Cast Blog: #RHONY

Changing Tactics

Alex talks renewed vows, repaired relationships, and why she's NOT a pushover.


Hey Bravo fans – I’m so sorry I’m nearly a week late (don’t even ask about my NJ blogs but I promise they are coming soon!) Wow, can you believe the finale is here? At times it seemed it would go on until Christmas; other times it seemed like we just watched the premiere! In that time Simon and I have released a book and I’m blogging on the run in between book signings. We’ll be in Philly, DC, Baltimore and McLean, VA from the 11-13th; to see where we are headed go to our family website where you can also order the book online or download on Kindle! It’s a great father’s day gift as it’s half written from the dad’s perspective (and if you get it for him it’s a gift for you too – hahahahah!)

I decided not to attend LuAnn’s single release as we were previously double booked at an event thrown by a friend of ours off camera. While we have some great friendships with cast member that are very real, we also are not going to blow off a behind-the-scenes friend just for extra airtime. Watching the party I’m glad we didn’t go; as usual others took the opportunity to make it all about themselves, which I feel took away from LuAnn’s performance.

Ramona and Mario were two absolutely gorgeous and in love peas-in-a-pod the night of their vow renewal; beautiful vows and I cracked up watching the doggie drama. If Simon and I decide to renew our vows one of these days, our two cats will not be invited! The Pierre is such a beautiful place and so romantic – if you don’t live in New York be sure to go and have a drink there when you visit. It’s right across the street from where Maxim’s used to be – sadly they’ve now closed in NYC but the original Paris restaurant looks identical to the Madison Avenue one where Simon and I were married 10 years ago.


It was so touching to have a moment with Ramona and Bethenny. Who knew that over a year we’d go from anger to second chances to shared experiences to friendship?!? I truly cherish my relationships with both of them.

Jill is ... Jill. Given what she has said in the press up until April of this year, I really don’t think she is all that concerned about repairing her relationship with Bethenny – her relationship with the public is another story. I’ll give her this; she is a phenomenal spin doctor - watch what happens at the reunion. I wasn’t surprised at all when she walked away from me; it’s typical.

From where I sit in my Brooklyn office in the basement on a wet, rainy Wednesday in June, I do not think that Jill and Bethenny will make up. And really, I wouldn’t mind if they did – I don’t like to see people fighting. However, I don’t see it happening.

This season has been such a wild ride. For myself, I learned that sometimes when you deal with people who just don’t or can’t listen, sometimes you have to hit them over the head with a verbal two-by-four in order to make yourself heard. In reality TV sometimes walking away from unpleasant situations causes people to get the wrong idea – ie that their behavior is acceptable or that you’re afraid to call people on the carpet when they do or say things that are not OK. I usually give people chances until I bleed, but eventually you have to change tactics if what you’ve done before isn’t working. I used to excuse myself. Unfortunately people assumed I was a pushover because of it, so the one thing I’ve learned this season is that if you don’t tell people what you think, they will make assumptions that are almost always wrong. Fasten your seat belts for the reunion!

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Kristen: B and I Are Not Besties

Kristen tells us how she really feels after not being invited to Bethenny's party.

Carole is so hilarious. I love that she met Adam, hit it off, and they are hanging having fun. You go, girl. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.

I have to agree under 35/over 75 seems like a great way to go when dating. The Halloween puking in a pedicab thing is OMG, too funny! He held her hair back out of the way! #truelove

I actually didn’t know that Adam dated Lu’s niece. It seems to me that Carole just fell into this. The feeling is mutual, and I would have to agree it’s a bit awkward to tell Lu too soon. Carole doesn’t even know what’s happening at this point!

Bethenny's birthday dinner seemed like a lot of fun, LOL. I didn’t know that she shared the day with her mom, that seems like somewhat of a sore subject. I do remember hearing years ago that she hated birthdays. I love that Sonja is with her German boy. I think it's nuts how these women just keep inviting other men as guests--they clearly didn’t get the plus-one only invite. OMG, the young boy not knowing Jordache jeans?! How is that even possible?

Cheers to expecting the unexpected!

The phone call with Heather catching up and then finding out that I wasn’t invited was interesting, and very much what happens. Simple question: Gee, why wasn’t I invited? Listen, anytime you are in a group and you are not invited, I don't care what anyone says, it’s a bummer. I was last with all the girls in the Hamptons. I felt that we had a nice time at Bethenny’s brunch. Last I saw, Bethenny and Ramona had a huge fight.

When you do meet a new group of women, sometimes it’s nice to include them all, especially when random young dates get to tag along. 

Kristen Taekman

I was just surprised that Bethenny and Ramona made up so fast and were hanging out already? That’s all. I get it--B and I are not besties. When you do meet a new group of women, sometimes it’s nice to include them all, especially when random young dates get to tag along? The guest list was clearly not that tight. Oh well…there’s always next year’s birthday!

Dorinda and Hannah and Dorinda and John. This all seems very complicated, stressful, and a lot of work. Dorinda is really so lovely. It’s hard to believe that she leads a double life. How hard is that? Unless John is really not good for her, it seems that Hannah has to allow her mother to be happy.

Ramona and AOA.

This restaurant is in my ‘hood, just a few blocks away, great spot. It’s really funny that Ramona is an investor in a sports bar. WOW things really have changed!

It’s interesting how Ramona says that she did so much for Mario and didn’t realize how much work he was. It’s nice she is taking time for herself, she really deserves it. As she said, “Trying to look on the brighter side.”

Ramona and Peter are both very, very flirty…hmmm, more than just business??

Dorinda and John seem to love each other. But we are seeing so much fighting and bickering. I am betting that the making up for them is fun after the fighting. 

Rebranding death. I hear Bethenny, “late husband” does seem weird, but I think it’s better than the alternatives, that’s for sure. When I heard about Anthony’s ashes, I became sooo emotional. I can’t believe it, all that that must have stirred up in Carole all these years later. She told me that he would have gotten a kick out of it all, that’s the kind of personality he had.

I am not losing sleep over not being invited to Bethany’s birthday. I was just confused as to why everyone else was invited, and I wasn’t. The last time I saw her, things seemed good between us. She knows we all hang out together, you would think she would say, “Uh, well, now that everyone else is coming, what’s another two? I should invite Dorinda and Kristen.” Right? But no biggie, she didn’t even think of it, because we aren’t friends. Little side note… uh, that’s how you get to know people! I invite you to do things, you invite me…no harm, no loss. Heather is a great friend for having my back! All good. #staytuned


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