Cast Blog: #RHONY

Attitude Adjustment

Ramona Singer shares dating, marriage, and body building tips!

Jill is the type of person that likes to be in the thick of things. She likes to know everything about everyone immediately, whether she knows them or not. This trait was shown when she speaks to Bethenny in the pool about Kelly, wanting Bethenny to answer a million and one questions. Bethenny started making a joke of it, but Jill kept going at it. Jill was also drilling me at Aston's party about Kelly. I do not know anyone else that does this; it is as if she gets obsessed. Personally I found it annoying when she was badgering me about Kelly. I just wanted to relax at the party and she was putting me through what felt like an inquisition.

The best advice I can give single women for dating is one word: ATTITUDE. You need to come off secure, not desperate for love and marriage.

Bethenny has a great sense of humor and a strong sense of herself. She and I laughed our butts off at lunch that day. It was so much fun. She took in my tips and felt that they can still apply today, 15 years later. I do not know if she will take them to heart though. The important point is to take it in and take what you want from them.

The best advice I can give single women for dating is one word: ATTITUDE. You need to come off secure, not desperate for love and marriage. YOU will decide if you like "your date," not if he likes you. I had been in a five-year relationship and engaged when I realized that being with man I was about to marry would be the biggest mistake of my life. When I ended it I made a pact with myself that I would not get seriously involved with anyone for at least 6 months. When I would go out on dates, I would tell my date that I just ended a 5-year relationship and did not want to make another mistake. I said that we could date, but I was not ready to get serious. Well saying that had the opposite effect on all the men I dated - they ALL wanted to get serious with me! I realized it was my attitude that compelled them to wanting more from me. I was not lamenting about being single, unmarried, with a broken engagement. I came across as a secure, independent woman with her own life, which now they all wanted to be a part of! This was the lesson of a lifetime for me.

The picture of me body building was another article published in Cosmo called, "How Body Building changed my Life." I wrote "Ramona's Top Ten Manhandling Rules" a few years before I wrote my 10 dating rules for marriage. I have always made exercising a part of my lifestyle, even today. I really feel this helps to keep you younger in a natural way. When I turned 30 I realized that to maintain a youthful body, aerobics and biking were not going to cut it. I realized the women older than me whose physiques I always admired, such as Raquel Welsh and Jane Fonda, were doing free weights/body lifting. So I decided to give it a try and I noticed great results after 4 to 6 weeks lifting 4 to 5 times a week. I actually developed triceps and biceps. I dropped a whole dress size from a 4 to a 2 without losing weight, but from the strengthening and toning of my muscles, the lifting actually tightened, or should I say shrank my body. It was amazing!

When I turned 30 I realized that to maintain a youthful body, aerobics and biking were not going to cut it.

It was very empowering to see the changes in my body. I was taking control of my body, so then in turn, I started taking control of my life. This is when I opened my own business and came up with my dating rules. I no longer was going to allow events to control me, but I was going to start to control the events!

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