Cast Blog: #RHONY

Don't Listen to Well-Meaning Morons

Ramona on Her Divorce From Mario

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Heather Says That's a Wrap

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

The Countess: Sonja and I Are on the Outs

Aviva Says Bye for Now

Kristen on Surviving Her First Season

LuAnn: For Ramona Ignorance Is Bliss

Who Cares How Carole Wrote Her Book?

Carole on Stupid Things You've Heard on Bravo

Aviva's "Foul Ignorance"

Kristen: Ramona's Out of Touch with Reality

Sonja Is Very Private

Ramona on the Grueling Reunion

LuAnn: Sonja Is Off the Rails

Heather: Et tu Ramona Singer?

Aviva on Kristen's "Gatemouth" Look

Kristen: Sonja Could Be Successful

Sonja's Glad Aviva Threw Her Leg

Carole: Waiter, We're Done

Ramona: Aviva's Leg Scared All of Us

Heather Focuses on What Matters

LuAnn: Sonja Only Has Herself to Blame

What Else Does Aviva Have in That Bag?

Aviva: Leggy Blonde

God Gave me a Great Ass and His Approval

Sonja on Her Harry Situation with LuAnn

Ramona: Where Did the Time Go With Avery?

Heather Tips to Plan a Party for Carole

Aviva Rises Above the Nonsense

Love Kristen Tender

Sonja and Harry Aren't Good for Each Other

Ramona: Mario's Voice Is So Sexy

Aviva Defends Her Asthma

Heather's Sasha Fierce Moment

Nothing Is Too Romantic for Sonja

LuAnn: I Sing When I Feel Like Singing

Kristen: This Show Has Helped My Marriage

Carole: Oh Beautiful for Spacious Skies. . .

Ramona: Just Don't Ask Me to Go Every Year

Don't Listen to Well-Meaning Morons

Simon talks Labor Day drama, the formation of the "Dissing LuAnn Society," and more!


So have you all recovered from Episode one’s verbal slugfest? It’s been interesting to read the cast’s respective blogs and see that some of them are dialing back their words under the guise of "It’s just good TV." That comment I certainly understand. But if you live by the sword (when you blog, comment and criticize those who appear on other Real Housewives’ shows) then surely you must also die by it too.

So after a quick recap of last weeks show, Bethenny and Jason await for the arrival of Ramona at the Pink Elephant. I know I am getting old, and yes, we’ve been to that club, but I just don’t get the attraction to sit around a crowded table at Midnight paying $200 for a bottle of Vodka (that costs $2 to make). Anyway another discussion ensues about the newly cut & coiffed Ramona, and I quote says Ramona, “I just thought my hair was like Samson & Delia.” Now, I don’t want to make a Mountain out of a Holemill but surely even if Ramona has forgotten the Old Testament, she is old enough to remember the Tom Jones's Delilah from 1968 and know about the second L?

Anyway, Bethenny and Ramona form the mutual ‘Dissing LuAnn Society’ and B tells Mario that his Count-less comment was an uncool thing to say. Hello Pot, my name is Kettle! Bethenny then compounds her error by using the made up word “attackive” as used by LuAnn during the Season 2 Reunion Specials. I sure hope she knew she was being ironic. Anyway it’s off to the dance floor and another of Ramona’s dances where she communicates with the techno gods.

The sun dawns and the new improved and less downtrodden Rosie appears in a scene that adds some human dimension to the recent divorce. It seems that no longer mopping up Aston’s pee and looking after ‘la famille de Lesseps’ has done wonders for her. In Rosie’s talking head interview we learn a more private side of LuAnn and that Rosie thinks she’s lonely and is worried for her. I will for the moment ignore LuAnn begging for a comment from Rosie on ‘how well she (LuAnn) looks’ as it as either a sign of a pretty fragile recent divorcee or a continuation of her self -centeredness.


Meanwhile, at a restaurant in Southampton Alex and I are waiting for our dining companions to arrive and lo and behold who should walk in but Ramona with Mario dressed as my almost doppelganger. I was wearing some of the 2009 spring/summer collection of one our favorite designers John Bartlett as was Mario. What you didn’t see was that we wearing the same pants as well. A funny moment!

After we all sat down, I am afraid I couldn’t resist bringing up the Cameron Diaz likeness which Alex had told me about after their boat trip the previous day. I know I flubbed it by calling her a younger Cameron but Ramona misheard that and reveled in the moment. We move onto the Count-less line and with some prompting Mario calls her and leaves a message about their impending Labor Day lunch party. Watching that scene again; seriously just who would have predicted that the four of us would have a normal, enjoyable dinner out after what went down in the first two seasons?

Breakfast dawns at the de Lesseps’ and it would seem that the breakfast spread as laid out was a revelation to Jill who in voiceover attributes the house being warm to the fact that the “count isn’t there.” Ouch! Jill brings up her anxiety about attending Ramona’s Labor Day party, which gives LuAnn an excuse to play the message that Mario had left. Jill paraphrases this as Mario saying, “Bring it on Bitch!” which to me is proof positive that she speaks a different language. Jill certainly brings it on by doing one of the most unscrupulous things you can do to anyone whether in business or to friends and that is to conduct a speakerphone conversation in earshot of another. Jill please never do this again, as I am sure that LuAnn would have told you that proper telephone etiquette dictates that you announce all parties when on a call.

I am not sure what ‘normal thoughts in her head’ Jill had, but allowing Ramona to speak such things about LuAnn when LuAnn was sitting there listening was not honorable at all. The funny thing is that Jill has made similar accusations about LuAnn to both Alex and me, and so I found it interesting that neither of them really denied Ramona’s accusation but merely commented on the fact that she had the nerve to state them. All Jill could say in voice over was she "didn’t know if there was any truth” about what Ramona said. With friends like Jill...


Across at Philippe Chow’s a courtship of Bethenny scene ensues, and while it’s no secret that Bethenny and I have busted heads many times, I can’t help but feel happy for her. Her sweet, little coy grin as Jason expresses his feelings, says a lot about how she feels. Her view on Alex and me was similar to my view on parenthood prior to becoming a parent. Before you ‘are’ something; a lover, a parent etc., you can’t quite get the concept and in the process express disdain for it and those who have it. But when you do fall in love, or become a parent; everything you’ve previously said is forgotten. Ah, the hypocrisy of life’s changes.

The following day at Ramona’s, she’s preparing for her lunch and if to cover her flub from last week she gets the molehill right this time, as she runs down who may or may not be attending. Over at LuAnn’s the dueling nature of these scenes comes into focus. Kelly wearing a lace T-shirt and not much else arrives seemingly with something that she must get off her chest. And so with platitudes like; authenticity, friendship, respect (for LuAnn only it seems), true and genuine, Kelly advises them that she has been chosen to be the Playboy 40th Anniversary Cover model and have a 10-page story about her. Now, do me a favor and take that link. The link itself is safe for work but the scream you utter when you see it might not be. Is Kelly really sitting there in September 2009 telling LuAnn and Jill that’s she’s been picked to be the January 1994 cover girl? Just how iconic is that! LuAnn chimes in to say that she might consider doing Playboy, which is interesting in light of what she had to say at the Season 1 reunion special. Now when she pulls out the cover of Playgirl she’d shot alls I can say is LOL.

Note to Ally – when you go on driving lessons DO NOT HAVE A BACKSEAT driver.



Bobby joins the gals and when told about Kelly’s cover divulges that he owns all the Playboy magazines from 1969-1998. TMI.

Over at Ramona’s, Bethenny and Jason arrive and as Ramona runs down the guest list Bethenny bites into a lemon the moment she’s told that Alex and I are expected. Over the summer the three of us had been at a couple of the same events but always managed to stay apart but now here we were about to be sitting at the same lunch table. All three of us would need to somehow clear the air early on otherwise the discord between us would risk overshadowing the lunch. Bethenny started covering her tracks on the logo and not long after we arrived Bethenny spoke to Alex about not using her logo and I just wish that she’d been as nice about it in her blog during Season 2. As we were serving ourselves lunch I took the opportunity to have my say to Bethenny about some other things she’d written in her Season 2 Bravo blogs but this time about me, like when she described me as ‘revolting.' We both had our say; reached a level of détente and moved on.

Honestly, when we had arrived at Ramona’s, Alex and I were expecting to walk into a party with 40+ people where it would have been OK for us to stay for an hour and then move on to LuAnn’s. A small lunch for 8 was a different matter and after we’d stayed much longer than we’d expected and given that we had to drive back to Manhattan that afternoon, it was getting less likely we were going to make it over.

But as we started our departure, Alex stated that she doesn’t obviously like to go behind people’s back, so presumably surreptitiously is all right? ;-) But all joking aside, Ramona convinced Alex to stay a while longer and not go over to LuAnn’s. How ironic that the RHONY Brooklyn ‘outsiders’ company is now being fought over by all. Jill states that Alex doesn’t like to take sides but as long as she takes Jill’s side that’s good but if she doesn’t then it’s a problem. So we don’t get over that day and stay a while longer with Ramona and Mario and with that we’re into previews for next week with a warning from Alex (and a chapter from our upcoming book.) Don’t listen to the well-meaning morons!

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Until next week...

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

Sonja explains why she and Ramona are family, why she's hiring Aviva, and why LuAnn is still her friend.

At this point, I am numb to the whole BookGate debate. I am not on anyone's side, I just hope that both books are bestsellers and that Carole and Aviva are making enough money to pay the bills with their books because BookGate has definitely taken an emotional toll on their friendship. I know that they were close and had great times together. In fact, Carole was once the godmother to Aviva's daughter. How can this come between them? Such contention over the accusations! I don't know why they let it get so heated. It's not worth it! I just hope that they can forgive each other at some point. As you get to know someone, you get to see their strengths and weaknesses -- and you have to accept those if you're going to be friends.

I was surprised when the girls laughed at me discussing my ability to forgive and voicing my Christianity. I think that it is one of the reasons that I can live my own life and not worry about everyone else's or the grass being greener. It's all relative. We are on Earth for such a short time. I am enjoying every day of my life. I am grateful for the family and friends that I have and my beautiful daughter.

I have so much more than many other people, and I remind myself of that every day with the charity work that I do. That's why I feel so much more comfortable working with artists, animals, the LGBT, and children. It's such a sensitive, caring, and loving place to be. I love my Sonja In The City event planning business because it lets me be me -- an artist and a promoter -- while helping others reach their highest capabilities. Plus I get to do all that while helping me get my daughter through school in a stable environment. It keeps me connected to the movers and shakers who help me manage my investments. I love to produce and to contribute. It makes me feel good.

I believe some of the women fail to take me seriously because I only show them my party side. There is a private side to me that most people don't see, because they only see me out at social events and while I'm entertaining. I throw a lot of events, so a lot of people only see that side, as it's my business and the way I broker some of my deals.

It is amazing how moms like Heather find strength to do dealing with their children's issues, like her son's health and hearing loss. It's what we do with loved ones. We do it with marriage partners too! I surprised myself when my ex had a terrible accident and I was called upon to deal with all of the doctors, therapists, and financial advisors.

I dont feel that Ramona called Aviva vile. She said that she had a vile side. That's different!

I'm not upset that Ramona spoke behind my back about my financial problems. She's human, and I spoke my feelings then and we worked through it the way that family does. We have too much water under the bridge to let opinions or men get in between us.

Heather questioning the legitimacy of my friendship with Ramona is just silly. She knows that we have been friends forever and whatever I have said about Ramona I have told her to her face. Heather knows this very well -- since I'm very upfront about my feelings with her.

The girls saying that Aviva's leg throw was staged is silly. I let Aviva know that everyone was saying she was fake. Even if she plans to throw it on the table to make a point, that doesn't make it staged. It just means she was pushed to a limit. I thought she was hilarious. After all, it was a private party in the back room. We weren't in the actual restaurant. Aviva doesn't go around throwing her leg around in normal restaurant situations. Maybe she and I should take her act on the road! A real dog and pony show! I always said I was a performer, a comedian, and a producer. At my Sonja In The City parties, now we can include Aviva as part of the show!

My overall thoughts of the season was that the reunion had more drama. I felt the season flip-flopped around quite a bit. Harry and I will always have a very strong relationship, just as Ramona and Aviva will always be in my life. Aviva's son Harrison is like my family.

Ramona was definitely going through something this season. I let her know I was upset, but I can't change her and she can't change me. We accept each other the way we are and we work our differences out.

I didn't know LuAnn was going through a breakup. She never shared that with me, and I was getting upset that she wasn't trusting my friendship and was blaming me for everything. I didn't give any credence to any of the rumors that were going around town through the salon that Satoko worked at. Kristen and I just asked the facialist to tell us for fun. I can't stop LuAnn from running out of parties with my guys -- just like I can't stop Harry from taking off and leaving me because he knows I want commitment and he wants to fool around. But that doesn't mean LuAnn's not my friend and that I can't speak my mind in front of her, and it doesn't mean that Harry isn't someone that I love as well.

I hope that you found the season entertaining. I hope that you don't take yourself too seriously! And when the naysayers back you into the corner, just say what Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West "Be off with you, your black magic doesn't work here!"

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