Kelly Killoren Bensimon

Kelly discusses this episode's awkward moments and her love for Jill.

on Jun 23, 20110

Awkward!

I arrived late to Jill's surprise birthday party because I was hosting a party for Parker Pens. They in turn donated 10,000 pens to underprivileged school children. I was honored to be apart of the Parker Pen opportunity, which is why I gushed during my speech -- though you only saw my apology to the guests. Awkward!! I actually got a pen for my college graduation and am obsessed with the written word, and handwritten notes.

Cindy was nice enough to read Jill, the mini "Ode to Jill" I wrote. Jill and I got along the first time we met, and our relationship has endured all of the Housewives craziness. I'm even spending the weekend at her house with my youngest daughter. Sleepover!!!

I never had a Sweet Sixteen party. Rockford, Illinois didn't focus on a party, we focused on CARS. So, who's party did you like best? LuAnn's party for Victoria was teen-centric and looked like fun. Avery shared her party with her mom and her friends. Jill and I both went to both parties, and I found it odd that Sonja didn't support her long time friend, LuAnn.

Happy summer! The girls and I are in the city for a bit as they just finished camp. I'm selling my jewelry that's at Dash, W Hotels, and Wink, and working like crazy on my new book I Can Make You Hot. In the middle of working, the girls and I have been biking in the city, seeing tons of movies (loved Kung Fu Panda), and trying new healthy recipes.

Let me know your fun summer plans!

Kelly Killoren Bensimon

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56 comments
Nicoleturzo
Nicoleturzo

One word I have to describe you..... CRAZY

jamrangerfan
jamrangerfan

Kelly, I'm sorry, but you are just plain old odd and bizzare. I am your age, and I am appalled at your lack of maturity. I don't understand a thing you say. Also, apparently you decided to join the other two mean girls - LuAnn and Jill, and conveniently forgot about your unbelievably bizarre and unstable behavior in St. John's last year. (yes, I know, you blame it on the other ladies). No wonder you have no real girlfriends, who the heck could possibly put up with you. P.S. Did "Santa" fix your tatoo? Wierd, wierd, wierd!

Viewer from Maryland
Viewer from Maryland

You don't like Alex sticking up for Ramona but you do the same for Jill. You are very two-faced. You want people to shut up when you don't want to hear something but you prattle on when you are sticking up for Jilly. I didn't find your explanation of why you LOVE Jilly in your blog. Please try to find your zen place and leave everyone alone.

ejoy390
ejoy390

apperently some of you did't watch the same RHONY that I did. How can you say someone is a good mother on this show when you never see them with thier kids. They are with the nanny or home alone. Tell me again how your the right person to give Ramona parenting advise? I've seen her with her kids more than you or LuAnn with your kids! You, LuAnn, and of course Jill the Magnificent are just a bunch of sad rich girls who have just turned mean, almost like a pack of rabid dogs! When one pounces, you all do even if you don't know what's going on or God forbid it's none of your buiseness! Your remind me of the line in Wizzard of Oz,"If I only had a brain".

Florida_Gal
Florida_Gal

Kelly

Did you intend to say that you have been 'a part of' Parker Pens and not 'apart' of Parker Pens?

It seems to me that Avery's party was teen-centric as well as Avery planned nearly the entire party. And since she is only sixteen years old, having adults nearby at their own party seemed like the right decision on her parents' part.

Perhaps, since Sonja has known Luann much longer than you, maybe she knows Luann better than you. Why did you feel it necessary to make a dig at Sonja? Please don't tell yourself that you are being honest and not making a dig. That's all you have done this season. You've made negative comments about her house, her finances, her housekeeping, her photo session. Why? She was nice to you last season. Oh yeah, except that she still holds to the notion that you went nuts in St. Barts. So does Ramona and so does Alex. Maybe that's your real beef with them.

It's really difficult watching an inarticulate person lecturing others on their behavior. For example, the way you responded to Alex's overly dramatic entrance was painful. There were so many opportunities to make her aware that she was being overly dramatic but you were so confusing that she didn't get it.

Peggygee
Peggygee

OMG! I have no doubt that those who sing your praises are 16 year old's who's brains have yet to fully develope. You are, hypocritical, and completely self absorbed. If anybody's children need someone to talk to it's yours.

teamalex
teamalex

I could really start to like you if you could get past this air of importance you always possess. You seem to live in this bubble and see the world in this happy rainbow puppies colored way, and if confrontation arises, oh lord, reality pops into your bubble and we can't have that. I try to like you, I try so hard, and just when I'm starting to sort of understand where you're coming from BAM! you give a toast at someone's birthday party where the entire time you apologize for being late (repeatedly) and basically transition it into a plug for your charity and end up making the speech about SURPRISE you. Totally tasteless. If your late for an event (and I feel like the only reason you attended was to plug your charity otherwise you would've sent a polite "I'm so sorry but I can't attend b/c of blah, I wish you all the best xo Kelly" later.) apologize to the host and guests privately, not in the toast.... classless.

Pup Pup
Pup Pup

Kelly Girl, I think you need to go back and watch LAST season and your constant complaining about being bullied. Then you can fast forward to THIS year and see what a good job you are doing of bullying Alex! What is wrong with you? Did you get å case of the I run with the big girls now so I can act like a jerk? What has Alex ever done to you? Seriously. It's like being on the playground and watching all the tough girls gang up on the skinny kid. What happened to all the butterflies and lollypops you want the world to believe in? Cut it out! You are not nice and it's very UN-KELLIQUE.

HuntrtGreen
HuntrtGreen

Kelly I often wonder why you and LuAnn are constantly making sure that everyone treats Jill as if she owns New York. You both always ensure that everybody acts the way the two of you think they should act in all things Jill.

It is none of your business if "Simon is tweeting" Jill. Jill can fight her own battles..and if she can't Bobbie will. The two of you "seem" to have nothing to do....Actually what is it that you do? Whenever you are shown on the show it is always in relation to someone else. I know you smile a "wide-toothed" smile a lot. I've seen pictures of you at celebrities' parties always in the vicinity of the celebrity(as Bethenney said)' but what is it that you DO?

zubi2280
zubi2280

Kelly you are mentally unstable and need to leave the show. Someone else more interesting needs to replace you.

zubi2280
zubi2280

My comments are always very honest and genuie; however never posted. Kelly you need to leave the show. Your behavior is Morocco was ridiculous and your constant apology for being late to Jill's party was stupid. Who cares. Instead wish Jill a happy birthday because it was about her and then privately apologize to Jill. Dumb!

zubi2280
zubi2280

Kelly you need to leave the show.

zubi2280
zubi2280

Kelly you really need to leave the show. You bring absolutely nothing to the show. Your behavior in Morocco was ridiculous and your consant apology for being late to Jill's surprise party was stupid. Who cares.

LES Jake
LES Jake

Kelly:

I wish you growth and wisdom. Your behavior with Alex show how much work you need to do.

I find you to be odd.

HousewifeHYSTERIA
HousewifeHYSTERIA

You have been an angel to watch this season. This is the real you. I would love to see more scenes highlighting your amazing life. You are the true glamour of the RHONY...you have been successful in the fashion industry, a gorgeous model, and are the one who has the true style.

Eclipse
Eclipse

I have loved you this whole season. You are cool, inside and out. The cast who were so mean to you last season are hopefully feeling ashamed of themselves more now than ever. You are great!

gabi.s
gabi.s

Hey Kel,

Love you!! Unfortunately, Sonja didn't attend LuAnne's daughter's party because she is jealous. It is so evident! Please keep trying to keep the peace and spread the love with the others.

TPDJ
TPDJ

I love you also Kelly, love the way you have grown this season, stay strong

CJP
CJP

Mmnn, adults at a sweet 16 party, weren't you and Jill, Bawby, Jacque, Luann and many others on camera adults at Victoria's party ?

DBF
DBF

Kelly-

You have a streak of self-importance that is a little strange. First you go on and on about you being late to Jill's Birthday Party, when really you should have just been talking about Jill-not you. Then you claim that Avery could not talk her own mother, she had to talk to you. As a mother of college age girl, I can tell you that just because Avery complained to you, there is no connection to her not being able to talk to her mother. Avery is no meek wallflower, I'm sure she had no problem letting her mom know how she felt. If Avery were complaining to me about her mom, I would have simply said, "Honey, it looks like its a great party and everyone is having fun, but if it bothers you why don't you mention it to your mom, she probably doesn't realize it." Instead you again made it about you saving the day!

bravo viewer
bravo viewer

Kelly,

I am have enjoyed watching you this season. Last year was a little rough, but this year, you seem to shine.

bravo viewer
bravo viewer

Kelly,

I am have enjoyed watching you this season. Last year was a little rough, but this year, you seem to shine.

rabea
rabea

hi i looooooveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Lady K
Lady K

Kelly, didn't know you were from Rockford, IL, I grew up in Oak Park about 55 miles away. Anyway I am so happy to see you are not letting Ramona and Sonja get on your nerves with their ridiculous antics. But, I will ask that you please not let Alex's and her stupidity get to you! That woman is beyond stupid honestly and her husband acts like a jealous drag queen, who acts as if he gets a kick out of attacking the ladies. Just stay beautiful and positive and wonderful things will continue to come your way! Be blessed!

nanaNancy
nanaNancy

Kelly, I got to say that after last season I could not stand you, I thought you needed to some intense inpatient mental health therapy. I dont know what has happened, but you do seem much calmer this season and you arent flipping off your rocker as much. The only thing I see you doing this season, is you are getting involved in situations that you have no business in and then if the conversation isnt going how you want it to, you do your hand movement and tell the othere person to calm down or be quiet, when in reality you dont have the right to be involved in the discussion and you dont have the right to hush anyone. I think that as you evolve you will become the person that you truly want to be. I do like how close you are with your kids and your not trying to show them off and pretend to be a good mom like a couple of other NY housewives. Good luck. I am starting to like the new you.

babyof_5
babyof_5

I like the set of balls you grew for this season. I think you are being a busy body into others affairs. Stay out of the women messy affairs. Last year Jill was calling you crazy and now you guys are friends? Go figure. I wish you and your girls a happy and safe summer.

Viewer from Santa Barbara
Viewer from Santa Barbara

I didn't realize the girls parties were a competition. WHY does it matter whose we liked better? I thought you were "acting" the peacenik this season?

jwhpalmer
jwhpalmer

i agree with a comment before mine! this season is definitely your season :)

HOUSEandGARDEN
HOUSEandGARDEN

Kelly, you are fantastic. Plain and simple. Gorgeous, kind, benevolent and a good soul. I was so happy to learn of your time with Parker Pens, and the donation of all those pens to children in need. Don't worry about the scene where you spoke sounding awkward, frankly....IT DID NOT, and now that we hear the back story on your being late to the party, all the more power to YOU! I am sure the hostesses Luann and Cindy knew beforehand, informed Jill, and that's all that matters.

MeganTP
MeganTP

Kelly, I appreciate your sentiment when trying to smooth things over between the women but feelings are feelings and sometimes they need to be shared. Please don't step in between the conversations of others to stop them from expressing themselves. I know you are trying to "protect" others from what happened to you but you can still moderate to ensure that no one is unkind without completely stopping all speaking.

oldviewer2k
oldviewer2k

So glad you are involved in a great charity. If one has a good pen the sky is the limit.

Team Brown
Team Brown

Kelly, you're much more a part of the "in" clique this season.

Rachelk
Rachelk

Kelly, I know what you mean about Rockford, Illinois. I have family from there and love that town! My first cousins were more excited about having cars to drive in town, as well. Always good to see you interacting well with the young ladies. I'm glad Avery is comfortable speaking with you. There is nothing wrong with being available to young ladies for advice and assistance. peace

ADDICTEDhousewife;)
ADDICTEDhousewife;)

You are amazing and totally TOGETHER! I think you were correct in mentioning to Ramona that she separate from Avery at "Avery's Sweet 16" (seemed like a dual mother-daughter party to me, but .....whatever), as you spoke to her out of concern for her daughter. YOU are AWESOME for that. You have a more clear understanding of what a 16 year old actually wants at her party... I would love to see more of your jewelry!!!!!!!!!

Viewer Deenie
Viewer Deenie

Summer plans:

Month at Emerald Isles, NC

4th July bash with fireworks

entertaining every week with al fresco dinner

Sending up lots of prayers of gratitude for a wonderful and healthy life.

Viewersandy
Viewersandy

I love watching you and I admire how you dont have to talk bad about someone behind thier back to bet camera time. You are a classy lady and your girls must be so proud of you. I thought Bethany was so mean to you last year but that was the only was she could look good.

lunch bunch
lunch bunch

Kelly, I'm sure you've been hearing it a lot lately, but you really are coming off as a real cool person this season. Yes, you still have your crazy moments but I think you're learning new things and experiencing new situations and relationships and you're adapting to them. GO KELLY!!!!

jerseymomof 2
jerseymomof 2

Kelly, I'm really enjoying you this season and I'm very happy for you that you seem to have found a balanced place among the women. I thought both parties looked awesome. One was a total PARTY with fun and dancing. The other was a beautiful winter wonderland. The best of both worlds - what very lucky girls! Speaking of girls, have a fun summer with yours!

keepin it real
keepin it real

I think Alex hit it on the head when she said that whenever you start to feel unforcomfortable, you feel the need to shut the situation down (paraphrasing). I think you genuinely want everyone to get along and your heart is in the right place - but, you really do need to mind your own business and let people work their own issues out. Love you though and your positive energy.

TheEdge
TheEdge

Kelly,

You don't need to worry about your awkward moment during Ramona's party because you ended this episode on such a high note at Victoria's and, especially, Avery's Sweet 16 parties. I totally agreed with your assessment of Victoria's future in fashion, although I wish you hadn't jinxed it by adding, "...then I don't know anything." :) And although it probably didn't do any good, I respect you for standing up to Ramona on Avery's behalf.

Goldikova
Goldikova

Kelly; thanks for explaining the Sweet 16 party thing to me......I was watching the episode and thinking to myself, "I don't remember anybody having a Sweet 16 or even wanting one, I just don't get it" and now I know why.......I grew up in the Midwest too. We didn't need a party because for us turning 16 meant pure freedom. Back then (early 80's) we still had drive-in restaurants and drive-in movies and if the cops caught you with booze they didn't bust you, they just took you home and turned you in to your parents. Good times, no way would I want to be 16 now!

Mix
Mix

You're growing on me Kelly & it took awhile. PS. Your girls are adorable. My summer plans are moving to Orlando to be Captain Jack Sparrow in Disney World, come visit!

emily rhsf
emily rhsf

Kelly, I love you and your positive attitude! This season is definitely YOUR season!

Kathy lil
Kathy lil

Kelly, You are obviously a very good mother to your children. Continue to put your energy there.

Pamela1961
Pamela1961

I realized that last year did not show who you are. This season I agree with almost everything you have said. I do think you are kind, bright, beautiful and a wonderful Mom. Oh and funny! I am glad you are pals now with Jill. Last year I think the stress she had with Bobby's illness affected her. I also hope that you embrace Cindy. As a relatively new housewife, you understand how hard it is to "fit" in. All the drama, misunderstanding and even cattiness are a part of some housewives vying for air-time. I am so glad you are being yourself. You're someone most women would want as a friend.

Take care of the girls and enjoy your summer.

Pam

MIddie
MIddie

"Kudos" on your 'Ode to Jill." Lovely. It was a great party, except for Ramona's nasty "impression" of Jill. A "dig" is a "dig" and Ramona delivered hers at Jill Birthday Party.

LuAnn's Party for her daughter, Victoria, was by far the BEST of the two teen parties. LuAnn seems to have a great relationship with her daughter. Lots of mutual love and respect for each other, along with having fun together. Nice.

LuvsU
LuvsU

Kelly you are such a wondeful Mother and friend! I'm proud of you for standing by what is right. Namely standing by Jill during the time when others found it fun to judge her. I hope that ride is over? She is real. And there is nothing but good that comes from someone who is drawn to helping friends when they're down. It's wonderful to be that kind of person not a bad thing like Ramona keeps making out. So hang in there! You are great!