Cast Blog: #RHONY

Queen of Inappropriateness

Bethenny talks teaching, making private voicemails public, and her awkward fashion show run-in with Jill.


I absolutely love teaching at The Learning Annex and they have asked me to teach another class. It is an opportunity to really communicate with and connect to people in a meaningful way. That is why I do everything I do. I love helping women and giving them practical solutions to so many of their problems. This is precisely why I wrote the books Naturally Thin, Skinnygirl Dish and my upcoming A Place of Yes.

At this point in my career, I wouldn't pose for Playboy because it wouldn't be a good business decision for me. All of my career choices have very specific reasons behind them and there would be no reason right now to support that one.

I am the queen of inappropriateness, so I am in no position to tell anyone what decisions are and aren't appropriate. I have no issue with someone posing nude because of their small children. Kelly's children seem well-adjusted, and I believe children can handle a lot. If she is a good, supportive parent, then that is more important. If her children were older in age, that might even be more awkward. Then their teenage friends might be curious about it. I doubt kelly's daughter's friends read playboy. If they do, there are bigger fish to fry.

I wasn't surprised that Jill discussed me with her psychic. Jill has discussed our relationship with many people. It is how she operates. Her psychic, whom I do not know, must like to be in the middle of things, for she has reached out to me repeatedly to try to connect with me on very private and personal matters.

It really wasn't particularly difficult watching Jill play the message. It was a small portion of a slightly longer message, and I meant every word that I said. I don't have any nor believe in any regrets. There is obviously a lot that the audience doesn't know, but I stand behind all of my actions.

There was more of that message, and I am certain that Jill wouldn't want people to hear what was said. That is her prerogative. I was simply flabbergasted that she had kept that message for months and that she played it publicly. I found that very disrespectful.

I don't know exactly what Jill is scared of. Quite possibly, it is that I am opinionated, aggressive and completely upfront, or perhaps it is about how well I know her as a person. Regardless, I'm focused on my relationship, career and most importantly, my baby. I'm definitely not focusing on conjuring up ways to scare Jill.

I honestly have no idea what Jill thinks I'll do. I would imagine she would be more focused on her own life rather than how scary I am.

Jason's birthday was really special. It was where we met, and I wanted to do something that he would love. It was really great to get both of our groups of friends together. Great night.

Seeing Jill at Jill stuart was awkward at best. It was something that I had to deal with when I really would have rather been in any other situation. I expected pretty much what happened: awkwardness, coldness, fakeness and nothing productive from all parties (including myself). I just wanted it to be over.

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Carole: I’m Cautious in Matters of the Heart

Carole explains why she wasn't rushing to discuss her new relationship with the other ladies and how she felt about Bethenny's suggestion to rebrand death. Were you actively trying to keep your relationship with Adam a secret from Luann in the beginning?

Carole Radziwill: No, I’m not a woman who overshares. And I'm fairly sure the audience knows this about me by now. You don’t see me each week talking, talking, talking about every last thought that pops into my head.  Also, I believe there is an expectation of privacy, even among good friends, and especially among social friends. I live by that in my real life (with my friends outside the show), and it’s no different than my reality life on TV. The best advice I can give a girl is to keep new relationships private. There is nothing like a handful of well-intentioned “girlfriend advice” to derail a blooming romance. That being said, when Adam and I started seeing each other, I wasn’t sure if it would develop into anything worth talking about. I’m cautious in matters of the heart. But after a few weeks, it was clear that we like each other’s company; he was kind and cooked; but mostly, he thought I was funny. Like I said, it’s not complicated. When I next saw Heather and Kristen, I told them I'd been seeing Adam. As for telling Luann, I was genuinely happy to tell her the next time we saw each other privately. Adam had dated her niece, and while they had broken up over a year before Adam and I met, they remained friends. All good. I assumed Luann would be happy to hear of her little love connection--it’s good karma! Turns out I’m not always right. You mention the perks of dating someone under 35/over 75. Can you explain that a little more?

CR: I’ve learned that much older men and much younger men are more grateful for the company of a woman. It’s the men your own age that make things more complicated than need be. This is true at any age. When I was in my 20s, 20-something men were a pain in the ass. Maybe it’s just the higher expectations and greater social pressure in a relationship of two age-appropriate people. That said, I think age, much like race or gender, is irrelevant when you connect with someone on an intellectual or spiritual level. What went through your mind when you found out you had to move your late husband’s ashes?

CR: At first, I thought it had to be a mistake. The church had been sold and the graves moved? It’s the log line to a Hollywood movie, not a storyline in a reality show. Churches can be sold? Caskets and urns replaced? But after speaking with the church secretary, I did what anyone in my place would have done--including my husband--I laughed. Not a long laugh, maybe it was a nervous laugh but still, a laugh. My husband was the king of practical jokes, and I thought this was the best one yet. Then after coming to terms with the idea of going to London and bringing the urn back, I was excited to have it back. He was and still is a piece of my life. A great one at that. Since your conversation with Bethenny, have you had any ideas for how to rebrand death and being a widow?

CR: No, and let me say that that conversation at the time was a little bit surprising. And no less in re-watching it this week. It’s been 15 years since my husband died. I’ve heard everything, well, except, the re-branding of death. That was new. But I’m used to people being very uncomfortable around the subject of death. They say the weirdest and dumbest things. It’s still awkward, but it just doesn’t shock me any longer. I, like many young widows, have very well developed gallows humor. I only hoped on that night Dorinda did too. Filed Under: People Say the Strangest Things

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