Welcome back to RHNOY!
To clear the air, we weren't moved back because we were too boring, we were moved back because we had a new group of Miami mamas Bravo wanted you to see.
Honestly, this season of RHONY is off the drama charts. The ladies are in rare form throwing verbal daggers everywhere. Get your shields out!
I learned one valuable lesson last season: if you don't navigate well with dramatic situations, ZIP IT! What did I get out of sticking up for myself on Season 3? Nothing! When in drama or doubt, walk away, leave a room, or remove yourself. The biggest lesson I learned was to remove myself from conflict. Engaging in conflict does not get you anywhere, especially when you are on a TV show.
I get a lot of slack for living in "Kellyland." Why on earth would I want to hang out in "Negative Town," when I can work hard, love my girls, have fun with my friends, and be the best I can be?
Good begets good. Try as hard as you can to disassociate yourself from "Debbie Downers" and "Negative Nellies." Hang out with those who love and support you. Trying to befriend those with issues is like staying in an abusive relationship.
Life is too short. Living well and having fun are the best revenge.
Welcome back, follow me on @kellybensimon. Ask me anything you want, and please give me constructive criticism. I want to be the best Kelly I can be. Just don't mention my height, for I can't do anything about being 5'10"!
And, get ready for my sixth jewelry line, launching at the W hotels this April from $50-150. I want you to look and feel as hot as you possibly can.
You seem much more centered this year...you only have crazed Ramona and Alex to watch out for....Bethenny is too busy to coach them.
Kelly, stay yourself, you're so cool!! I too have negative people in my life...my sisters. Can't get rid of them. When I try to walk away from the drama they criticize me. So I decided to just not give a sh**! I do my own thing and just don't care what they say. Took me a long time to get to this place but I'm much happier!!!
p.s. I am also 5'10". Love when people look at me and say "you're so tall". No really, I didn't notice. Thanks for letting me know. Hahahaha!!
Glad you all are back! I've seen you on other shows promoting RHONYC and I don't understand why you can't just say that you did go through something personally last season that was really hard. Be honest. I think you promote and see yourself as an honest person, but you blame "scary island" on everyone else. Take responsibility for your actions. We all have difficult times and grow from them and move on. You seem to be in a much better place now. I hope you are!
Loved your blog. Staying around people who you are relaxed with and get along with is great advice. Just remove yourself if a situation starts to get too intense. Not worth it, right?
Your girls are beautiful and so are you. All the best.
For real Kelly - you remove yourself from negative situations? You love TV and the spotlight just as much as others or you wouldn't be on the show at all. Give me a break.
Kelly, i think you meant to say that you get a lot of Flack for living in Kellyland! Slack means just the opposite. Those types of comments keep the wacky perception of you alive, but I think it's charming!!
Hermes Pillows, I love your pillows on your pink couch and really on your bed. That is what you should prmote, your own version of those pillows for the home, of course at a lower cost. What other scarves would you recommend using other then Hermes scarves , any tips, I would love to do the same for my white bed to add interest. Thank you Jude
I don't think you were crazy last season. I think you tried to sabotage the trip and it backfired on you. If you want a career as successful as Bethenny's then you need to be open. Why isn't it you? Because you are very closed and don't let the people really get to know you. They only see the shallow and superficial that you allow them to see. If you are going to do reality TV, then you have to let it all hang out.
I AM SO HAPPY YOU ARE BACK ON THE SHOW.
You are truly a very nice person. DON'T EVER ALLOW THE HATERS AND CRITICAL COMMENTS UPSET OR CHANGE YOU.
You are beautiful, smart, kind and talented. Be true to yourself and don't give any explanation to people.
Millions of us know that you are a great person.
Don't feel bad about living in "Kellyland", I find it charming! But also don't forget to be take a good look at your life outside of "Kellyland" and be honest to yourself about what you see. You'll find yourself in fewer predicaments when you do.
Good luck this season!
Kelly you are unique and very special. If you would have grown up in the 60s you would have been seen as a free spirit. You are so right about not engaging in the conflicts. You are unarmed and totally vulnerable in those situations. Just remember to not get swayed by Jill's influence in joining her hate club when she focuses on getting rid of anyone that doesn't play on her team. Love and light to you and your family.
You are tall and beautiful and have wonderful daughters. Please try to set a good example for them with reasonable behavior and articulate explanations. Maybe the editing was partly to blame last season, but there were too many of your crazy moments. You probably are not really that way, at least not all the time.
You seem so much more calmer this season. I know it is still early but I am giving you the benefit of the doubt. Just walk away when the drama begins.
Kelly - Welcome back. Loved your scene with Jill and you telling her Alex just wanted to be acknowledged. I know in her blog Alex disagrees but I thought WOW, so right on. I hope this season works out for you how you want it!
I'm sooo glad you're back. You re the only one with enough guts to call Bethenny F. out. Don't let these envious, combative women ensnare you this season. Just be the rockin', beautiful free spirit that you are.
Kelly, I really liked you on this episode, you seemed really down to Earth and calmer this season. Maybe because B isnt on the show anymore? Whatever it is, it's working for you. I'm glad you returned for season 4. Also, loved you on Rachel Ray your chair idea was great. Im excited to see how this season plays out.
There is nothing wrong with living in La La land and disliking negative energy but you do an awful lot of sh*t talking as well, practice what you preach. You are stunning and look way younger in person (my hubby and I saw you at the Matarano's Hollywood opening and he was shocked at your age). Just chill out, you seem very set in your ways and judgemental of others, and seem like you;re not as happy as you profess.
You seemed so calm this episode. Love to see the interaction between you and Jill. I think you ground each other. As you said, don't embrace the drama of the negative nellies. Looking forward to the new season.
I hope everything goes well for you this season. You are a beautiful girl, with gorgeous children, but the problem with you is that you contradict yourself at times. I believe that you had problems last season which would not come out on tv, and that is why you looked upset, angry and confused in the episodes. I hope everything is resolved and I will be watching the shows from Puerto Rico.
God Bless you and your children.
Regards from San Juan, Puerto Rico Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia
JJP, I disagree with everything you said concerning Bethenny/Kelley's relationship...Kelley was very combative with Bethenny but could not handle Bethenny.
Love you Kelly! You're gorgeous and fun, and Columbia educated. Forget what these Negative Nancies say. They're just jealous!!
you are a great mother and have a wonderful personality !!!! I realy think you need to focus on what you want us the (viewers) to know about you and the things you value. You said you dont like nagetive soroundings and gossip. so try to be involved on what is getting recorded and be proactive in this season . your biggest fan emmy
I still don't understand why you would place yourself in situations that are bound to lead to negativity. That's part of the draw of the show! If you like to live a life of tranquility, then why are you on this show? Just wondering.
Hi Kelly! Never change how you look at things! I first got into watching RHNY while I was in the midst of chemotherapy battling cancer and some of the positive things you have said about going through life really helped me. Now that I am doing much better I try to keep everything happy, light and positive and focus on what truly is important. Thank you for being such an inspiration- seriously, you have no idea how much you have helped! Lots of love to you and your beautiful family!
Your a breath of fresh air! After watching Romona and Alex play their childish games first episode, try to stay far away from them!
You claim to dislike all the negativity and trash talk, but only when it was directed at you. You insult Alex going back into modeling by saying that "it just means you are photogenic, it doesn't mean you are pretty" weren't you a model? Can you practice what you preach and be happy for others? You have no problems with discounting Bethenny's career last season (joke is on you) and now discounting Alex's choice to return to modeling? Kellyland seems to have a lot of one way streets.
@Az Iz--Hate to break it to ya, but Bethanny isn't on the show anymore. Might want to pick a new team.
I totally get that you wanted to bring a different personality to the RHNY!! What you thought you could add was less drama and friction. Unfortunately, the world doesn't operate in that manner. I think what I've learned from the shows is that people want to be nasty and talk about others. Now I understand why I've never been the most popular person - the older I get, the nicer and "take the high road" personality just doesn't fly anymore! Too bad they refused to see what you could bring to the show - they pounded you even more for trying to be nice!
I LOVE Kelly land. Why wouldn't someone prefer to live in bliss vs. anger, jealousy and rage? YOU ARE GREAT, KELLY BENSIMON. Love having you back.
THE BRIDE GIVES A HOOT IF THE GUESTS WEAR WHITE OR IVORY. LAST I heard, the bride wears white. It's her day. You wear something else. Period.
You know, all of that was really good advice. However, you keep sticking your foot in your mouth because last season, you created all the drama for yourself! Hopefully you changed from last season.
KELLY, HONNY, LOVE YOUR ADDITUDE! NOW, PLEASE, DO AS YOU SAY AND SAY AS YOU DO OR ZIP IT. DONT EAT JUNK FOOD? YOU LIMIT IT, RIGHT? AND BEING LATE IS EXTREMLY RUDE! YOU SEEM TO BE A BIT CRAZY BUT YOUR ADDITUDE OF LOVE AND HAPPINESS IS GREAT. KEEP WORKING TWARD IT AND SOMEDAY YOU MIGHT GET THERE.
LOVE KELLY BENSIMON. You are ETHEREAL, HAPPY, POSITIVE and full of life. Love seeing you with your beautiful girls, out in the Hamptons and living your life... though, not necessarily around Ramona and that snippity bully Alex. You do not need to bring others down in order to build yourself up. THAT IS A SMART AND SOPHISTICATED WOMAN. AND THAT IS YOU!!!!!!!!!
You should learn how to take responsibility for your behavior. It's not Kellyland vs. Negative Town. It's Kellyland, the path to Negative Town.
Met Kelly while boarding a flight to West Palm in February. She is not only more beautiful in person, she is stunning! Fresh not overly done like on her show. I am wondering if she is the girl on the cover of NewBeauty Magazine Fall 2010 issue?