Jill Zarin

Jill reflects on the season's big events and discusses Ramona's AA comments.

on Aug 2, 20110

Can you believe how fast season four went by? I can't believe it is over. What a season it was! Morocco, LuAnn's music video, meeting and befriending Cindy, and the craziness. So many memories, some good, some not so good, but I try to be myself and believe that I am doing my best to be the best person I can be. Do I always succeed? Of course not. But we are all human. All of us.

I'm still rather upset with Ramona. Not at the fact that she was inaccurate about whether I am an alcoholic or not. But the fact that she found it completely fine to "out" someone in a program that is anonymous. I worry about how this will affect people watching this who may now fear going to AA and get help with their problem. Ramona claims that she did not know that AA was Alcoholics "Anonymous." I find that hard to believe. She knows she is wrong. Why can't she just own up to it?

On my website I have already received letters from people showing concern over her careless words. This is horrible. There is no shame in going to AA, whether it is for yourself or to support a friend or a loved one.

248 comments
Blip
Blip

Hi Jill !

I wish you'd come back to the show - Some people say you're mean but I just don't see how being honest is mean. I couldn't believe how disgusting Ramona, Bethenny and Alex were to you in Season 3. You should have your own show!!!

tanyakat
tanyakat

You are such a child, a brat really. I'm still watching the series nr 3, and what i can say is that you just  came from being a funny and rather friendly person to a snaky idiot like your newest friend the countless. While friends with Beth..i could see that you could be 'saved' but from nothing u became a monster injected with poison. U have no personality. U change accordingly with the people that surround u. If they´re ok, u are ok, if not..Uiiiiiiii

scarlettsknittingnanny
scarlettsknittingnanny

Hill I wish you were back on the show. It's not the same with out you. I can not stand Avia and her father. I feel so sorry for Avia,s husband, no one in the world deserves a wife like her. I hope Bravo comes too their senses and asks you back on the show. Hope you and. Ramona can make it up. She speaks before she thinks at times. Good luck for the future.

Mizzurah2
Mizzurah2

Jill, I was so wrong.  You were absolutely right about Bethanney.  Her relationships are all about business, nothing more.  Now she's used and discarded Jason.

Mdr1961
Mdr1961

Bravo, get rid of Heather and bring Jill back.

francesca1
francesca1

Why is Jill not included in the current series being shown in the UK ?

I reslly miss you Jill...will you be coming back ?

Tommiesgirl111
Tommiesgirl111

Jill, I just wanted to thank you for making each day better. Here in the UK they are re-running your programmes.

 I have watched regularly as I have been unable to get out due to ill health for the past 4 yrs.

 I watch as you face all the challenges life is throwing at you and you do so with dignity. I think you have had many personal challenges with Bobby's health ( I think he is wonderful you are so suited), you have had the challenge of your daughter just growing into a beautiful young lady, losing your  friendship with Bethany, as well as all the things your so called "Friends" and the press keep throwing at you,

Thank you for showing me that there are still beautiful people in this world and by that I mean people who are charitable, giving, forgiving and yet always trying to improve themselves. Nothing is too much for you to try, sometimes your efforts are in vain but mostly you show people that wealth is not what you have in your bank account but what you have in your heart.

You are a lovely lady, thank you for brightening my days.

anne46angel
anne46angel

I think you are the best housewife, Alex really loves to stir things up and twist things to her way of thinking, I also like Jill as she is always saying we are all human and can all make mistakes. Never change Jill.

 

kala1
kala1

Jill zarin will always be no 1 housewife in new York

RunnerChickOH
RunnerChickOH

I am so hopeful you will be a part of the season 6 cast! It was such a disappointment that that you weren't on the show this past season.

Girl1510
Girl1510

Jill I think you are so cool and respect peoples opinions have you made up with Ramona????

Caggie
Caggie

Jill you are really like, a good person..only a nosey one! but hey you just cannot seem to have control over it,its just who you are. I do love to watch you i must say(my guilty pleasure..hehehe) I do love you and BOBBY:) together your both so sweet together:)|Shame you could not see your faults regarding Bethany(By the way love her) and how Ramona really tried...o well people are different!You do like the underdogs i noticed sorry but its true! I think its B'cos you like to be the mother hen which is not bad but try and back off a bit it will do you more good, i still think you are a good and nice person though...just a bit too into people's business so cool it really girl:) Wish you and your family all the very best.

Smallwoman
Smallwoman

I also watch H .W.O. N .Y.....and I was very shocked that Jill did not see that it was partly her fault were Bethany was concernd ..after all she did tell the girl she was done ,and in front of LuAnn ..which was not very nice for Bethany !!!! She was very upset ..so I say get a life and make up with your friend (true friend) Bethany ..x

francesca1
francesca1

I also live in England and I watch RHNY. So sad that Jill & Bethenny aren't friends anymore, life is short and friendships are precious, is there no prospect of you two making up ? I love Bobby, he's my favourite man on the show, he's sensitive and discreet and never badmouths anyone. Jill you are SO lucky to have him. xxx

betty1
betty1

hi   i live in england and ive just recently started watching housewifes, and i was shocked to learn that jill and bethenny were no longer friends so i followed a few blogs and was amazed at the amount of people who were saying such horrid things about this. from what i have seen on housewifes jill is the most real person on the show and to attack her is just terrible i love her xx

Monica
Monica

Bravo, give Jill her own show for goodness sake!

mother of 5
mother of 5

Hello jill, I have been a fan since day one. I must say this week watching the new housewives and not seeing you was a BIG dissappointment. I love all of bravo's real housewives however watching this new season was SAD. I hope you return because honestly don't think I will be watching NEW YORK until you do. I've never thought I would feel this way but I just had to say it. Please answer when they call you to beg you to come back PLEASE..

kcfrommissouri
kcfrommissouri

I wouldn't worry about what Ramona says, or that people would actually be persuaded by something she would say. She's ignorant. I always loved watching you. I'm sad you won't be on the next season. Best of luck in life!

Top1viewet
Top1viewet

Jill, I agree with the comment from Patti B R on March 29th..... NY lost another fan if you are not on the show.

Viewer
Viewer

It is so refreshing to see that you will no longer be part of the show. Best thing that has happened to New York. That and Kelly leaving also.

Patti BR
Patti BR

New York lost a fan. I won't watch it without you!!!!

elizabethj59
elizabethj59

Jill.. hold your head up.. i have watched all the *housewives* series.. i think you were the only one true blue to urself Bobby adores you.. be thankful you have him you are beautiful, strong minded and honest ur sense of humour is refreshing.. i think u put up with more crap on that programme than u should have you have more class than the Countess.. chin up luv.. ur beaut

Sam64
Sam64

you were so rude to Alex all season because she called you out for being a mean girl. Bethany just came out with a new book and is a mega millionaire now. You could have been part of it but you were too stubborn and mean and then later wanted to make it all better....too late. You get what you give girl.

Dee Dee
Dee Dee

Jill, You seem to be the only honest and sane one on the show...Good luck to you...I'm done watching crazy Ramona...She is an absolute lunatic...

PS: I'm sure Ramona's husband is cheating... He has to go somewhere for some sanity...

amber7777
amber7777

Jill rocks. Love you and I love that you own what you say.

Viewer5953
Viewer5953

Jill, you were the most sane person on the set.....yes, you are rich.....yes, you are gorgeous....yes, you are smart. I don't know how they are going to survive without you. I would rather have seen Ramona and Alex leave. Good luck in whatever you do.....you will be successful no matter what. Not interest in the NY housewives anymore......LOVE Atlanta.

amber7777
amber7777

WHAT is this I am hearing.??????? The show will not be the same without you Jill. You have provided hours and hours of telephone conversations between my mother and I as I recommended the show to her and she is now a "Real Housewives" addict like myself. Dad cannot believe the hours we spend discussing Jill, Ramona, Luann etc. I have to say that I love a straight shooter and you have been that and more. I admire your ability to say how you feel. I always try and surround myself with people who are upfront. I am not so upfront myself so I enjoy watching people who have the ability to confront when need be. I shall not mention names but some people have just become worse with each season and I have to laugh when I watch them "attempt" to vilify people at the reunions. People in glass houses......

Anna D.
Anna D.

Hello Jill:

I don't understand why people want you gone. I think that you are the one that is straight and forward. You are real. Hope that you keep going.

Humble Pie
Humble Pie

Jill, I'll miss you on the show. Your a 'wing nut' at times but you seem to be a genuine individual. I hope you and Ramona continue to work on your relationship because she's a 'wing nut' too at times, but she's good people.

Tracy lee
Tracy lee

Hi Jill,

I have just finished watching the 1st reunion show for Season4, i think you have held yourself really well considering that horrible pop eyed woman Ramona attacking you all the time. The thruth is she is a horrible manipulative diva who thinks she is better than everyone else. The icing on the cake was ordering someone to unpack her luggage in Morocco i mean come on!!! Who do you think you are!!! If you can't unpack yourself then you are a worthless useless human being, what example is she setting for her daughter. I agree that she has a drinking problem and that her husband is most likely cheating on her. I feel sorry for her it can't be a nice thing to go through but she can't act like she is above it all. I also commend you for taking a stand on attacking the kids, what a low blow for Ramona to attack Luann on her kids. Um hellooo i saw her daughters reaction to her 16th party organisation and lets just say the apple does not fall far from the tree.

Anyway i have really liked watching you this season, you are a genuine honest person and i commend you.

chellebelle85
chellebelle85

HI jill

Just finished watching season 4 over here in scotland uk fantastic as always cant wait to get you back on our screen asap! xx

chellebelle85
chellebelle85

Hi jill

Ive just finshed watching season 4 in scotland uk and i loved every min of it infact all the seasons never disappointed me! i love all the brunettes and think the blondes turned into mean girls! i agree ramona should never have outed anyone in the AA whether there is truth behind it or not she is absolutely classless and one person i wouldnt mind not being in the next season! hope you are back on our screens soon as i have no idea how to fill my time! haha take care keep up the good work xxxx

Mary uk
Mary uk

You were my fav housewife Jill and I enjoyed the show, but I won't be watching anymore it won't be the same without you.

SaraUK
SaraUK

Good riddance! Just feel sorry for poor Bobby having to put up with you.

Hosks
Hosks

All I can say Jill is I wont be watching it anymore, you are what made that programme and without you it is not even worth the time of day. I wish you well in the next chapter for you and your family....

ANGIE uk
ANGIE uk

Hey Jill can't understand why you are being dropped you are great and make the show Bravo need to get you back a d get rid of evil Ramona. Sooo glad Alex as gone she is awful never liked her and that husband of her is so sad going to miss you xx

Viewerkatslater48
Viewerkatslater48

Well i have just started watching this show in the last couple of months and i love it but then i just love new york and wish i could stay longer than a week when i visit . jill i liked u when i first watched but when u turned on poor Betheny ohh that was really mean and Miss posh snob Luppy lu ann well u picked a wrong one in her why didnt u see she was so jealous of ur friendship with Bethany everyone else did but i will miss u on the next show and u have a great hubby in bobby hope u have a good life together

Satori
Satori

Going to miss you Jill!1 You're amazing!! I'm no longer watching the show now that you're not on it. Ramona is ridiculous and if she got you booted off the show, karma will pay her back with a sour bottle of Pinot!

 Josie Dee
Josie Dee

Going to miss you. I've gone from blonde to redhead after watching those three blondes ! Cannot believe women behave the way they do. They wouldn't last long here in Britain. I would like to say that I will not be watching anymore but I really want to see them get their comeuppance. May good things happen for you in the future. All the best.

rachelcaiger
rachelcaiger

i am from the uk and love watchin real housewifes we are still in the middle of series 4 and u are amazin. u and luann are true people and if i was u i wouldnt listen to ramona and alex i think they are crazy and live for aguements and are very annoyin how they dnt just shut up and listen to other people. i think they try and make u look bad but instead they make themselves look stupid... u are ten of them and if u talk to ramona tell her to stop makin her eyes pop out of her head its not healthy... love u and gud luck xxxx

Marks wife
Marks wife

Hello Jill, Well I read your blog and was very disappointed to see that you still want to blame everyone else for your actions. You have changed A LOT from season to season. I still think that you need to sit down and watch the shows starting with Season 1 up to now and see how YOU have changed and stop worrying about everyone else. You started off being nice and helping others, like Alex and her husband by sending them to the school for their boys. but you have become quite evil with your nasty comments. I am a STRONG believer that just because a person may have MORE money or HIGHER education does NOT make you a better person than everyone else. (do you hear that LUANN) You seem to get caught up with LuAnn attitude and go with it. That just isn't how I live my life. Anyone that knows me, knows NOT to try and influence how I feel about others. I judge them for myself. I don't get caught up in a group of gossipy women, that don't have anything positive to say about others. The world is filled with all types of people and I accept people for the way they are and enjoy getting to know them all. You might just learn something from one of them, instead of feeling that because you have money and feel you and LuAnn have MORE class that you are better than others. Your actions prove you're not. Your husband seems to have a good head and on his shoulders and hopefully he is honest with you and gives you advice and honest opinions of your actions during the show. You USE to be my favorite on the show, but I have found myself drifting to Housewives of Beverly Hills and away from N.Y. It bothers me because these shows are so popular and it would of been nice if you women would of taken the opportunity to show the gossip/back stabbing women how they SHOULD behave and how to be GOOD/HONEST friends to others. Instead, you showed the negative side of it. I wish I was on the show, you probably all would hate me, because i would get along with ALL of you and not get involved in ANY of the negative back stabbing talks, that all of you have. IF I have a problem with ANYONE I confront THAT person and do NOT discuss with OTHERS. With all the economic problems and all the problems in the world, it would be nice if people would come together to support each other. I was very disappointed in you and I really do hope that you watch EVERY show from EVERY SEASON. ALONE, without LuAnn sitting there making her NEGATIVE comments and with a open mind and see how YOU acted. Think about it, IF you were POSITIVE with all the others, there would be no reason for them to be negative back. I truely feel that Alex just wanted to be accepted by you. You REALLY DIDN'T give that a chance. it wasn't long before you were back stabbing her and then were totally rude with her. I always do a self check on myself and ask myself if I handled things right? I watch these housewives show as a learning tool of how NOT to be with others. I hope ONE of the ladies on ONE of the housewives shows steps up and TRIES to change it around. I have to say the one that comes to mind that appears to do that is Adrienne from Housewives of Beverly Hills. I am glad that you do take the time to read these comments. But I hope you START reading them with a open mind and not in a way of DEFENDING yourself to what we all have to say. I was born in Beverly Hills and lived most of my life in Orange County, California in case you're wondering who is speaking and if I have a high enough class for you.

Mary Dowds
Mary Dowds

Jill you are the BEST!! Will not be watching now your gone......

observer 101
observer 101

I have heard your not in the series any more :( You and LuAnn were the most interesting housewives. I have to say imvery glad alex has gone she has been so mean and jealous throughout the series. Good look for your future.

trishanc
trishanc

Hello Jill, I have watched the show from the beginning and you and Bethaney were my favorites. I agreed with Bethaney that you wanted to be her friend when she was struggling but your feelings changed toward her when she became successful. Your "character" or personality changed in the next season and I don't know if others (producers) instigated the change but it wasn't pleasant to watch. I think a lot of these "reality" shows don't portray the "real" people. I think your husband is wonderful and your relationship with your daughter is great so consider yourself blessed. Out of all the housewives I feel you were the most misunderstood. Fame seems to be a double-edged sword and it's better to be remembered as a loving, kind person with a family that loves you for who you are and not who you appear to be on a show that is edited and you are forced to interact with people you would probably would not be with otherwise. I liked your wit and personality (most of the time) and really enjoyed watching you with your family. Especially Bobby. Good luck to you and your family.

Louise Stoner
Louise Stoner

Love, love, love watching the real housewives of NYC!!! Jill you are my favourite wife to watch - love your family and your little dog ginger. Be true to yourself and dont hold back! Wishing you well in your future projects.

Margaret Leonard
Margaret Leonard

Hey there, I live in Glasgow, U.K so we are only on the end of the 3rd season and i am so looking forward to the 4th one, I personnaly think you are by far the best HW, I thought that from the very first ep, we are lucky over here because we get an episode every day, I think you are my favorite and Alex is my least favorite, I dont like her at all, hav'nt from the instant i seen her and Simon, i'm sorry to say that but it is the truth. I love and adore your Bobby...is he not just the lovliest man on the planet...he is sooo sweet and the way he looks at you...melts my heart, i love that you both are so in love with each other.I hope to see more of you in the next season. I also like Luu Ann and Bethany, even though Bethany was a bit hard on you.

english-rose
english-rose

Jill, Thank you, thank you, thank you for a superb series. My daughters and I sky+ each episode so we dont miss a thing and you are without doubt our favourite housewife. We love your outspoken honest nature, as they say you get what you see, we have cried and laughed with you all throughout. We love Bobby also, he is so grounded and an absoloute gentleman. I have just finished watching the reunion show and you brought tears to my eyes with the final scene with you and bethany, i hope that she allows you back into her heart again and that you can rebuild the friendship that was so badly damaged. I think you have learnt a valuable lesson not to hold grudges, maybe things would have been different if you had swallowed your pride earlier on but as they say c,est la vie.... My eldest daughter and i are coming to New York for her first visit in a few weeks and i have promised faithfully we will visit your store so she can have her photo taken outside, she is so excited its her dream destination and she cant wait to see the sights. We hope that there will be another series and that you are definately in it, remember some people you just have to let go and move on in life if you want to be happy. much love from Bath, England.

Massey
Massey

Jill, I think you're great. I love the way you're so willing to own your faults and apologise. Bethany is as hard as nails. The way they attacked Kelly on the season 3 finale was disgraceful. If Kelly was having a breakdown they showed her no mercy. I fear for bethany's husband - he'd better watch out for when her unforgiving anger is directed towards him! And who knows what Alex's problem is?!