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Unleash Your Skinnygirl

Want to free yourself from a lifetime of dieting? Bethenny Frankel will teach you how!

Naturally Thin: Unleash Your Skinnygirl and Free Yourself From a Lifetime of Dieting personifies me. It is straightforward, a bit cheeky and not obsessive (well at least not about dieting).

Growing up in an extremely dysfunctional and toxic series of households bred me for an obsession with food and diet and weight. I was in an obesity clinic in third grade because I was slightly chubby. I was on every single diet known to man from that age until about 33 years of age. I would live on grapefruits or low carbs or no carbs or do the flight attendants' (then politically incorrectly called stewardess' diet), the cabbage soup diet and the list goes on and on.

Dates, holidays and vacations were terrifying ideas because I really didn't know how to manage or if I would be able to maintain my rigid ideal of consuming few calories, little to no fats and for no one to realize what I was doing.

I was never morbidly obese because I would diet like a psychopath, break a diet, binge then vow to not eat and "be good" for ever. Dates, holidays and vacations were terrifying ideas because I really didn't know how to manage or if I would be able to maintain my rigid ideal of consuming few calories, little to no fats and for no one to realize what I was doing.

Most times, I was "good" but then hell would break loose and I would lose control. Exercise was equally as obsessive. Spinning, stepping, rollerblading the globe, speed-walking, hiking. None of this was pleasurable then.It was for the goal: lose weight. be thin. Weigh less.

If you ever saw the movie Network, there is a scene where the main character hits the wall going 90, and screams from the rooftops "I'm mad as hell and I'm not gonna take it anymore." Well, that was what unintentionally happened to me.

It was for the goal: lose weight. be thin. Weigh less.

I was going to Italy, I had been given many restaurant recommendations. Past trips had consisted of eating the vegetable antipasto, not drinking and eating salads. Then the last day, I would stuff my face with gelato or paella or whatever because I knew I would be "good" once I got home. I would torture Europeans for whole grain bread, low fat milk, artificial sweetener. The idea of cream made me panic. Regular sugar? Sacre bleu!

Well this trip was going to be different. I am a chef. I want to live. I want to eat. How can pasta be the devil? And there began all the principals of Naturally Thin. Your diet is a bank account was born. I would eat all that Italy had to offer, but when I indulged, then I would balance with something healthy.

I would downsize portions by indeed having a small full fat cappuccino and a croissant unlike the massive lattes and giant fat free muffins we Americans find normal.

I mean how idiotic is it to binge on pieces of cake and worry about 16 calories of sugar?

I would eat real sugar and let the poor Italian server live another day without obsessing over Equal.I mean how idiotic is it to binge on pieces of cake and worry about 16 calories of sugar? It makes no sense.

The rule get real was born because we Americans are completely absurd. We eat foods with ingredients we can't pronounce. How stupid have we become to think that watermelon is bad and a low carb manufactured protein bar is good?

Taste everything. Eat nothing was born because we should be able to eat the foods we love in small quantities and participate. We should go on dates and be free and fun and flirty and have a cocktail.


We should have a "food voice" rather than this obsessive "food noise" that is constantly chattering. We need to eat for our lives, our ethnic backgrounds, our financial means, our marriages, our proclivity to sweets versus salty or the opposite.


At a party, if I see a good looking man, I don't walk up and propose. I make a plan. Well, the same goes for our eating.

There is so much more to come. Buy the book. It is so stupid it is smart. It will change your life. Unleash your skinnygirl! You deserve it.

Check out the excerpt here, and then buy the book at the Bravo Shop!

Sonja: A Fun Night With a Younger Man Never Hurt Anyone

Sonja thinks she may have found this season's pot stirrer and wonders if Ramona is really happy.

Welcome back to the bitches who brunch!
I’m disappointed to see that the girls are being vile and continuing to attack me and claim that I do not have legitimate business deals going on. Especially to Bethenny, who has not seen us frequently since she had little Bryn. Gawd forbid Bethenny believes this horse sh--. Luann, Kristen, Heather, and Carole all claimed that I am not really a businesswoman, that all of my ideas are not coming to fruition, that I don’t work every day, and that I didn’t make the toaster oven. That should get a few laughs from those who know. But even if I was not successful and were delusional, as the girls say in Bethanny’s kitchen, what kind of friends badmouth another friend like that? Right now I need friends who are going to support me. It also upset me that the other women said that I was drinking too much at Luann’s housewarming party! The women know that I wasn’t drunk that night, and I’m surprised that Heather would try to allege that I went from cider to beer to drunk. I didn’t stay to party with Heather and Luann and try to keep up with them. I left to go to Ramona’s, where I was a guest. I am running my businesses and raising my daughter, and I can’t afford to have that kind of toxicity in my life, especially with investors involved. I hope that with the release of my fashion and jewelry line that the girls will change their tune and accept that I am and have always been an independent businesswoman. Sometimes I think they just want to keep me where I was. That was comfortable for them. You don’t see me running around looking for a new husband to take care of me. I married my ex-husband because I loved him. BTW, the gardener gave me his number to meet him out after, but I was a good girl and went home.

It seems like Heather has decided to become the new meddler in the group. This should prove to be interesting. While I am very grateful that she was willing to help me with my toaster oven shoot and the box mockup, I would appreciate it if she stopped getting involved in my business affairs. We mutually agreed to that after that last experience! Heather then went on to try to tell Bethenny how to handle Ramona when Bethenny has known Ramona for so much longer than Heather! This reminded me of when Heather tried to get in between Luann and Ramona during Season 4. She also got in between Carole’s argument with Aviva. In the preview we see that Heather can’t stop herself from getting into the other girl’s business, and then she tries to tell Bethenny to apologize to Kristen! We have yet to see Heather fight one of my fights! I hope that Heather gets the hint and lays off telling the rest of us what to do.

I thought that the whole brunching situation was ridiculous, even though I adore going to 75 Main and seeing my friend Zach Erdem. I don’t understand why we all couldn’t have just had brunch together. I think if everyone was just a little more relaxed, we would all have a better time, and we wouldn’t fight about these silly things. Life is too short to worry about who’s HOSTING the brunch! As long as we are getting Bloody Marys, everyone should be happy! Heather makes the best Bloody Marys! Why for Gawd's sake are we not following her to brunch?!

I am so glad that the girls and I got to have a fun night out at Beautique like it used to be! There was no drama, no fighting, just girls having a good time and not judging each other. I agree with Bethenny that it was odd that Luann didn’t tell her that Kelly was coming, but I’m glad that they were able to move on and not let one bad moment ruin everyone’s night. Maybe this was Lu trying to patch them up? We have seen Lu and Ramona do a 360. Lu and Bethenny did a 360. Ramona was having a good time and seemed like she was adjusting well to being single! I know that Ramona is going to be OK, especially if she has the support of all of her single, fabulous girlfriends, and there are many. I still find it strange that Ramona got upset with me saying she was divorcing when she says she is single over and over. Could she be pretending to be happy single? Trying to prove something? I still remember that psychic telling her Mario was cheating. It was so upsetting, I started crying for Ramona.

I am so glad that I met Dominik, and I had a lot of fun with him, but I am definitely not looking to be in a relationship with a younger man right now. I had a young boyfriend last year! At this time in my life, I am looking for a man who is more established and can be a long-term partner--and closer to my age. Especially now that I have ducks lined up, and I’m seeing the trees through the forest. I have not been this happy in some time.

But one fun night with a younger man never hurt anyone. Tune in to see if this is a one-nighter or not! The women are saying a lot of nasty things about me, but no one is trying to say that Sonja Morgan doesn’t know how to have a good time! No matter what happens, I am always the straw the stirs the drink. Lu and Heather drag me around like an old suitcase, so you know they are not worried about me at all. They are just too darn encouraging for that to be true. I guess I need to give my girlfriends more attention once I am over the hurdle of my lawsuit, so they feel secure in our friendship. We have seen LuAnn duke it out with Ramona over my time spent between them. Now we see Ramona freaking on Bethenny over her time with me. I guess I’ll just be the fire hydrant!

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