Cast Blog: #RHONY

A Real Hoot

Sonja gives her take on the wild time the wives had at Ramona's bachelorette party!

 

OK Bravo viewers, I promise I don't only talk about sex! I talk about homemaking, cooking, gardening, yoga, charity, fashion, art, travels, friendships, but it seems the lines about sex attract the most attention! At the end of the day if people find it entertaining and feel better about their own situation by relating or even feeling superior, that is fine with me.

By the way, on Saturday Hollywoodlife.com is posting a video of me making one of my toaster oven recipes. Everyone asked for them, so check it out on YouTube! They are all less than $20, 20 minutes, and VERY simple to make. My aupairs always take them back to Europe with them on index cards. Can you imagine their mothers when they say they want a toaster oven because Mrs. Morgan uses one???

It was nice of Ramona to pick me up on the way to the airport. I am not a morning person and she made sure I made it. It took a lot for me to give up my usual control mode, and for once, let someone else be the hostess, since I am usually the one hosting everyone. It's nice to have a friend who is also a gracious hostess and who reciprocates. I am sure everyone out there knows what it feels like to have people use them, give nothing back, or worse be "on the take."

I was anxious not knowing where we were going, but Ramona made it first class from the start and you will see how it ends.

I am happy LuAnn has this exciting opportunity with her song on iTunes. It keeps her young and vibrant and I give her credit for going after what she wants. Lord knows one can use a distraction during divorce, and it's great to feel you are again successful on your own, with your own identity. We run in a tough crowd, but one cannot live in fear of their dreams. I agreed with her producer, she has star quality and it's fun to watch and take part. I have sung several summers with Ivana (I'm not a singer) in front 2000 people in St. Tropez at our friend's home, and I do it because it's invigorating and because they let me! Maybe LuAnn will join us next time. Everyone gets a giggle out of it.

 

So fun going through the Vix swimsuits with Ramona and feeling the joy of her hard-earned hot figure. I gifted her one of the sexier suits because I knew she could pull it off. It's inspiring that she looks so great, not for her age but for any age.

Ramona started a conversation at our first lunch on the boat about what went down with Jill. Kelly attempts to take the high road to defend Jill, but women do need to express their feelings in order to bond. I had no place commenting, so I'm thinking...when is my pedicure? And... aren't we on vacation here? Also, I was wearing a fabulous swimsuit. Hope you people caught it. It's at least five years old and owes me no money. Always hand wash (in the bidet - you saw my cribs on Bravotv.com? Tee Hee)!

Did you catch my new motto? May I never suck the air out of a room. Kelly liked it!

I was very proud of my husband, and very proud of our marriage, our families, and my ego took it between the eyes when we split. My obvious happiness and open, sharing nature made me vulnerable to people with ulterior motives. I don't operate that way and was raised in a community of 1500 people where one is held accountable. Most of all to God. He doesn't care about prestige or power. In the end he cares about ordinary people doing extraordinary things for the people in need that they find in their lives. We ALL do this on some level and will only feel good about the things we have done on our last breath.

I know Ramona said it was a bachelorette party, but puhleese, after my Martin cocktail and my limit of wine at dinner my friend Kelly "Patron" Bennsimon brought out these espresso shots that turned out to be tequila! I thought the tequila came after, not in! That along with PMS, the time change, the stress of our first day, feeling a little self-conscience seeing how fit the ladies figures were, and the memories that were flooding my senses, I became emotional. Bethenny and Kelly were so kind to stop fighting with each other for once to bolster my confidence by saying I look amazing, hugging me, and actually feeling my pain. Both of them did! Looks are not everything but every woman wants to look, feel and be the best they can.

 

Kelly throws out a lot of adjectives and at times is judgmental. As this story unravels however, we find out, real or not, that Kelly feels strongly that Bethenny attacked her family in the press. That is very serious. However, she offered no evidence. I am looking forward to getting to know both of them better.

The Hooter boat was the perfect ending to the bachelorette party. The girls were gorgeous and fun to meet. Though I have to say my edits were harsh, they are sure to cause a stir and that's what we are here to do! I had to ask Kelly to move aside so I could see the Hooter girls, otherwise, I would have fallen out of my chair and into Ramona's lap. The entire Hooter group was gracious and made us feel beautiful as well. I had to call it a night for obvious reasons so Kelly and I went back to the boat. How did you like my dive on Kelly? I will get her to loosen up and have some fun eventually!

Dorinda: Sonja Is a Trip

Dorinda talks about meeting the other ladies and explains why she was nervous to meet Bethenny.

OMG, I’m on again! Is this really going to happen every week?! Funny how I’m still freaked out by myself on TV…

As you may or may not know, I am not a Hamptons girl; I am #TeamBerkshires. But hey, this could be fun too, right? As close as Ramona and I are, I have never actually stayed or even seen her home on the beach, so I was excited to go. Meeting Lady Morgan was a nice little adventure, too. She’s so beautiful. And I can totally see why Ramona gets flustered with her and her tendency to monopolize a conversation. But Sonja is a trip. I really like her.

Luann’s estate sale was something, huh? In the Berkshires, we call it a tag sale. Not as fancy, but much more real. After 22 years, it’s got to be hard to see the home where you raised your kids and built a family be taken apart and sold to strangers. But it was time for Luann to move on and write the next fabulous chapter of her life, as well as unburden herself of the past. (I need to start thinking about doing some of that in my life in Great Barrington. As my Mom would say, “Only when you’re good and ready, and not before that.”) I was excited to see Luann’s new house and watch her new beginnings flourish. I’m so proud of her.

So this was the weekend to reconnect with the girls I knew and meet the "new girls” I hadn’t met. Meeting Kristen and Carole was a breeze. They strolled into the estate sale with Heather and were as kind and as a welcoming as I expected them to be. Very, very sweet. I have to admit, I was a little nervous to meet the whole gang (operative word: gang), but I figured my closet helps me keep up with the best of them, and for this weekend, it was all “Hamptons Country Chic.”

At the cocktail party that night, I finally met Bethenny…at last! I was excited and a bit nervous, since she has quite the reputation. And all the good things I’ve heard…they were right! All the girls seemed happy to see her, but there was some sort of weird tension with Ramona that I didn’t really understand. It was almost like a Mexican standoff —a designer standoff, but a stand off. I was surprised to see Ramona “KellyBensimoning” Bethenny. It was weird and pretty tense, to be honest. It appeared to be about some brunch plans on a Sunday, but beneath the surface, it felt more like a timeless power struggle. Not comfortable with all that, and I’d hoped the next day would go smoother after it was all sorted out.

Honestly, I don't care where I go to brunch, as long as there’s food and good company. After that night, I was mostly concerned with getting through the weekend and making friends and/or figuring out who I had to keep my eye on. Ideally, I wanted to have a fun girls' weekend, not have to be the "hostess with the mostest" for once, and just get to relax...NOT!

For me, that weekend was mainly about supporting Ramona and really letting her know that I was there—that we were all there—for her, and that I understand what she is going through. After a long, happy marriage, divorce is a real bitch. Part of you dies. It’s that serious. Especially after 25 years…that’s a quarter-century! As much as I am so sad Richard is no longer here, I know it’s over, it’s ended, it’s done. I have to go on without him. In a weird way, this allows me a freedom to cope with what’s in front of me and continue with a new life. With divorce, you don’t have that “luxury.” (Weird way of putting it, but there’s a peace that comes with a solidified, unchangeable event that has no tomorrow.) Divorce, of course, keeps two people going, rebuilding their lives, and you know all about it. Whether through friends or social media—or even tabloids, in some cases. You know about their next act. It can be really difficult. After a divorce, you have to untangle your life emotionally and financially with expensive lawyers and sometimes in the public eye, though in front of family and close friends can sometimes be more draining than a tabloid can be.

In the end, if there ever really is an end to a divorce, you end up splitting your life up in half… (but it’s really “half of the half,” because the lawyers took most of it), only to run into the bastard in the grocery store with a new woman two weeks later. That’s a pretty crappy situation. You know what they say, "Sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall together." All true, but boy…the process sure is daunting!

Signing off, see you next week!
xxx

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