Vicki Gunvalson

Real Housewife of OC Vicki Gunvalson gives her take on the real NYC drama.

on Mar 29, 20100

 

I thought it would be fun to would write in as a viewer on the NYC housewives blog which is such a nice change for me versus writing as a current cast member. Hope all my OC fans are still tuning in and enjoying the new season with New York. Stay tuned to my blogs, as I'll try and write each and every week from now on. I have had the opportunity to meet all the Housewives of NYC, so it's definitely fun to see their "story' unfold on TV as well as in real life.

To me, it's very obvious that Jill misses Bethenny, but is extremely hurt by Bethenny. Jill probably had to do what she felt was right to protect herself from any more hurt. Jill realizes it's not good to hang on to bad energy, as it's not healthy! I actually know how Jill feels, as this has happened to me all during the season of our show. Jill has a way of telling you how she feels, which is ironically the same way that I am. I have a lot of respect for Jill and hate to see her in the middle of so many uncomfortable situations. It's definitely toxic and hard to watch. I just wish that girls could get along. We really need and depend upon each other so why all the bickering all the time?

I have to wonder, why didn’t Bethenny ever apologize to Bobby or Jill for not being there during Bobby's cancer treatments? Isn't that what friends are for? If it was important to Bethenny to have Jill as a friend, she should have done everything in her power to make amends.

Bethenny's one liners are funny, but sometime I feel they are also very harsh and rude. I think once you see yourself on camera and how you act, you definitely learn from it and hopefully try to improve yourself. I hope Bethenny will do the same.

 

364 comments
bj_o5
bj_o5

I SO AGREE WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!!

Viewer victoria
Viewer victoria

I agree 100% you are definetely right maryolus! Jill was not a real friend to Bethenny. Very nice Maryolus!!!

PFOGARTY
PFOGARTY

11/4/10- WHEN ARE YOU COMING BACK OC IS THE BEST

maryolus
maryolus

You are right, you and Jill are just the same. You both say and do stupid things to other people and than you are offended by reaction of those you've hurt. If Jill is such a good friend why she didn't call Bethenny to tell her that her husband is seriously ill or why she didn't call Bethenny when her father died? Where is Jill's generosity? She preferred to text about it people that she doesn't consider her friends. How ugly! And she didn't want to let Bethenny talk to her in any occasion Bethenny tried to talk to her just to make her (hopefully) look bad. But you know, people see trough you, it is not just the matter of editing that is your favorite excuse. At the end viewers impeccably choose the good guy to stick to. That is why Bethenny is so much more popular than vicious Vicky and jealous Jill.

PAViewer
PAViewer

Bella, you should take your own advice and mind your own business. Marriages don't fall apart because one friend voiced their opinion. And for you to lay a guilt trip on Vicki is just ridiculous.

cc65
cc65

ARE THE OC HOUSEWIVES COMING BACK? THATS THE SHOW THAT STARTED IT ALL. I WATCHED EVERY EPISODE.

cate1
cate1

where are the OC housewives???? that is the best housewives show....when are they coming back? i miss u girls!

Serabella
Serabella

Vicki you are the queen of drama. You are the mean girl on OC housewives. You had it in for Tamra when she first came on, and now Gretchen. You were also not a very good friend to Gina talking smack about her after all you been thru with her. Lady, I hope that next season you learn to take the heat after you dish it out. Stop playing victim and learn to listen to what the other housewives say to you about you, and yes I love OC housewives. Its still my fav, WOOHOO!

Bella2010
Bella2010

Hey Vicki, I love Orange county housewives. I am amazed that you don't have more hate mail. You need to learn to mind your own business. Tamara is so sweet. I really do think that if you had shut your mouth, her and Simon would have stayed together. You ruined their marriage. Those kids are now going to have to suffer for what you have done. I thought you said this year that you were going to be nicer and more positive. You failed.

Anitha
Anitha

I think you didn't watch the full show.Betheny didn't know that bobby was that serious?Jill is one who made all comments behind her back.but I like both jill and betheny.

I am so surprised that you are talking abour bickering!!!.helloooooooooooooo!!! come on....... did you ever watch yourself in your show???????

SouthFlady
SouthFlady

Vicki,

I just adore you as you are a wonderful person. I have read the blogs here from some very unstable people. Let me first yell this out, "these are reality stars people, not your relatives, friends or pastors"!

Why all the screaming at Vicki.... asking "did you really watch the show"

Hello we all watched the show and anyone who has half a brain would realize that BOTH women were wrong.

Jill was wrong for being childish and holding a grudge and Bethenny was wrong for her many insults, back handed comments and using people for her own benefit, I mean get real people.

Bethenny has her own reasons for not talking to Jill, she has her own show, and while KUDOS to Bethenny, she has alot of anger issues and is always defensive.

Vicki what you said was on the money, like most intelligent women we see the cattiness that some women bring to the table.

I live in Weston, FL, beautiful place and we have women similar to OC housewives, but I think you and Gina should be more of the stars of the show, I really miss watching your fun vacations together.

Keep up the great work being an independent strong mother, I think even though you are financially secure, your children are not spoiled and know the value.

bunny
bunny

vicky, I am a huge fan of the OC Housewives.When will you be coming back on. I think OC Housewives are the best.

000madman000
000madman000

Yoohoo to you Vicki, you illuminate the OC show and I think your vision of the NYC show is very smart and totally accurate. Best, ZaCK.

Luna Gu
Luna Gu

Agree with all the ladies that say it sounds like Vickie either didn't watch or else missed quite a few shows. Also her opinions sound like Coo Coo Kelly. Hope she's better informed on those insurance policies she's pushing. Must say I wasted my time reading her 2 cents. Way off base, Vicky.

jennifer4kids
jennifer4kids

I really think you are one of the best housewives. You are a giving and careing person and I think those women should be greatful for a friend like you. You are few and far between.

Mary Beth
Mary Beth

Vicki, you are off base on the Jill Bethany relationship. Are you sure you watch? Jill just discarded Bethany like she was nothing. That is terrible, especially when it’s very hard for Bethany to get close to people with her traumatic childhood. Bethany tried more than once to make amends with Jill, and she acted indifferent and would not give her a chance. Bethany is NOT rude and her wit is born out of necessity for survival. Regarding Kelly....Uughh. That girl is scary crazy and contradicts herself some much she makes NO sense at all. She manages to contradict herself in the same sentence!! Most annoying is her treatment of the very serious issue of bulling. Insinuating her cast mates are bulling her truly diminishes her worth on the show.

Viewer from Maryland
Viewer from Maryland

Why all the bickering? coming from you...the queen of bickering!!!!! Come on.

marsha771
marsha771

In regards to your post about Bethany "being there" for Jill's husband's cancer treatments, it is wonderful when friends send flowers, telephone or maybe help you out in some way with errands. You are busy at this time and most people don't want to be bothered by well-meaning visits from friends. It's obvious you've never taken care of a family member with cancer. Everyone's lives cannot stop to see you through this. You just need to GROW UP and handle this on your own without complaining that your friends didn't do enough for you. MANY people get cancer -- too many, and they're not all running around whining about it.

Knickers
Knickers

Vicki,

You are correct. Jill took an awful beating, and those who think Bethanny trying to apologize is enough, well it ISN"T. Jill had every right to be angry, and you open up to apologies when you are ready, not when someone tells you to be.

I hope that Bethanny's show keeps her further from next season, as then we get to see class and style again..

LauraginNJ
LauraginNJ

Vicki, Your blog is too funny. Bickering is your middle name, or at least it should be!!! I think Bravo should do a spin off show with you, Jill from NY, NeNe from Atlanta and Danielle from NJ. That would be fun to watch. Drama, Drama, Drama.

Nemesis
Nemesis

Vicki

you hit the nail on the head!!! I couldn't agree with you more!!! xoxoxo

Viewer12345
Viewer12345

She wrote this blog in March OBVIOUSLY before any of the drama unfolded.... Before you critique someone so harshly maybe you should get your facts straight.

Vicki! I love you on OC! Hope to see you on another season!

JI Viewer
JI Viewer

Vicky, I agree with you, Bethany is so rude!

Chuck12
Chuck12

Jill/Vicky---2 peas in a pod.

trishwith4
trishwith4

what a surprise that you're team Jill... it seems like you're not watching the same shows we're watching though. Jill hurt by Bethenny? hello? Haven't you seen Bethenny say she didn't know how sick Bobby was? Anyone watching the show knows that was contrived by Jill in an attempt to make Bethenny look bad. Jill has jealousy issues as do you. Your perspective is about as valuable as Jills - and the funny part is, picturing the two of you in a room together I don't think you'd last five minutes together.

ho
ho

You are so right, Vicki!! Thank you for your insight.

TampaNY
TampaNY

If you watched the whole season then you would of seen that Bethany tried to apologize a few times but Jill wanted to ride that fight~When Jill was talking to her sister at her Christmas party and said " I just want the whole thing go away~like it never happened" Bethany tried that too, way in the beginning at the fashion show. I hope they do pal around again, on camera or off camera. I like both of them. There is not doubt Bethany is amazing in every way, and Jill is a Long Island girl like me so I get her, even when she is a little bit wrong.

LA Viewer
LA Viewer

People in glass houses should not throw stones and honey, there's not one square inch of your house that isn't made of glass. You know, you ARE a lot like Jill.

Bea
Bea

Vicki...watch the show sweetheart, it seems like you are making stuff up like Kelly

Bea
Bea

Hellooooooooo...I thought you said you watched the show...Bethenney, as a matter of fact, did apologize to Jill many times...She reached out to Jill many times and made Bethenney cry several time too...Jill wants to be close to Bethenney because she wants be part of Bethenney life due to her pregnancy and marriage, etc. She wants to be on the invite list...hello...

Also, as far as you saying to Bethenney that is rude...In this blog you are rude to Ramona by commenting on her eyes...Ramona's eyes are fine leave her alone....Geez

JJNewton
JJNewton

Wow. This is my second time informing you regarding this matter... Your alter-ego is not Jill, it is Ramona.

kiki3333333
kiki3333333

Vicki... What are you talking about Vicki??? It is crystal clear that you didn't watch this season in its totality. Bethenny DID try to make amends and salvage a friendship with Jill. Bethenny did reach out on more than one occasion. She was shunned over and over again. Where do you get off writing about something you don't have 1 iota of a clue about? I'm embarassed for you... Get your facts straight before you comment on someone elses life...

lstat
lstat

Ofcourse you can relate with Jill...you're both controlling and hold grudges til the end. You both still have your positive sides (independent, strong moms, committed wives, and loyal friends) but as well are hyper-sensitive and get way to defensive when it's your turn to take the heat. Be accountable, don't cut people off and stop acting like everyone's attacking you, for once!!

a Viewer
a Viewer

Great blog Vicky, you observations are right on the money. Woo Hoo!

Judy Gross
Judy Gross

Just when I joined team Vicki this year, you go and post this hogwash!

Do you watch this show at all???

Jill has been like a 13 year old this season, with "THE COUNTESS" and goofy "playboy pugsley" as her mean girl cohorts!

Jill only realizes that Bethanny has her own show and she won't be a part of it! I really believe Jill is kicking herself for all her DRAMA! Too late for her...lmao!

JAMEDIWE
JAMEDIWE

Wait, but Betheny did apologize, she called her, wrote her AND Bobby an apology and even attempted to "AMBUSH" Jill at Ramona's house, to which Jill replied that she wasn't ineterested in resolving anything because she did exactly what Betheny said and "got a new hobby". They were both very close and tried to force a make up before they were emotionally ready to do so. But Betheny couldn't help it, she knew that Jill would want to be a part of all these big changes that were coming up, that's part of why she tried to contact Jill in the first place. Jill wouldn't listen. Infact, when Alex told Jill that Betheny's father was dying, Jill's reply was very nonchalantly commenting on how they don't have a relationship anyhow, like it was no big deal. I simply disagree completely with your statement. You may have met them personally, but you don't have to know someone to watch this train wreck unfold on TV (editing kept in mind, of course).

Karen Ann
Karen Ann

Once again Vicky makes everything about her - doesn't she have a job, why is she blogging about other people. Vicky you can relate to Jill because you are both very selfish people.

kareon
kareon

If you find Bethany's one liners insulting you should find Jill outright unbareable. Bethany is usually trying to be funny or a bit sarcastic Jill is just mean. Every outing or party that was thrown by anyone on the show is never good enough for Jill or Count(l)ess. Ramona didnt have snacks before her wedding, an emailed invitation from one of the other wives wasnt good enought, the list goes on. With both of them, they must be center of attention getting all the praise or they just turn nasty.

Motown Philly
Motown Philly

Did you watch Kelly's version or the one everyone else watched?

Your nuts too.

Rachel from California
Rachel from California

Vicki, you were my favorite housewife till this last season. You were terrible!! You tried to control everything and everyone and you won't listen to others when they try to talk to you as a person if theyre telling you that you did something to hurt them or if they tell you your being rude. You know what?! I can understand completely why you would see things through Jill's perspective. You are the same. Well I frown on being disrespectful and double standard and controling and critical to top it all off. For your information Bethany did try to appologize to Jill and she even sent a letter to Bobby. But you only see what you want to just like Jill.

tisme8706
tisme8706

Vicki, you are really one to talk about people being harsh and rude! You have to be the biggest hypocrite on the planet.

SheilaB723
SheilaB723

I guess you were'nt watching too closely. Bethenny made several attempts to apologize to Jill and was shut down each time. And she DID apologize to Bobby in person and in a letter she sent to him.

You remind me a lot of Jill. You hear what you want, you want to be right all the time, you turn every event on yourself (e.g. when your friend cried on your shoulder about her pending divorce)..., your time is more valuable, etc., etc, You couldn't take a long lunch (like milliions of business people do on occasion) to join a lunch celebration for a friend? You send a staff person with a gift!!?? How uncool. You are my least favorite person on OC.

ajones
ajones

Vicki,

I enjoyed your comments about Jill and Bethany. Its funny how many people support Bethany and think she is the best housewife and are supportive of her getting her own show. Bethany getting married will be the third reality tv show for her. I think that she needed the attention in order to have people watch her show. The love fest between her Jill last year did not make for great tv or ratings; turn up the controversy, you get more people tuning in and also support for a new show featuring Bethany. If Bethany was Jill's true friend, then she would have called when Bobby was sick and apologized when she did not. Also, what true friend says to their friend you need to find a hobby. My husband says to me when you know how people are, you know how to treat them. He is right. It is apparent that neither Jill nor Bethany really knew each other. Bethany should have known that Jill needed attention and that she is vicious. On the other hand Jill should have known that Bethany needs publicity because she is trying to market her own line of food/drinks etc; and once her business/brand started flourishing she was not going to have time for Jill. This was evident when Bethany was on Martha Stewart's apprentice. Although, I must admit that I admire Bethany, because persistence pays off. She has been striving for several years to become a star and make a success of her brand and with all the controversy this year, she has succeeded. I will not be watching her new show, I have had too much of Bethany Frankel. I could care less that she is getting married or having a baby. Hopefully, her ambitions will not destroy her marriage. I think Ramona was right when she said to her, "you destroy every relationship that you have and you will probably drive Jason away."

shanefalwrites
shanefalwrites

Vicki, where did you go??!! Everyone knows you are busy with your family and working, but you promised in your blog you would post regularly all season of Real Housewives of NYC!! Does your lack of posts mean you've quit Bravo for good??? I hope that's not the case, please give us an update soon!!

Kkay
Kkay

Yes, I have often thought that you and Jill have many similarities. Both of you were Real Housewife favorites for me, initially, but I now find both of you very unappealing.

Fall River Boston Seattle
Fall River Boston Seattle

Vicki, You are my favorite. You work..make your own money. I work, make my own money. Nothing was ever given to you on a golden plate. You should start your own show... Of course I have an idea: Houswives on Snoqualmie Ridge. Various backgrounds, single, married..mixed families.. If you want more ideas..contact me..personal email: shanbeth@hotmail.com. I work at a large company here..so ..trying to keep this on the down low. Cheers! Shannon Hathaway

valkyriesmyst
valkyriesmyst

Yes Bethenny's one liners are funny.... but rude? No that is you honey. I can't stand you for the love of God. I despise you the most of all the housewives. Can you tell?

Cap in New Orleans
Cap in New Orleans

OK I read your blog............Hello it's very clear to me you DO NOT KNOW what you are talking about!!!!! You are just like Jill you take a situation and it instantly becomes all about you!!! B went to Jill twice and tried to straighten this out (as I saw it , it was Not about Bobby she made it about her feelings being hurt)........Bobby said nothing as I recall about "how B treated him about his illness); and told Jill to rethink her feelings about B !!!! Again Jill ended the relationship!!!!!! Jill spoke to anyone with a set of ears how wrong B was for hurting her!!!!(not Bobby), it was Jill calling and texting everyone about B's pregancy, it was Jill who declined the trip in the first place!!!!! So now she has to own up to it and live with it!!!! Open your eyes lady and see it for the way it is!!!!!

Spooky
Spooky

Well I have watched since the beginning and you were what I considered a mentor to some young women and men. Then I was truly happy your "love tank" was full. But yet you continued your evil and condensing ways. I am thinking you are not enjoying the show anymore and time to go. Your husband seems to come around, but that takes "two". If we were to party together it would be a blast, and I know the work detail all day and weekends. Cost me allot. Look at your man and friends, bite your lip and be greatfull