LuAnn de Lesseps

The Countess shares why she missed the masquerade, her thoughts on Ramona vs. Jill -- and on Ramona's pinot grigio.

on May 12, 20110

In this week's episode, you see that you can't hide your true self behind a pretty mask.

With photography, you have more chances to get the right shot, so I'd have to say that Ramona is a better photograph model than runway model. I admire Ramon's confidence, and I thought she looked great.

But Ramona lacks self-control, and she doesn't filter what she says. I don't think she's completely out-of-control, but she is becoming increasingly emotional and angry -- especially when she's had a couple glasses of pinot grigio.

I was planning to go to Sonja's masquerade ball as Scarlett O'Hara from Gone with the Wind -- until my cold got the better of me. Wild horses couldn't have dragged me out of bed, not even for one of Sonja's fabulous parties.

58 comments
Viewer the fan
Viewer the fan

Luanne you need to get over yourself.You played a big part in Jill and Bethany's friendship ending.And you're doing it now with Ramona and Jill.You're really something mean spirited and should support your friends.Stop stirring the pot. Disappointed fan..

Viewer9494
Viewer9494

First, I love your tastes in clothes and jewlery. But, you really come off as a know it all, above it all and still Jill's bodyguard.

I'm VERY protective of my friends, but they are adults and can fight thier own battles. You're not Jill's mother. Just because you love her doesn't mean everyone else has to feel the same.

Also, when enough people say the same negative things about me, I take a moment to myself and really think about it.

Whenever someone says something about your annoying "darling" this and that and how you ALWAYS are the judge of what's right , maybe you should think about it. Example, while you're telling Ramona how to correctly pronounce the place where her wine is made, during that same episode, you made a faux pas yourself. Take a look. At one point you say "Can I" Being the proper police that you are , the correct term is "May I"

See... none of us are perfect, that's what makes the world a wonderful place.

Viv
Viv

Dear C.L. For the most part I have enjoyed watching You on the show and hearing what You have to say. I simply wish to ask that maybe ya can draw back on the sniping and being catty its just not you.. I think your very smart have a lot going for you and when Ya act less then what ya should It takes away from Your goodness,

Please step back away from the drama queens grins Will be watching Ya Viv

JordanKentState
JordanKentState

Luann you're so sweet!!! You are like the peacekeeper of the show, and you seem like such a nice and real person, along with Jill and Kelly, you are my favorite lady! I wish I could meet you guys, that would be fun to go out on the town in NYC with you chicas :o) I know I'm only 22, but I know a genuine person when I see one and you definitely are. I wish Ramona would take her off the show and if it was just you, Jill, Kelly, and Sonja, I think it would be a purely fun and drama-free show to watch! I hope you read my comment and if you do you should email me your thoughts at: jscharfe@kent.edu. Take care, Luann!

ackstua
ackstua

Countess, you ROCK! The classiest of the bunch - always have been and always will be! You can hold your head high. I'm so happy for you that you have Jacques, I think it's so neat given that you are 1/2 French and were married to the Count for so long. You go, girl!

Olena
Olena

You are my favorite! I do love Jill too though;) The two of you are very intelligent and independent woman who inspire others. Bravo for confronting Ramona (she needs help lol)!

amyjohn6
amyjohn6

LuAnn from the first season COME BACK!

You are VERY Classy, you have great Manners, and the Grace of a Princess! It shows in the way you speak, carry yourself, and behave proper in public! But I miss the fun LuAnn, that went out with her younger friends and let her hair down! Just because you wrote a book on Class and manner's does not mean you need to critic everyone's behavior! Are the producers asking you to do this? That would make more sense to me.

In ending I will say again, as I have before. You were one of my favorite HW's. But now your like the judging Countess.

Lot of Love, Amy

Jaxcity
Jaxcity

LuAnn-

I have to admit I wasn't a huge fan of yours the past couple seasons. But, this season you have changed my mind. I find you to be very pleasant to watch on the show. You have manners and you are extremely polite. You are a classy woman. I am thinking that its your new relationship that has brought out the true you.

susana
susana

Do you recall Ramona calling LuAnn a part time mom?

NikkiShante
NikkiShante

LuAnn you are an all around classy lady and I absolutely LOVE you. Keep being your classy self and many blessings to you and Jaque!

Vanessa@AustinTX
Vanessa@AustinTX

My dearest Countess, I have learned so much from you. All good things of course! I appreciate the fact that you always try to reason with everyone and look at things from an outside perspective. I've enjoyed reading your book and have kept my manners in "check". I no longer chew gum and carry mints! Thank you for being a great NY tv personality and showing us the true meaning of class.

lmdc
lmdc

Luann, Your BFF, Jill was the one criticizing Sonja's party while she was at the party. Why didn't you call her out on it in your blog like you did to Ramona instead of glossing over it? Ramona's wine launch party was not the time to interrogate her about the process of her wine making. She had other guests to talk to and this was a time to enjoy herself. I don't think it was good manners to monopolize her time.

aunt kassie
aunt kassie

LuAnn -- good for you in keeping your comments very neutral while still defending your position on Ramona. You obviously have learned from the past what can happen when you get too involved.

Tonise
Tonise

LuAnn I understand that you are always trying to be a good friend and I admire that about you. You are extremely loyal to your friends. I understand that it is hard to deal with people like Ramona and Bethenny because they just say what's on their mind, but not everyone has to have a filter. You should learn to respect that some people just choose to speak their mind and prefer to say it in a person's face versus saying it behind someone's back (which is what you and Jill like to do). Another thing, you questioned Ramona about her wine, as if you were the wine expert. You didn't appreciate Ramona questioning how much time you spend with your kids and whether or not you were a "weekend mother" so why would you continue to question her about her wine? It was almost like you felt like you knew wine better and wanted to educate her. Remember, Ramona is different than people you are used to and you should respect the person she is. Instead of judging her, try to understand where Ramona is coming from. You carry yourself as a mature, loving woman and I hope you never lose that. I wish you much success in your future and I hope you and Jacque (sorry if I spelled his name wrong) have a happy life together.

Robyn :)
Robyn :)

I would have liked to see you in a Scarlett O'Hara costume :)

And I totally agree with you about talking bad about a hostess and/or her party at the party. That is just plain rude.

MaureenM
MaureenM

Luanne, It's seems that your life mission this season is to make Ramona look stupid. First, you shamed her about her pronunciation of the word "Veneto" and more recently you grilled her about her wine with the clear intention of making her look ignorant. And you clearly enjoy upsetting her. What's wrong with you?

Rosie Martinez
Rosie Martinez

Actually, you just wanted to prove that Ramona really doesn't know how her wine is being produced...

Meme01
Meme01

I'm reading everyone's comments and they are unfair. Is it okay for Alex and Simon to involve themselves. Somebody had to have Jill's back.

Donna in CA
Donna in CA

You hit the nail on the head as far as LuAnn is concerned. I totally agree with you.

Gloria517
Gloria517

You are a beautiful woman and a really good friend to Jill. I love the way that you show how much heart you have when it is really needed.

fursure
fursure

I couldn't have said it better.

bethfan
bethfan

Very nice blog but I did feel bad for Ramona when you were grilling her about her wine. She didn't know the answers to your questions and instead of taking the hint and being gracious and kind you kept on grilling her with questions. We know you know about the wine so please let it go. It's not the first time you've done it to her about the wine. You did it at her "Mary Kay" party as you put it. You even talked down to her for saying the location where the grapes are grown incorrectly. Ramona got upset because you were on camera and I think she was embrassed.

Just remember you can be knowledgable and not a show off which is why Cat from DC housewives went off on you. Much love to you and your family and I hope you have a great summer :)

rakerry
rakerry

Good blog and well said. I enjoy your influence on the ladies, even though they aren't always open to the discussion.

Aleina
Aleina

I was so loving your sweet and funny and happy change this season....until last night's episode! Now the snarky stuff is happening again and it is too bad.

#1 Real Housewives Fan
#1 Real Housewives Fan

If I were in your position I would support me friend blindly as well. However, now that you know the the other side of the story I think you should apolgize for speaking poorly of Ramona. It's one thing to support a friend, it's another to throw the opposing person under the bus.

kbinny
kbinny

You look gorgeous. I love your taste!

Viewer33,000
Viewer33,000

I feel like you were ganging up on Ramona and badgering her about the wine to a fault. Everybody is attacking Ramona but she is just reacting to things that were told to her - isn't she allowed to react without being called crazy. I mean really - maybe Kelly could explain her bullying concept again because I think it applies in this case. Everyone knows Ramona is "ramotional" but come on - quit picking on her.

Viewer2222
Viewer2222

Do you have a special countess wand that you use to stir the pot?

Yieldcurve
Yieldcurve

Countess - your comments are right on the money!

Sleek
Sleek

Luann I love that your on the show! I love all your manners. It is nice to read your blog and your not taking digs at anyone. I commend you that on even if a friend takes a dig at you one daythe next day you can give her advice that is truly a nice way to handle things. You have such class and I love your style.

madmaddy
madmaddy

You are of course gracious as always, while being a good friend to Jill. Ramona is out of control! I love watching to see what you will be wearing.

Sue B.
Sue B.

LuAnn, If your going to point a finger at people without filters, make sure you point one at Jill. Jill talks behind everyones back and when she gets caught she cries to you and Bobby. You defend her like she's one of your children. Let her fight her on battles!

Mamzy
Mamzy

Luann, you are gorgeous and have a great sense of style. You would make a garbage bag look elegant! I have a question for you: Why are you always trying to imply something about Ramona's drinking? It seems like all of you (except Jill) do quite a bit of drinking. It seems mean-spirited and unkind to continually make drinking comments about Ramona.

GGC
GGC

As always you are a class act. I wish some of the others realized that you don't aquire class, you are born with it. I agree with you about Jennifer, she seems to be getting into the mix side by side with Ramona. She said what she did to Ramona to start another fight, that much was obvious. Stay the way you are LUANN, I love watching you on the show.

MIddie
MIddie

I really like the costume you selected for Sonja's Party and was disappointed when you couldn't attend. You were missed by the guests and Bravo's viewers. You did watch the show. Did you notice Ramona didn't wear a costume? A black cocktail dress and a mask showed she didn't put any effort into the spirit of the party. All she had to do was borrow some of her daughter's clothes. Remember the first season? IMO, Sonja didn't "forget" to wear the bottom half of her costume. lol

I'm glad to know Ramona's Wine tastes good. Her top priority appears to be having HER NAME on the bottle. For someone claiming to be a "terrific business woman." she doesn't show any of the necessary due diligence required. IMO, she isn't an Entrepreneur. She is a wealthy married woman with access to her husband's bank account which finances her "hobbies." Wine. Skin Care. Jewelry. What's next?

b. in indiana
b. in indiana

LuAnn....this is between ramona and jill..why must you always interfear...i agree that ramona does not always pick the right time or place but it is still between them...STAY OUT OF IT!!

psychogala
psychogala

Just one thing.....I LOVE Cat...and she is so very accurate.

Sharon from NY
Sharon from NY

You did not want to discuss the finer points of wine with Ramona. You wanted to make her look like she doesn't know anything about wine. She is a business woman who handles the business aspect of her wine. A vineyard handles the pressing. Let it go.

As for the wedding, when do you hold Jill responsible? Jill behaved badly and jealously and owes Jennifer and Ramona both an apology. Jennifer can tell anyone she chooses. But there would be nothing to tell if Jill had behaved respectfully. And hiding behind other women and throwing them under the bus as if she was no part of that wedding conversation was just shameful. Nice to support your friend, but let's be real about things.

Mom of two
Mom of two

I think you should've found out the details about what went on between Jill and Ramona before taking sides or judging Ramona. As you can see the bride approached Ramona about how Jill harassed her on her wedding day. Ramona wanted to talk to Jill about it and she couldn't even get it out. The truth came out after all when Jill saw the bride. Why are you getting involve? It's non of your business? Next your agenda of grilling Ramona about her wine. That was so mean spirited. You just wanted to embarrassed her and show her how much you know about wine. That was so terrible. You know what you did and why you did that.just to show off that you know so much about wine? C'Mon! So sad...

Vailbridge
Vailbridge

Cat needs to be a regular on this show just to keep you in line. Dahling you are not class but, a witch stirring the pot.

princesspr
princesspr

Hey Ms. LuAnn......I am really confused about you this season. I am attempting to understand why you only listen to one side of a story then make an assessment of what you hear. You must listen to both side then make a opinion based on BOTH sides of the stories. Remember you are about class and style; please remember this when you listen to a person's stories.

onionz
onionz

You really should start getting informations from BOTH sides before making assumptions and taking sides.. This is twice now this season you have taken sides before hearing both ends...

mrs.chanels
mrs.chanels

I really enjoy watching you...you seem very much down to earth