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Ask the Countess: Weddings and Showers

The Countess explains appropriate etiquette at bridal and baby showers!

I have a tough one... my younger sister is getting married and as one of her bridesmaids, I am working with my other bridesmaids (2 other women, one being my older sister) to organize the bridal shower. I'm a little out numbered on where we should have the party. If I leave it up to them it will be at the American Legion hall with a 6-foot hero. How do you tell people that their choices are tacky without saying "your choices are tacky"? I've offered to pay for the entire party, but they insist on making such questionable decisions on the other things. If there are paper streamers and heart shaped frames as favors, I might lose it! Help!

Darling Laura,
I feel for you, but you never want to be hurt someone's feelings about their choices. I find suggestions work best like: "Wouldn't it be more personal if we had the shower at one of our homes?" (Offer your home if you can.) Or "Don't you think she (the bride) would prefer we go here?" These situations can be delicate and should be treated that way.
The Countess

What is your take on repeat baby showers for 2nd and 3rd children? I have a friend who is having her 2nd child (in just one year) and expects the full momma-to-be treatment. It seems a bit greedy to me - and unnecessary. Your thoughts? Is registering more than once inappropriate?
Susan Moore

Darling Susan,
The point of the shower is to shower gifts on someone who's doing something for the first time, like having a baby or getting married. I think its inappropriate to call it a shower. Call it something else and then we aren't breaking any rules.
The Countess

Hello Countess! We've been invited to a dinner party hosted by my husband's boss. What is a good "hostess" gift to bring in this type of situation? We want to make a good impression. Thanks. I love watching you on the show and think you are a terrific role model!

Darling Bunny,
It's important to make a good impression, especially with your husband's boss. The better you know him the more personal you can be when you select the perfect gift. If he's sportive you might choose something related to the sport he likes, if he loves wine bring a fine wine, he might like to cook so gourmet treats are a good choice. When in doubt give him the first season of The Real Housewives of NYC on DVD.
The Countess


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Bethenny explains her breakdown and why she thinks Heather might be a little too touchy feely. 

Well, the crying game has begun, so bear with me a moment because there is a LOT of laughter to come.
You know how sometimes you can confide in a stranger more easily than someone you're close with? Well, there is a lot that people don't know about my personal life, and let's just say that emotions creep out in unexpected ways.
I have had a rough time, and I was particularly raw. I broke down in CB2, which I've renamed "Cry Baby 2." Carole was perfect in that situation. I am not a huge hugger, either, and I just needed to let it out.
I thought Carole’s election was cute. Those pigs in blankets were awesome, but then again I'm a massive Trader Joe's fan. Thank god she didn't tarnish her campaign with a hors d'oeuvres lie.
Heather is very inquisitive and likes to get deep quickly. She is just curious, concerned, and a little touchy feely at times. I believe it comes from a good place. I am just guarded and not always trusting. As Dorinda says, I'm a squirrel, so really fast moves make me run. Custody conversation is very personal, and I was just not there, nor will I probably ever be.
As far as Luann commenting on my departure, I was there an hour, which is probably the longest that I would ever spend at an apartment building election party. Luckily, I had school pickup.
So Sonja's party--Latino Show Magazine with her on the cover is pure comedy as a concept. She did look beautiful, though, and the photography was beautiful. It just seemed a little random--like me gracing the cover of Field and Stream.
Heather did fire a random shot at her though asking about Kmart. I was literally at Kmart yesterday, a store that I LOVE, but I didn't happen to notice any full-length, red evening gowns there. That was a little slap.
The caviar dinner was a shit stirrer. Luann has not been silent about her opinions this season. It's the anti-Countess...(a term that Bravo and the ladies will definitely adopt). Anyway, Luann definitely commented about Dorinda and John. But Ramona can be a meddler and loves to drive the getaway car while not getting dirty. Ramona definitely commented, as well, which she conveniently left out.
More to come on all of this.
P.S. Who cares who Dorinda dates? Since when do we bash people our friends are in love with or sleeping with?
I've been royally screwed over in relationships, but no one could have told me different. We go through our process our own way.
For all we know, John and Dorinda are soul mates. He is what she needs right now.

Xo B

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