Cindy invited me over to see her apartment so we could get to know each other. After all, we are going to be spending a lot of time together! I knew she was friends with Ramona so I was a little nervous, but I knew when I first met her she was my kind of girl. We both come from Long Island, and we are the same age, and we found out we have friends in common.
When Cindy said "Ramona's core is not good," it validated a lot of the feelings I have had over the years. We have a lot of friends in common. Cindy said, "We have our ups and lows" (she meant downs), but we accept Ramona for who she is. What the heck does that mean? Why would anyone accept someone who makes so many condescending remarks and offers little respect to anyone? I didn't want to gossip about Ramona, but when someone starts talking. . .well it was hard to sit there and say nothing -- especially if you are a filming a reality show.
Cindy said "her core is not good." Is she right? I always try to find the good in people. I let a lot of things go in regards to Ramona, and years have passed. Maybe it's time to take a serious look at our friendship. Ramona invited us to a wine tasting party this week. Even though Bobby had to come home from work a little early to make it, we showed up. Am a just a glutton for punishment?
Side comment: How cute are Cindy's little girls? I am available for babysitting!
In Ramona's defense she didn't know about what had happened at the wedding until the party started. So she didn't bring you there to ambush you but her approach & reaction to "whatever was said" was really done badly. I use to really like Ramona but lately she has become "untangled & really harsh" to people. I would never try to tell someone in an interview that they really need to dress different or offer them a skin line to use to help their complexion. I really don't agree with that at all. She is not above us all - when she acts like that she is really placing herself really low in my eyes.
I was on your side regarding the incident & I don't agree with Alex's comments on the subject either. You might have been upset & not friends with Alex before Jennifer's wedding but I remember watching a episode where I thought you two made up - maybe she has already forgotten the list & we should let it go fire. You might should keep your friends in check a little better because wasn't it a friend who told the bride you said something you said you didn't. Just a thought. I do believe you have tried to change this season but you all still "jab" each other from time to time but like you said "it is hard not to get caught up when you are on the show".
Hi Jill, I love that you are back on the show. I knew that Ramona and Jennifer had set you up from the way the conversation was going. I knew once again Romona wanted to make you be the Bad Person. I know this suppose to make for good TV and make viewers come back to watch; but that was just being mean. I also saw when you ask her to lunch to discuss the issue and she did not agree to have lunch. I don't think Romona was ever your friend (True Friend); I think it was that you guys travel in the same circle. Alex right away sides against you in her BLOG - But if you watch the show - Romona attack you because of hear say and that was wrong. She could have asked you did you say those things? instead of using bad words and calling you bad names. I love watching You, LuAnn, Kelly, and Cindy; but Alex and Romona are Mean Girls this season. Keep your head high for you are doing good this season. Don't keep bending over backward to be friends with people that are just trying to get higher rating for the show!! Jill, You Are A Good Person, and I Love watching You on the show.
Jill, very well said.. I am soooooo IMPRESSED with the way you handled Ramona, it was awesome! A great change from last year. She was absolutely inappropriate! I understand her being upset from what she heard from a mutual friend, but she just extremly overreacted! She could have said 'jill, jennifer told me this, if its true here is how I feel..if its not true, fine" thats it. I understand adddressing gossip when you hear it from someone you consdier a good friend, but to blantaly cause a scene, and get even more excited when you stated it wasnt true, and to insist that you did infact say it when she was not present is just her inducing DRAMA.. She truly made herself look a fool at her own party. She does need help, I only hope she gets it!
Take care, your rockin' this season! ~Rosemary - California
It seems like you are trying to be the better person! BTW, those little koala things are so cute and retro (we all had those little animal clips on our backpacks in the 80's).
Jill I think you are trying very hard to be a better person this year. Keep doing what you are doing and good job not falling into Ramaona's drama!!!!!!!
You were a lady! Ramona was awful! I wrote about you in my blogs to Ramona and Alex - you were in the right last night, they are mean! They talk behind people's back but I guess it is ok for them. I love you, people know where they stand with you. You are funny you call things the way they are - I wish more people were like that. I like you more and more. Stick with Cindy, she is a strong, great person, who also "calls it like it is". Sorry you got hurt.
I liked your blog. Honest, simple, direct. I think that you are such a fun and enthusiastic person. My best wishes to you and your beautiful family.
P.S. I think that I would be better friends with you than any other housewives if I was on your show.
Glad you kept your cool this time. Maybe you need a different phrase than I'm done. It didn't work with Bethenny and maybe it's the wrong tactic. Maybe say I'm done for now, which could mean for 1 hour, 1 day or 20 years.
You didn't deserve the Ramona's rath at her party. With that said, you real need to stop talking about people behind their back. Example, your visit with Cindy.
I love the way you have reacted to the other housewives this season. This is the person you have always been.
Jill, You have always been my favorite but Ijust don't understand you sometimes. why are you friends with Ramona? All you both do is argue whenever you are in public, which just makes things uncomfortable and awkward for everone around you guys. You both should just agree that you are truly frenemies and limit your interactions to Hello and Goodbye. A friend like that is not worth the time or the effort even after all these years. And what about that Jennifer! Talk about a cook that wants to stir the pot! No need to bring that up at that event. Looks like someone wanted some camera time (AGAIN) to jockey for a place on this show. you should really only support and film with the people you have fun with and truly be yourself with. Life is too short.
I feel for you!!! You are amongst the strangest group of people and I seriously do not know how you deal with it. There is something seriously wrong with Ramona and she needs help!!!!! I was completely turned off with the Bride and her causing such trouble too. I have not watched one episode this season where Ramona isnt either drinking or already drunk. It is concerning. She has become the new "Kelly" with her wacky conversations and not making sense about anything.
I think you have gotten a bad rap and just know there are people out there that know you and really feel your pain! lol
Ramona complains about your comments about Sonjas party but its ok for her to make the rude comments about Cindys party. She doesnt play by the same rules that she expects of everyone else. I dont care if you said anything about her if you did its true, but she is no better and does the exact same thing all the time.
Blows my mind how mean some of the women are and how very very high school they act. There are not many of you on tv with money that act with any class AT ALL its really PATHETIC!!!!
Keep your chin up and do not sweat the small stuff ie, Ramona, Alex, Sonja. Stick with Cindy I love her finally another NORMAL person!!!! I too am the same age as you and would consider you a friend!
Jill, I think what Ramona did to you at the wine tasting party was awful; I felt sorry for you. It's ridiculous that she wanted to accuse you without letting you have Jennifer there to confirm that you had actually said those things. I haven't agreed with some of the things you have done in the past but it does seem that you are really trying to change. Loved how you stayed calm towards Ramona as she was spinning out of control!
You may want to learn from Alex and Ramona, they both are enjoying great success that they achieved on their own terms. Your not too old to learn , grow and create something of your own making. Not though marriage or inheritance but all by yourself………..you can do it!!
Great blog Jill, Thank you for speaking the truth and explaining the episode more clearly. Love you!
I didn't watch much of the previous seasons, so I'm lost when I hear about all the drama regarding you. I think you are doing whatever you can to mend those fences and it appears to me, that some can't forgive or forget whatever it was you did. Surely it wasn't that bad! I like you, and I think Ramona has gone over the edge...... she's so annoying to watch. Her and Kelly, ewe!
Hi Jill, About last night's show, you see Ramona didn't know what Jennifer said, before the party, that was just her reaction. Albeit wrong place and wrong time. Also they did show you talking about the f B Alex Mccord at the wedding, kinda tacky with the film crew there!!! Laura, San Jose.
Hi! I have to say, you, Alex, and Luann are women I could honestly say I could be friends with. There is obviously no way to completely understand someone from one hour a week on TV, but after a few seasons, you three have been consistant and seem to have more perspective. Ramona, wooboy, weelll, I would never go to someone's party and complain about what was being served, much less, insist on talking to someone who clearly did not want to address personal issues. I like her energy level, but if I knew she could be.. unpredictable (?)..sooner or later I wouldn't want to deal with it. I hope she isn't a victim of bad editing, but there are so many instances where she has behaved the same way that you have to wonder. Anyhoo, love watching your show, and wish you the best!
I love you Jill and I think everyone on this (and all housewife shows and let's face it in real life) sometimes speak bad of others but it seems like people find it unforgivable of you but perfectly acceptable of others. Everyone is doing it at least you have the tact to try and make amends with people afterward for it. They just try to make you look worse to justify their own bad behavior.
Jill!!!!!!!! I typically do not post comments, but I am absolutely compelled at this point. In my opinion, one of the most difficult things a person can do in life is "a personal inventory." Quite simply, I mean that I am extremely proud of you for reflecting so deeply, and taking a "personal inventory" of your character flaws, and taking the steps to improve. Yes, you have had "your moments," but who doesn't. At least you are aware and your main objective is to be fair and kind to others and true to yourself. So, I say, "keep it up, Jill." I firmly believe that you come from a genuinely kind place. Don't let Ramona EVER get you down and walk on you. I know you have class, and know how to handle the situations when Ramona approaches you at the absolute WRONG PLACE AND TIME. Just keep believing in yourself. I adore the "new" jill- the woman who knows herself, accepts her flaws, and works on them. :)
Ramona should have waited to confront you. She did it at the wrong place,wrong time. We sometimes learn the hard way, don't say anything at all. You should know by now that women are so catty. I hope you stick to your word and stay that changed person. Team Jill!!!!
I am, totally, on your side, Jill. I didn't like you last season, but this season, you are right on! I love the new you. I didn't like Luann last season, either, but I love her, now. I hated Kelly last season, but this season I love her. I loved Ramona & Alex last season, but this season, I cannot stand them. I loved Sonja last season, but this season I am not sure. She has done and said some pretty stupid things and she is so out of touch with the average person. It is what makes the show so good. CHeers!
jill, Jill, Jill. it was somebody's wedding - not a set up to annoy you. It was about somebody getting married, not about YOU! If everyone skipped weddings because they did not like everyne on the guest list - nobody would go to anybody's wedding. You just have to suck it up and attend and celebrate those getting married and leave the cattiness at home for a day.
Hi Jill, I love you and I think that Jennifer acted terribly by bringing all of that BS up to Ramona at a party. Ramona gave you no chance to set the record straight but instead just kept attacking you. You and Bobby seem like such genuine people. If I had to choose to spend time with any housewife it would be you hands down!!
Jill I believe you are a wonderful person! It's clear you adore your family and try hard to be good to everyone. Even when they aren't so good to you.
First I want to tell Jill that I think she and her family are wonderful. You have done an excellent job with your daughter. You sincerely love and respect your husband and he loves you. You are our favorite housewife. Your so much fun. Your life is complete while Romana is scratching for any little teeny tiny homerun to match Bethany.....won't happen......Also, we are so sick of Alex, what a sicko
Little Ramona is so jealous of the Bethany deal she is losing it and picking fights with you. I think she is headed for a mental breakdown. Nothing she is doing is working. How can you hold an event and fight with a person where everyone could here. It was so obvious that she is lashing out at Bethany and anyone else who is succeeding
Jill, your doing great. I don't ever want to see you cry over crazy Ramona. There is something wrong with her. And Alex is a complete idiot, but I could not help but feel embarrassed for her when Simon did that song. Looks like the crooner and the model are out of work and can't jump start anything.
But, Jill that is not your problem. Be nice, but do not let anyone walk all over you.
Just remember Romana is so jealous I thought she was going to pass out.
To hell with her. She resents you because you have a great support system in your family. What, she has Mario.....big deal. He isn't all that great. Also she gives advise on other people's children but her daughter is so embarrassed by her mother. Ramona needs to go home and be a wife and a mother.
We hope she leaves the show. Bethany beat her in the game, she and Alex......they are the bad gals. Bethany is pretty savvy, she knew a very long time ago that she would pick up this huge distribution....and it is just driving Romana
Jill, hang in there because you are our fav!!! housewife....
A bride has alot to handle while preparing for a wedding. Deciding who is friends with someone else shouldn't be one of them. I don't think Jennifer had an obligation to tell you who she invited. I'm sure she assumed she invited adults and between Ramona and Alex and then you and the women you were talking to about Ramona and Alex she didn't know firworks would go off. Why did you ask Jennifer on her wedding date why she invited Alex?
Jill, I commend you for extending the olive branch to Alex, and the self analyzation that you've been doing lately. Nice. Just remember that you can't rationalize crazy, so let it be. Please do not become a hypocrite and keep your distance. People are in your life for a reason or a season, and maybe Ramona's time is up in yours. Good luck and stay positive.
Keep being yourself! I love you the best, yes you get caught up in the drama sometimes but it is a Reality tv show. You've moved on with Alex, now move on from Ramona. Ramona is only looking for her 15 mins of drama, don't give it to her.
You always take the bait, which has been set out for you. Don't go to anything-Ramona. You may 1. Have defined Jennifer 2. Put her down... viewers only know what they're willing to buy. Jennifer seems an odd bird to be telling you to your face one thing yet another slang to Ramona...I think the camera bug has bitten her.
I want to know what the camera people say....
you have progressed while some have dIgressed, or stayed the same. take pride in your changes. remember that when people behave without self control- i.e. accusatory, angry, belligerent, hurtful, and so on... it is always about THEM and what is going on inside of them. take solace in knowing that you don't have to lower yourself to such primitive behavior. it's freeing to let go of toxic relationships and keep evolving your life. stay strong.
Ramona's core is right and no, Cindy who raises questions in my mind is not right about that and other things. Ramona is good at heart, core and every which way. Quirky at times but compared to some very, very sane. Say that because Kelly talks of Ramona's frame of mind. Kelly is the one that comes unglued. Kelly has issues not Ramona.
WOW! I can't believe no one has commented yet!
Well, I have to say Jill that you were attacked by Ramona and what Ramona did was completley WRONG. I can see that you have changed and you are really trying to treat people with more respect. You just need to stay out of the drama. Ramona will get what is coming to her. Karma is a B**ch!
You didn't deserve what Ramona did that was so rudddd of her, but whatever she is the only one that came out looking likea fool and at her own party at that!!!!! Love you!!!
Glad you are trying harder this year. I am a big believer in chances. But I am completely surprised you would say you wished people would have made you and Bethenny make up or was it put you in a room together until you made up... I believe they tried to do that but you wouldn't even talk to Bethenny. Interesting...
i wasn't a huge fan of you last season...but i will say in the few episodes you have been in so far this season, i have seen a very positive change in you and it is great!! it seems you are really happy and comfortable in this "new skin" and i wish you all the best. stay true to yourself and all the right people will stay true to you.
Bravo, I'm glad you stopped apologizing. Enough already, maybe you did say it but so what. Ramona is no moral compass or Jill fan. Keep your head up.
So sorry that thing turned out the way they did at Ramona's party. Ramona really should have just asked you if you two could meet for lunch the following week instead of bringing it up in public. You handled yourself with class and should give yourself a pat on the back.
I can see that you have really come along way in trying to deal with people in a different way than you did last year. I think you are doing a wonderful job, don't let the other Housewives pull you down.
Jill, you look fabulous this season! Last season was too much make up for my taste and you look years younger. I have to ask though, having planned a wedding or two myself...how is a bride expected to run a guest list past everyone, including guests? I can't imagine in days leading up to my wedding having to answer to others about my decisions. I would take great care as a good hostess not to seat them together at the reception, but other than that they dont owe anyone an explanation.