This was a very special episode for me as I had the opportunity to share my passion for working with victims of domestic violence. It was also a difficult episode as I shared a very personal story. I have been a volunteer for the 1736 Family Crisis Center for six years now and the experience is one I cherish deeply. 1736 provides life saving support to families 24 hours a day through five shelters, three community service centers and five crisis hotlines. The work they do rebuilds lives, fosters hope, and creates a future for families who have endured painful life circumstances.
Witnessing domestic violence in my home at a very young age left a lasting impression on me. We were blessed with a strong family support system and I was quickly removed from the situation. Many of the families at 1736 and other shelters are not so fortunate, and suffer far too long not knowing where to turn for help. My hope is that sharing my experience and talking more about the long term effects of domestic violence will help put an end to the cycle of abuse and give those in need a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.
If you or someone you know is in need of help, please call 310-370-5902 or 213-745-6434 or 562-388-7652 (collect calls accepted) or visit 1736fcc.org for more information.
I found the day of self-defense training I did with Adrienne to be incredibly empowering. I have a long way to go before I can kick butt like she can but, I’m going to keep practicing.
Until next week, take care.
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To the Beautiful Taylor, I try to comment on each of your blogs. I like your writing style and perspective. This week you have a different tone. An appropriate tone for such a delicate topic that effects many of today's women and youth. Having a beautiful successful spokesperson brings "reality" to a whole new level. Things can change and I was moved how you turned lemons into lemonade by providing help to those who can't help themselves. I like you more and more each week! But dearest Taylor, I would love to have some more Oklahoma comments!
Thanks for sharing and more important thanks for the dedication to this cause. Unfortunately I wasn't surprised you had this experience. I too had a very similar first memory and also married a carbon copy of your husband. We are now divorced.
I see your husband as being incredibly selfish. I hope HE can see this and maybe change his self centered ways. Your his wife and you should be cherished by this man and NOT for granted. Kyle is right ... you deserve so much more. Good work and best of luck.
Taylor, Your story line, if you will, was touching. I applaud your work with the 1736 Family Crisis Center. You are a beautiful woman with a honest and sweet personality. I loved how Andy was blown away by your kiss! That was a great moment! Honestly, the RHOBH are making all the other Housewives shows seem a bit poor and I don't mean money wise. You all laugh more, share more, love more and definitely give more than any other Housewives series.
Up to this episode I must admit that I thought you were just another BH shallow blonde and I apologize. I come from a long history of severe abuse and I just want to thank you for what you are doing at the crisis center. I have been able to remove myself from that situation and though it took years to start to heal, I am well underway of leaving that past behind. Those emotional scars run deep and I commend you for selflessly sharing your personal experience in order to gain attention to a very worthy cause.
Oh Taylor, I'm afraid I have misjudged you. I was in tears last night watching you grapple with your memories and emotions. Thank you for the work you do, I am dealing with childhood abuse memories as well and you saying that it's not about the child, but the adult abuser, it resonated in me so powerfully. You are doing important things for a worthy cause. Thank you for showing us who you really are. That was a HUGE risk. Very inspiring to me.
I have to say that my first impressions of you were not so great. But in watching you and your work at 1736- I caught a glimpse of the real Taylor. I am so sorry for the pain you endured as a child. I think your work with 1736 is admirable and you should be commended. I like this Taylor- we would like to see more of that!
I to, am a child of domestic violence, so thank you for bring this awareness to light, I bawled my eyes out watching the show, your pain resonated with me on so many levels, and I haven't felt those emotions for a very long time. The memories are flashbacks are like yesterday, so vivid, I can remember every little detail, like the wallpaper, what my mom was wearing, my Dad's face, and the earth moving fear throughout my body as I clung to my mother, thinking some way, that if I am there, holding my mother, my father will stop. I never thought about it, but I guess we hide it because of shame, but you are right, it was not my fault, and there's nothing I could of done to prevent, or stop it. It was a hidden secret we lived for years until we had a visitor who informed other members of our family, and they helped us get out of there. My dad eventually took his life, another secret I don't talk about, perhaps I should.
Taylor, you showed a lot of courage by sharing your story on television. Your work with the 1736 FCC is a shining example of how someone with your status can use it to make the world a better place.
"T", I commend you on your bravey for making your speech from your childhood past.... That shows you are a strong woman and have some what come past that to help more women come to be more open with what is going on in their lives.......I'm not in a bad realationship or never have been... So, I can not say I know what these women and children are/have gone thru, as well as to say I know what you went thru... My heart does go out to all and I hope that your words will help others come to be more open.. SO, we can put a STOP to ABUSE of all kind...... Heather Richlands,NC
I go hot and cold with you, but do think you are indeed a good person with a big heart. You looked great on Andys show.....hope you are happy and continue to stay real!
Wow just saw the episode where you spoke about your abusive childhood I am soo very sorry, it brought tears to my eyes to see the pain that is still very real for you. I cannot imagine but do want you to know I greatly respect the fact that you have spoken out and connected with an organization that you feel good to support and speak for. I am sure that in itself is very healing and rewarding. Maybe for some of us who thought you indulged your little girl just a bit too much didn't understand your history at that time, and I say in light of your past, that there is no such thing as too much love, too much devotion or attention. You are a special and kind hearted person and deserve all the best, I commend you for your brave face and strong voice. Thank you for speaking out against something that should not happen period.
Kudos to you Taylor for your work with domestic abuse. I grew up in a home filled with abuse. Amazingly I was not harmed, my older brothers however were treated in an unspeakable manner. Horrible things I witnessed as a baby are some of my earliest memories. Thank you for sharing your story. (I thought your husband was very moved, his reaction was very endearing, he looked horrified (at what had happened to you) and yet very admiring of you for sharing) Men are not always easy to live with and our own expectations can leave us at a loss. It is obvious you two care very much for each other, God bless you and your family.
Taylor, Your story made me cry! You seem to be an amazing woman who is trying her best to make a difference. I suspect you have a lot of strength you don't even know about! Good luck and thank you for your contributions.
Taylor, First off, I would like to commend you on going public with your childhood. I can't imagine how difficult that must have been. It's so interesting how things happen when were children, we try to get over them but there always with us. Maybe it is still with you for a reason? You can relate to the people at the shelter like no one else. I'm sorry to see the sadness in your face when you speak about Russell. Taylor you deserve to be in a 50/50 relationship. By what I have seen thus far, Russell says when & how. You are a beautiful, independent, successful women. Don't let him make you feel unimportant or needey. Your not. You deserve nothing but the best & I hope you find the peace & happiness you are searching for. If not, Roco seemed interested last night on watch what happens live with Andy. Just throwing it out there:) Best of luck to you and your family.
Taylor - it was very brave of you to share your story. People think that if you have money and live a privileged lifestyle you haven't felt pain or been through bad times. I applaud your courage to share your story and your support of hte 1736 Family Crisis Center.
There are many victims of domestic violence - men, women, children and the ones you don't hear about vety often - pets. I call them the "forgotten" victims of domestic violence. Many women stay in violent situations because they don't want to abandon their pets, probably their only source of comfort. I think it would be a great idea to incorporate some kind of program at 1736 where the focus is on pets.
Hi, Taylor - I applaud your courage to speak about your past experiences with domestic violence. Thanks for your work with the 1736 Family Crisis Center. People tend to think that if you live a privileged life you haven't been through tough times. Domestic violence has many victims - men, women, children, and what I call the "forgotten" victims - the pets. You would be surprised how many people stay in a violent situation so as not to abandon their pets, probably their only source of comfort. 1736 should consider a program focusing on pets as victims of domestic violence.
Taylor, I was touched by your speech last night. I to witnessed Domestic Violence as a child against my Mother by my Father for years. While he never abused my sisters or me to watch our Mother go through that horror is something you never forget. It changes who you are and robbs you of your childhood. But, I do believe that what does not kill us makes us strong. I knew even as a child I would never let anyone do those things to me or put my Children through that. I just wanted to let you know that you inspire me to want to help others. I think we are finally getting to know the real Taylor and I really like her alot.
Taylor I was happy to see what fuels you as a human being and it helped me have a little more empathy for you. I commend you for your charity work and hope that you're able to use your testimony to help others. As Adrienne said just by looking at you, a person would find it difficult to believe that you experienced that but that's what's so great about a past: It's filled with many life lessons, boo-boos and pot holes so when you meet a person, you're sometimes amazed at where they came from.
You are really coming into your own. Loved your honesty in this episode. Your true personality is coming through and you are adorable! Good luck with Snowball!
When I saw you cried last night, I cried too (and I do not cry much at all). Last night it was a reminder of the terrible memories my sister, (RIP), and my brother we all went through these insane domestic violence when we were young until we were adults and my father left home. When I was 20, I married a man who I loved very much (to this day!!!!), but at the same time we had a lot of problems and he abuse me psychologically and I could not go over all this abuse again in my marriage. I divorced him and I became tough with men, I did not take any of it at all from any man. I married twice after my first marriage, and divorced because I could not had the mental and psychological skills to forgive and forget what I had hurt me so much in the past. So, I do know what you feel in your soul, and I am grateful that you are helping other women to go over this situation which brokes the human beings' souls and hearts.
God Bless you, Russell and Kennedy,
Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia San Juan, Puerto Rico
I applaud you for what you do for your organization and putting such personal information on national television. I also can relate to your experience and when I watched you giving your speech I felt like I was right there with you, and I wished I could have given you a BIG hug! It's amazing for you to give back to those who have no hope. I'm hoping if I ever move out of the states back to my home country, I can provide the same support structure you've developed for your community. Can you believe that in some countries there are no safe havens for abused women and children to go to? And the community and its officials actually condone the beating of women and children? One of my life goals is to go back and change this cycle of abuse. You've definitely inspired me in so many ways! Thank you so much!!
That's wonderful and special! Please continue to do this as there are so many you can touch with the work you do. And keep your chin up as a better tomorrow is on the horizon!
I too came from a home filled with Violence. Unlike you I didn't shape who I was other than to know what I didn't want in my life. I can't understand your embarrassment it wasn't your burden to carry. I think had you had siblings it may have changed that because you always have someone to talk to and share your journey without having to explain. I know that it did make be stronger and I ended my marriage of thirty years because I was struck once. That was once too many. I don't regret it for a moment and was a life lesson for my son and daughters. It is wonderful that you give so much of yourself to make life better for others. Joy is a wonderful thing to learn and share as well! Hoping that you have it or find it for yourself and your family!
Good for you in bringing such a tragic topic to the forefront. You work is inspirational and I hope it motivates others to get involved.
I am so sorry for your uneasy childhood. Maybe your past is what keeps you from believing you deserve happiness now. But congratulations are in order for bringing your story to the forefront in hopes of helping others out. ps............You were GREAT on WWH Live with Andy!!
You are a refreshing and inspirational change to The Real Housewives franchise, while entertaining none of the other women are truly as sweet or good natured as you. Thank you for making domestic abuse an issue in the forefront, you are truly an inspiration to us all. You are beautiful inside and out !
Miss Taylor, Your heart is so big, you're as brave as you are beautiful. As much as life as given you, as hard as you've fought to get where you are, it's admirable you've never forgotten your past. You embrace who you are, realize every bump in the road has lead you to this place - to where you are now & who you are now. I admire your strength. (and that gorgeous family of yours) One request please - don't let all the petty crap drag you down, and above all Taylor - smile more m'dear. Life is short. I am a big fan - and truly think you are a genuine winner in the game of life.
Your response brought tears to my eyes and a lump in my throat. Please talk to someone or journal until you feel ready, but know that your father's suicide and violent behavior is something you deserve to have peace about.
You are in my prayers and I am sending healing energy your way.
You made me cry! I appreciate your dedication to the cause of domestic violence and the center that provides a safe place.
Kudos to you Taylor! Thanks for putting a face to the women and children that have survived domestic abuse. Your speech was eloquent and heartfelt by all that watched it. It will help many. You really are about making a child's dreams come true as evidenced by your obvious love for your child, Kennedy or Kitty as I believe you affectionately call her. Your character shows through all the Beverly Hills glamour and glitz. May you now be perceived as the Ambassador of Beverly Hills.............well done!
I LOVE YOU! It happened to me and I think you're really brave!
Lots of love, Danielle from London, UK
Although you could have avoided the whole "...Oklahoma on your ass..." comment you made to Kim. NOT so sweet and not necessary at all.
Bravo for your help in the centre, but I can not understand why you did not invite another ladys? You told your story on nationational tv...
Wow Taylor, I'm so glad you shared that part of yourself with us! You are a cinderella story and we all need those! I think we have all misjudged you. I really hope you can step back and see from the episodes how stiff you and Russell are. He doesn't seem to treat you so well. I think he needs therapy as he seems to have a wall built around him, I hope he can loosen up and show his love for you and just relax. Good Luck to you !
After watching the extravagant birthday party you threw for your daughter, it was easy to assume you were a spoiled and wasteful woman but then I saw the emotional speech you gave at the fund raiser and changed my mind. It brought tears to my eyes to listen to your experience and passion for abused children. You are a beautiful person inside and out! Don't let your husband beat you down or take you for granted because he is really lucky to have you! Stay as gorgeous as you are inside and out! You are loved and blessed!
I have to say I haven't liked you much on the show, until this week. I love anyone that is selfless enough to volunteer to help others. I work for bosses that only think of themselves and what they can get out of others, even if they have to lie or steal to do it, so it is very refreshing to see someone wealthy helping others.
Hi Taylor, I wanted to write to say thank you for bringing light to a difficult issue. I cried my eyes out. Now I see where your strength comes from. I see why you are so loving of your daughter and to make sure she never has to experience what you did. This episode pulled it all together for me. You are an inspiration. Thank you for giving me back hope and letting me know that I am not alone and that it was not my fault. Thank you for being a hero.
Thank you so much fo speaking on behalf of the people who have been victims of domestic abuse in their lives. Being a surviver of domestic abuse, I could completely relate to your story. I was just so greatful that I was able to get out of it at a young age, though my daughter was one when I left, im so greatful that hopefuly she will have no memories of the situation. I have spoke at a sororiety event at my university and I was so nervous because I had never spoken to that many people about it, but it was so liberating and I just thought, if my speech helped one person, I did my job. And I can promise the work you do at the crises shelter helps! Thankfully I too have a supportive family, but many out there do not. So once again thank you and god bless.
Taylor you are so strong and brave for doing what you did in this episode. I also admire your willingness to be open about your marriage. No marriage is perfect and those couples who say they have no problems are not being truthful. I do not think Russell is a bad person in the slightest. He just needs some help communicating his thoughts and feelings. They just do not seem to come out right. I see that his good intent is there, however. I also see someone who is willing to make changes. The day with his daughter was so sweet. Perhaps some softening on your part when you interact with him may help. We all get stuck in our communication ruts! Who knows, maybe you are already working on this! I wish you all the best.
I want to commend you for your brave front in talking about your childhood abuse, no doubt you still carry scars from that painful part of your life but in being able to talk about it and to be a face and a very successful one at that is a true inspiration to anyone who might be experiencing this right now. It is fantastic that you have lent your voice and efforts to this worthwhile cause where in many cases, young children do not have a voice or its one that isn't heard. I applaud you and wish you much success....I hope you have felt some kind of healing through this process, you seem like a very loving and devoted mother to your daughter and she is lucky to have you. (As is Russell)
Hi Taylor! I'm just catching up on my episodes, and saw the 2nd half of the New York trip. I am wondering if you gave Kim an apology with regard to you stating Camille is insecure. It showed via clip that you did confirm that (Kim said it, you agreed). You seem like a big enough person to offer an apology for your wrongs.
Taylor, I have to ask you....what kind of handbag were you carrying at the casino on the night of your speech? They showed it when you were in the restroom, the black bag. I LOVE it! Thank you! Christy
I think your such a sweetheart, and you love your daughter very much. As for mistakes, well we all make them nobody is perfect. Sometime we say things without realizing them. We live and we learn. As for your husband only you guys know what happens behind close, and how the relationship really is but from my perspective I don't think he appreciates your worth. He's very lucky to have you and should step up! You have come a long way always be proud!
I'm so glad to see another side of you. Up to now, I thought of you as a typical BH glamour wife that didn't have any substance; you know shopping, spending and impressing others was the goal in life. However, seeing how passionate you are for this cause was quite refreshing and it made you more "real". Although you have the house, money, cars, etc. you find time to help many that are less fortunate and may not have any support other than your organization. It's great that you are making a difference to those families and helping to stop the trend that exists in so many households. I think showing that REAL side of you is great.
Thank you for sharing your story on this episode. You are remarkably strong and kind. I lived in an abusive home as well and your story touched my heart and I find you empowering. Thank you again and God bless!