I thought it would be fun to would write in as a viewer on the NYC housewives blog which is such a nice change for me versus writing as a current cast member. Hope all my OC fans are still tuning in and enjoying the new season with New York. Stay tuned to my blogs, as I'll try and write each and every week from now on. I have had the opportunity to meet all the Housewives of NYC, so it's definitely fun to see their "story' unfold on TV as well as in real life.
To me, it's very obvious that Jill misses Bethenny, but is extremely hurt by Bethenny. Jill probably had to do what she felt was right to protect herself from any more hurt. Jill realizes it's not good to hang on to bad energy, as it's not healthy! I actually know how Jill feels, as this has happened to me all during the season of our show. Jill has a way of telling you how she feels, which is ironically the same way that I am. I have a lot of respect for Jill and hate to see her in the middle of so many uncomfortable situations. It's definitely toxic and hard to watch. I just wish that girls could get along. We really need and depend upon each other so why all the bickering all the time?
I have to wonder, why didn’t Bethenny ever apologize to Bobby or Jill for not being there during Bobby's cancer treatments? Isn't that what friends are for? If it was important to Bethenny to have Jill as a friend, she should have done everything in her power to make amends.
Bethenny's one liners are funny, but sometime I feel they are also very harsh and rude. I think once you see yourself on camera and how you act, you definitely learn from it and hopefully try to improve yourself. I hope Bethenny will do the same.
You have to be tough. You can't say anything you want to say to anybody and not have them treat you the same way. That is how Jill, Vickie, NeeNee and LouAnn are. Nobody gonna keep taking mess off of you. If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen. Jill and LouAnn act like kids. You all are too old for this. If you stop trying to think you are all that and respect others, you probably would not be as miserable as you are. What goes around, Jill, LouAnn comes around. Get off your high horses in your mind and come back down to earth. Kelly has more sense than you all do! Seriously!!!!!
Vicki - I find it so ironic that you of all people say that Bethanny should apologize and make amends. Please take your own advice and apologize to the people that you may have offended all season (intentional or not). You never once owned up to hurting others even when they told you that you did. You always became defensive and blamed it all on others. I also hope that you can look back and see yourself on camera and realize that you too are harsh and rude and will also learn from it to improve yourself!!
Vicki, I am glad to hear you thoughts about RHONYC. You are truly a breath of fresh air in this sesspool of negativity. I agree with you that the women should support each other rather than tear each other down.
"Out of all the Housewives, I can relate to Jill the most."
"and we will be doing a book signing tour together"
Will any guest bloggers not be on team Jill?
Yes you do hear a Woo Hoo!!!! I am true house wife fan. It all started with you Vicki. You are my favorite house wife. Happy birthday. You are so right you and Jill are similar.She my favorite from NY wives. She is hurt by Bethany.
Talk about bad timing! I was just in Las Vegas and stayed at the Mirage no less! I would have loved the opportunity to meet you, but the stars are just not aligned this time. Nuts!
Hey Vicki! I am glad you are going to be guest blogging.....however, please don't be on Jill's side just because you have business with her in other ventures like y'alls book. Jill is just as guilty as Bethany on every level.
Vicki, I miss you so much! I hope to keep hearing more from you and your busy career life! Keep blogging on all of the Real Housewives franchise, I watch them all!
you were no different than all the bickering that happened in the OC season. You bickered with everyone: Gretchen, Alexis, and Tamra.
Woohoo Vicki! Happy Birthday! Can you believe RHONY might beat OC out on the bickering this season?? I miss my OC housewives!!!
Thanks for taking the time to give your insights. It must be nice to be off the hot seat for a bit. I agree that this season is full of vitriolic bickering. The arguments are purely over semantics, actually. A castmate said something and another castmate heard something else entirely. Ex. LuAnn made some small talk and Bethenny pitched a hissy fit over an imagined insult. It's as if Ms. B has gone postal or all "Alexis" suddenly.
I can see your comparison to Jill. She's warm and wonderful and caring. On the other hand, she can be insensitive toward others' with her laughing out loud at their errors (i.e. Silex' parenting skills or lack thereof). She's also a loyal friend (as were you to Tamra). Her daughter turned out fabulously (as did your kids)! I'm sure when you two get together, it'll be an amazing time.
Vicki, I just don't understand you girl. You talk about how rude Bethany's 1 liners can be, then in the next paragraph you mention Ramona's eyes popping out of her head. Is that not a rude 1 liner? Sounds like it to me. You always expect way more of everyone else and hold them to a higher standard than you do yourself. Just think about it...
Hi Vicki, These types of shows always make you reflect on your own personal relationships and friendships. Vicky, although I agree with your blog 100%, I wonder if Jill and Bethenny's fragile friendship has made you reflect on your fragile relationship with Jeanna?
You wondered why Bethenny didn't apologize for not being there during Bobby's cancer treatments; have you apologized to Jeanna for not being there for her (as a caring and loyal friend)during her financial hardships that she experienced?
As the saying goes, there's always 3 sides to the story, your side, her/his side, and the TRUTH.
Happy Birthday Vicki!! I will look forward to your blogs every week. I always enjoy yours when it is your turn in the "spotlight."
Kelley is a world class model. Kelly posing in playboy--cant be compared to regular moms' IMO. Team Bethany n Ramona!! Love your new blog Vicki!!
Since you relate the most to Jill and feel she is a lot like you, you'd probably benefit from reading the criticisms towards her, because just as you say, you are a lot alike and have some of the same negative issues you could benefit by seeing others' opinions of.
First of all, how do you know whether Bethany did or did not apologize. Second of all, you were a know it all on your own show and have no business commenting on this show.
People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw rocks!
Hmmmm.....have you learned anything from your actions after watching them on television? In all the seasons you just seem to get more and more judgemental and harsh. Have you decided if you are staying or going next for the next season?
Vicki, I agree with all your comments, your assessment of the NYC personalities are spot-on.WoooHooo! However, I think you are similar to Jill in just one way: the back-stabbing you each received from women you each THOUGHT was a friend. Tamra to you, Bethenny to Jill. I must say that one trait in common sure is a big one.
Happy Belated Birthday Vicki!
Sorry you had to work during your special day, but I know how you like to roll. Make that money girl!
Miss you Vicki! I hope you'll enjoy your Birthday!! Happy Happy!! Woo Hoo!!!
I noticed you didn't say anything about LuAnn. What do you think about her?
Glad you're blogging. It's always good to see a POV from someone who's been in similar shoes.
With that said -- I totally know you had good intentions when you said "Being asked to appear in Playboy I'm sure in an honor at her age" ... the "at her age" part is what CAN stick out in someone's mind. Somehow there is something about words that suddenly go from normal to BOLD ITALICS in the mind and drive people nuts. Once someone is already worked up, anything else said can go out the window. With the written word at least you can go back and obsess and reanalyze meaning and intent.
I'm just using that phrase as an example as I see it happen all the time in my life and on the shows. Does it mean people are sensitive, defensive or just zoomed in on being a victim? I just don't know.
I guess Vicki and I were not watching the same season of RHONY because at the Jill Stewart show, I recall Bethenny trying to approach Jill and talk to her just to be shut out. Perhaps then Bethenney was going to apologize or try to make sense of this mess. Who keeps a voice mail for 3 months and then plays just snippets for friends and psychics? It seems to me that Jill wants to talk to everyone about Bethenney and finds everywhere an appropriate place and time to do so except for when being confronted by the person or persons she has been talking about behind their back. This is so typical of Jill and Luann. But of course, I am sure someone will say that this is just a segment out of their lives. Hmmm
First off Vicki i love watching the show. I am sorry but i like Bethaney alot more than Jill. Jill does take the underdog under her wing. As far as friends go i think Bethaney has always been there for Jill but i am not so sure Jill is not a little jealous of Bethaney. I do think it is wrong of Bethaney not to have been at Jill's side when her husband had cancer but i am sure it will come out why she was not there. Since Bethaney has been pregnant i haven't seen Jill around and think it was very rude of Jill not attending her so called best friends wedding. I do think Lu-Ann will end up stabbing Jill in the back. Well take care and good luck with your book signing.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY WOO HOOOOOOOOOOO & many more. I must say that I was 100% in your corner this past season. I too believe that Alexis had a hidden agenda to kind of go after you personally. Being that you were & are the most successful out of the OC Hosewives( & probably out of all the housewives altogether.)
Alexis kept throwing in your face about her being a mother. Well, you too are a mother & built up a business &, not only made a success out of your business. More importantly made a success out both kids. PROPS big time. Alexis could never handle that .
As for NY. I read all the blogs during your show. & I do know that you mention that loyalty was important to you. & Hence, you siding with Jill. Jill was dead on in her blogs about coming to your defense & the OC. I think that you feel loyal to her & will come to her defense but, don't ignore the obvious on the screen. Yes you better than anyone knows the edit button. However, you also are getting only 1 side of the story. The hurt works both ways. I don't see or hear bethenny slamming jill all the time. She is answering questions asked of her. Bethenny is not reading the angry Emails from Jill prior to the GET A HOBBY Statement.
From what I get the few times that bethenny tried to expalin what happen. 1) She called & was told that everyting was alright ( hence the flowers)
2) She had been on her tour & was traveling when said phone call was made.
3) Also trying to figure our where her current relationships was heading. I also think that I read somewhere that her father had died also.
I am a fan of Both. I truly miss my Lucy & Ethel. Those 2 together brought the show up to unmatched levels of humor. & the Team of Jill, Kelly & LuAnn can't compare. Did you watch the show. Bethenny stated that she misses jill. She has constanly given Jill props for the past 2.5 /3 years. This is more than just about Get A Hobby or Bobby. This is something deepter.
& to get some of the facts. Try going to jills Twiter during when bobby was sick. The tweets speak for themselves.
I do hope that you will return next year to the OC. The fans need a REAL WOMAN who represents most of WORKING Mothers ( Working in & out of the home). Keep up the great work
TEAM Bethenny & Jill ( Lucy & Ethel)
PS: just a note here The Best Husbands out of all the shows are Donn, Bobby & Jason( so Far, haven't seen that much of him so far. What I have seen I do like )
happy b-day to my favorite of all the housewives.(jill is a close second) was just in vegas - bad timing! it would have been great to get a signed copy of your book. love your commentary on nyc. you're right on target. can't wait to read your upcoming blogs.
Finally, Bravo lets someone blog who knows ALL the housewives...and clearly believes Jill Z to be the bomb! I love her too! All the housewives, including Bethenny, could use a little JZ self-esteem! Ecstatic to see you and your sweetheart hubby lovin' life together again!
Vicky, I am so happy I stuck it out . The first twoo seasons, I really didn't care for you. I see what you all about this last showing. I admire this woman. Vicky, you and Don have been trashed, and I am so sorry about how you were treated. You showed a loving woman, one who loves her family and her friends. It is such a shame. We do hope you stay another season. Believe me, they need you. Don't trust so easily. Tamara will go which way the wind goes. She'll get hers one day.
Since I began watching your show, I thought you were a little "harsh" with Don...whom I think is a lovely man. However, when you renewed your vows, you scored some cool points with me. Keep up the good work!
woohoo happy birthday! you should come to northern california for a book signing! i would definitely come to see you! your my fav housewife!!
Vicki, thought the ladies were rough on you this season. Not sure I could do it. I loved that you turned your focus on your marriage, children and your passions. Hang in there. can't imagine if someone followed me around, how I would always look or act! I think you are right about Jill, although, she does bring it on some. I also felt your pain on the "C" word, or cancer, I had breast cancer and could TOTALLY relate to the unknown and waiting for the calls. I live in TX, do you ever think they would come here. OMG
I like you, Vicki, but I think you might not see how intrusive Jill is. Truth be told, without Bethenny, I won't continue to watch this show.
VICKI ALL I CAN SAY IS "PLEASE DONT GO!" All of the original wives of o.c. are leaving...dont leave us vicki!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Vicki, I just want to say that I really enjoy watching u on the housewives. I hope that u will come back if there is another season. I hope that your daughter is doing fine and everything is ok.
Lovin the fact that your the guest blogger, dont find you and jill alike at all, you dont play childish games, she does. YOur very straight up with the truth, jill likes to say things behind their back rather than to your face. Love you, but team Bethenny all the way. Maybe after you spend time with Jill at the book signing you'll see what I see.
WOOHOO!! Love you Vick. I am so glad to see you in here as a guest blogger, as a CALI girl myself I miss you guys!