Cast Blog: #RHONY

A Caged Animal

Ramona on Her Divorce From Mario

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Heather Says That's a Wrap

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

The Countess: Sonja and I Are on the Outs

Aviva Says Bye for Now

Kristen on Surviving Her First Season

LuAnn: For Ramona Ignorance Is Bliss

Who Cares How Carole Wrote Her Book?

Carole on Stupid Things You've Heard on Bravo

Aviva's "Foul Ignorance"

Kristen: Ramona's Out of Touch with Reality

Sonja Is Very Private

Ramona on the Grueling Reunion

LuAnn: Sonja Is Off the Rails

Heather: Et tu Ramona Singer?

Aviva on Kristen's "Gatemouth" Look

Kristen: Sonja Could Be Successful

Sonja's Glad Aviva Threw Her Leg

Carole: Waiter, We're Done

Ramona: Aviva's Leg Scared All of Us

Heather Focuses on What Matters

LuAnn: Sonja Only Has Herself to Blame

What Else Does Aviva Have in That Bag?

Aviva: Leggy Blonde

God Gave me a Great Ass and His Approval

Sonja on Her Harry Situation with LuAnn

Ramona: Where Did the Time Go With Avery?

Heather Tips to Plan a Party for Carole

Aviva Rises Above the Nonsense

Love Kristen Tender

Sonja and Harry Aren't Good for Each Other

Ramona: Mario's Voice Is So Sexy

Aviva Defends Her Asthma

Heather's Sasha Fierce Moment

Nothing Is Too Romantic for Sonja

LuAnn: I Sing When I Feel Like Singing

Kristen: This Show Has Helped My Marriage

Carole: Oh Beautiful for Spacious Skies. . .

Ramona: Just Don't Ask Me to Go Every Year

A Caged Animal

Teresa suggests the wives get a "no Pinot Grigio" clause added to their contracts.

 

First things first: hello to all of you. Thank you for your comments. The sweet things you say about me and my girls really make my day!

To answer some of your questions: Yes, filming a season of Housewives takes a really looong time. We started filming Season 2 of The Real Housewives of New Jersey back in September (when I was still pregnant with Audriana), and we wrapped when she was 5 months old. And as I’m sure you saw tonight, we are coming back on May 3!

Another common question: Where do I find time for my husband and four kids? The same place you all do - wherever I can! Joe and I have "date night" every Friday night, but beyond that, we sneak in as much time as we can. And no, I don't have a nanny. Besides Jacqueline and Caroline, I think I’m the only other Housewife without "people" (but I do have the most kids!) I don't have a nanny, a chef, a personal trainer, or a publicist (what you see is what you get with me). I do the laundry, cook all the meals, take care of my kids and I love it.

And yes, I think you’re all right - Kelly’s daughter said, "Talk to the BOOTY, 'cause the hand's off duty." Gia confirmed I had this wrong too. Oops!

Finally, the comments about me bashing Bethenny ... please. In my last blog, I said she "exhausted me," that we’d make a funny team, and then complimented her dress and her hair. That’s bashing? I totally get that you might be a huge Bethenny fan, and that’s great. You can like both of us. I’m not the kind of friend who demands you only like who I like. All of your friends aren’t best friends with each other too, right? I’ve said that I liked her a lot in the first season, and that I think she’s changed this season. Love her or hate her, you know it’s true. People change. They get successful and change. They get unsuccessful and change. We’ll see where she ends up (hopefully it’s in a good place because she needs to be a good mommy to that little baby!) It’s still early in the season...

 

My thoughts on this week’s episode:

I thought it was weird and inappropriate for Kelly to ask Ramona about not being invited to the Labor Day lunch in front of Avery. Ramona was only trying to be polite when she answered. Then Ramona stopped being polite (and started being “real”?)

Ramona was like a crazy person the rest of the episode. (The other wives should put a "no Pinot Grigio" clause in their contracts.) She was winking and singing and dancing and insulting the hell out of everybody. Talking about Kelly’s boobs in front of other people – when Kelly was clearly uncomfortable with it – was not cool. Telling Alex in front of LuAnn something LuAnn had said about her was really mean. And bringing up the “rumor” about Jill and Saks was just evil.

What honestly bothered me the most about Ramona’s behavior though, was how she treated Avery. I thought it was so sweet that she took Avery to her first fashion show, but then she ditched her daughter for a last-minute party with Perez Hilton? Really? When she was shoving poor Avery into a cab at night BY HERSELF, I thought the poor girl looked like she was going to cry. She was what, 14 when that filmed? I would never put my kid in a cab at night by herself.

I was happy to see Jason promise Bethenny a “commitment” before they moved in together ... although she already looked pregnant sitting on the couch. Hmm...

Bethenny and LuAnn’s fight was pretty insane. I thought the worst part was when Bethenny told LuAnn that Jill had been saying LuAnn sleeps around. Not cool. Say what you think of LuAnn to her face. Great. But bringing other people LuAnn is friends with into it is a low blow. It was not Bethenny’s place to rat out Jill to LuAnn for something they probably both talked about back when they were friends.

 

The one thing I could relate to with Bethenny though, was when she explained that at the fashion show she felt like "a caged animal." Housewives is real, yes. We say what we’re thinking at the time. But filming our real lives is a huge production that takes a long time. Sometimes you have to sit there for hours and hours while the show is being produced. You have no idea how hard it is to be trapped in a close situation with someone you can’t stand. Normally when you meet a person you don’t like, you might have words with them, but then you walk away. When you’re filming a show, you can’t walk away. You’re stuck, and sometimes you blow. Now keep that in mind when you watch my season!

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Carole says what she really thinks of Aviva and all of her talk about her book and things being "ghetto."

Dear Fans,

Let me start with something I stole it from Twitter this week. "The most dangerous liars are those who think they are telling the truth."

I'll say it again. The blonde at the end of the right couch, the one who's prone to lobbing limbs and insults, is an Insulting. Bitch. Some of you didn't believe me. Maybe some of you still don't. But after watching the reunion shows I imagine it's harder and harder to cheer for the anti-hero. Just when you think she can't get any faker she does.

The story according to Aviva makes me laugh: We were arguing, she insulted me, I called her a psychopath and that prompted her to affectionately compliment me on my age. Sure. Her disdain for the intelligence of the audience is palpable. It was too stupid for me to even reply. But as I was watching the reunion, and particularly Aviva and the way she treats people, I was reminded of something my Grandma Millie used to say. (I love everything Grandma Millie used to say.) "At 25, you have the face you're born with. At 45 you have the face you deserve."

I'd rather be 50 and me than be 45 and Aviva, any day of the week. She aged worse this season than a president in his first term. Holy short dress, I don't mind at all how I look. Overbite and all. I'll take it.

When I first met Aviva she was lovely. Really lovely. I meant what I said on the couch, I wish we had seen more of that. Her easy laugh and funny neurotic ways. Instead all we saw was a mean and angry woman. All because I asked her if she hired a writer -- a writer she did hire. It makes no sense. Three years ago she told me she'd read my memoir, What Remains. This was a book published in 2006 about my childhood, my family, my career and marriage, and then the death of my husband, Anthony Radziwill. A man I loved more than anyone I had loved before or have loved since. She gushed over my book. She quoted from it. We hugged. She seemed so sincere. Flash forward and she now believes it was written by a ghostwriter. She even knew his name, and it wasn't Truman Capote. It was Bill Whitworth, she told me. She repeated this over and over to anyone who would listen. And it doesn't matter how many times she repeats it -- it will never make it true.

When they stopped listening she started saying in the press and on social media that not only was my book written by someone else but that it was not my place to have written a book about my life, and my marriage. And, as if I didn't remember, she reminded me that I'd written about people who had died. Um, yeah. I know. It was my husband and my family and my closest friend who died. Just. . .wow. But I wasn't important enough to tell my story because my husband's family was famous, or historic or whatever she said. Because they had money and privilege and yachts. Really. Who do I think I am?

I’ll tell you. I’m a girl from upstate New York who grew up in a loving, if sometimes kooky, Italian working class family. I worked for everything I earned, just like my parents did and their parents before them. I have a proud family history of hard work and small but precious rewards that followed. My family won't be in any history books. I didn't grow up privileged. We didn't spend summers in Europe or Christmas in Palm Beach. A day spent at the town pool or playing in the woods behind our house was great. Much like Heather, I was taught strong values and decent manners. I learned to live with integrity and honesty. I'm proud of my upbringing and the woman I became, as was my husband. As is his family to this very day. I've known people who lived in what Aviva would consider the "ghetto" who have more class and decency than she shows.

All this talk about class and ghetto -- you'd think we were living in communist Russia. Here is the thing. This is America. In our country it doesn't matter a lick where you are from, it only matters where you're going. So don’t let anyone tell you that you aren't good enough because you didn’t grow up on Park Avenue or in a family that had some history, or because you enjoy saying mother-f---er now and then. I’ve met people from all walks of life. I spent time in refugee camps in Southeast Asia, and in the projects of Chicago. I've been to State dinners with Presidents. I met the Queen of England on a beach in Anguilla. No one is any more valuable or important than you are. No one is more important than your family and your friends.

Let the elitists go slow into the night.

In spite of the BookGate dust up I had a great time this season. I made wonderful new friends in LuAnn and Kristen and my friendship with Heather is more special and important to me than I could have ever imagined just three years ago. Friends have each other's backs. I love her, madly. And while we didn't always act appropriately, we had a lot of laughs. I hope you did too.

Thank you all for your supportive and funny and brilliant tweets. And while we didn't all agree on everything all of the time I enjoyed your participation in the show. Even the mean tweets about my skinny neck and my overbite were amusing. Like I said, I've stolen some tweets already. You may see others as dialogue in my next book, and yes, you can all say you were my ghostwriters.

As always,

With love, Writer Girl xoxo

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