as her. She was invited by Ramona, that was just rude and it was definitely catty! Time will tell but I think Bethanny could be right about Jill. We'll see as the season unfolds.
Teresa, I have to respectfully disagree with you. First of all, no one can really take "your side" seriously because we all know Bethenny blasted you for flipping the table and 'acting like trash' on your season. You have always held a grudge against her and broadcast your feelings via twitter long after you should have been over it. You took her comment way too personally and honestly, Bethenny was right.
Second, Yes, Jill introduced her to people but Bethenny has the credentials to take her to the next level. "Knowing people" only gets you so far. Also, who is to say the show would have not catapulted her to the level she is at now. You can not attribute all of her success to Jill. Her books are amazing and she knows what she is preaching. I thought it was interesting that you came out with "Skinny Italian" AFTER Bethenny was already promoting her "Skinny Girl" line.
Third, a friend is a friend. When a friend helps you out, you do not hang that over their head or owe them anything for doing so. That is not genuine.
Teresa, awesome blog! Keep writing, girl! I thought that you were very honest, sincere and funny. Really enjoyed reading it. I agree on all of your pointers about Betheny/Jill friendship failure. Never forget where you come from and always appreciate all the help you are given to climb up. Hope you and your beautiful family are doing well.
Hey Teresa!:) Awesome blog, definitely agree with everything you said, especially this: "And I think the whole idea of using naked women to bring attention to animal rights is belittling, pornographic, and makes no sense. Especially women who wear fur, leather shoes, and eat meat." Thank you for a saying this, I think those ads are so offensive!
Teresa . . . I have to say that I'm shocked to learn you've been so easily manipulated. I thought you were much for independent. Yikes . . . Jill has really sucked you in. I can tell that Jill almost dictated what you wrote. I'm sad she got to you and you were influenced so strongly.
That review was great and really changed my mined, you were right on. But I still don't think it was right for Jill to go around and bash her every chance she gets. As far as Kelly, sorry cant stand her.
YES! I totally agree with everything you wrote about Bethenny. Now that she's gotten where she needed to go she just threw away the people that helped her get there.
Dead on- as usual!!! What it boils down to is Jill needed a friend and Bethenny wasn't there. Bethenny was like family last season asking Gloria for advice, staying at their beach house and disappeared when Jill needed her the most. I think Bethenny knows that and is coming up with every excuse she can because she feels guilty...when life got rough for Jill, Bethenny bailed. Alex is stuck in the middle, LuAnn's trying to get through her divorce and I think Kelly just wants a fresh start. Ramona is still Ramona...I do think the was not the appropriate time to address the "Countless" comment. That should have been handled at another time with Mario himself.
Teresa, Teresa, Teresa, Didn't you ever learn... if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. I would have thought, you of all people would most closely relate to Bethenny. To say, Jill was Bethenny's fairy Godmother, is so off the mark. It appears as if Jill is the one with the problem. It's called jealousy!
Thank you Teresa for such a spot-on and insightful blog!! I agree with everything you wrote; but especially appreciated your snark, regarding that rabid pitbull named Bethanney. Her "skinny girl" car was downright embarrassing. Furthermore, her peta photoshoot was incredibly self-indulgent. And I totally agree with you that peta's "advertising" (for lack of better word) is belittling and pornographic.
Love, love, love you & can't wait to read more of your blogs :)
I think you're just hating on Bethenny. Don't be jealous, it doesn't look good on you! I'm on Bethenny's side, how many times should a person say thank you to someone who helped them out??? There's a line. If you're going to help someone don't throw it in their face and always remind then of it. I'm sure Bethenny works/worked hard to get where she's at and Jill seems a little envious as do you. I will pray for all you ladies to keep your head on straight.
Hilarious. Love you. I hate the "rather go naked then wear fur" campaign. Why would you try to make an ethical point by feeding into the unethical sexist abuse of women in the media. Its not cool. I agree awareness on this issue is important to animal rights advocates, but think of a smarter less damaging way. Disgusting. I don't have an issue with Bethenny, but seriously thought she was smarter than that campaign.
Tried not to take sides? yeah right. Everyone knows you hate Bethenny. Bethenny does not owe EVERYTHING to Jill
Goodness, please stop hating on Bethenny...it's toxic and sounds really immature coming from a woman your age. She looks better than you, get over it. I think it's absolutely hilarious that you can call ANYBODY tacky when tacky pretty much defines all the women of the Jersey cast ESPECIALLY you. And at least Bethenny has her own career...what exactly is it that you do besides get pregnant and carry wads of cash around? To be fair, I really cannot stand your entire cast; not just you...and I wish Bravo would get rid of it cuz all of you are boring but this blog really made me dislike you
Love, love, love the fact that Teresa is providing commentary on the new season of Real Housewives of NYC! I'm torn on the Jill vs. Bethenny feud b/c I like them both, however I do think Bethenny may be getting a big head with her newfound fame. However, she does have alot going on with being pregnant and being in a new relationship so quickly. I just hope she makes up with Jill. Life is too short. Keep up the good blogging Teresa and congrats on the new baby.
Your "nasty tacky, stupid" comments toward the end about the PETA shoot were mean, not honest. I'm not a rabid PETA fan. I'm not a Bethenny fan. But I think your comments were mean and unhelpful. The gist of the campaign is I'd rather than wear fur. It makes sense. There is nothing wrong or pornographic about nudity. Especially tasteful nudity. While being photographed naked, who cares if she is being playful, cheeky or irreverent. She's naked - she's breaking the ice. Who cares if she emailed her bf a nude pic? You should try it sometime, your husband will love it.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE that you were a guest blogger for this weeks show!!! You are the best and as a Jersey Girl myself ...you do me proud!
I am not too sure how I feel about Jill and Bethany's fight. I do believe that Jill did a lot for her but Bethany really acted crazy in this episode. She was totally manic. That poor baby ... with a mother who is that out of control. Maybe once the baby is born she will relax a bit but she was a mess!
Can't wait to see my Jersey Girls show come back. NYC better be a short season cause I miss you guys!
I love it! This post was awesome! I sincerely enjoyed reading your views on this episode and hope you continue with this blog. Oh, NJ, I miss you and your classy ladies!
I was a Bethenny fan, but now after watching the new season. I can't AGREE WITH YOU MORE!!!'
WTF???? Where does Bethenny all of sudden become so self righteous and belittling those who stood by her.
Well done on your blog!!
PS LOVE THE RHONJ
I think you are confused. Bethany was a very high paid chef before she ever came on the show. I think Jill has been a great friend to Bethany, but she isn't the one that has made her rich and famous. The show and Bethany's hard work has done that.
I disagree with you to a point. How much can one say "Thank You" to someone for all they have done? Bethany and Jill are like Lucille and Ethel and when one does soemthing the other wants to do it as well. Bethany stated that she her her boyfriend was going on vacation Jill asked why she her husband was not invited. I think Jill was hurt by that. I think these two need to patch things up again--Bethany is becoming a mom and Jill would truly be a great friend to her. Do I think Bethany changed? Yes! I think Bethany may have changed when she got herself a man. Someone needs to break the ice.
Who do you think you are talking about Bethany. It seems to me that you have something personal against her. Maybe she said something about you in her blogs and rubbed you the wrong way. So this is your idea of revenge? You are the QUEEN of tacky and you have the nerve to call Bethany tacky? LOOK at yourself...just look at yourself and then start telling others if they are tacky. You are sooooooo trash...and like Bethany said you are a train wreck.
I think there are 2 sides to every story and even though you say you listened to both your words show very differently. About Jill's connections, lets be honest, the show opened doors for all the housewives, yourself included that may not have otherwise been there. Lets not knock how hard Bethenny has worked. Someone may help you open a door but if you can't deliver the goods its going to get shut in you face. Bethenny has! As far as your comments aboutn Luanne, lets just say I don't find it very proper for someone who likes to come off as having class to keep critizing others she feels don't meet her standards.
That was great!! You nailed it and I totally agree:) Bethenny is a loser and everyone can see it every single time she tries to grab the spotlight. I feel so bad for Jill because she got sucked up into Bethenny's toxic web. But I am glad she is free of her. I am so glad you are blogging on this show and can't wait for New Jersey housewives to air:)
It seems that whatever issues you have with Bethenny are fairly personal. I mean, she has called you out numerous times for your own screw-ups, why not try to pick her apart? As for your assessment of how Bethenny became famous and what Jill did and did not do for her, I personally think you're way off. Bethenny was never poor. Her father was a famous horse trainer, so I wouldn't say she came from nothing. She states that she "raised herself," mainly because she seemed to have no emotional upbringing from her father. Bethenny also went to private school and later graduated from NYU (no Berkeley College, but good nonetheless). I'm fairly certain we all saw Bethenny making a lot of connections early on. She became friends with Ginny Hilfiger without Jill, no? She was on Martha Stewart Apprentice alone. She built her business from the ground up, and while I'm sure Jill introduced her to certain people, I'm sure even she would admit that she didn't do everything for Bethenny.
Yes, she was drunk in front of her boyfriend, but at least the table stayed firmly on the ground. Jill did invite her to the Hamptons, but I don't remember anyone saying it was because Bethenny couldn't afford it. Borrowing Jill's mom because she didn't have any other family? Unfortunately for Bethenny, she never had a strong relationship with her father, and he has recently passed away. So once you lose a parent, you aren't allowed to accept advice from anyone else? I wasn't aware of such rules.
Oh, and on a personal note: women who drape themselves in fur deserve to be belittled.
I could not have said any of this better. I graduated at the top of my Fordham Law School class, and I have huge hair. All I have to say is the bigger the hair, the bigger the brain. You go girl.
Not only can you flip a table, you can write a really great blog. You got it all right!!! Can't wait for NJ..Love, Love Love You.
you seemed like such a positive person on your season. Why are you so negative about bethenny? It seems mean spirited, unwarranted and appears to be coming from a place of jealousy over her breakout success. I think all of you ladies should show some class and at least give the appearance of being happy for another person's good fortune. And by the way, Bethenny's ad looks fantastic and so does she-airbrushed or not!
I have to agree with you Teresa..I am on Team Jill. Bethenny seems like a completely different person this season...and not for the better. She seems to be picking fights with everyone!
By the way...RHONJ RULES!!!!!
Really Teresa, to say that the only way Bethenny was able to "make it" is because of Jill is crazy. I don't care how many friends Bethenny has and their "connections" Bethenny has a great personality and is able to create great recipes and did a fantastic job sharing her success with being healthy by writing her book. That was not Jill. I like Jill but think she take more credit than she deserves. Bethenny is a hard working person and she was working for success in many area's in life and when you find your life partner then you focus more time on that person, sometimes friends are not the center of your world any more but a true friend understands that and takes a step back and supports there friend from that place. But, Jill can't stand not being the center of peoples lives. Bethenny is blunt and Jill should know that by now and not have taken the hobby comment so hard, and realized that Bethenny was finding love and needed to focus on that relationship.
And, Bravo, really chose your guest bloggers better next time.
Your blog was great! Maybe a little hard on Bethany, but very good anyway. Simon needs to read it so he can learn how you blog correctly!