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Me and My "Class" Mates

Kelly ponders the burlesque party and shares what she and Ally have in common.

By Kelly Killoren Bensimon

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So, Sonja, Avery, and Ramona decide to go to shop for Sonja's burlesque costume at a downtown haunt called, Patricia Fields. (Sonja, Patricia Fields is downtown, are you sure you'll be safe?!!) Patricia Fields is a New York icon and her store has been a haven for nightclub goers for decades. You may know/recognize Patricia -- she was the stylist for the Sex and the City. Why are Ramona, Sonja, and Avery picking out costumes for Sonja's burlesque party? What do you think about Avery coming to pick out burlesque clothes?

I have to be honest, I was not really in a partying kind of mood. It was late on a Friday, I had to get my girls to the beach right after, and it wasn't clear what the point of the party was. We were merely invited to another theme party Sonja was having. Right after Sonja's performance, which was a surprise for sure, I complimented her on how pretty she looked and congratulated her. Sonja said, "I did this for my daughter." It was at that moment when I realized that her performance had nothing to do with self-mockery. It was just another Sonja moment.

As for processing problems, many people deal with grief in a variety of ways. I grieved over my divorce for a long time. I made the right decision for me and my children, but it is very scary to lose all of your friends and the lifestyle that some men afford women, and work to reinvent yourself. It's hard for everyone involved. Personally, I went from protected to exploited. No one really knows the truth about Sonja's issue, and everyone has a story that they like to tell that suits their needs. As friends, all we can do is be there.

LuAnn is a very special woman. I've grown to love her. At first, I was intimidated but her emotional strength and impressed with her ability to weed through the bad seeds. Now, I want to know all the tricks of her trade. I don't need a "moment" with her, we just like to be together and talk, and talk, and talk, and talk. I could listen to her stories all day long. LuAnn has lived an amazing life, and has navigated her transition so well. To her, it's not how her relationship ended, it's how her new chapter begins that's interesting.Jill and Ally. Oh my god. Ally and I are so alike. My mother always used to take me for lunch and shopping. All I wanted to talk to her about was my religion classes, anthropology courses, and urban studies. College is such an amazing experience. Ally is sowing her intellectual seeds, and I love to live vicariously though her. I think I may have worn that shirt to lunch with my mom when I was 19, too.

I just spent the Fourth of July weekend with Ally, Jill, and Bobby. What did you do? Please tell me all about your summer plans and what's on your reading list. I can always use a recommendation.

I'm arduously working on my new book #icanmakeyouhot, and eager to hear of any of your favorite recipes.

And, I just had a jewelry party at Cindy Barshop's Completely Bare salon. Check out my jewelry at Wink, W Hotels, or DASH. KKB style tip: choose a hot and bold nail color to go with your summer look. My favs are Essie's Bachleorette Party or OPI's Summer Margarita.

Until next week, as the Housewives turn.....

Kelly Killoren Bensimon

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