Taylor Armstrong

Taylor shares why she's so passionate about the 1736 Family Crisis Center.

on Dec 9, 20100

This was a very special episode for me as I had the opportunity to share my passion for working with victims of domestic violence. It was also a difficult episode as I shared a very personal story. I have been a volunteer for the 1736 Family Crisis Center for six years now and the experience is one I cherish deeply. 1736 provides life saving support to families 24 hours a day through five shelters, three community service centers and five crisis hotlines. The work they do rebuilds lives, fosters hope, and creates a future for families who have endured painful life circumstances.

Witnessing domestic violence in my home at a very young age left a lasting impression on me. We were blessed with a strong family support system and I was quickly removed from the situation. Many of the families at 1736 and other shelters are not so fortunate, and suffer far too long not knowing where to turn for help. My hope is that sharing my experience and talking more about the long term effects of domestic violence will help put an end to the cycle of abuse and give those in need a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.

If you or someone you know is in need of help, please call 310-370-5902 or 213-745-6434 or 562-388-7652 (collect calls accepted) or visit 1736fcc.org for more information.

I found the day of self-defense training I did with Adrienne to be incredibly empowering. I have a long way to go before I can kick butt like she can but, I’m going to keep practicing.

Thanks A!

Until next week, take care.
xo T
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67 comments
rtyecript
rtyecript

I really liked the article, and the very cool blog

Vicotria Miles
Vicotria Miles

Thank you, I have lived that life as a child and an adult. Yes life can go on and be great after being threw so much, Thank you for sharing your sory, To you are one of my heros it takes a lot to talk about that.

Jen A.
Jen A.

Taylor, For years I have lived with the painful memories of a very unhappy childhood. I have never sought counseling and have been so ashamed of things that happened as a child that I have not even told my husband the full extent of my experiences. I want to let you know that when you said the victims have nothing to do with the situation (if it wasn't you it would have been someone else)and that the things that happen are because of the other person and not you, those words really spoke to me. I paused the show on my DVR and cried because after many years of trying to understand "why," your words helped me to realize that it's not about me and that it is not my fault. I appreciate your openness and want you to know that you made a difference to me that evening and it will help me deal with this for the rest of my life. Thank you.

ToyaBe
ToyaBe

IM HAPPY FOR TAYLOR

Viewer from Washington
Viewer from Washington

Taylor, I commend you about talking about your past and I can so relate to this. My father remarried when I was young and she was truly the wicked step mother from Cinderella and what I had to endure along with my younger sister was ugly. We managed to survive but I remember what I went through with this woman who, until her death bed thought she did no wrong but the spankings, the words and the work we had to do because we weren't her blood children was more than we could endure and I learned to forge checks in my father's name so I could ensure my sister and I had hot lunches at work and I rember a friend of my father's when I was 10 years old tried to kiss us. I grew strong and don't forget what happened in your life it made you strong and made you want to protect others. Hats off to you and thank you for letting us know.

Viewer from WestLake
Viewer from WestLake

Thank you for bringing up such a worthy cause and for sharing your story.

Love the Housewives
Love the Housewives

Taylor, I am not sure why Kim feels compelled to continue to bring up your exchange before the flight to New York, but I agree with you, she should cut it out. In balance to my above comment, you were not "baited" and you are not being a good friend to Kyle or Camille. I do appreciate that you are attempting to stay out of the fray, but this level of attack by Camille calls for action. If you feel uncomfortable taking sides, take a stand for what is right and fair. Don't tolerate any more abuse by either side, as of now you look like a silly girl, instead of a mature woman.

Eastcoast1
Eastcoast1

Really liked the blouse you wore at lunch- the cream color one with the poufey sleeves in last night's episode. Could you share the designer's name etc?

Renay Anderson
Renay Anderson

Talyor it was touching to hear what you went through as a child I too was a child of domestic violence and then I became a winner of an abusive husband. Thank God I had the tools to leave the year it started and not let it go on for years. Thank you for all your work.

DeevaR
DeevaR

Agreed! I am so grateful that she was able to say that to Taylor so beautifully it is a difficult subject. I have been observing Taylor's relationship with her husband during the episodes; and to be honest; it has been difficult to watch. It's very subtle, but something seems amiss. She's so lovely,but he creeps me out :(

Kellie  Smith
Kellie Smith

Taylor, Taylor, Taylor.... I respect you for aiming spotlight onto the suffering of abused women and children. It was nice to see another side of you.... I hope you sit down and watch episodes and see who you are and the man you married. Watching you get injections and talking about making sure you don't get replaced by someone younger hurt my heart. I mean when your frame of mind is this, it makes me worried for your daughter. I get that you want that security that Russell provides but is it worth the price of yourself as women? You are beautiful and deserving of love. Russell does not seem to be all there, you talk like you know what you want ( to Kyle) ...you may not be able to get that from Russell. I hope you can be as brave as you were talking about your difficult past when you start to go after happiness in your future. P.S That was two-faced, what you did with Kim. Acting like you were not agreeing with the Camille is insecure comment. If you did'nt want to be implicated, why bring it up? And you did in that hotel room. I

dreamy1
dreamy1

Yes Taylor, you are courageous! You helped me. I can so relate to you, and the other housewives too, for different reasons for each one. God bless you!

NewYorkGirl
NewYorkGirl

You are a beautiful person. God bless you and those you love.

Emma from nyc
Emma from nyc

Taylor, big hugs to you! You made me cry --- i was crying so hard along with you! you have a big heart, you are a beautiful person inside out!! You should be very proud of yourself!

rightonthemoney
rightonthemoney

Kudos to you for your work on abuse. The world needs more dynamnic and well spoken people like yourself to speak out and lend a voice to a very under exposed crisis in the world. While I was fortunate to not have ever experienced it, I can only imagine the torment that must stay with you forever. I can't think of a more beautiful way to show your gratitude and joy in living a fulfilled life than to give back as you have. I have seen a whole new side to you...and I love it! Best of luck.

irishgal
irishgal

I didn't like you until this episode. Then I realized it was because you are me 20 years ago. I had very abusive childhood and was married to a wealthy man. I realized with therapy that I was in a loveless marriage that had turned into him completely controlling my every move. We were married for 14 years, one daughter. When you said your marriage was better business arrangement, well, let me guess, he is the boss and you're the employee. Was same for me. Sex became a distant memory, but I could buy anything I wanted. When I realized I was in loveless marriage, like my parents, I couldn't pass that onto my daughter. I got divorced for many reasons, but my daughter was of the biggest. I also craved intimacy. I don't mean just sex, but the hugs, kisses and ass rubs as walking by. Intimacy like Kyle has. I finally realized just because my family abused me and didn't value me, it didn't mean I didn't deserve to find someone special that would. I did find him and Taylor, it feels wonderful to be in love with someone who really loves you. I mean when looking at each other across a room full of people, you know he is the only one for you and he returns that same look. Been married 15 years now and have definitely had more love than previous 37 years combined. You deserve better Taylor and your daughter deserves a better example of people in love. You can do it.

Alicia373
Alicia373

You did good Kid!!! Both your courage and care for others is really something to be admired. Take good care.

LukesMomma!
LukesMomma!

Thank you for sharing your story on this episode. You are remarkably strong and kind. I lived in an abusive home as well and your story touched my heart and I find you empowering. Thank you again and God bless!

Housewives Junkie
Housewives Junkie

I'm so glad to see another side of you. Up to now, I thought of you as a typical BH glamour wife that didn't have any substance; you know shopping, spending and impressing others was the goal in life. However, seeing how passionate you are for this cause was quite refreshing and it made you more "real". Although you have the house, money, cars, etc. you find time to help many that are less fortunate and may not have any support other than your organization. It's great that you are making a difference to those families and helping to stop the trend that exists in so many households. I think showing that REAL side of you is great.

nyshorte
nyshorte

I think your such a sweetheart, and you love your daughter very much. As for mistakes, well we all make them nobody is perfect. Sometime we say things without realizing them. We live and we learn. As for your husband only you guys know what happens behind close, and how the relationship really is but from my perspective I don't think he appreciates your worth. He's very lucky to have you and should step up! You have come a long way always be proud!

christymarsengill
christymarsengill

Taylor, I have to ask you....what kind of handbag were you carrying at the casino on the night of your speech? They showed it when you were in the restroom, the black bag. I LOVE it! Thank you! Christy

Angieo
Angieo

Hi Taylor! I'm just catching up on my episodes, and saw the 2nd half of the New York trip. I am wondering if you gave Kim an apology with regard to you stating Camille is insecure. It showed via clip that you did confirm that (Kim said it, you agreed). You seem like a big enough person to offer an apology for your wrongs.

skincaredoc
skincaredoc

I want to commend you for your brave front in talking about your childhood abuse, no doubt you still carry scars from that painful part of your life but in being able to talk about it and to be a face and a very successful one at that is a true inspiration to anyone who might be experiencing this right now. It is fantastic that you have lent your voice and efforts to this worthwhile cause where in many cases, young children do not have a voice or its one that isn't heard. I applaud you and wish you much success....I hope you have felt some kind of healing through this process, you seem like a very loving and devoted mother to your daughter and she is lucky to have you. (As is Russell)

jenn121121
jenn121121

I have to say this episode showed you as a real person. I like this Taylor better!

katieraja
katieraja

Taylor you are so strong and brave for doing what you did in this episode. I also admire your willingness to be open about your marriage. No marriage is perfect and those couples who say they have no problems are not being truthful. I do not think Russell is a bad person in the slightest. He just needs some help communicating his thoughts and feelings. They just do not seem to come out right. I see that his good intent is there, however. I also see someone who is willing to make changes. The day with his daughter was so sweet. Perhaps some softening on your part when you interact with him may help. We all get stuck in our communication ruts! Who knows, maybe you are already working on this! I wish you all the best.

llou87
llou87

Thank you so much fo speaking on behalf of the people who have been victims of domestic abuse in their lives. Being a surviver of domestic abuse, I could completely relate to your story. I was just so greatful that I was able to get out of it at a young age, though my daughter was one when I left, im so greatful that hopefuly she will have no memories of the situation. I have spoke at a sororiety event at my university and I was so nervous because I had never spoken to that many people about it, but it was so liberating and I just thought, if my speech helped one person, I did my job. And I can promise the work you do at the crises shelter helps! Thankfully I too have a supportive family, but many out there do not. So once again thank you and god bless.

Tiara5655
Tiara5655

Hi Taylor, I wanted to write to say thank you for bringing light to a difficult issue. I cried my eyes out. Now I see where your strength comes from. I see why you are so loving of your daughter and to make sure she never has to experience what you did. This episode pulled it all together for me. You are an inspiration. Thank you for giving me back hope and letting me know that I am not alone and that it was not my fault. Thank you for being a hero.

Bree1957
Bree1957

I have to say I haven't liked you much on the show, until this week. I love anyone that is selfless enough to volunteer to help others. I work for bosses that only think of themselves and what they can get out of others, even if they have to lie or steal to do it, so it is very refreshing to see someone wealthy helping others.

ThreeSisters
ThreeSisters

After watching the extravagant birthday party you threw for your daughter, it was easy to assume you were a spoiled and wasteful woman but then I saw the emotional speech you gave at the fund raiser and changed my mind. It brought tears to my eyes to listen to your experience and passion for abused children. You are a beautiful person inside and out! Don't let your husband beat you down or take you for granted because he is really lucky to have you! Stay as gorgeous as you are inside and out! You are loved and blessed!

Alyssa Marie
Alyssa Marie

Wow Taylor, I'm so glad you shared that part of yourself with us! You are a cinderella story and we all need those! I think we have all misjudged you. I really hope you can step back and see from the episodes how stiff you and Russell are. He doesn't seem to treat you so well. I think he needs therapy as he seems to have a wall built around him, I hope he can loosen up and show his love for you and just relax. Good Luck to you !

Gina V
Gina V

Bravo for your help in the centre, but I can not understand why you did not invite another ladys? You told your story on nationational tv...

GAgal
GAgal

Although you could have avoided the whole "...Oklahoma on your ass..." comment you made to Kim. NOT so sweet and not necessary at all.

Danielle From London
Danielle From London

I LOVE YOU! It happened to me and I think you're really brave!

Lots of love, Danielle from London, UK

Kate 77
Kate 77

Kudos to you Taylor! Thanks for putting a face to the women and children that have survived domestic abuse. Your speech was eloquent and heartfelt by all that watched it. It will help many. You really are about making a child's dreams come true as evidenced by your obvious love for your child, Kennedy or Kitty as I believe you affectionately call her. Your character shows through all the Beverly Hills glamour and glitz. May you now be perceived as the Ambassador of Beverly Hills.............well done!

synapse
synapse

You were great on WWHL! And your extensions and boots were killer.

Lori123
Lori123

Wow, Taylor,

You made me cry! I appreciate your dedication to the cause of domestic violence and the center that provides a safe place.

savannahcares
savannahcares

Your response brought tears to my eyes and a lump in my throat. Please talk to someone or journal until you feel ready, but know that your father's suicide and violent behavior is something you deserve to have peace about.

You are in my prayers and I am sending healing energy your way.

Kim's Fan Karen in Philly
Kim's Fan Karen in Philly

Miss Taylor, Your heart is so big, you're as brave as you are beautiful. As much as life as given you, as hard as you've fought to get where you are, it's admirable you've never forgotten your past. You embrace who you are, realize every bump in the road has lead you to this place - to where you are now & who you are now. I admire your strength. (and that gorgeous family of yours) One request please - don't let all the petty crap drag you down, and above all Taylor - smile more m'dear. Life is short. I am a big fan - and truly think you are a genuine winner in the game of life.

tammy7009
tammy7009

Taylor,

You are a refreshing and inspirational change to The Real Housewives franchise, while entertaining none of the other women are truly as sweet or good natured as you. Thank you for making domestic abuse an issue in the forefront, you are truly an inspiration to us all. You are beautiful inside and out !

DIGNIFIEDaddict;)
DIGNIFIEDaddict;)

I am so sorry for your uneasy childhood. Maybe your past is what keeps you from believing you deserve happiness now. But congratulations are in order for bringing your story to the forefront in hopes of helping others out. ps............You were GREAT on WWH Live with Andy!!

Dandelion2
Dandelion2

Good for you in bringing such a tragic topic to the forefront. You work is inspirational and I hope it motivates others to get involved.

Thia
Thia

I too came from a home filled with Violence. Unlike you I didn't shape who I was other than to know what I didn't want in my life. I can't understand your embarrassment it wasn't your burden to carry. I think had you had siblings it may have changed that because you always have someone to talk to and share your journey without having to explain. I know that it did make be stronger and I ended my marriage of thirty years because I was struck once. That was once too many. I don't regret it for a moment and was a life lesson for my son and daughters. It is wonderful that you give so much of yourself to make life better for others. Joy is a wonderful thing to learn and share as well! Hoping that you have it or find it for yourself and your family!

Viewer1967
Viewer1967

That's wonderful and special! Please continue to do this as there are so many you can touch with the work you do. And keep your chin up as a better tomorrow is on the horizon!

Lyshorty
Lyshorty

Taylor,

I applaud you for what you do for your organization and putting such personal information on national television. I also can relate to your experience and when I watched you giving your speech I felt like I was right there with you, and I wished I could have given you a BIG hug! It's amazing for you to give back to those who have no hope. I'm hoping if I ever move out of the states back to my home country, I can provide the same support structure you've developed for your community. Can you believe that in some countries there are no safe havens for abused women and children to go to? And the community and its officials actually condone the beating of women and children? One of my life goals is to go back and change this cycle of abuse. You've definitely inspired me in so many ways! Thank you so much!!

Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia
Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia

Hi Taylor,

When I saw you cried last night, I cried too (and I do not cry much at all). Last night it was a reminder of the terrible memories my sister, (RIP), and my brother we all went through these insane domestic violence when we were young until we were adults and my father left home. When I was 20, I married a man who I loved very much (to this day!!!!), but at the same time we had a lot of problems and he abuse me psychologically and I could not go over all this abuse again in my marriage. I divorced him and I became tough with men, I did not take any of it at all from any man. I married twice after my first marriage, and divorced because I could not had the mental and psychological skills to forgive and forget what I had hurt me so much in the past. So, I do know what you feel in your soul, and I am grateful that you are helping other women to go over this situation which brokes the human beings' souls and hearts.

God Bless you, Russell and Kennedy,

Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia San Juan, Puerto Rico

CCinME
CCinME

You are really coming into your own. Loved your honesty in this episode. Your true personality is coming through and you are adorable! Good luck with Snowball!

Vee Lu
Vee Lu

Taylor I was happy to see what fuels you as a human being and it helped me have a little more empathy for you. I commend you for your charity work and hope that you're able to use your testimony to help others. As Adrienne said just by looking at you, a person would find it difficult to believe that you experienced that but that's what's so great about a past: It's filled with many life lessons, boo-boos and pot holes so when you meet a person, you're sometimes amazed at where they came from.

BAMA  GIRL
BAMA GIRL

Taylor, I was touched by your speech last night. I to witnessed Domestic Violence as a child against my Mother by my Father for years. While he never abused my sisters or me to watch our Mother go through that horror is something you never forget. It changes who you are and robbs you of your childhood. But, I do believe that what does not kill us makes us strong. I knew even as a child I would never let anyone do those things to me or put my Children through that. I just wanted to let you know that you inspire me to want to help others. I think we are finally getting to know the real Taylor and I really like her alot.

DogMom
DogMom

Hi, Taylor - I applaud your courage to speak about your past experiences with domestic violence. Thanks for your work with the 1736 Family Crisis Center. People tend to think that if you live a privileged life you haven't been through tough times. Domestic violence has many victims - men, women, children, and what I call the "forgotten" victims - the pets. You would be surprised how many people stay in a violent situation so as not to abandon their pets, probably their only source of comfort. 1736 should consider a program focusing on pets as victims of domestic violence.

Stay strong...