Cindy Barshop

Cindy shares her thoughts on her birthday party, and why she told Kelly Sonja's plan.

on Apr 29, 20110

As you saw, a lot of confrontation went on last night but it's really not worth my time.

Obviously, my tooth debacle didn't allow me to go out to lunch with Sonja after our visit to Vivienne Tam. It's understandable that I canceled plans on such a short notice because at the end of the day I had to do what is right for me. I would completely recognize any of my friend's situations if they had to cancel, especially when it came to going to a doctor/dentist.

If you don't want to be with your children on a beautiful holiday weekend during the day in the Hamptons then don't come or don't bring your children -- I want to be with my children. I wanted to be with my children.

The party was at my friend Richie Schaeffer's renowned Quogue Farm where we were able to have amazing food and drinks from Seasons of South Hampton as well as go horseback riding and four-wheeling -- sounds horrible right?

121 comments
HisWildCherry
HisWildCherry

Cindy,

I am on your side 100% about telling Kelly the really lame plan Sonja had. You could not and would not be a good friend if you kept that information to yourself. My only advice is to stand behind your decisions and don't back down to these women! Pecking order? Really? Who says crap like that! lol...

hultz, sherlene
hultz, sherlene

Cindy, I really like you, so a warning! Please do not get caught up in all of the drama of the other cast members. They will bring you down if you let them. Just be honest, calm and do not pass anything on to the others. I want you to succeed this season. A fan, Sherlene

san francisco
san francisco

I just want to thank you for joining the group. Secretly, the most educated people I know watch the show. It's a dirty little secret. I have no idea why I find watching people live their lives entertaining.

My gut feeling is that you are so real - pretty much put the other cast to shame. As they should be.

Finally Bravo wised up and now I can watch a smart, single, accomplished mother works.

Trishkaa8993
Trishkaa8993

Reading some of these comments re: the Ramona needing to talk to Cindy's brother - it wasn't the time, or the place, period. What Cindy did, cutting it off, was exactly what she should have done. Ramona was too emotional, or was she drunk? Because she sure seemed like it to me - either way she was far too worked up, and would have caused an even bigger scene getting into it with her brother at a lovely gathering. No. The thing to do is resolve the issue in private - not at some big event with prying eyes and ears. You don't walk up to someone in front of everyone else, get in their face and start badgering them to clear the air, and that's what Ramona did. She should have dropped it the first time he said "no" instead of causing a scene. To the poster who said it was "cowardly" of Cindy to shield her elderly parents from it; - to me it had nothing to do with the subject, I know that my elderly mother used to get upset at ANY type of drama. They were getting rather close to her dad and Ramona was flailing all over the place - and I'm guessing she was trying to avoid anything that might upset him or raise his heart rate!

Lisa K.
Lisa K.

Cindy,

Welcome to the Lions Den! You had a nice party and Ramona and Sonja are acting as if they're are royal and above it. I have a hard time listening to this from a woman who cooks in a toaster oven and another woman who can't approach conflict without getting a babysitter.

You are a straight shooter and you're a breath of fresh air.

Keep your head up and don't let the catty lions get you down. Lisa

nanaknows
nanaknows

Did you forget? Kelly doesn't believe in 'feelings'.

bent14
bent14

Please don't chnage and stay grounded...I would hate for you to turn into Sonja next season.

MIddie
MIddie

Common Sense. What a relief! "Kudos" for taking down a few egos. Applause. It's been long overdue.

aagill21
aagill21

You seem to say what I think! I love you and as a mommy of twins, I admire you for the mother you are! You are a class act and the others are missing out on a friendship with you. Good luck with all of the CRAZY self-centered women.

VBCGgirl
VBCGgirl

Cindy - you are the best thing that happened to this show since Bethenny! You have heart, warmth, intelligence, and true class. Love watching how you handle these women!

BostonViewer
BostonViewer

I'm so glad you are apart of the cast. You are down to earth and normal!! Welcome and please don't let Sonja bother you.

jhr459
jhr459

Yeah, I was thinking the exact same thing. Lots of people are on here saying how wonderful, how fabulous, etc, etc Cindy is and I have heard this many times before about women that have turned into the wicked witch of the East. Let's not rush into a love fest just yet.

Teresar71
Teresar71

Try to stay grounded. You are the only SANE one out of the bunch and I love how you have are a single, hard working mom...keep up the great work!

Noire
Noire

Such a good point!!!!!! Especially when Cindy showed up FOUR HOURS LATE to Alex's birthday party!!!

Bran-D
Bran-D

I mean, you are already my favorite housewife aside from Jill. I understand the tooth thing (I would've done the same), but Sonja seems to be all about her (in that, her day was ruined), because she didn't seem to give two cats about your situation. Your brother really should've sucked it up and talked to Ramona even though her rudeness seemed to get in the way at your party. (Hello, can we say drunk?) Anyways, Kelly is awesome and Alex needs to ZIP IT!!! Hahaha! Happy Late Birthday!!!

Be-Be
Be-Be

Love you! Bethany is gone so I had no reason to watch. Now I do. Thank you!

coloradobuff
coloradobuff

You are very much my favorite... so glad you are here this season!!

Not sure
Not sure

Cindy, I am not sure yet about you. Simple... you are stirring the pot. And for the birthday party, being the host, you were responsible to make your guests feel comfortable. You could have pulled your brother and Ramona aside and asked them to talk in private. That's all. But you scolded Ramona for trying to clear the air instead.

giggity86
giggity86

quickly have become my favorite housewife of NYC!! Very real, very funny and sharp!

TexasEm
TexasEm

Love you. Love you. Love you. Genuine, grounded, and glamourous

Jennifer Engelthal
Jennifer Engelthal

Thank God you are on the show-you are genuine, have good manners, and good priorities! I see that look in your eyes when one of the women starts one of their inevitable, ridiculous rants. It makes me laugh because I am doing the same thing watching you guys. All of you guys are hugely entertaining, but you are the only one who does not seem deluded!

NYCGAY
NYCGAY

Love you. Please!! Can I have one housewife that stays grounded? They seem to morph into self absorbed delusional versions of themselves.

HiSweety
HiSweety

You are such a fun person inside and out. ....its good you love your self so much

Inoki
Inoki

Funny, the only 2 respectable "housewives",they are not married, the definition of a housewife is a married woman in charge of a household. Why are these women on a TV show called, The Real "housewives" when half of them are not married? Gretchen, Tamra, Kelly,Sonja,LuAnn??????

carol daley
carol daley

Cindy, I just love you on the show. You are truly down to earth. I would be the same way with my teeth. Last year I cracked my front tooth and didn't go out for 3 days until I could get to the dentist ! You seem like you don't get involved with the gossip and BS that the others have. I really like you on the show. Sonja used to be my favorite but she has changed and is acting stuck up and like the queen of the show. You stick to you guns and just be down to earth. You babies are lovely. I too have twins via IVF and like you, don't reveal the father..it's no ones business. Keep up the great attitude..Philly loves you!

La-di-da
La-di-da

Well said!

Your brother's a big boy. He should have cowboyed up and spoken to Ramona; your family was technically in the hosting position and responsible for making people feel welcome.

Also, have you WATCHED last season? If you did, maybe you'd understand a bit more about Ramona . . . and Kelly . . . and Jill.

Atlanta All the Way
Atlanta All the Way

You seem to have a lot more going for you than most of your cast mates. Stand up for yourself and tell them about it and about themselves.

caligurl10
caligurl10

I agree, great addition to the cast! So far you are my favorite along with Luann, Kelly and sometimes Jill. The funniest thing Sonja said about the "pecking" order never heard of it before other than a farm maybe that's where she grew up!hahaha..moooo Your an inspiration to all single mommies evrywhere, it's not an easy job and you have 2 so You Go Girl :)

StellaDos
StellaDos

I thought you did amazingly well when put in a tough spot by Sonja- it was better to let Kelly know than just keep it quiet and become complicit in a potential ambush. That said, I don't understand why you make it sound like your parents are fragile and need to be spared an insight into something uncomfortable your brother did to Ramona. It's cowardly to use them as a shield and it was sad to watch you handle your grown brother's battle on your birthday. He really should have stepped up to the plate.

DIGNIFIEDaddict;)
DIGNIFIEDaddict;)

I love your interview segments. You are so spot on with everything! Smart and full of life, with adorable twins!!

Sewickleygal
Sewickleygal

Your comment was spot on. Took me awhile to really understand the issue, but once I "got it," I really "got it." Ramona was genuinely hurt and disturbed by his tasteless comment about now owning something of the deceased. Ugh. I would have been just as upset. Ramona should have been heard - the way she was treated was pretty bad.

Oregon
Oregon

Cindy, Keep it light. Don't get to cocky-this group will get you. Stay away from Kelly she has bad JUJU.

Laurens MOM
Laurens MOM

YA GET WHAT YA GET when invite Ramona.......She's a very emotional person and she says what she says. I think her timing was bad but I understand she just wanted to clear things up with your brother. It wouldn't have killed him to take her to the side and speak with her. As far as your party, I'm disappointed in your remarks about how the others felt it being so far away when you blasted Simon and Alexis on their choice of their party. And unless some of your guests arrived 4 hours late I really think you need to chill out!

Y. Aurich
Y. Aurich

Cindy you are my favorite....I think those bit.... hate you, I think you are to nice when talking to them. Don't let them treat you like that!!!!!!!!!!!! I really like to the the new season Because of you!!!!!!!!!!!!

Viewer451
Viewer451

Cindy, I think you are a great addition to the show. You do appear to be down to earth and someone who could be a good friend to anyone. It almost feels like you shouldn't be with this group of ladies. You are more comfortable and relaxing and your heart is in a good place. I can see why Sonja and you would clash: she plays the victim and you tell her how it is in a nice way and she doesn't like that. I hope you are able to stay who you are and not be tainted by the spotlight as some of your co-parts have done.

Rbreff
Rbreff

I would have told Kelly also !!

NYC!
NYC!

SOME OF THESE WOMEN ARE SO CRAZY WITH THESE COMMENTS! First of all I like you and your brother for that matter. He did the right thing and I think you're great Cindy

ljmidaho
ljmidaho

I hope that as this season goes on we will see a kinder side of you and less ot the pot stirring personality. I know this will appear as none of my others have. I think you are trying too hard for airtime.

Keep being real...
Keep being real...

You are the most real, down to earth housewife of ny yet. Hope the fame doesn't get to you and change the nice family oriented person you seem to be. Thanks for being the voice of all of us out there who can't believe how awful some of those women behave!! Hope you put some of the ones who really need to be put in their places...

Lulubean
Lulubean

Wow, way to be judgemental toward all of them Cindy, interesting. Yes, I'm sure most of the judgement is warranted and true however, quite sharp. All these comments on how wonderful, classy, great mom, nasty, mean, etc., are also judgement on someone none of us truly know. But you, know these women, so not nice.

Buffyluvscatnip
Buffyluvscatnip

Cindy, you seem like a great addition to the cast this season. You speak your mind and don't put up with ridiculous behavior. However, you come across as whiny, annoying, and condescending.

bporlando
bporlando

Your brother owed Ramona an apology and if he had just manned up then there would not have even been an issue. Ramona wasn't attacking him or your dad. I understand wanting to take up for your brother, but he needs to take responsibility for his actions.

Meri B.
Meri B.

Cindy, You are the most level headed and are polite to others. Love you on the show! Dont let the fame change you...

MB

JacquiM
JacquiM

I don't think it was too much to ask your brother to talk to Ramona. He should have at least said Let's talk tomorrow or later after the party. I think it was rude on his part. She was trying to clear the air and move on. Let's give her some credit. I think you've learned your lesson with Kelly.

Rosebud in bloom
Rosebud in bloom

You didn't like the way these women were slaming your party because of where it was located at the Quogue Farm. HMM, maybe you shouldn't have slammed Alex B-day party because where it was held on Governers Island. What goes around, comes around.

Put Off
Put Off

I think you're a great addition so far. Classy & down to earth. I like that you seem to have an actual personality and think your warning Kelly about Sonja's plot with "good intentions" showed true friendship & concern. I will have to agree that to avoid the drama it may have been better to let Sonja know that if she wasn't going to tell Kelly that you were. It seems like you and Kelly are the only 2 respectable housewives on the show. Looking forward to the rest of the season.

jeanette1
jeanette1

Cindy,love you and bless those beautiful babies!!!!

Jud
Jud

Cindy, Cindy, Cindy...what are you doing here? You seem way too normal for this drama. You already have a successful business.

Sweet Melissa, GA Peach
Sweet Melissa, GA Peach

Cindy, I really admire you! You are now my favorite housewife and I hope you stay on RHONY! You are an inspiration because you speak your mind and don't let these other women run over you like they try to do every season! BRAVO! Kudos to you and your business, I feel you are a true success and perhaps other wome are jealous of you because of that ... hmmmmm? Keep on trucking girl! Stand tall and proud in what you believe in - especially when it comes to your family! Lots of Southern Love in GA!