Cast Blog: #RHONY

The Truth Hurts

Ramona on Her Divorce From Mario

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Heather Says That's a Wrap

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

The Countess: Sonja and I Are on the Outs

Aviva Says Bye for Now

Kristen on Surviving Her First Season

LuAnn: For Ramona Ignorance Is Bliss

Who Cares How Carole Wrote Her Book?

Carole on Stupid Things You've Heard on Bravo

Aviva's "Foul Ignorance"

Kristen: Ramona's Out of Touch with Reality

Sonja Is Very Private

Ramona on the Grueling Reunion

LuAnn: Sonja Is Off the Rails

Heather: Et tu Ramona Singer?

Aviva on Kristen's "Gatemouth" Look

Kristen: Sonja Could Be Successful

Sonja's Glad Aviva Threw Her Leg

Carole: Waiter, We're Done

Ramona: Aviva's Leg Scared All of Us

Heather Focuses on What Matters

LuAnn: Sonja Only Has Herself to Blame

What Else Does Aviva Have in That Bag?

Aviva: Leggy Blonde

God Gave me a Great Ass and His Approval

Sonja on Her Harry Situation with LuAnn

Ramona: Where Did the Time Go With Avery?

Heather Tips to Plan a Party for Carole

Aviva Rises Above the Nonsense

Love Kristen Tender

Sonja and Harry Aren't Good for Each Other

Ramona: Mario's Voice Is So Sexy

Aviva Defends Her Asthma

Heather's Sasha Fierce Moment

Nothing Is Too Romantic for Sonja

LuAnn: I Sing When I Feel Like Singing

Kristen: This Show Has Helped My Marriage

Carole: Oh Beautiful for Spacious Skies. . .

Ramona: Just Don't Ask Me to Go Every Year

The Truth Hurts

Alex questions what's true, and addresses your comments.

We start out this week with Ramona's photo shoot, and I've seen the end result, which looks great. With Andrew behind the camera, Maya on makeup, and Sonja and Melissa cheering her on, the initial stiffness didn’t last long and they got some great images.

"I've never met anyone who was willing to go up against her; I'm so happy!" These were Jill's words about Ramona to Cindy. "No one has anything nice to say about Ramona," said Cindy. Jill at least had the presence of mind to remind Cindy that I must have said something nice about her. In fact, every time I'm alone with Cindy, I say nice things about Ramona, and if Cindy is an honest person, she should admit that. She didn't out and out lie about my feelings toward Ramona, but she minimized them as much as she could. She thinks Ramona has changed? Well, I've only known Ramona four years, but her methods of communication haven't changed one bit. Has she become more emotional due to her daughter growing up, and has she reacted to life changes? Certainly. Has her personality changed? Nope. Cindy thinks Ramona's core is not good? I'm beginning to think Cindy should take a good look at her own inner core.

It's simply not true that "everyone" is saying bad things about Ramona. Cindy, Jill, Kelly, and LuAnn are. Jill said Ramona makes everyone cry. The only person I can remember whom Ramona has made cry is Jill, and possibly one interview applicant. Jill thinks that Ramona doesn't make Cindy feel good about herself. Ramona bent over backward to introduce Cindy to all of us, including Jill. There's one thing she wanted to clear the air about -- Cindy's brother -- and that's it.

Love Chris March from Project Runway, and was thrilled to see him helping Sonja with her masquerade costume. He took that wig and outfit and made them into a spectacular confection; she looked amazing! And I had to laugh at one random thing when Jill and LuAnn were at Creative Costume; did anyone realize they were standing right in front of Simon's outfit? Yes, we all get our costumes from the same place; it's where we got the moose for Simon two years ago as well.

Regardless of what she's like around her peers, Cindy is certainly in love with her babies. I was sorry to see that it's hard for Howie to be around the father of Cindy's girls, and hope that gets better with time. Ditto the relationship; I can only say that it seems like Cindy and Kevin both have the girls' best interests at heart and that's as good a start as any.

Ms. Maya Shapiro was busy this episode! After Ramona's photo shoot we see her again doing Sonja's makeup for the masquerade party; Maya's technique is amazing and we all love her. Chris outdid himself transforming the costume and wig; and I cracked up that neither she nor Amina remembered their bloomers. For the record, I had NO idea what Jill was going on about when she was passing judgment on Sonja's costume. Now, I didn't see her bend over, but when she was standing up the dress was perfectly long enough. I've worn shorter, and so has Kelly, for that matter.

I know Jill was feeling sick that night, which might be why she didn't have a good time and complained about everything. Everyone else at the party enjoyed it; how can you not have fun in the vault at Cipriani? Anytime you go to a party there, you know it's going to be a good night. Kelly was happier than I'd ever seen her -- Sonja went out of her way to bring cute, single straight boys for her to flirt with, the food was great, and there was a hot (both in talent and looks) violinist performing. What’s not to like? Before the chums became as obsessed with Halloween as they are, Simon and I used to go to a Halloween Ball in Central Park with thousands of people nearly every year. Guess what? Everyone always wound up just hanging out with their own tables. I actually preferred Sonja's masquerade in the vault because it was beautiful, intimate, sexy, and everyone got to have real conversations, not hit-and-run air kisses. What a great night.

At Serafina, we were so excited to toast Ramona and hug the beautiful bride Jennifer who had returned from her honeymoon, plus we hadn't seen Vittorio (the owner) since St. Barths. It was Spirit Day 2010, a day to wear purple to speak out against hate crimes and LGBT bullying, so Simon and I both wore purple. LuAnn showed that she was excited (as she should be) by her new boyfriend’s business, and wanted to prove to Ramona how much she knew about wine. Ramona performed well under pressure, answering LuAnn’s questions for a bit and then suggesting that they get together later to discuss it in more detail should LuAnn choose.

I was so happy to see Jennifer; we had seen each other off and on at parties, but became friends last year after the yacht party with Ramona, and Labor Day weekend in 2009. She's a great girl and a straight shooter. Jennifer’s description of being bombarded by Jill about Ramona, Simon and me was exactly the same at Serafina as it was when she told it the day of the wedding. Even though Jill admitted to me on the day of the wedding that she was bothering the bride and Ramona trying to find out if I'd be there, she apparently forgot by the time we got to Serafina a month later, and denied it.

Watching Ramona talk to Jill was like watching myself deliver the message to Jill last year. Anytime Jill feels put on the spot, she leans in to you with a weird faux-friendly smile, and talks over you. . . and over you. . . and over you. She did it to Ramona, and then she did it to Jennifer outside. Kudos to Jennifer for not backing down, although Jill wouldn't let her speak. She does this to every person who says something she doesn't want to hear. And outside in the car, Jill cried to Bobby on the phone that Ramona did it to her again. And LuAnn held her hand, while shooting daggers at Ramona. For the record, Ramona held a glass all night, but I don't think she ever finished it. That fight wasn't alcohol. That was raw emotion. Funny that Jill and LuAnn couldn't see the difference.

See you next week! I am off to escort Simon to Andy's Clubhouse, where he'll be singing "I Am Real" live tonight, followed by a 12:30 am show at Splash. If you're in NYC, come out and join us! He has also released TODAY a special "Thug in a Club Mix," available now on iTunes.

Thanks for reading, and please check out Thug in a Cocktail Dress, our fashion recap, and Simon’s blog. You can also find us on Facebook as well as Simon's and my Twitter feeds.

Oh, and one last thing. After last week's episode many people asked me if our son François has any sort of spectrum disorder. He does not. He was tired, bored, and didn't want to play with the piano or the people in the house. If any child of ours had a condition, we would be out loudly raising money, showing parents there's nothing to be ashamed of, etc. It's rather like the comments suggesting that Simon is gay. Neither are bad things for a person to live with, but neither are true for Simon or François. End of discussion.

xo

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Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

Sonja explains why she and Ramona are family, why she's hiring Aviva, and why LuAnn is still her friend.

At this point, I am numb to the whole BookGate debate. I am not on anyone's side, I just hope that both books are bestsellers and that Carole and Aviva are making enough money to pay the bills with their books because BookGate has definitely taken an emotional toll on their friendship. I know that they were close and had great times together. In fact, Carole was once the godmother to Aviva's daughter. How can this come between them? Such contention over the accusations! I don't know why they let it get so heated. It's not worth it! I just hope that they can forgive each other at some point. As you get to know someone, you get to see their strengths and weaknesses -- and you have to accept those if you're going to be friends.

I was surprised when the girls laughed at me discussing my ability to forgive and voicing my Christianity. I think that it is one of the reasons that I can live my own life and not worry about everyone else's or the grass being greener. It's all relative. We are on Earth for such a short time. I am enjoying every day of my life. I am grateful for the family and friends that I have and my beautiful daughter.

I have so much more than many other people, and I remind myself of that every day with the charity work that I do. That's why I feel so much more comfortable working with artists, animals, the LGBT, and children. It's such a sensitive, caring, and loving place to be. I love my Sonja In The City event planning business because it lets me be me -- an artist and a promoter -- while helping others reach their highest capabilities. Plus I get to do all that while helping me get my daughter through school in a stable environment. It keeps me connected to the movers and shakers who help me manage my investments. I love to produce and to contribute. It makes me feel good.

I believe some of the women fail to take me seriously because I only show them my party side. There is a private side to me that most people don't see, because they only see me out at social events and while I'm entertaining. I throw a lot of events, so a lot of people only see that side, as it's my business and the way I broker some of my deals.

It is amazing how moms like Heather find strength to do dealing with their children's issues, like her son's health and hearing loss. It's what we do with loved ones. We do it with marriage partners too! I surprised myself when my ex had a terrible accident and I was called upon to deal with all of the doctors, therapists, and financial advisors.

I dont feel that Ramona called Aviva vile. She said that she had a vile side. That's different!

I'm not upset that Ramona spoke behind my back about my financial problems. She's human, and I spoke my feelings then and we worked through it the way that family does. We have too much water under the bridge to let opinions or men get in between us.

Heather questioning the legitimacy of my friendship with Ramona is just silly. She knows that we have been friends forever and whatever I have said about Ramona I have told her to her face. Heather knows this very well -- since I'm very upfront about my feelings with her.

The girls saying that Aviva's leg throw was staged is silly. I let Aviva know that everyone was saying she was fake. Even if she plans to throw it on the table to make a point, that doesn't make it staged. It just means she was pushed to a limit. I thought she was hilarious. After all, it was a private party in the back room. We weren't in the actual restaurant. Aviva doesn't go around throwing her leg around in normal restaurant situations. Maybe she and I should take her act on the road! A real dog and pony show! I always said I was a performer, a comedian, and a producer. At my Sonja In The City parties, now we can include Aviva as part of the show!

My overall thoughts of the season was that the reunion had more drama. I felt the season flip-flopped around quite a bit. Harry and I will always have a very strong relationship, just as Ramona and Aviva will always be in my life. Aviva's son Harrison is like my family.

Ramona was definitely going through something this season. I let her know I was upset, but I can't change her and she can't change me. We accept each other the way we are and we work our differences out.

I didn't know LuAnn was going through a breakup. She never shared that with me, and I was getting upset that she wasn't trusting my friendship and was blaming me for everything. I didn't give any credence to any of the rumors that were going around town through the salon that Satoko worked at. Kristen and I just asked the facialist to tell us for fun. I can't stop LuAnn from running out of parties with my guys -- just like I can't stop Harry from taking off and leaving me because he knows I want commitment and he wants to fool around. But that doesn't mean LuAnn's not my friend and that I can't speak my mind in front of her, and it doesn't mean that Harry isn't someone that I love as well.

I hope that you found the season entertaining. I hope that you don't take yourself too seriously! And when the naysayers back you into the corner, just say what Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West "Be off with you, your black magic doesn't work here!"

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