Cindy Barshop

Cindy laments the ladies’ cruel behavior and addresses the proper way to borrow some coat hangers.

on May 26, 20110

What happens in New York, comes to Morocco. . .

First off, I want to thank LuAnn for inviting me for an interesting getaway to Morocco. LuAnn was the ultimate hostess who had special reservations at a luxurious castle and had a full staff tending to us. It should have been a great getaway where everything was impeccable. I was so happy to have a day to myself before the others arrived!

Then enter, Ramona and Sonja, with the same attitude and cold shoulders as I last left them with back in NYC. How could they sweat the small stuff, when we are all so lucky to have been present in this gorgeous country and culture. We greeted them and waited to share a beautiful sit-down lunch -- until they all did not have the decency to join. They wanted to "relax" in a car?

Then the hangers happened -- I know you're thinking "What's the big deal?" But when you are in a new country and you come back to your room and see that it has been ransacked, with clothing and dresses left on the floor (off of the hangers) you know that obviously someone went through your items. This was a huge invasion of my private space, I don't care if you took a cotton ball! Out of respect, you ask for permission prior to going through someone's items.

If these women weren't guilty, then there shouldn't have been a problem, and there wouldn't have been the cowardly backlash as I was walking down the steps. I was already feeling a little uncomfortable because of their attitude when they arrivied. Then I felt worse to be bullied and talked to like that while on "vacation."

It's funny how people feel good about treating others badly. I have never felt like this before and would never treat anyone like this. It actually makes me feel better knowing that I don't have that mean trait.

44 comments
Angela a Real Atlanta Homemaker
Angela a Real Atlanta Homemaker

I know this is July, But Good Grief, what part of I do not know where your room is, do you not understand? And Luanne Pointed out ALL the hangers to Ramona when she checked in. Maybe you should have checked with Management.

Angela a Real Atlanta Homemaker
Angela a Real Atlanta Homemaker

I know it is July and this is long over BUT, I think you might have had Luanne Check with housekeeping, they probably "borrowed" your hangers. And Good Grief, The other ladies had just arrived, How would they know which room was yours/

Lynne Underwood
Lynne Underwood

absolutely amazes me you can be friends with these ladies and especially that Ramona.LOL these ladies think the are high society people with real class don't carry on and fight in Public for $$$ on a TV show.... I just can't see you hanging with these media freaks

Viewer
Viewer

You are by far my favorite but I'm begging you, please don't become one of "them". You are a breath of fresh air and I admire that you stand up to the others. I don't know what it is about this season but all the others have become pure divas...Ramona and Sonja being the worst!! Take care and just enjoy yourself.

Deanna S.
Deanna S.

Totally agree with you Cindy. Know that you are not the crazy one!

Molls
Molls

I love your honesty

Ashley Fan
Ashley Fan

It appears you like alot of drama. You either need to relax or get off the show. Just being honest. It appears you can't handle the other girls on the show, if it affects you so much, don't re-sign for another season.

Anne in NY
Anne in NY

Cindy Good grief, grow up, you are the one starting the trouble,making something out of nothing, the way you acted at the market place, so childish, so high school, you cannot blame anyone for your behavior, you seem to want to start trouble wherever you go, get over yourself, and just relax.

ErinB
ErinB

You are my favorite this year. You are generous and kind...much respect ~eb

ichy
ichy

Cindy, I like you. You came onto this show appearing to be a strong lady. However as this show is progressing, it is very evident that you internalize most of the words from the other ladies and hold it in until you explode, then your anger and frustration is displaced, as it played out when you had your argument with Sonja. Why get upset at Sonja for saving the seat for LuAnn? She did not appear to be mean to you, it seemed she was only doing another friend a favor, perhaps you should have had words with LuAnn since it was she that asked her to save her seat. Don't get me wrong, Sonja is very annoying this season. I believe she's acting this way this season to get more air time.

Cindy, be very careful of losing yourself, you are coming off as very erratic with your emotions.

Stay strong.

socalgal999
socalgal999

I think if Ramona or Sonja would have taken your hangers...Camermen would have captured it on tape and Bravo would have aired it.

natalie a
natalie a

I think you are a good addition to the show. Help break up the mean girls Ramona and sonja

Janet P
Janet P

You say you enjoyed the trip but you never really smile.

Jenni Saks
Jenni Saks

Cindy - I like your comments...Don't let Sonja intimidate you - be friends with whomever you find most interesting, fun and loyal. Treat everyone with dignity but if you don't feel that you need to or want to go out of your way then don't. Who cares if Ramona Singer gets her Pinot or not? You're better off hanging with Jill, LuAnn and Kelly.

JP mom
JP mom

Guess you needed to interject yourself in the story line that day by complaining about hangers......or either you are one super sensitive person!

yosh
yosh

Hangers, Cindy. Really? You are upset about hangers?

Woody7
Woody7

Cindy! Where did you get the dress that you wore to Brad's party? It was so flowy and beautiful!

MNSees
MNSees

Enough with the coat hangers already.

Karen in Dallas
Karen in Dallas

Instead of running up to see why Ramona and Sonja made off with your hangers why weren't you asking management why it appeared your room had been tossed?

rebeccaadmirenelson
rebeccaadmirenelson

You are honestly the only sane person on this show, you say what I have always been thinking in previouse seasons. I love you and I'm so glad you are on the show now. Maybe you will help your other castmates get over themselves.

bunnyfoofoo
bunnyfoofoo

Cindy: At first I thoght you were going to be this cool downtown chic on the show to balance out the upper east siders... But as time goes on, you seem to take things too seriously and rarely are you seen laughing. I find it hard to believe that any of the girls ransacked you room and left your clothes on the floor. I know they can be a little immature at times, and cross the line on occasion, but it is all in good fun, and and I just don't see them trashing your room. You did bail on Sonja. You did. Just say, "Sonja, I am really sorry I bailed on lunch. If I had to do it all over agian, I would." Done. End of story. I think I understand what Sonja was trying to say to you as far as the "pecking order. Although her delivery and execution was not great, I do not think that she meant it the way you took it. Lighten up, take things for what they are worth. I think you really could enjoy yourself.

Viewer3941
Viewer3941

JZY GRL finally, someone is watching the same show as I---She is a drama queen and trouble maker.

Viewer144
Viewer144

I completely understand walking into your room and discovering your things have been moved/touched. However, it was brash and unnecessary to make such pointed accusations in such an irritated fury. Couldn't it stand to reason that the staff grabbed some hangers in a rush to cater to Ramona and Sonja's requests for more? Or maybe it happened prior to the blondes arrival? To be honest, it came off like you left a lunch to go up to your room to find something wrong. I think you had already convinced yourself of guilt prior to anything they could have done. Shame on you.

I also don't think it fair that Alex be lumped into that mess. She was quiet and respectful of your feelings. Guilty by association is never the answer.

SunnySWJo
SunnySWJo

If I found my clothes on the floor of the closet, I would go crazy! Why do people think that it is okay and no big deal? Hopefully, someone will eventually admit to doing this nasty deed. Having fun is one thing...doint it at the expense of others is mean.

SunnySWJo
SunnySWJo

Cindy, How did you keep your cool after finding your clothes on the floor?? I would have gone absolutely crazy. Some people must not care about their personal possessions. I'd still like to have someone admit they invaded your closet & privacy.

liz williams
liz williams

Cindy, you are a breath of fresh air. Love your smile and the twins! You have every right to be offended when your private space was invaded (how rude). Keep on asserting yourself! I'm still trying to understand the pecking order? For a woman who cooks on a toaser oven, you know where she stands in the pecking order.

Love ya!

JZY GRL
JZY GRL

first of all you should not walk into a room and start accusing anyone of anything until you find out the facts... no wonder why they starting as you called it a "cowardly backlash" when you walked away. what part of they did not know where your room was did you not understand? i just don't understand why the bloggers are saying how wonderful you are... i just don't see it... all i see is someone who has done nothing but start trouble from the very beginning...

JanetMarie
JanetMarie

It was so obvious they took the hangers. Ramona kept saying she didn't know where your room was - not that she didn't take the hangers. Sounded to me like she was saying she took hangers but didn't know she had taken them from your room. Ramona and Sonja were acting so badly when they arrived.

MichellelovesJesus
MichellelovesJesus

You are totally my fav!! Would love to see you take them precious babies to church and would love to see some charity work. You should do make overs for single mothers seeking employment, this is a great way to pay it forward and it always comes back ten fold!!!

katiebird
katiebird

Cindy, You are my favorite. I am glad that you are getting a little more spunky!

Lauren O
Lauren O

Love ya cindy! youre a great addition to the cast

TYSON BOX
TYSON BOX

Cindy,

Hello, my name is Tyson, I do not know mush about your but from what I see you are a go-getter and seem to be an amazing woman.

I am eager to learn more. TBOX

Maggieny
Maggieny

Cindy I think you and Alex are the most rue of all the housewives. Like your style. Stay human.

haras
haras

Cindy love you, glad to have you on the show. Always say what's on your mind with these ladies, do not hold back!

Topchefer
Topchefer

Cindy, you do seem to be the only normal "Housewife" I have seen. You may want to get while the getting is good.

WindyCityWondering
WindyCityWondering

Cindy - you need to speak up when the brunettes are lying and backstabbing! For someone who seems normal and nice - you are not doing yourself any favors hanging out with the mean girls.

Catherina
Catherina

I think you all should watch the episodes more closely. You ame across as snobby and negative.The only girls who knew where your room was, were the onces you arrived with. (i.e. Luanne,Kelly,and Jill) It was pety of you to pick a fight about hangers. Really? If anything, you should have assumed the house staff may have gone through your closet to find extra hangers. Just a thought. To add, you of all people comment on decency for keeping a lunch date, when you ditchd Sonja in NY. Seriously? Stop participating in negative talk and behavior. Good Luck!

MelG
MelG

What NO ONE IS SAYING is that Ramona and Sonja knew EXACTLY where they were going when they said they wanted to "relax in the car"........maybe if they had been HONEST no one would be talking about it! ;-)

puleeeze
puleeeze

Cindy, I understand exactly how you were feeling. It's not the hangers, it's the invasion of your space and knowing someone touched your personal things without permission. You had every right to be upset.

Glr111
Glr111

Hey Cindy - thanks for blogging! I see you as very rational - and enjoy your fank thoughts! Just a thought for you - Remember your strength is to stay polite - even when offended - you only look the better for it - complaining about ill treatment while "justified" never gives anyone resolution - just show patience and kindness and be thankful for the opportunity to be the bigger person - you will gain oodles by it in every way. all the best,

Jolie Bailey
Jolie Bailey

Cindy~Although I understand your issues regarding the hangars, clothes left on floor, etc., you don't know that one of the girls actually did anything. Yet, it seems as though you do enjoy creating drama. You seem to be the most negative woman within this particular group, and aren't coming across in the most flattering light. As a viewer, it appears you are extremely sensitive to what everyone is saying, but you fixate on Ramona and Sonja because the other girls are also having issues with them. Basically, you are coming across as someone who enjoys instigating towards those that are currently "out of favor" within the group. Maybe this is not "who you really are"~~but, you are definitely coming across that way. Just something to consider.

CJ>VA
CJ>VA

WHAT! You turn the smallest thing into a major issue. I don't know if you create drama to come back next season or what? It's annoying. All of the ladies are guilty of being too old to be sooo petty.

BarbinGa
BarbinGa

Hangergate aside, do you ever smile or have fun? Ever?