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Cindy Barshop

Enough is Enough

Cindy explains she's not a trouble-maker and discusses her and Sonja's tiff.

Jun 3, 2011

I never start up trouble -- I think that people should stand up for themselves when they are being spoken down to. I'm very strong and independent therefore I speak up for myself and others if need be. I don't have fights, per se, but rather situations where I can reach conclusions and truces while shedding light on circumstances and learning from them.

I took in the "pecking order" and other obscure comments that Sonja projected at me during our tea to dissolve and really try to rationalize why she was saying this. If I had been just as aggressive towards her we would have been arguing for hours, in circles, a constant battle (I definitely didn't have time for this).

I get it! I was the new gal in the group and sometimes personalities and emotions clash, but to get anything resolved you have to look at the entire picture and be somewhat understanding of who you are dealing with. I really wanted to take care of our situation at another time and not react to every single jab she threw at me, but unfortunately I had E-N-O-U-G-H, as anyone would have too!

Thankfully, at the end of the day we were able to resolve all of our problems, by having an adult conversation and being, what seems to be "genuine" about our apologies to one another. Now if only Ramona everyone took the same advice and let each other speak about their differences and emotions and come to the light at the end of the tunnel we might all be friends or at least respectful of one another.

Always take a closer look at the situation, from your side and your "opponent's," you might not only keep a friend but you might actually learn something about yourself! People's feelings are their feelings; you have to understand them because they come from deeper places. Accept it or move on that you both have differences. There are far too many important things in the world to deal with other than harping on situations that are not too serious in the scheme of things.

Xo

Cindy

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Congrats for joining the show! Your one of the best along with Jill, LuAnn and Kelly. The blondes need to apologize to the brunettes. This show is about your lifes not trying to be a TV star like Sonja. Your twins are beautiful. Your a successful business woman and mom.

I just love ya Cindy - These ladies are a mess! What have you gotten yourself into? ;) I think you may be a bit too sensitive for this group, but overall, I think you are great! Loosen up, have fun and let the petty women do thing own thing. ;) Hope to visit your spa one day.

Love you Cindy! You are honest and do not get caught up in the drama. Keep being who you are!

Cindy. Glad you made up with Sonja. Now lighten up and have fun. Hang out with the Blondes. They aren't Debby Downers.

You go girl! Truly you are the fully sane one of the group! Jill and Luann and Kelly are sane, but you are #1 on the list! ;)

Cindy: You are my new fav. I think you're very calm, cool, and collected and have a lot to offer.

Cindy, I like you, but you do seem a little too sensitive. I realize you don't like to put up with bull, but you need to let a little slide too. Totally get you not putting up with anything from Sonja, I wouldn't. She has been awful to you, telling you how to act and the pecking order, I can see why you may be overly sensitive with her, but, the others, they like you, ease up a little. Thanks for inviting us into your life, you are a great gal!

Cindy, I am not really sure what you expected when you signed on to do this show. I think you're incredible, but I have to tell you, I don't see you fitting in with the rest of these women.

Cindy, that is a very enlightened approach and I'm truly appreciative of the fact that someone has stated the most simplest of ways to handle situations. Thank you!

You are WAY too sensitive to be in this group of women. I mean when they approached you to join the cast, did you not research ANY of the past seasons to know what you were getting into???

You're the boost the show needed. Keep it real and don't fall in to the "fake trap" like the rest have. That's what made Bethenney so fun to watch, she kept it real.

Cindy, To be honest I did not understand the whole "seat"issue, maybe it was the editing I am not sure. What I think I understand it was an accumulation thing and you had HAD IT and spoke up. I think that commendable. You did it right to her face, not behind her back, isn't that why EVERYONE on this show develops issues?? So I salute you for doing that. No two faced, just what is going on and why??? I like your forthrightness, it truly is the best way and would avoid the troubles everyone else seems to get into. Congrats!

I disagree with you, I think you do stir the pot.

I can't even finish reading your blog- mostly because you are simply rationalizing your ridiculous behavior. Besides, you bore me

It is hard when you have someone always picking at you. Sonja really is different this year. I don't know if its because she wants more camera time or what? Just stand your ground and don't let any of them push you around

I love that you are not into all of the bs that the rest of the ladies get trapped in!! Thanks for making the show fun to watch again. I love the dress you wore to Brad's party in Morocco - who is it by or where did you get it????

You're a class act! I think you intimidate the others because you say what's on your mind. It was good to see you and Sonja hug on last night's episode, that showed alot of graciousness on your part, but she was downright awful and out of place at "tea". She's lucky you were so gracious. I'd never trust her again. You're a confident woman and I've seen that confident women (like Alex and Kelly) throw these other women off because they suddenly feel they're not in control. We know who the grownups are. :) I think you're great.

Cindy -- you really need to take it down a notch ... it's one thing to be a strong, independent woman, it's another thing to be a diva. When Sonja told you that LuAnn had asked to save her seat you should have just said, OK sorry and taken another seat. I don't think Sonja was saying that to imply there was a pecking order or that you were somehow inferior. If Sonja had let you take that seat and LuAnn had come back she might have had something to say to you about it, as well as to Sonja. You don't need to make a battle out of everything....

you did start trouble. I don't care for you at all. I feel bad for your babies. You are a very HARSH person.

Cindy, I can totally see how overwhelming it can be for you sometimes in this circle of craziness! I think you should keep your head up, not take things so seriously, and don't let everything bother you so much....you'll enjoy yourself so much more! Great blog :)

You look like Keith Richards

I agree! You're a breath of fresh and REAL air!

Sonya is being a prissy biotch to you. Know why? Cuz she KNOWS you're real! She can only SAY she is.

You are fantastic ! Keep being you...

Hi Cindy! Are you happy? Smile once in awhile as you have a GREAT smile.....use it more often.

Cindy - you're my favorite - you are real!!

Cindy, I agree with the comment "Your the boost the show needed!" You seem very down to earth, genuine and pretty freakin cool. I do have a question, Where did you get the strapless, long dress you wore to the party? Who is the designer? I can not wait for the rest of the season, solely to see what your wearing. Hope all is well... Ggirl

I really enjoy you Cindy. Hang in there!

You are such a wonderful addition to this show. Sanity seems to be in your DNA! Thank you!

Cindy,

time to lighten up a little and don't take what each one of these women say so seriously. You'll make yourself crazy if you do.

I'm so glad you joined the cast. I think you keep it real and I like that about you. I did however think you were a little dramatic during the whole talk around the table. It's really what happens when you hang out with a group of women. I can however understand how frustrating it could be considering how annoying those ladies can be. Especially Sonja! She is super annoying. I hope she goes back to the Sonja from last season. She was alot nicer. Stay strong girl!

Hi Cindy,

I hope you dont fall into the trap of the other housewvies. That is why everyone loved bettheny. She was her own person. I actually think Kelly is the most normal this year and you guys seem to have a good connection. stay away from Jill and Luann

You looked crazy getting angry about a saved seat. If I were Sonja, I would have volunteered to move to the other van to get away from you.

Cindy love you! Thank you Bravo for bringing a likeable person besides Alex to the show!

Love you on the show! Out of all the girls, you def. seem the most real and the most down to earth. Didn't think the show would have much without Betheney, but it's been very entertaining to watch so far!

Hi, Cindy!

I have to say that YOU ROCK! You seem to be the sanest person on the show by a long stretch, you shine with a vital, REAL beauty, and better yet, you seem to have a really down-to-earth attitude that is refreshing to say the very least.

If I lived in NY and had the opportunity to have dinner and drinks with one of the Housewives, you would be my pick hands down! There's nobody else there who seems capable of intelligent, reasonable, adult discussion about anything. If some lucky man hasn't already won your heart, I would be severely tempted to come up there and court you myself! I wish you, your brother, and your charming daughters good health and happiness!

Brent Somewhere in Louisiana

You've been one of my favorites since you started but the "seat" and "hanger" issues -- really? Come on, Cindy, you're more grounded than that.

your the new bethenny and i love you! so real, thank god and sonjas a fool dont take her seriously and always defend yourself. TEAM CINDY

Cindy, first it was Ramona taking your hangers now Sonja saving a seat for Luann what/who next? Relax, chill out it is a vacation.

The saga w/the saving of the seat was ridiculous. I think you were still holding onto the issues from the tea, because otherwise your behavior was completely irrational. However, I'm glad you and Sonja seemed to get thru it and over it. RELAX - these are not your BEST friends...they are people you're associated with on a show. Let it be what it is.

Cindy I am sorry but you seem to be the one that wants to cause drama..... after watching how you reacted to the " seat issue" that tells me that no one took your hangers. I am sorry but you are starting to act like the person you are always complaing about. I liked you at the beginning but i am starting to think you are a drama queen!!!!!!

I think your out of your league...these women are worldly divas and your kinda like a macho woman. To get angry because a seat is being saved for someone? Grow up! Also, there is a pecking order honey! Your the new girl on the show so you shouldnt be such an ass!

I agree with the person who said you should take it down a notch....relax...we get it...you're independent.

Cindy, you are my favorite person on the show. You are normal and I like how you handle yourself. I hope you decide not to come back on the show next season and forget all of the nonsense. You are awesome...

Judging by the clever reference to Ramona (crossing her name out above) and her not using 'working things out' with Jill, you weren't at Scary Island, were you? If you watched last season, then you saw Ramona not only offer her home to Jill and Bethenny to work out their issues, but it was your fellow Brunette Luanne that pulled Jill away from that opportunity.

Be carefull to this allegiance you find yourself in, because it turns on a dime, and usually over something as petty as not grovelling. Maybe because it's just friendships for tv, instead of how it was season 1.

Hangers and seats aren't drama. They just aren't.

You come across on tv as insecure, ridiculous and combative. Take it easy...it's not like you're curing cancer.

Cindy, You come off as a tad thin skinned. Drop the defensiveness and you just might have some fun with these bigger than life women!

You need to loosen up a bit. You seem to be jockeying for a position of strength within the group except that you pick all the wrong times to assert yourself; it appears ridiculous and unfounded. Next time someone says something you don't like, you need to respond then and there, not 2 weeks later.

Cindy...you are real!! Love you!!! I love how you don't take it from anyone. You are down to earth and a great addition to the show. All the best!

Cindy, you seem to be very easily riled up. I'm sure its not easy being the new kid on the block but you seem intent on taking offense at every opportunity. I agree with you about the disrespect but surely you had seen the show before you agreed to be in it? The women have always been like this.