Kelly Killoren Bensimon

Kelly discusses the differences between an RHONY reunion and a family reunion and chats about the "real" New York.

on Jul 25, 20110

Most reunions are celebrations where people are nervous and eager to see how everyone has evolved. The RHONY reunion show, which is filmed over a full day, in contrast, is literally a free-for-all where women attempt to portray who they think they are. Fortunately, the viewers and I always see through the "pinot-vision."

Where do I start? I was raised by a lawyer and facts always come first. On this show, facts are always railroaded by people's delusion. This is also what makes it so funny, and why I secretly enjoy filming. Last season, we were bombarded by constant infomercials for various products, and I, like you, was confused and offended. This season we are bombarded with situations like burlesque parties, pinot parties, and odd interactions that aren't "what New York really looks like." There are drunk blondes in every city in America, in the Midwest we call them "bar flies." New York is an amazing place that's inspiring on so many levels with endless opportunities and outlets for creative expression. It’s not just me who realizes how tacky some of the women act and look. Most NY women, like most American women, are usually in an office or at places like Chelsea Piers waiting for their kids to finish practice. Seriously? In my opinion, the luckier women in NY are usually very busy being supportive mothers, philanthropists, and standing in line at Whole Foods. Not everyone is hawking their wares and branding themselves during a conversation.

That's why I stick out. I speak my mind with the goal to be effective, but not necessarily always right. Do I want to see a 40-something year old women's vulva? I'm not a gyno, FYI. Do I want to go to an anniversary party and be alarmed by a potential pregnancy from a 54 year-old woman? (P.S. that's half way to 109) These are questions we all have the answers to.

107 comments
Texas Mom
Texas Mom

Hi Kelly,

I think you did great this season. It was so nice seeing the real you and not having someone like Bethanny ruin what your all about. I am also happy that you called Alex & Simon out for who they really are. Alex was just plain rude during the season & the reunion. Good luck!!!

totally
totally

WHEN DOES BEVERLY HOUSEWIVES START????? CANT WAIT.....

Joanne B.
Joanne B.

Hello Kelly, unfortunately I have never seen the show, but I saw you on an episode of Ellen (which I very rarely watch, also...LOL!) but you were talking about the stuffed animal chair you made for your daughter and I was wondering if you had any suggestions or helpful tips to help me out?! I have a wooden rocking chair that was my late mother's and I'd love to use it as the chair. I was planning on hot gluing the animals all over it. Do you have any better ideas or strategies I can borrow?? Thanks so much :)

sehara
sehara

No, no no.... Kelly, last season you were train-wreck crazy, now this year you're just a crazy bi***. Stop trying to speak with intelligence, you just can't pull it off. It's embarrasing....really.

<3 Christine <3
<3 Christine <3

I just have to say Kelly, your response to Alex that "you just don't like it" and "it makes me uncomfortable" ...who gives a flying leap anyway?? Being an adult means dealing with different realities and personalities. Stop expecting everyone to fit into the "Kelly" peg.

tampagirl
tampagirl

You are the queen of contradiction Kelly..... I love how when someone has bothered you,or "hurt your feelings", you are all over them basically begging them to apologize to you for their mistake, BUT, on the reunion Sonja basically told you that what you said to her was hurtful and you should not have said it to the world(you were judging her and you know it), you refused to apologize and down played everything that you said to defend your actions.......Hello, miss contradiction, I have never seen you on the show admit guilt on your part only defense and the "I'm nice bit", grow up Kelly and live in grown up world for once. You are a big baby and now everytime you speak on the show its like fingernails on a chalkboard. And by the way no I'm not jealous of you, I am an extremely successful and beautiful woman who finds you obnoxious, no wonder you are single!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Susie G.
Susie G.

All of the brunettes ROCK, however, what is up with THOSE blonds? They don't appear to have a genuine bone in their body. Being married to the military for twenty two years I have experienced all types of people, but these "ladies" take the cake.

CalleyCreed
CalleyCreed

Kelly, You never say I'm sorry when you say something hurtful or inappropriate. Instead you say I appreciate that when someone points it out to you. This is not being nice.

OC Deb
OC Deb

Didn't like you much last season but find myself actually seeing a saner, more outgoing, more likeable Kelly this season. Love the fact that you've become friends with Jill and LuAnn.

DCViewer23
DCViewer23

You need to get a life and get off this show. You are such a contradiction. You have no problem posing nude for playboy, yet you are offended when you see a nude woman, not not vagina, Kelly--get your parts straight. You are such a airhead that I cannot wait till you are 54, halfway to 109?!!! I'll bet you will have had a LOT of work on your face. You already look older than you are so you should not throw stones. And this branding talk...you're the only one not smart enough to get the most out of this experience. Oh, that's right, you are a kept woman, even though you criticize those that have done the same thing you have. You live in an apartment that you did not work for, get paid for not working, get alimony--did you WORK for that?..and so on. If you continue to stay on the show and criticize those that have done or are doing the same things you have done, I will quit watching the show. So tired of you. Are your daughters going to be models like you? Watch out for those jellybeans!!

Kallypso
Kallypso

As always, you're my favorite because of your great human qualities , the beauty inside and out . I liked so much how you manage the others crazies drunk blondies with class and humour . Above all , you deserve to meet a great generous and handsome man who will share the same qualities and who will give you the love you need. I reeally hope to see you next season with great news;)

From the south of France, Kally

amy in april
amy in april

KELLY YOU ARE AWESOME. Some people who watch the show and castigate you are the people who have trouble with reading comprehension. You make perfect sense. I lived in NYC and I know it's a serious city with a serious grind so people don't have time for silliness. You are classy and cool and beautiful, and that's why some women who aren't those things who hate their bodies and are jealous that you have a lot so effortlessly really despise you.

You showed so much grace to Ramona in Morocco. She wasn't nearly as kind as kind to you last year. Ramona suffers from arrested development and anyone who would have her as their hero is a sad individual. GO KELLY!! KEEP DOING YOU!!!

catmp68
catmp68

You are amusing to watch because you are a nut case lol. I'm sure if I knew you personally I would probably like you alot.

cat tree
cat tree

As always never see my posts in defense of the Blondes. Seems the mean girls can only show the good blogs vs the blondes who take the good with the bad, I wouldn't want the brunettes to get any mean tweets. Poor little frightened brunettes. Can dish it but can't take it.

NYC fan
NYC fan

I'm sorry, but I just dont understand how you can watch yourself making those comments about Sonja's house and not see how mean spirited it was. Just say "I'm sorry" and move on.

jerianne
jerianne

Kelly, You were so spot-on in your current blog. Some of the gals are want-to-be"s and the only way they get attention is the negative way. I work with special needs children and this is the lowest level humans use to get attention. They are impulsive and obsessed with planning their next choatic situation. They are never satisfied with calm and serenity. That's a real shame for those around them. Life is too short. I like your positive and some how I get your contradictions and have had similar contradictions, I don't know anyone who is so black/white with their beliefs or convictions. There always can be a grey area. Maybe this comes with your father being an lawyer, they look at things from all sides! Take care!

KNooks
KNooks

Kelly, I was surprised that your blog was so well written. I love the fact that you believe in positive energy. I just can't understand everyone else's negativity on the show. I do believe that you are sincerely nice. Thank god Bethany is not around to bully you any more. I do wish the show would feature more "girlfriend" moments and less hostility.

MissyDuLuth
MissyDuLuth

Thankful that Bravo has you with your dignity and genuine softness in the cast, along with Luanne and Jill. I can only speculate that the others are still included because they represent revenue by spicing up the program with such outrageous decorum. I am continuosly appalled by their ill manners, the constant disrespectful actions toward and the hammering of other castmates.

Alex appears totally appalling whenever she opens her mouth, Romona comes across as downright mean, lacks manners and adult logic, and is an offensively I-Me-My! Unfortunately, Romona and Alex have dragged an interesting cast member, Sonja, into their apparent mean ways.

If I were to select any cast member to be my "friend", it would be you, Kelly, along with Jill and Luanne. You are caring, gentle, value trust and the caring wonders of true friendships. I have and always run, not walk, from the “meanies” of this world. They offer nothing of meaning or lasting value.

J1
J1

Glad to see you got the help you needed. Still more work to do, but you are progressing.

kset
kset

Kelly,

Own what you say. Do deflect, don't deny, own your comments. You never ansewer questions directly and I can't figure out if you're trying to pull a fast one or if you genuinely don't remember bashing people with your comments.

If you are willing to say it, stand by it or apologize if you're sorry for it, but please stop pretending like people are making things up when they confront you with a comment that you made. It's frustrating.

Midwest Viewer
Midwest Viewer

Though, at times, you made more sense then you have in the previous season, you continue to be very flighty. You seldom make sense during confrontations and never own up to any of your mean girl antics. Being a good role model to others is more than pointing fingers towards the bully but also owning up to your own bad behavior.

kayskripac
kayskripac

I got who you were from the first moment I started watching this show. Why do the blondes have such a hard time understanding that you really try to be "nice" and "peaceful". It's like the more you come through as a caring person the crazier they become trying to make you out to be the crazy one! They became even more wacko than anyone could imagine. I also understand how easy it is to be afraid of sharp-tongued girls. Sometimes I'm more afraid of words than being punched in the stomach.

Hanna K
Hanna K

Sometimes I have to rewind after you have spoken because you confuse me so much.

debbieinmissouritx
debbieinmissouritx

Kelly, you are bright and intelligent and you always make sense to me. Continue to Ignore Alex -- she is just very jealous of you because you are beautiful and intelligent

minnesota rhw
minnesota rhw

team kelly, jiill, luann! Romona and Sonja should return next year too. Alex and Cindy need to go.......

becky C.
becky C.

Kelly, you are the best. And I love how you now feel more comfortable stopping the madness of other people's antics.

You are perfectly sane, and you demonstrate it best when you close the door on the Alex noise!

TresCher
TresCher

Kelly, I believe strongly that you have Asperger Syndrome. It's nothing to be ashamed of; my step-granddaughter has AS and I love her. The reason I am writing this is that there are effective ways of helping people with AS. Asperger is a form of high functioning autism. The difference is that people with AS have language and autistic people general do not or have only a little. But the person with AS gives and receives communication differently than someone who develops typically. The person with AS interprets words and phrases literally, and so they have trouble understanding jokes, figures of speech, metaphors, etc. On the yacht last year, Bethany was making a joke when she said you all could stomp on grapes to make wine. You took her literally and insisted that she not stomp on your grapes in the refrigerator. This is why you didn't understand the phrase making lemonade out of lemons. At a bar, LuAnn asked you "When do you take your hair down?" This phrase is a figure of speech for the idea of "When and how do you relax and have fun?" But you interpreted her literally and unfastened your hair from the clip holding it on top of your head. People with Asberger's also have trouble understanding emotions, what they mean, how do people look and act when they have them, etc. People with AS also have difficulty interpreting nonverbal language, like body language. This is why you had such a hard time conversing with and connecting with the women last year and sometimes this year. A typical persons intuitively understands hundreds of messages sent by body language each day. Without this understanding, your conversation does not flow naturally, you don't have the necessary "give and take" when talking, you don't listen to others, care about their feelings, you don't pick up on social etiquette, etc. I'm saying all of this to help you. If you and the other women and BravoTV could recognize that you have Asberger's, everyone would care about you and help you. It could be your "platform" like Jill's platform of children's diabetes. Good luck!

darlingshoe
darlingshoe

Kelly, sometimes you amaze me and sometimes you confuse me. But I like you and this season you are much more together than before.

marv2842
marv2842

kelly...please be quiet. you were ridiculous at the reunion just like all the others. i can't believe that bravo put that on television. you guys behaved like animals.

rhguiltypleasure
rhguiltypleasure

kelly...love love loved you this season. team brunette....rules over bottle blondes

sweiswurm
sweiswurm

Wow I thought I would never say this as a blonde (who pays a lot of money to stay that way) but TEAM BRUNETTE'S!

BettyB
BettyB

Kelly, we think you're awesome. You make more sense than any of the blondes. Ramona gets rude and obnoxious when someone is speaking, Alex and her husband are off the chain, and Sonja is just a loosey goosey. We love the midwest values!

George888
George888

You are such a great person!! Keep it up:)

Deny
Deny

You may have been voted one of the nicest people.... but you are still STRANGE!

Las Vegas Housewife
Las Vegas Housewife

Hi Kelly,

Love your positive outlook on life. It's a nice feeling to have. You should only surround yourself with people that make you feel good.

Can't wait for next season.

Team Brunettes !!! XO

LWR
LWR

I LOVE SONJA!!

Calico1900
Calico1900

The voice of reason? A peacemaker? Oh, how I love irony!

jce
jce

love you and jill!

Micky d
Micky d

Kelly your the best. I would have went crazy with that group last year too. This year you proved there is no such thing as a pecking order. What a stupid comment that was. You and Lou Anne are the best.

Viewer--Pinot :)
Viewer--Pinot :)

Kelly, You are refreshing to watch on the show!! You are NOT a bully like some of the other housewives! Some of the other girls seem to have forgotten how cruel they were to you last season—you saying someone is weird is a compliment compared to how you were treated last season! You’re my favorite! Go Kelly and go team brunette!!!

cjindallas
cjindallas

Love you Kelly. Try to steer clear of the others drama and you'll be much happier. You're the most down to earth of them all!

Keyumdikatt
Keyumdikatt

Kelly, I liked you more this season, but I think you put yourself in other people's business way too much. Sad to see you were on Team Gossip.

Junebug02
Junebug02

Kelly,

I liked you on this show for the most part. I think you definitely acted as peace maker in Morocco and helped to squash some nasty fights but I think the comments you made about Sonja are deplorable and you should be ashamed of yourself. You act like the "nice" girl (btw - who says "I won this award") but in reality you said some very catty things behind the girls back that hit WAY below the belt.

Niki12345
Niki12345

Kelly,

You aren't NICE, for once listen to Alex, she makes sense, unlike you back in KELLYLAND you go!

 pippie
pippie

Kelly, You ARE NICE !!! Just stay away from the NASTY, MEAN, CRAZY, #@%$............ At the end of the day ...I think you and your dark haired friend's sleep well at night. I don't think the "blonds" can say the same. Stay authentic ... Wishing you the best.

Viewer from Maryland
Viewer from Maryland

Wow, you accuse the others of being delusional. But you are the Queen of Delusion. Even when you are confronted with words you actually said, you feign delusion. Too bad you left your jelly beans at home.

Avalon
Avalon

You go girl, glad to see you don't let "the mean girls" bully you anymore. Keep believing in yourself, you're fantastic.

alleycatt
alleycatt

I'm not sure who called you the voice of reason this season, but hun, reasonable, you are not. This probably wont get posted, but some one has to be completely honest with you. You preface your mean comments with concern. You think that by saying before you totally crap on some one that you are concerned about them makes crapping on them nice. It doesn't. Boo, it is still mean! You can't call people dirty and disorganized and then boast about how nice you are. Come on crazy kelli, the docs need to up your meds.

ccjs
ccjs

You and Cindy are the most real of the housewives. The others, except Luanne, remind me of bad classeless high school girls. Just leave the blonde witches alone.

momma2lillie
momma2lillie

Love Love Love you, best housewife hands down. You are a very nice person.... I heard you on Cosmo radio and even while you were spinning you were nice. Hope to see you next season and hear you more on Cosmo.