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Jill discusses the cocktail party at LuAnn's, and Ramoan's tact.

Apr 28, 2011

Bobby, Ginger, and I just returned home from an amazing weekend in New England. I was honored to be chosen to speak at Brown University's Reality TV Symposium Friday. I listened to students present conference papers, and professors from visiting schools speak about various topics. I learned so much and think maybe I should go back to college for my MBA. Discussing theories and applications was so interesting. It makes me jealous that Ally is in college. I wish I could turn back the clock and retake all of my classes again, knowing now what I didn't know then.

This is the last episode I won't be in ...do you miss me yet?

I can't believe how much happened while I was gone. Looks like Bobby and I chose the right week to take a vacation! I loved the casual cocktail party at LuAnn's house. I actually found it hilarious to watch because it feels much different when you are in one of those scenes. So many comments, digs, opinions. I think watching these scenes will make me even more aware of what I say. My philosophy is that you can't have zero tolerance for people. I am happy to see Alex has learned that too, and forgives Sonja -- or at least let's things slide. Life it too short to hold grudges. Though without them, who would watch the show? It would be so boring!

I think Sonja meant well trying to bring Kelly and Ramona together but I don't think she realizes the deep pain Kelly still carried from Scary Island. Ramona promised Kelly she would be safe and protected by her on the trip. Kelly didn't want to go and Ramona begged her. Kelly will never forget what Ramona did to her, not just on the island but calling her names after the trip. With friends like that who needs enemies. Kelly's motto to just be polite will suit her well. Kudos to Sonja for trying though.

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I love you Jill

Jill ,yes, miss you!How did you ever become friends with ramona?

Jill:

You have come full circle. Don't be mean to Alex. Luann is right. She found her voice now, shut up. I am so proud of you. Good luck to you, Bobby and Ally..

i thought the same thing when i seen all of them without a helmet. my son got hurt on one too and it way smaller than the ones they were on.now i dont let anyone ride without one. im glad last year hummbled you jill. i like the new jill much more. i think you got carried away with the camerea. welcome back

Jill:

Last season you made me mad but I love your spirit. Housewives of NY is my favorite housewives series because you and all the women just say it like it is. The one thing different about NY segment is I see the NY work for what they have and do so many philanthropy work. I just love you all and you know what Jill you just say your opinions out loud -- I truly don't believe you mean any harm. You are so misunderstood. Hannah from Portland, OREGON

Jill,

YES - missed you while you were gone! Agree with how Ramona handled herself at Cindy's party - very classless. Even at LuAnn's, the digs were there. She does need to take responsibility for her actions, along with Alex. I feel that Simon & Alex were wrong with how they handled themselves at the march. They ask Sonja to be the Grand Marshall & she requested, that only if she were the only one from the Housewives group speaking. She was upfront about her request, Simon being in her face, along with Alex before she was to give her speech really rattled her & the speech she gave suffered. But Simon's speech was even worse & not about the march. I do not blame Sonja for throwing her out - reminds me each & every time Alex confronted you (mean girl). Not the time or place. I do not feel that you owe Alex much - she is using it to get more camera time. Ramona said & did far worse things on the show to Alex & Simon than you ever did.

I do feel that everything with Bethany, you should feel bad & reflect on & learn from it. She did use you, but can really see how hurt you were when she was not around to support you during Bobby's illness. You were reacting from the hurt & you lost that friendship. This is the only one that you should apologize for. You have grown & I am so proud of you. I no longer watch anything with Bethany because she is not the same. I loved how you both had so much fun on the show - nothing mean, you were having fun & both very witty. It was not boring (I do not need the drama). You are a positive, fun, caring woman & mother. Can not wait for next weeks show. Stay strong!

Miss you Jill! Cant wait to see you next week!

JILL DID YOU WATCH THE ROYAL WEDDING NOTICE THE WHITES

Right on with the helmet comment! PHAT - Protect your Head at All Times! As a skier, these are words we live by and raise our children by. One accident is one too many. Welcome back, Jill!

I do not understand why you continue to blame everyone else for Kelly's behavior on "scary island". Even Luann saw that Kelly instigated a lot of negative activity on that trip, which she expressed on the reunion show. Let it go already!!! Just because she is your friend does not mean she is always in the right. I do give Kelly credit for keeping her distance from Ramona. She obviously is trying to avoid potential confrontations, so if she chooses not to be around someone she really does not care for, good for her! The 2-week break with you not on the show was great!!! If you were "really" Ramona's friend you would talk with her privately about your concerns pertaining to her drinking before noon. Come on Jill, please live by your on words, and quit talking about what a great friend you are and just be a good friend.

Helmet: EVERY HORSE, EVERY RIDE.

You are spot on regarding the helmet. Christopher Reeve was injured while riding a horse. I am a spinal cord injury survivor and I don't wish that experience on anyone. Helmet hair is a small price to pay for safety!

I watched all the Scary Island shows and I thought Ramona DID try to help Kelly. You can't always save someone from themselves. As far as I'm concerned she has nothing to forgive Ramona for. It was Ramona's trip and Kelly was the guest causing the ruckus. It's good that you're having Kelly's back but try being supportive of her without blaming others for her troubles.

Jill, you are always right on. Come back soon, show is no good without you! Can't wait to read your book, because you have great mother instincts. Can't wait to see you next week!

I do not understand how Kelly can have "deep pain" about "Scary Island". Kelly acted badly toward everyone on the island and she acted like a victim afterwards. If Kelly were anyone else and not your friend you would not be so willing to excuse her behavior.

oh yes, and by the way...I missed you last night!

I agree with the helmet comment. I wondered the same thing. Really nasty and inappropriate to insinuate Ramona has a drinking problem in your blog. It's one thing to comment in private, but on the blog was out of line.

Jill, I really did miss u. So glad you will be back next week. Wish I had seen you in Providence as I live 12 min. Outside the city. Look forward to the rest of the season!

Jill, you were truly missed on the last two episodes Really, Luann and the others don't hold a candle to your nastiness and bad treatment of others , especially behind their backs. Luann comes close, but you are the Queen.

Have the best time in Chicago and I hope the good weather holds out for you while you are here!

i need me some jill!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey Jill! Be sure and check out the color of Kate's Bridesmaid dress!!!

Hi Jill, I miss you and I can't wait for you to be in the next show. I love LuAnn, and Kelly, but glad you are coming back. I think you have change a lot and trying to be a better person and for that I am very proud. Alex should forgive you or just move on and stop talking about it. No one is perfect and we must forgive in order to to go foward in life. Wish You The Best!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I completely agree Jill! Where were the helmets? That scene made me cringe....If I was there I would have flipped....

Also, I too have noticed Ramona's need to drink once she walks into a social environment or perhaps as you stated before noon. Just look at the expression on her face when she asks "Where's my Pinot"? She almost goes into convulsions.....

Amen on the ATV safety comments! I felt very uncomfortable during that scene!

I missed you this week!! So last season I wasn't your biggest fan but you have changed my mind! You seem so much more mellow and happy. I commend you for not losing your cool even when alex was peppering you with pointless questions. She is so annoying. Props to you!

Em

In reference to Lynn from Chicago, perhaps YOU could teach HER (by YOUR actions and words) how to let go of her psychotic grudge against you. That would be a miracle and quite frankly, a real change (for the good) might actually come about.

How did Kelly become the victim at scary island? She was the one who created all the havoc. You are trying to rewrite history...and you're very good at it.

Right on, Jill, about Ramona missing (or just ignoring) social cues! I couldn't believe the LACK of class or just plain common sense she exhibited to Cindy's brother, at Cindy's party, in FRONT of Cindy's father! Who does these things? I'll tell you who, someone who is so selfish and self-absorbed that only their feelings matter, regardless of time and place. I cannot abide this behaviour. And she was going to go after Kelly in front of her daughter too! Kudos to Kelly for cutting Ramona off before it got ugly. At least she was thinking about someone other than herself! I find it amazing that Ramona has any friends at all...but I find it even more amazing that she still gets invited to parties! Oh, well, I guess it wouldn't be much of a show without all the conflict/drama. BTW: You're awesome, Jill!

I like who you are this year! Big improvement from last year. But speaking of last year, does anyone really believe that Kelly was bullied on scary island. She was awful to everyone. Stop enabling her to think that its ok to totally be disrespectful and nasty and then say she was bullied when everyone had had enough. Its annoying. Other than that...glad to have you back.

Jill, you were my favorite in Season 1. Actually, because of you I got into the whole Real Housewives shows. You became less popular in my eyes the way you handled the Bethany situation. You seemed to just want to get people on your team, not so much about what the issue was. She wasn't there when you needed her, but you were there when she needed you. I think you were right about the situation, but you handled it so poorly. I like you this season. You are more calm and wanting to just get along. You have a beautiful life. And I think you realize that you should enjoy it, and let the others have the drama. Keep up the good work. You are awesome! A great business woman, wife, mother, and socialite!

What I like about you is that you can admit your mistakes and you can forgive. What I dislike most about Kelly is that she can NEVER admit she was in the wrong and just distorts and denies reality. You are growing while she is spinning further and further into her own delusion and being very hurtful along the way. I have no idea why you are so protective over her after you saw the way she treated Bethenny. Bethenny had just lost her father and was pregnant! Kelly could have caused her to have a miscarriage she was being so destructive and hurtful! Kelly loves to "kiss up" and you and Luann have fallen for that!

I'm excited to see you sit down and talk with Alex next week. She has had such an attitude with you it's annoying. I don't understand how she can forgive Bethanny for calling Simon 'disgusting' with a straight face but she can't get over you jokingly and laughingly talking about her kid being silly. LOVE YOU JILL! You really have grown.

I miss you Jill!!! I am glad you will be back next week.

Jill, miss you on the show. Does it bother you that Ramona says terrible things - worse than you - but people still like her while so many people hate you? And is it true that you had a face-lift in Australia? You're beautiful and don't need to go under the knife.

miss you Jill ur the only reason I watch!

JILL! We are so ready for you to come back! Missed you!

The choice of color for bridesmaids and flowergirls dresses is up to the bride, and that choice is bound by personal choice not etiquette. Etiquette does apply to guests (ala Alex and Ramona) and white is not appropriate unless approved by the bride. If you find a picture of a GUEST at the Royal Wedding who wore white please post it. You should be able to find one on the Worst Dressed page of any english newspaper. Layoff

I agree with the helmet comment. Anyone riding ATVs should always wear a helmet. I'm somewhat baffled about you thinking Kelly was a victim on the island last season. She has some emotional problems and doesn't really seem to be "in this galaxy" most of the time. I really don't watch much this season, because of Kelly. What she says most of the time makes no sense!! She also puts in her digs during her interviews, and then wants everyone to believe she doesn't talk about anyone, give me a break. When she leaves the show, I will watch again.

This show is so boring without you! Can't wait until you return! You've always been my fav...even last season when you were not so nice, you were still the most likeable & relatable. Love LuAnn, as well. Ramona makes my eyes want to bug out and Alex just drives me up a wall with her weird facial expressions & her constant need to be acknowledged. Sonja is rubbing me the wrong way with her apparent shallowness (which I didn't see last season) and I'm not sure about Cindy yet. But you have always been, and continue to be, my favorite! Love to your Bobby & Ally.

I missed you Jill...looking forward to having you back on the show...now if Ramona and Alex can go on vacay and miss some episodes that will make the show GREAT!!!!

Jill , I have nothing but admiration for you this season - last season that was not the case. You have proven that you can learn from your mistakes, and have been a big enough person to own them and learn from them. The other girls should take a lesson. You've got integrity and I'm a fan.

Jill you did nothing wrong last season and don't need to change...you were hurt with Bethany's lack of consideration when your husband was sick...lets not forget ALL the things you did for her, didn't see Ramona putting her up in the Hamptons.Everyone ignored the part on the boat when Kelly walked away from the table the minute the other ladies started to shred you...they had a giggle at her not being able to open the glass doors...that was when they decided SHE was their target! This season I hope you realize your true friend in Luann...let Ramona have the wanna be's Simon and his wife. Stay true to who you are.

I watched the reunion show and you told Alex "we are not friends we were never friends and I am OK with that" so what has changed. And BTW that is the same thing Kelly told Bethany......funny!

I'm so glad you're back! I missed you!

you need to change nothing about you

Hi Jill, You are the most genuine person on the show. Stop apologizing for who you are to Bethany and Alex. They are nothing but troublemakers with troubled pasts and don't deserve your friendship. They are beneath you. Alex, Bethany, and Ramona are all backstabbing trailer trash who need to read the countess's book on etiquette.

Yes you were missed! Glad you are back. Hope you and Bobby had a wonderful trip!

Love you! You're sweet to apologize for things that should have just be let go by Alex. Don't change! You don't need to! You're perfect as is! Can't wait to watch you tonight!