Don't wait for Kevin Costner. Overly discriminating women wind up spending Saturday night with a container of Haagen-Dazs. Since there simple aren't enough Fortune 500 CEOs with washboard stomachs and great personalities to go around, lower your standards - and forget about meeting a movie star or model. Dates need not be handsome or serious marriage material; they must simply want to share a pleasant evening with you.
Be a Flirt
Be a consummate flirt. You can meet men anywhere, anytime, by acting friendly and nonjudgmental, smiling, making eye contact. You'd be amazing at the number of women who wear frowns of blasé expressions as a sort of protective mirror.
Get His Digits
Take his number - and say you'll call him. This way, you won't have to wait by the phone! Yes, it's hard to make the first move, but being in control does wonderful things for the ego! (Men have known this little secret for centuries.)
No Last-Minute Plans
Say no to last-minute plans. If a superhunk calls at 8:00 P.M. on a Thursday to ask you out for Friday night - even though you're dying to accept and have nothing else to do - say, "I'm sorry, I'd love to see you, but I always make plans for the weekend by Wednesday." If he's even remotely interested, he'll call earlier next week.
Tone that Bod
Work on your bod. Taking control of weight, muscle tone, and overall figure can improve your self-confidence, which makes it easier to take control of your life.
Just Don't "Do It"
Don't "do it" right away - even thought you're lusting for him. If you make love on a first date, the only thing you'll learn is that you both like sex - but you'll have no idea how you feel about each other. I'm not suggesting you become a first-class tease, but do try to remember how exciting it is simply to kiss.
Tell him you can't sleep over because...his pillow gives you a stiff neck...you cat gets lonesome...you're allergic to his bathroom tile. Even if his place is more of a hovel than a home, he'll probably prefer that you spend the night on his turf - where he feels comfortable. But constantly consenting to do that is a mistake, because it gives him all the power. About half the time, you should say you'd rather stay home. Alone. Soon, he'll be aching to spend the night in your bed! We he does, make him feel welcome: Stock his favorite CDs, keep a beer mug chilled in the freezer, give him a smidgen of room in your closet for business suits.
Don't Mention the Other Guys
Never talk about other men. Making a man jealous by mentioning things you've done or places you've gone with his rivals almost always backfires - he'll start talking about all of his girlfriends.
Be observant when you visit his mother. Your beau's attitude towards his mom says volumes about the way he treats women. If he loves sending time with her, values her opinions, listens when she speaks, he's a winner.
Don't cohabitate. You're already sharing a home with your man and the setup is fabulous? Good for you! But I believe that living together often undermines your chance of getting married. Live-in lovers enjoy sex and the many little pleasures of domestic life - without any motivation to make a commitment.