Cindy Barshop

Cindy lets us she's proud of the honesty in this episode.

on May 20, 20110

I have to say our road trip to Canyon Ranch was a much needed bonding experience for us "brunettes" -- a place to relax from getting beaten up by my new "friends." So in order to help with the relaxation, I ordered personalized Frette robes, which were great. Jill had an extreme bonding session with her robe. ;)

I was excited to get to know these dynamic women better and was so glad I didn't invite the others. At the end of the day, I did it just to not ruffle any feathers -- we all know how these birds can get about their "pecking" order.

Besides getting lost on our way up to the ranch, we hit a "speed bump" when Kelly opened up to us about a past abusive relationship. I was left speechless because I have never been in a situation like this, nor had I known anyone who had. I couldn't even imagine how hard that was for Kelly to go through, especially to finally open up and tell us what had happened. As we all know, this is a reality show, and for Kelly to discuss something so intimate in order for other people to learn to stand up for themselves is a difficult thing to do. I commend her for that.

On the same note how amazing was Jill's Anti-Bullying event? The courage of her young stepdaughter to speak about her experience was unbelievable and absolutely inspiring. I want to personally thank Jill and her stepdaughter for going on national TV to fight for a very personal reason.

People speaking out for a cause gives others the confidence to also stand up for themselves -- I have witnessed it firsthand. I was with a friend of mine when I watched this episode. She too was a victim of bullying, which I had no idea about before this. She has a terrible injury from years ago when she was in a horrible motorcycle accident that she is self-conscious about. She has huge deep scars all over her right leg. While we were watching the show, she revealed to me how traumatized she had been from people ridiculing her scars and that now she only wears pants and would never hit the beach. Until now I never knew why. She never had the courage to bare her scars -- until seeing this episode. Now she said she will be fine going to the beach with me this summer. "Wow" is all I can say.

I cannot even imagine how this episode may have helped so many others. Seeing and hearing of things like this really makes me so proud to be a part of this show.

23 comments
rebeccaj
rebeccaj

Always a welcome a surprise to find a NORMAL woman (such as Bethenny) on this show. Love your honestly, intelligence, and your great love for your friends.Trust me LuAnn is no friend. She's cold as ice. Her past behavior is what caused the major split between Jill and Bethenny. She didn't have a final divorce at the time and she needed to hang on to Jill. So she kept interferring in Jills and Bethenny friendship every chance she could. She talks down to eveyone. She seems to think shes the new Diana! News for her sweetheart, Diana had more had more class in her little finger than she will ever have!

VanP
VanP

I'm a huge fan of yours, Cindy. Keep being yourself and have fun with LuAnn, Jill and Kelly and let the fur fly among the others as it is sure to. Don't get sucked into Ramona and Sonja slamming their birdbrains together to get a rise out of anyone - it's just the Pinot and lack of underwear talking. All best to you and the brunettes - we love you.

momat38
momat38

You and Alex are the only normal ones on here. Don't get pulled into crazy town with the other women.

WonderfulWhit
WonderfulWhit

Cindy-you are absolutely wonderful! I commend you for putting up with most of the ladies on the show (i.e. Sonja and Ramona). You definitely have a lot of common sense, class, and poise. Keep it up! Do not let those two ding bats get to you!

jeannie oldaker
jeannie oldaker

Cindy stand up to the other snobs i really like u more than most of the fake birds !

hmm...
hmm...

You have so much on the ball...are you wondering if doing this show, with some of these women was a good decision. Trust you'll be in the middle of a mess if you aren't careful and trust that it will not be worth your time or effort having been involved. About half present themselves openly and honestly the other half are bad actors.

ZLora
ZLora

i just love, adore, respect you! you are so funny and such a great mom. Finally, somone refreshing and bringing some realness to the show. Now that Bethany is gone, I was wondering about the direction of the show. You are my true favorite. Stay real for me, PLEASE!!!

HousewifeHYSTERIA
HousewifeHYSTERIA

I like how you do not buy into the madness of personalities on the show. The canyon Ranch trip was the kind of thing I prefer to see. That, your business venture, your twins. Real life. Not real life fights.

Elayna
Elayna

Loved the Canyon Ranch episode, and the Frette ROBES WERE BEAUTIFUL!!! What a nice gift! I think the brunettes have it all over the blondes this season. I do not understand why they behave so viciously and vindictively. As pretty as they are, they are so ugly inside.

OH brother!
OH brother!

Cindy, You are smart and successful. Why in the world would you want to hang around these women? They want what you already achieved, you don't belong you are too normal. I hope you get out before it is too late.

Bowen'smommy
Bowen'smommy

I just love you- you are straight to the point- you have this amazing ability to cut through all the b.s. and it's nice to see. I am very much team Brunnettes but I am having a hard time watching LuAnn... I really wish she'd just keep her mouth shut. I like her, you can tell she's a good person, but she really enjoys throwing fuel on the fire and then sitting back and watching it burn... it's not a pleasant thing to watch.

JZY GRL
JZY GRL

what i am getting from these posts is that you approve of cindy talking badly about others... that makes her no different than the "blonds" as you guys call them... so why would you encourage her to be mean? i don't understand it...

martag
martag

I too was amazed by Jill's 'step' daughter. Is she not beautiful. You could see the love that Jill has for her, which, of course, we all expected. And, also, Cindy, you would be friends with Jill and Kelly, because you are also such a loving and giving person. You are so not like Alex and Ramona. I don't think you have that 'mean-gene'! You are wonderful, sweet and we all wish you the very best with your girls.

mrs.chanels
mrs.chanels

Cindy you seem so real, not like some of the others...take care..lol

RHONYC fan
RHONYC fan

Hi Cindy, I really like you. Welcome to the RHONYC. I personal question, if you dont mind...did you freeze your eggs? if yes, when? I am 34 years old without babies and keep wondering if it is too late to freeze my eggs.Did you have a surrogate for your babies.

jillejo
jillejo

Cindy, You are a wonderful addition to the show! You personality is your own and you don't "try" on-camera like the other women. You seem to be yourself and I happen to love it! Also I would like to commend you on your lovely daughters! Doing it your way is inspiring to thousands of women! Thank you!

Upset
Upset

Thank you for joining the housewives. You are actually relatable.

KCKY
KCKY

Team BLONDES!

A Friend in Massachusetts
A Friend in Massachusetts

You are a breath of fresh air! Down to earth, a successful business woman and fun and nice too. Someone we can identify with. Hooray for the brunettes. Those blondes on your show are bizarro!

Melissa Walk
Melissa Walk

You are a class act!!!!! Love you on the show:)

hg
hg

Thank you for not referring to Jills stepdaughter as "deformed" the way Ramona did. You saw her as a person and not as abnormal. I wish there were more people like you in the world. You truly have a kind heart.

moreduece
moreduece

Cindy - you are my fave this season!!! Love your honesty and courage to be around these "birds"! Keep it up!