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Unleash Your Skinnygirl

Want to free yourself from a lifetime of dieting? Bethenny Frankel will teach you how!

Naturally Thin: Unleash Your Skinnygirl and Free Yourself From a Lifetime of Dieting personifies me. It is straightforward, a bit cheeky and not obsessive (well at least not about dieting).

Growing up in an extremely dysfunctional and toxic series of households bred me for an obsession with food and diet and weight. I was in an obesity clinic in third grade because I was slightly chubby. I was on every single diet known to man from that age until about 33 years of age. I would live on grapefruits or low carbs or no carbs or do the flight attendants' (then politically incorrectly called stewardess' diet), the cabbage soup diet and the list goes on and on.

Dates, holidays and vacations were terrifying ideas because I really didn't know how to manage or if I would be able to maintain my rigid ideal of consuming few calories, little to no fats and for no one to realize what I was doing.

I was never morbidly obese because I would diet like a psychopath, break a diet, binge then vow to not eat and "be good" for ever. Dates, holidays and vacations were terrifying ideas because I really didn't know how to manage or if I would be able to maintain my rigid ideal of consuming few calories, little to no fats and for no one to realize what I was doing.

Most times, I was "good" but then hell would break loose and I would lose control. Exercise was equally as obsessive. Spinning, stepping, rollerblading the globe, speed-walking, hiking. None of this was pleasurable then.It was for the goal: lose weight. be thin. Weigh less.

If you ever saw the movie Network, there is a scene where the main character hits the wall going 90, and screams from the rooftops "I'm mad as hell and I'm not gonna take it anymore." Well, that was what unintentionally happened to me.

It was for the goal: lose weight. be thin. Weigh less.

I was going to Italy, I had been given many restaurant recommendations. Past trips had consisted of eating the vegetable antipasto, not drinking and eating salads. Then the last day, I would stuff my face with gelato or paella or whatever because I knew I would be "good" once I got home. I would torture Europeans for whole grain bread, low fat milk, artificial sweetener. The idea of cream made me panic. Regular sugar? Sacre bleu!

Well this trip was going to be different. I am a chef. I want to live. I want to eat. How can pasta be the devil? And there began all the principals of Naturally Thin. Your diet is a bank account was born. I would eat all that Italy had to offer, but when I indulged, then I would balance with something healthy.

I would downsize portions by indeed having a small full fat cappuccino and a croissant unlike the massive lattes and giant fat free muffins we Americans find normal.

I mean how idiotic is it to binge on pieces of cake and worry about 16 calories of sugar?

I would eat real sugar and let the poor Italian server live another day without obsessing over Equal.I mean how idiotic is it to binge on pieces of cake and worry about 16 calories of sugar? It makes no sense.

The rule get real was born because we Americans are completely absurd. We eat foods with ingredients we can't pronounce. How stupid have we become to think that watermelon is bad and a low carb manufactured protein bar is good?

Taste everything. Eat nothing was born because we should be able to eat the foods we love in small quantities and participate. We should go on dates and be free and fun and flirty and have a cocktail.

YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL. YOU JUST CAN'T HAVE IT AT ONCE.

We should have a "food voice" rather than this obsessive "food noise" that is constantly chattering. We need to eat for our lives, our ethnic backgrounds, our financial means, our marriages, our proclivity to sweets versus salty or the opposite.

YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL. YOU JUST CAN'T HAVE IT AT ONCE.

At a party, if I see a good looking man, I don't walk up and propose. I make a plan. Well, the same goes for our eating.

There is so much more to come. Buy the book. It is so stupid it is smart. It will change your life. Unleash your skinnygirl! You deserve it.

Check out the excerpt here, and then buy the book at the Bravo Shop!

Q&A: What Has Kelly Been up To?

Kelly tells us what she's been up to since we last saw her and what it was like seeing Bethenny again. 

Bravotv.com:  What have you been up to since we last saw you? Tell us everything!

Kelly Killoren Bensimon: After retiring from RHONY, I modernized my first and favorite Assouline book In The Spirit of the Hamptons, which is the first of the ever popular Assouline series. I also decided to wrap a bow on my past, which includes modeling, publishing, editing magazines, writing books, designing jewelry, and beauty consulting by getting my MBA in international marketing.

Presently, I am a partner in a fund that invests and finances fashion and accessory brands to take them to the next level. I also write a column for amNY where I get to interview New York mavericks and pioneers who are game changers in this new era. You never know what will trigger someone to be better, so I decided to interview those who are changing the world. I started a new blog #kkbloves which launched in Paris, France. #kkbloves is an organic extension of everything I love: fashion, travel, and insider information on who, what, when, where, and how. I launched an exclusive candle line called BAISER ROSE available at craftingboutique.com and continue to make vintage necklaces exclusively for KitsonLA.

My teenage girls are navigating their teens well and are constantly challenging me. As a single mother 365 days out of the year, I took a huge leap of faith to do this on my own. I’m so proud of my girls and how they are growing up in New York City. They always laugh that I’m raising them like a suburban mom living in an urban city: whatever works.

Last but not least, are you ready for my first NOVEL, which is almost finished? If you're curious about New York women who have lived through their twenties and are ready for a new chapter, Get Ready. It’s steamy, feisty, aspirational, and colorful. My girls and I continue to be advocates of FOODBANK4NYC, Generosity water, and Madison Square Garden’s Garden of Dreams. Fluffy says, “Hi,” and the horse I ride, Houston, says “Neigh."

Bravotv.com:  Were you hesitant to see all the ladies again when Luann invited you to her girls’ night out?

KKB: Luann and I were at a book party at Omars, a private club downtown, and she asked me to come and have a drink, for she knows I don’t get out much. Luann honestly thought I would have fun, which I did. It was great seeing Ramona in such good shape after everything she’s been through. I admire her integrity and ability to raise an amazing daughter.

Bravotv.com: Who of the ladies have you stayed in touch with, if any?

KKB: Luann and I are very good friends, and we see each other all the time. She’s an incredible mother and has navigated the world of TV beautifully, AND has maximized on it incredible way. Go LU!

Bravotv.com:  Did it surprise you to hear that Bethenny was unnerved at seeing you again after all these years?

KKB: Bethenny has endured a lot since we last filmed almost four years ago. I understand if she was upset, since she didn’t know I was coming. I was happy to see her looking so well after all she’s been through. We got off on the wrong foot, and I hope one day she can see past as the past.

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