No Regrets, No Fear
Sonja talks about taking big risks, Kelly's breakthrough, Bethenny's new show, and, of course, sex!
Who isn't jealous that Bethenny got her own show! Jealousy is a natural feeling, even when your happy for the person and you love them. When I feel jealous, I try to understand where it is coming from and how to better myself where I feel I am lacking. Do I feel I would like to have my own show? Do I want the success that Bethenny has? If I do, and feel jealous that Bethenny does have these opportunities, then I need to do what I can to have the same success. No regrets. No fear. I think people feel jealous when they feel they may be left behind by those they have relationships with or can't keep up with people they actually admire. We sometimes get what we need, not what we want, so I just give it a go and see where it leads me. It's sort of like the Countess and her new hit song - who knows where it will lead? But she would never know if she didn't try.
I talk and talk and talk. Boy, do I like to talk. I am a Sagittarius. I like to share my experiences with the other housewives. I think the show was missing the subject of sex being an important part of life, and regardless of me going on about my cooking, gardening, writing, entertaining, fashion, charity, the film cuts always lead to sex. I think it is a popular subject and there are a lot of housewives who can relate and take solace in the fact they are not alone. I am willing to talk about it and so is Bethenny, so now the dam has broke! I did honestly enjoy talking with LuAnn and Kelly about it as well. I got a kick out of Kelly and the Max-capade and the Countess shared her feelings on Italian men. Good fun in my book!
Sex is healthy and something everyone should have if they want. Dating is hard, commitment is difficult to have if you have high standards, and if your a single mom there sometimes just isn't room for a serious commitment while your are trying to keep it together for your children. I was just suggesting that having a Thursday night date with someone who also is not ready for long term commitment is not a crime. It can be a satisfying way to transition for a period of time and not have to go without or risk one-night stands that can be hurtful for some as Kelly pointed out. Not everyone you date and think might lead to marriage will, and you might just surprise yourself when you least expect it. My mom always said it may be in your own backyard.
One-night stands happen! Anyone who doesn't realize that is living in another world. I suggest that if you do have a one-night stand, take precautions. Use protection even if you are steady with one man! Who knows? Even in a marriage you don't know! Being promiscuous is never good. But this happens too. Don't be hard on yourself and of course we ALL strive for long term love and commitment. I threw out my one-night stand comment to Kelly because I feel she is setting the bar so high. If I were to believe her hard line statements I feel she should be a little more carefree. This is my way of being dramatic when out with the girls. I like to tease them and make them think. Kelly gets very defensive and then comes off as judgmental.
I think everyone at some point has been waiting in half fear for the next zinger coming from Bethenny and hoping they can handle it. We are adults though, and expect this on a show with a bunch of dramatic women! Like Kelly says, we are unpredictable.
I think Kelly is OK one-on-one and when she can drop in and drop out of a scene. Even she herself says she makes us white noise, and then she just has to leave sometimes. But, if you want to peel the layers of Kelly and really want to get to know her, she is guarded. She doesn't like to share feelings and has said this. This is how women bond, though. We become closer to one another by sharing vulnerabilities, with the knowledge we'll still be there for one another afterward. I think Kelly did have a breakthrough and now sees that she can't let herself get into these situations, because she won't roll with it and can't just enjoy the moment with this particular group of ladies. Kelly also has to remember we are on the show to be sensational, and that we all like to create drama in our own way. I hope that Kelly and I can be closer friends by showing her I will still be there should she want to share, and communicate both ways. She has a lot to share.
We were not bullying Kelly. We were sharing our feelings with each other, and trying to relax, have fun and let our hair down, and meanwhile Kelly was saying one shouldn't stomp grapes, one shouldn't have one-night stands, one shouldn't have unprotected sex, one shouldn't have promiscuous sex, she never eats cornstarch, she never drinks, and it felt like an insult to everyone else discussing or doing the same. Never say never.