Cast Blog: #RHONY

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Sonja talks lost footage, plastic surgery for a "hawt bawdy," and wishes fans a great summer!


Dear Bravo Viewers,
I don't care how much I sweat, I am never doing that operation to kill the sweat glands. I have to find out if Ramona went back and did the other armpit. On second thought, of course she did, it was a walk in the park for the two of them! I thought I would pass out. I can't believe this woman, Dr. Sharon Giese can do armpit surgery all day long. I was very impressed with her thorough suction or zapping skills, or whatever it was that she was doing. I couldn't focus on what she was saying and all I could think is I need to vacuum my house. Ramona was so brave, but she didn't see what I saw. Excuse me ... I need another juice box, or a jelly bean, or a gummy bear.

It was weird because Kelly opened the conversation about having a man over for drinks and then I suggested the side door because you don't want your children to be confused with a new gentleman caller, but then she was flustered. I could tell she didn't have girls over for drinks often because first she opened wine, and then before we had finished that glass and our (?) ... jelly beans, she opened a bottle of champagne. Nevertheless, I just wanted her to be comfortable, so I gladly accepted both. She really did seem to want to discuss dating and men, after all we are three single women of a certain age. Anyhow, this is when we had dinner at Pierre's in Bridgehampton and I blew the lid off the night with "Sex is healthy, even after divorce." (Whoa - news flash!) LuAnn said Italian men were fun to date but not to marry! On that same night Kelly paid me the highest compliment because she said I was exactly the kind of girl her ex-husband would love. That was sweet and generous of her to say, so we were off to a good start. I continued being giddy with the girls when I brought up Max who I had dated for some time before Kelly stepped out with him on camera. He's hot, and he knows how to make a woman feel beautiful, so I was dying to share the afterglow with Kelly. However, Kelly wasn't biting. So I had to drop it. Darn! Such a good topic - tall, dark, handsome, Argentinian with education and manners. "You gotta hawt bawdy" boy.

Kelly came over as a friend after my surgery, if you can even call it that since it was such a small procedure. Excuse me folks I DO exercise! Why did she say that? Did she say that? I certainly am NOT lazy. I am ACTIVE. I guess everyone across American knows that by now. :) All kidding aside, at a certain point some body areas are exercise resistant. So I decided to have the donut removed like many health and beauty fanatics do. I like a full bust and a soft derriere but don't like my tummy hanging over my jeans! I am a health nut who juices daily, takes vitamins, stays active, works out, does yoga, goes to sweat lodges, eats healthy and reads up on nutrition and spirituality. And...YES, I wanted the area around my gorgeous belly button GONE! Did I really need to do it? No, but it's my body and I will do with it what I want, and no apologies. I love my body! I cherish it. When my daughter is old enough to make these kinds of adult decisions, and has the tools she needs to make wise choices for herself, she will decide what is most important to her. No one else.



I loved Kelly's gift. I do cleanses twice a year. I usually use the brand Colonix or just good old ground flaxseed or pshyllium. I also juice fast. I was LMAO when she pronounced liposuction two different ways and then said I am on her planet with the painkillers! She can be fun when she wants, and it is so easy for me to shock her. So even better. She sooo didn't get my compression garment quip about access. Hopefully someone out there got a chuckle out of it.

Bottom line, I have to be happy with myself first in order to make others happy and to take care of those I love. Now, having said that, everyone has the right to be happy with their body just the way it is. It depends on the individual. So go ahead and get that third Masters degree you don't need if it makes you happy! As Frank Sinatra said, "Whatever gets you through the night."

Whatever Alex's stylist is doing? It's working.

Oh my, nothing like seasoned mothers scaring the expecting mother. I thought Bethenny was going to lose it when Ramona and Alex were going on and on. Especially when Ramona said she got so big while pregnant that Mario wouldn't go near her! I thought skinny girl was going to pass out. She and Jason just fell in love and now this news? I read a lot of "how to" books during my pregnancy. I didn't trust the housewife tales of pregnancy. Honestly, after I delivered my little one, all the bad memories left me. I guess nature does that so you are willing to do it again. FYI - I read "how to" books on every subject from decorating, entertaining, raising a puppy, etc.

Ramona looked great modeling at the atelier's salon, so I am surprised how she came off at the actual show. That scene is priceless and I think we are all grateful for it. My mom never gets tired of watching it! We have all been in a moment where we are mortified and it's just wonderful to know we are not alone.



Why was Ramona's friend surprised that Alex was modeling in the fashion show? She IS a well-known public figure and has a wonderful runway walk. Why shouldn't she?

At the Reunion, Ramona said she went out of her way to make Kelly comfortable and the clip with them at the gym is the proof in the pudding. Kelly is really energetic in the morning, even more than Ramona! She goes on and on, and Ramona doesn't drop a bomb on her and hurt her feelings. She is very patient with her, and definitely shows the new, sensitive Ramona.

Cheers to Bethenny for supporting PETA and getting naked. We all like that, even the gays, as the PETA boy said.

A good hostess knows that the seating arrangement or as they say in France the "placement" is critical to the ambiance of a social occasion. Ramona was getting stressed because Kelly and Jill asked to change their seats. Imagine if all the guests requested new seats? I have lost it in that same situation. There was a couple I invited to some of the most fabulous dinners and parties I have had, and the husband would complain about his seat! The nerve. Not gracious at all and it makes the hostess uncomfortable with unneeded pressure while she is trying to serve the collective group.

Be gracious and trust your hostess, after all she is the one that knows everyone she invited. She is the straw that stirs the drink! Usually insecure or selfish guests worry where they will be seated. Guests are expected to bring something to the party other than complaints. Try charm? In the case of Jill and Kelly, they pointed out to Ramona that she moved her seat at Saks, so they assumed it would be OK for them. But Ramona has a mind like a steel trap and says, "No, you said we could sit anywhere we liked, I did not!" Well, she cleared that up! Jill understood completely at that point.

Ramona is cool - she can dish it out, but she can take it too! I know I can make a joke that she is called "crazy eyes," because she is so smart that her brain is pushing on her eyes when she is thinking so hard. She is secure with who she is and knows I mean well. She rolls with it! She doesn't have to snap back with some mean comment. Her attitude is appreciated because it gives me creative license and allows me be me without worries.


Everyone Ramona invited to her event came. She may not be your cup of tea, but she has real friends. I was impressed that she talked about her two charities. Helping battered women has to be at the top of her list after her experience. She was brave to share her story.

Regarding speakerphones, one always announces exactly who is in the room on the call or it is a breach of privacy. Not even a discussion.

Take a look at my chicken parm recipe for the toaster oven. It's the first video of a series: Sonja's simple style which is cheap and cheerful!'s Lindsay DiMatteo did it for me with a FLIP video camera!

Enjoy your summer, and stay real to yourself. You can't please everyone all the time, but you can have their respect for being yourself.

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Sonja: No Matter What I Do, I Cannot Win

Sonja talks about how hurt she is when she hears her fellow 'Wives talking about her. 

As I said in my last blog, I really felt ganged up on the last time I saw all the girls at the reunion. They seem to be coming up with strange comments out of nowhere, since we were fine when we wrapped last season, and I guested everyone at Jamie’s after the Le Cirque event (leg toss) and at the Sonja in the City Premiere Party when the show finally aired.

They were attacking me left and right about my businesses and the legal crisis I was dealing with that resulted from when I was a movie producer. I had to deal with this all while going through my divorce and no support from my ex.

Lu and Ramona have shut me out since their significant other troubles.

Dorinda says she’s never been to Ramona’s country house. As we saw in the last episode, Ramona has never been to Dorinda’s houses either. So this is a new, fast and furious friendship?! It’s like Ramona would talk to her hairdresser before me. Anyone but me, who really knows her. 

In fact, this is the first time Ramona’s moved me out of the bedroom I always stay in no matter how many guests. I was trying to be understanding, because I know Dorinda is new to the group, but that doesn’t change the fact that Ramona is definitely demonstrative in pushing me away. I don’t care what an ass I’m acting like. Who does that?

I have spent so many celebrations at the country house with Ramona, Mario, and her daughter. So she doesn’t have to feel that she can’t talk to me. Every time I bring up something that I feel is relatable between us, as fancy or flighty as it may sound when I mention these, it IS common ground for us. She just continues to ignore me, so I keep trying even harder to get her attention by bringing up more examples of what I have gone through that is similar to what she is going through. No matter what I try, I am seemingly talking to a wall. Not a good look I might add!

Dorinda brought up the fact that I live in a big house, after I brought up lower maintenance being nice. She moved from a huge apartment with her daughter to a much smaller apartment. That’s when I gave the examples of how I am scaling down. But, I’m not willing to give up my main home and the outdoors that I get with a house, because I already gave up my country house. It seems like my idea to keep my main house is upsetting the girls, and I do not understand why they are so focused. 

What adds to everything else is that Ramona apologizes to Lu for not understanding what she has been through, having not walked in her shoes till now. Yet, she hasn’t discussed this with me. She would always give me very harsh advice, saying how I wouldn’t be divorced if I did all the things she’d done in her marriage and family life. I wish she could have paid the same respect to me.

That’s exactly why I didn’t have her over when I took down my husband’s portrait. I felt Luann understood better, that no matter how well things are going, marriages do fall apart. It’s not the wife’s fault alone. This divorce should be bringing us closer, as it is with her former nemesis Luann, but Ramona just chooses not to let this happen. I don’t want to say, “I told you so.” I just want to maintain our close relationship no matter what happens.

When the psychic in Morocco said Mario was cheating on Ramona, I started crying, because I was afraid when Avery went away to school that it could happen. It does happen!  I care about Ramona very much, and I didn’t want her to go through what I’ve been through. How can she forget how sensitive I have been to her issues? I don’t really feel like she is letting me in when she is so easy to let others in, such as Lu and Dorinda. 

This gets my hair up on my back and causes me to try to get her attention even more. She says to Dorinda I’ve been on the offensive, but I feel like I’ve been playing more of a defensive role. Because of the comments she used to make to Lu and me about why we were divorced when she had the perfect marriage, perfect everything, I am acting this way. Having said that, I do seem very self-absorbed, but I wouldn’t say I’m more self-absorbed than anyone else in our group! I think I really have a thorn in my side at this point.

We see Ramona having déjà vu at the bar at Lu’s, and of course I’m sitting right next to her having mutual admiration in her flashback. That was then! I’m missing that give and take relationship. We used to interrupt each other interrupting like Abbot and Costello. There was no stopping us from getting a word in. Now I just seem to be talking to myself. It just makes me question why she is so unhappy with me.

Then you see me trying to break up the fight between Heather and Aviva in the flashback. I can’t help thinking that if Aviva were still here, then the heat would be on her, instead of me! Is that mean? Or am I just feeling like the whipping boy? LOL!

It makes me feel uncomfortable that the girls are counting my money and accusing me of pretending.

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I’m really shocked when Heather tells Carole in the ride out to the Hampton’s, that I am bull sh---ing people that I was a millionaire when I was 25 years old. I have never said anything like that. She already knows that I’ve been working and making my own money since I was 14 years old and invested in my properties with and without my ex. So, again, I feel like these comments are coming out of nowhere and with no basis. She knows how hard I have worked in the garment industry and in fashion retail since we have that in common. She knows nothing was handed to me. We had that mutual respect before. It makes me feel uncomfortable that the girls are counting my money and accusing me of pretending.

At the reunion I threw out a comment about P. Diddy being a friend, because I thought Heather was BSing too much when she was dropping the names of celebrities that she knew through business. However, I’m no stranger to dropping names either, since I make a living off my contacts. It was a heated moment, and I guess she’s having a moment of some type with me now. I was also very upset last year that she said my relationship with Harry wasn’t real. I can tell you it is very real, for both of us. 

I also don’t understand why Luann can talk about the big house in Bridgehampton she had with her husband, and I can’t talk about my yacht. I have fond memories on the yacht with family and friends. I’m not living in the past. I am very much in the moment and planning my future.  

For Ramona to say to Dorinda that I am in denial is very strange. Ramona knows better than anyone that every day I deal with the bottom line, which is frankly about the dollars and cents. I have been extremely active in protecting my assets, and I am fully advised by professionals. Many couples have remarried their divorced spouses once they settle their division of assets because of this very reason. It’s always about the money. That’s why Lu and Ramona are scaling down. No one who knows business wants to give up their real estate. You never make money selling. Only buying more. Real Estate is an investment and used as leverage. 

Ramona tells Bethenny several times that she is single. She has told me this, too, but the second I say that she is divorcing, she gets mad at me. I really can’t win. I can’t say she’s Italian, even though she was married into an Italian family and lived with her mother-in-law for 10 years, because that got her angry, too. It was an innocent mistake, yet Ramona was so sensitive about it.

BTW, when Ramona told Bethenny to breathe, it reminded me of Morocco with Alex McCord. Talk about a déjà vu!

Lu’s son is so wonderful. He’s very polite and kind. He showed me his carriage house,and it really is perfect, and he is so proud of it! I’m happy to have gotten to know him over the years. I have had dinner with Adam Kentworthy and the family when he was dating Lu’s niece Nicole. Now that he’s the chef, he is definitely off limits! Carole is a sucker for attractive men! So I wonder, what will happen there?

We see Lu’s son is drinking out of a mason jar. I love to serve beer in them with lemon and ice like in England, as Dorinda would say. I once again can’t win. I bring my own beer, which is down to earth, and now I am accused of not being Lady Morgan-like. Previously in this episode, I am being accused of not being down to earth. I really feel I’m being picked on and shut out. No matter what I do, I cannot win.

Tune in next week to see how this “docudrama” unfolds. I think you will be very surprised. What a bunch we are!

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