Alex I just want to say your poor sole, I have just seen S4 episode 2, Sonja was way out of line... totally wants it all about her. I am glad you now stick up for yourself. The art night at Sonjas was not your fault and all hers. I am shocked she seemed quite in season 3. Now she comes alive. Good luck in the future with your boys x

Typically I PVR Desperate Housewives of NY and this time I am quite happy I did so. I watched and had to rewatch, who actually started the equality march conversation at Sonia's (it was Sonia), who threw the first insult (Sonia), who did not want to actually discuss what happened (Sonia), who raised her voice and became down right beligerant (Sonia), who lost all contact with being civil and sustaining good manners --- SONIA!!!

Alex, even though you and Simon may not be my 'cup 'o tea' -- Sonia's behaviour at the march and after is simply unacceptable and simply disgusting.She may not and may never apologize, but please know you did handle yourself appropriately. :-)

u go Alex

You are now my favorite housewife. Hang in there!

You looked beautiful last night on HWONY and WWH. I loved your dress on WWH. Wasn't it great not to have to deal with Jill last night? It was nice for viewer's also. Love you, Simon and the boys.

What makes you stand out from all of the other housewives..? You are extremely intelligent and so far above the others. I wish you could use your voice for more worthwhile causes and not waste it on this group of women.

I LOVE YOU & SIMON!! From the very beginning you guys rock! Im so happy that you have found your voice and we hear you, we love it. congrats on the modeling your beautiful inside and out. You remind me of Bewitch! I love you on the show.

happy to see you not only stand up for yourself, but to see how things can always be better...Good for you for having your convictions and shame on Sonja for her adolescent behavior...I will say that while it's good to have a stand, it's best to take a beat and be calm when you confront so you can make your point and not leave yourself vulnerable to "take the bait"! And shame on Luann for suggesting that any woman should find her voice and then shut it--maybe she should read up on some marches that took place long ago...and a chapter of her manners book! Hang in there Alex, what goes around comes around! Make sure if you are standing with these ladies, you duck when it happens! lol! =)

Dear Simon,

You should comission a brillinat oil artist to encapture Alex.

Mother's Day is so appropos...

Then, throw a Fabulous party about it.

Happy Easter dears!

Alex, you have grown on me and I love both you and odd Simon. Keep on speaking up, but stay true to yourself, these women are nuts. Bethany is FAB and I love her new shows. You can Simon were completely right about the march and Sonya really surprised me. XOXOX. Michele in Miami

Love Simons new song!! The best one to come out of all the franchise yet!! Awesome Simon!

Alex, still my favorite. I know you guys are trying to step it up a bit drama-wise due to the craziness of reality TV today.

I'm sure this comment is an exercise in futility--a group of us have posted thoughtful comments about the reciprocal nature of the issue at the march, as well as examples, Alex, of the extremely nasty and insulting things your pal, Ramona said about you (and your children), in past seasons ... but somehow they never make it on that board. I don't understand a blog comment section where well-written comments with meaningful DIALOGUE about human relationships instead of "Team this" and "Team that" are censored out. I've come to believe that the media team is purposely selecting polarizing comments instead of ones that examine both sides of an issue.

That said, Alex, you and Sonja were BOTH wrong, in both instances--at the march and at her subsequent party. You could have come out golden had you handled yourself differently, and really, Simon's insistence on speaking was as self-serving as Sonja's insistence on exclusivity. Additionally, Sonja extended a rudely-worded olive branch to you at her party and you came unglued. I see you both as women who could be setting examples, and instead you are so wrapped up in your individual agendas that neither of you acted adult or with consideration in this episode.

And I'm over the hatred of Jill. Early on in the series Jill defended you A LOT against nasty comments and bad behavior by the other Housewives. ALL of the housewives made digs about your children, and Jill seems to be your whipping girl these days. You don't have to like Jill Zarin, but your reasons for continually confronting her seem really suspect to me.

Alex you could not be more right about the whole Sonja thing and I am soooo glad that you call Jill out for all of her BS!! Luanne is as fake as Jill. People have really figured them 2 out.

Thank you Alex!!!!!!!!! Thank you
I know it's hard to hear someone is just going to an event for a cause you care about just to "party with the gay and lesbians", thank you for standing up for the gays and being our voice on the show, we arent just party dolls.
THANK YOU AGAIN :)

I am definitely with you on this - all the way. I see it from your perspective 100%. I like how you broke it down in your blog as well about not having to take the bait at the art party. True. But you are human. That annoyed me too when Sonja acted like she didn't know Simon's name. Anyhoo... you are all right. Don't let the others make you think any differently. Just try to rise above the BS. You're great!

You are a real person and you have real passions. Don't change for them ever.

YOUR HUSBANDS SONG IS FAABBOULOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. I THINK EVERY TEENAGER SHOULD DOWNLOAD IT TO THERE IPOD . IF THEY START BEING THEMSELVES NOW...WHO KNOWS MAYBE WE CAN STOP FUTURE BULLIES

Alex: I have to admit that I did not like you & Simon at all. The past 2 seasons you have become my favorite. I am now team Alex. I love your friendship between you & Bethenny. I can tell the friendship is sincere & real. I'm also happy you've found your voice. Now, pick & choose your battles carefully. Sonja & Luann just are not worth it. I'm glad you told Sonja that it was not about her that day, yet she couldn't get past the fact that she was the Grand Marshall.
My Son is gay & he came out when he was a senior in high school. He was bullied threw out his school years because the kids thought he was different. I was at the schools constantly. Many tears later He was asked to speak to the teachers about bullying & being gay. A few teachers walked out(unbelievable) & a letter was put in their file. My Son's speech was passionate & honest & he received a standing ovation. I was, am & always will be there for him. I love him & his partner of 6 years so much. They both have great careers & he's so happy finally. So watching you & Simon plus everyone else support the gay community is comforting & inspiring. I'm not so afraid for his life anymore & I do speak my mind as you do about issues that matter to you & I. So Alex, Stay strong & thank you for being you!!!

Alex, I think you are totally right about the event. Sonja is the one who is having a bad manner and creating a drama at her own party so that you would look bad.

Don't let her get to you, please continue your support at gay marriage and depend for yourself too! The viewers have their own eyes and could judge to tell who is right. Hang in there! :D

You are my favorite housewife out of all the housewife franchises.

I think you were right on Alex!!! Sonja was selfish and self centered in her approach. Why shouldn't you and Simon have tried to get her to see the error of her ways. She was not the reason for the March. Whatever the reason, she created the issue. She was the only one that could have remedied it. She was not going to, maybe you could seen that a little sooner. But you were right in principal!!! Sonja just used bully tactics. She was , by the way, an awful speaker!!!

I felt like you both were trying to make this about yourselves and Kelly was the voice of reason for once by saying she didnt know whose day it was but she was marching for the cause. Sonja was totallywrong but you also took attention from the cause by fighting with over a few minutes on stage , why did it matter who speaks? why was it so important to you to be up there? that s what i m wondering . Yoou both made it about you instead of the cause .... maybe one more than the other but it wasnt right on both ends

But, what are you doing around these people anyway? You are too much around these negative personalities. I hope, there's more Ramona around you in the coming episodes.

Alex,
You really need to relax and chill.. They are not all
out to get you. Even if they are who cares
you should'nt let them know how you
feel all the TIME!! Glad you finally got
a voice and spoke your peace, but your
kinda going overboard and it is not becoming of
you!!!! Chill your a good person.

Alex,
I feel for you. That situation with Sonja was very embarassing for you both. I have been in a previous situation in the past, and it progressed in the same manner. Afterward, I was devistated because I let someone with very little breeding pull me down to a low level. I have learned when someone starts to yell and talk over me, they are just wanting to fight. So, I have learned to just stop talking, and listen to them. when they finish talking, just smile a sweet smile and say "you're right." and walk off. usually, I just leave.
This would have really threw sonja off because it's hard to argue with someone who agrees with you.

Whenever I get the chance, I try to catch up with the show. Tonight I was very upset that Sonja lied. I was very upset that she kept saying "it's my day." YOu did the best you could never ever give crazy people power. The ladies need to watch out befriending her. God, I am praying for extra strength on your behalf Alex.....hugs.

Way to go, Alex! I am so glad that you're standing your ground.

Alex your were right about everything! Sonya is self absorbed and its a shame I liked her last season, not so much so far this season! But you do need to tone it down alittle, you seem angry alot, but I can kinda see why.

Alex,
What is the nature of your relationship with Luann? The two of you never film alone together-Jill last season, at the Brooklyn fashion show, said that Luann would never attend something you and Simon hosted-and Ramona, at Saks last season, revealed that Luann did not want to invite you to her home in the Hamptons. Luann denied that-I did not believe her. I am surprised that this was never discussed at the reunion show.
At any rate, you have a lot more class than the countess.

Team ALEX AND TEAM RAMONA!!

Hello Alex,

I can relate to you very much when you found your voice. I've always been very passive and terrified of confrontations. When I found my voice I had to learn how to use it and pick and choose my battles. The voice is very powerful and productive when you use it wisely. Learn how to be assertive and not aggressive and people will respect you more. And have some fun!! Everything doesn't have to so serious. Life is too short! I didn't believe it until last night's episode that Jill is indeed trying very hard to change and she seems to truely want to be on good terms with you. Like I said pick and choose your battles and smile and be warm and you will enjoy life so much more. It's ok to be true to yourself and others but you don't want to end up alone because everyone is terrified to be around you! I know that sweet Alex is still in there. Blessings :)

Alex, I think the women on the show purposely demean you and try to step on you as much as possible. I think it's great that you are sticking up for yourself, it must feel empowering. Continue to hold your ground no matter what it takes, no one should be treated the way those women treat you, you are setting a precedence for women everywhere.

Alex-
Just wanted to say I think you kick ass!! And maybe you did just find your voice... but you are using it well. I've been waiting so long for you to stand up to those snobs and put them in their place. Way to go!!

Exercising your right to defend yourself from adult bullying, being picked on or used as a verbal punching bag is unacceptable. There is a place and time to pick battles, however when under verbal attack, address the issue in an appropriate manner. Never allow anyone to treat you disrespectfully, especially grown " mean girls". For those people who think you are being mean because you are standing up for yourself, they don't walk in your shoes. It is important to stand up and speak up, otherwise, you become a target because bullies see you as weak person. If you had spoken up for yourself in the very beginning; a build up of frustration would not have manifested into "Saw Red"

Keep your voice strong to ward off grown "Mean Girls"

Love you ALEX!
As far as people saying you come across as a "bully" now that you found your voice: Can you really blame her! If I was stuck in this vicious, catty circle of "Friends" I think I might be driven to the point of insanity. So glad you found your voice. Scream loud girl!

Alex,

I understand.

Side note: The picking on Jill is getting tired and the season just started. You're beginning to come across like a bully. Just leave her alone. You're acting like the principal with a wooden ruler.

Love to see both you and Simon back on the show more this season. Your family is interesting. Simon's speech was interesting, too as it shed some much-needed light on what a legal marriage for gays actually means in real terms. Sonja's speech was really a joke.

Alex is the only housewife that I would not be terrified to meet in public. The other housewives seem extremely catty, flakey and give wasps a whole new stinging meaning. Really...who is the REAL housewife....it would be Alex. The others should be recast to the "Fake, Catty, B#tches of New York".

Alex . . . I love how you are standing up for yourself. It takes a lot of guts to respond to these women. I do believe that you need to pick a time and place to address issues. When you responded to Sonia, that wasn't the right place. But when you offered the olive branch to Jill to iron out your issues, that was better. You didn't dwell on her not being at the march. Seeing Jill, Luann, Kelly and Sonia in action . . . I wouldn't have them in my circle. Just let these women get tangled up in their own webs of destruction.

I think the other housewives got used to using you as a doormat and now, they're angry that you won't take it anymore. Well, I say, "Good for you!" They sure dished it out all those other seasons. But I think that you really are a good person who just needs better friends than the "housewives".

Alex, I never thought I would say this, but you have become somewhat of a role model. It's VERY difficult to step back from a situation and see it in its entirety during the moment it's happening and you have proven that in the situation you had with Sonja. However, those who are mature can retrospectively look back at the moment and point out what they did wrong, or what they could/should have done, and that is what you have done. You stated what was going on in your mind at the moment, which explains why you acted and said the things you said, and at the same time you are able to own up to your own mistakes. I admire this greatly because as I said earlier, this is a difficult task. Therefore, I just want to say that I have become a fan of yours and I'm definitely Team Alex on this one!